VirgoVixxxen
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Yeah, I thought it was pretty pointless to be shoving my pp into women.
I read Gary Goldschneider\'s interpretation on the people i know and on myself...It was pretty accurate. From the way he describes me is that I am puritanical. Pretty true, I always act foolish around women, so i never get laid...
I read Gary Goldschneider\'s interpretation on the people i know and on myself...It was pretty accurate. From the way he describes me is that I am puritanical. Pretty true, I always act foolish around women, so i never get laid...
Really Sorti? You do look pure as snow...;o)I have the problem with the cleanliness factor...for real. Dudes are just fukkking nasty nowadays and not to mention, my standards are so high....it can be quite a pain actually.
Posted by VirgoVixxxen
RI have the problem with the cleanliness factor...for real. Dudes are just fukkking nasty nowadays and not to mention, my standards are so high....
I'm NOT a Virgo, but I feel this for REAL!!
*btw -- VV, sent you a PM --- holla' 😉 *
some people are motivated to find someone to have sex with, so motivated that they'll overlook all sorts of things that maybe they shouldn't.
virgos don't overlook much of anything ever, so it only makes sense that they'd usually rather just do without sex.
i'm not a virgo, but i have no problem going extended periods of time (most recently around a year and a half, despite plenty of offers, including some that were quite appealing but still not good enough) without sex, even though i daydream about it a lot. there's one guy i've got my eye on, and anyone else just isn't good enough. i'll blame my leo and scorpio influences, this is certainly not very libran.
virgos don't overlook much of anything ever, so it only makes sense that they'd usually rather just do without sex.
i'm not a virgo, but i have no problem going extended periods of time (most recently around a year and a half, despite plenty of offers, including some that were quite appealing but still not good enough) without sex, even though i daydream about it a lot. there's one guy i've got my eye on, and anyone else just isn't good enough. i'll blame my leo and scorpio influences, this is certainly not very libran.
Yup. 3 days max is a pretty long ass time.
😛 😄
😛 😄
My Virgo says he doesn't want to have sex anymore, he's going to be abstinent from now on... he's SAYS he's trying to refrain from it all together, but it's not working all that well 😉(accuses me of raping him all the time, but he doesn't fight me LOL)
LOL That's what he says! And rape? Well, he does say "Don't", "I don't want to", blah blah blah, then flips me over and... well we'll just leave it at that 😉
He's figured out that I'm somewhat rebellious and if he tells me "no" well, there ain't nothing stopping me baby!! 😄
Hmmm, I remember a while back, not too long after we became intimate the virguy told me he could BE with me everyday. I thought that was odd because to me it implied that doing it everyday wasn't the norm, while I, on the other hand, was like, "Let's get it!" I'd be game to at least try.
I'm getting reverse psychology (and so totally get it LOL)
And Virgos think that THEY are the ones in control... HA!
Posted by VirgoVixxxen
Really Sorti? You do look pure as snow...;o)I have the problem with the cleanliness factor...for real. Dudes are just fukkking nasty nowadays and not to mention, my standards are so high....it can be quite a pain actually.
😉
Hahaha, you virgettes, and your germs!
Posted by USCTaurusGalPosted by VirgoVixxxen
RI have the problem with the cleanliness factor...for real. Dudes are just fukkking nasty nowadays and not to mention, my standards are so high....
I'm NOT a Virgo, but I feel this for REAL!!
*btw -- VV, sent you a PM --- holla' 😉 *click to expand
Maintaining good personal hygiene is very important.
Cool USCT! I'll holla back!
Posted by curious visitor
some people are motivated to find someone to have sex with, so motivated that they'll overlook all sorts of things that maybe they shouldn't.
virgos don't overlook much of anything ever, so it only makes sense that they'd usually rather just do without sex.
i'm not a virgo, but i have no problem going extended periods of time (most recently around a year and a half, despite plenty of offers, including some that were quite appealing but still not good enough) without sex, even though i daydream about it a lot. there's one guy i've got my eye on, and anyone else just isn't good enough. i'll blame my leo and scorpio influences, this is certainly not very libran.
CV,
We are so >here
Posted by Beergo85
Yup. 3 days max is a pretty long ass time.
Freak.
😛 😄
Posted by lildol
My Virgo says he doesn't want to have sex anymore, he's going to be abstinent from now on... he's SAYS he's trying to refrain from it all together, but it's not working all that well 😉(accuses me of raping him all the time, but he doesn't fight me LOL)
Are you serious? What are you going to do? How can he abstain from sex while in an adult, monogamous relationship. He's a fool...keep raping him.
Posted by *~ariesgal~*
Hmmm, I remember a while back, not too long after we became intimate the virguy told me he could BE with me everyday. I thought that was odd because to me it implied that doing it everyday wasn't the norm, while I, on the other hand, was like, "Let's get it!" I'd be game to at least try.
Ha ha. Doing it everyday probably wasn't the 'norm' for him until he met you. Pat yourself on the back girl!
When a virgo's in a relationship and consume that relationship, it's because he loves you?
Sex isn't priority #1 for my Virgo, he said actually that he isn't even into it untill we're doing it, and than he loves it LOL and I can relate to that. For me sex is something I do with the person I have feelings for. My man was single for 3 years before he met me, and didn't have sex...So I guess he digs me...litterally 😉
Sex isn't priority #1 for my Virgo, he said actually that he isn't even into it untill we're doing it, and than he loves it LOL and I can relate to that. For me sex is something I do with the person I have feelings for. My man was single for 3 years before he met me, and didn't have sex...So I guess he digs me...litterally 😉
LOL That's the plan, I always take what I want!!
Posted by lildol
And Virgos think that THEY are the ones in control... HA!
Your a good student, lildol. Secretly, *brings voice to a low whisper* we want to be controlled.
That's the thing with this guy too, sex just does not top his list. But, by the same token, he has told me its an important part of a relationship. Oh, as mentioned above, My Virgo also considers the cleanliness factor and sex is not the cleanest activity in his mind.
Virgos are a confused sort I tell ya... 😛
Virgos are a confused sort I tell ya... 😛
Posted by sorti-fantastic poneyPosted by VirgoVixxxen
Really Sorti? You do look pure as snow...;o)I have the problem with the cleanliness factor...for real. Dudes are just fukkking nasty nowadays and not to mention, my standards are so high....it can be quite a pain actually.
😉
Hahaha, you virgettes, and your germs!click to expand
It's terrible isn't it? Seriously, are fresh sheets and clean skin too much to ask for? LOL...I've seen plenty
of Virgo men not even look a girl's way until they were sure they could throw her in the washing machine first! Ha ha!
because sex isn't on their top list, when they have sex it's killing good, they want you to feel special.
Honestly? I think anyone from any sign can sometimes just feel they need a break from sex.
Valaria - he just wishes he had other women on the side!! I've responded that if he has another woman then he better share her with me - he's good with that 😛 But, in general, I don't share well with others so it really wouldn't go over well with me (he knows this). He doesn't have time to have another woman anyway, he's with me everyday anyway, and if I have something to do he wines about it. *rolls eyes*
He has kids too, so I know he's capable!
I do think he is mentally torn between desire and being a clean freak (big germaphobe).
He has kids too, so I know he's capable!
I do think he is mentally torn between desire and being a clean freak (big germaphobe).
Posted by Pisces2202
When a virgo's in a relationship and consume that relationship, it's because he loves you?
Sex isn't priority #1 for my Virgo, he said actually that he isn't even into it untill we're doing it, and than he loves it LOL and I can relate to that. For me sex is something I do with the person I have feelings for. My man was single for 3 years before he met me, and didn't have sex...So I guess he digs me...litterally 😉
Yes, that's a good sign Pisces2202 but it would also be great to hear from some Virgo men on this. See, while sex is very important to Virgos, we can (and tend to) go long periods without it. As I stated previously, we are the 'bachelors' of the zodiac, so when looking for love, we don't just choose anyone, because we have high standards. We will rather wait until we find that 'perfect' mate than to go around having flings just for the hell of it. It's really not our 'thing' and flings usually bore us. Building a family/home with someone we can truly connect with spiritually, emotionally, psychologically, etc, is what we are after. Now I'm not saying that every single Virgo is like this, but, what I just described is pretty much the 'rule'. Sometimes we Virgos never find love because we never 'relax' our standards (perfection is an illusion). The simple fact that your Virguy went 3 years without it and is now having it on a regular basis while being in a committed relationship with you is a very, very good sign, and you should feel really good about that.
Posted by valeria25Posted by VirgoVixxxenPosted by lildol
My Virgo says he doesn't want to have sex anymore, he's going to be abstinent from now on... he's SAYS he's trying to refrain from it all together, but it's not working all that well 😉(accuses me of raping him all the time, but he doesn't fight me LOL)
Are you serious? What are you going to do? How can he abstain from sex while in an adult, monogamous relationship. He's a fool...keep raping him.
That's what I was thinking. Like wtf!! Maybe he's the 40year old Virgin type of guy. But then lildol said he's been married before I believe?? And has other women on the side too. So, it's like WTF even more!!! It's baffling!! Maybe he's a different breed of man.click to expand
LOL. I wouldn't be surprised if the 40Year Old Virgin was a Virgo. Women on the side...lildol, can we talk about this?
Posted by lildol
That's the thing with this guy too, sex just does not top his list. But, by the same token, he has told me its an important part of a relationship. Oh, as mentioned above, My Virgo also considers the cleanliness factor and sex is not the cleanest activity in his mind.
Virgos are a confused sort I tell ya... 😛
Yes we are and that's why you just have to love us. ;o) Although I think cancers take the number one spot for 'confusion'. Yup, even with the know-it-all quality, and calm, composed demeanor, there's usually alot of confusion brimming under the surface. We think too damn much and remember we are also the sign of 'purity' so sexual acts can easily offend our pristine sensibilities. Ha!
Posted by CLCNY30
Honestly? I think anyone from any sign can sometimes just feel they need a break from sex.
Oh most definitely, but why can Virgos abstain for much longer periods?
Posted by lildol
Valaria - he just wishes he had other women on the side!! I've responded that if he has another woman then he better share her with me - he's good with that 😛 But, in general, I don't share well with others so it really wouldn't go over well with me (he knows this). He doesn't have time to have another woman anyway, he's with me everyday anyway, and if I have something to do he wines about it. *rolls eyes*
Oh...ok...whew...that clears that up.
He has kids too, so I know he's capable!
Why of course he is!
I do think he is mentally torn between desire and being a clean freak (big germaphobe).
I think you might be right.
Of course, he has his moments when he digresses and gives into his own desires - like last night, in a public place... (and this coming from a man who seems to detest PDA)
Posted by VirgoVixxxenPosted by Pisces2202
When a virgo's in a relationship and consume that relationship, it's because he loves you?
Sex isn't priority #1 for my Virgo, he said actually that he isn't even into it untill we're doing it, and than he loves it LOL and I can relate to that. For me sex is something I do with the person I have feelings for. My man was single for 3 years before he met me, and didn't have sex...So I guess he digs me...litterally 😉
Yes, that's a good sign Pisces2202 but it would also be great to hear from some Virgo men on this. See, while sex is very important to Virgos, we can (and tend to) go long periods without it. As I stated previously, we are the 'bachelors' of the zodiac, so when looking for love, we don't just choose anyone, because we have high standards. We will rather wait until we find that 'perfect' mate than to go around having flings just for the hell of it. It's really not our 'thing' and flings usually bore us. Building a family/home with someone we can truly connect with spiritually, emotionally, psychologically, etc, is what we are after. Now I'm not saying that every single Virgo is like this, but, what I just described is pretty much the 'rule'. Sometimes we Virgos never find love because we never 'relax' our standards (perfection is an illusion). The simple fact that your Virguy went 3 years without it and is now having it on a regular basis while being in a committed relationship with you is a very, very good sign, and you should feel really good about that.click to expand
YAY!!
I do feel good about it, and even in our relationship it's not every night of the weekend, it does make me feel good he takes the time to pleasure me...ow well...happy on that subject with him
Posted by lildol
Of course, he has his moments when he digresses and gives into his own desires - like last night, in a public place... (and this coming from a man who seems to detest PDA)
So you got the dirty side of him last night I see. Well, we've got two sides to us you know. *holds head down in shame*
Posted by Pisces2202Posted by VirgoVixxxenPosted by Pisces2202
When a virgo's in a relationship and consume that relationship, it's because he loves you?
Sex isn't priority #1 for my Virgo, he said actually that he isn't even into it untill we're doing it, and than he loves it LOL and I can relate to that. For me sex is something I do with the person I have feelings for. My man was single for 3 years before he met me, and didn't have sex...So I guess he digs me...litterally 😉
Yes, that's a good sign Pisces2202 but it would also be great to hear from some Virgo men on this. See, while sex is very important to Virgos, we can (and tend to) go long periods without it. As I stated previously, we are the 'bachelors' of the zodiac, so when looking for love, we don't just choose anyone, because we have high standards. We will rather wait until we find that 'perfect' mate than to go around having flings just for the hell of it. It's really not our 'thing' and flings usually bore us. Building a family/home with someone we can truly connect with spiritually, emotionally, psychologically, etc, is what we are after. Now I'm not saying that every single Virgo is like this, but, what I just described is pretty much the 'rule'. Sometimes we Virgos never find love because we never 'relax' our standards (perfection is an illusion). The simple fact that your Virguy went 3 years without it and is now having it on a regular basis while being in a committed relationship with you is a very, very good sign, and you should feel really good about that.
YAY!!
I do feel good about it, and even in our relationship it's not every night of the weekend, it does make me feel good he takes the time to pleasure me...ow well...happy on that subject with himclick to expand
Well nice to know that you are getting your needs met. Let's pop the champagne...;o)
I was a little taken aback... my more reserved side definitely showed - he called me chicken and said I was no fun. So, I had no choice but to prove him wrong LOL I was worried about getting caught rather than being seen...
Posted by lildol
I was a little taken aback
Yes, we can do that to you. LOL.
my more reserved side definitely showed - he called me chicken and said I was no fun.
It's the Virgo "white heat".
So, I had no choice but to prove him wrong LOL I was worried about getting caught rather than being seen...
You don't seem like the type to back down from a challenge.
Posted by wgamador
I went without sex for a few months after a break-up. I mean, I did have sex at first because i was told that "to get over someone, get on top of their friends or someone else's" or something like that. So i did. But it was the first time i realized that I was possibly "strange". She was hot but she wasnt who I wanted. I worked it, but i burned for someone else. So I tried a couple more girls and not one of them could erase who my heart desired. So I gave up.....and in turn I went into a depressed state. The thing that was in my chest was far more powerful than what was in my pants. How was that possible?!! Venus in Scorpio. Motherfucker.
I met this Aquarius who just wanted to give me oral, and since that is my SHIT....I repeat, MY SHIT!
She was the only one who I allowed in my life. My BJ queen, I called her. She had a thing for me...dont know why, I was so depressed. My soul has been through the grinder man. LOL. I can only laugh.
The heart is a very powerful thing. A force to be reckoned with against the mind and all the sex in the world (with other people) can't quench its desire to be with the one whom it truly yearns for.
The fact that you can still laugh is a good sign and time is the greatest healer.
On a lighter note, BJ queen...you dirty boy.
Posted by wgamadorPosted by VirgoVixxxen
On a lighter note, BJ queen...you dirty boy.
I'm filthy.click to expand
;o)
Posted by wgamador
I went without sex for a few months after a break-up. I mean, I did have sex at first because i was told that "to get over someone, get on top of their friends or someone else's" or something like that. So i did. But it was the first time i realized that I was possibly "strange". She was hot but she wasnt who I wanted. I worked it, but i burned for someone else. So I tried a couple more girls and not one of them could erase who my heart desired. So I gave up.....and in turn I went into a depressed state. The thing that was in my chest was far more powerful than what was in my pants. How was that possible?!! Venus in Scorpio. Motherfucker.
I met this Aquarius who just wanted to give me oral, and since that is my SHIT....I repeat, MY SHIT!
She was the only one who I allowed in my life. My BJ queen, I called her. She had a thing for me...dont know why, I was so depressed. My soul has been through the grinder man. LOL. I can only laugh.
Why is it that I think you're kinda sweet? 🙂
Reading between the lines, you're emotionally sweet, when your heart is touched, you follow by it.
I'm in aaww, and respect!
Posted by Pisces2202Posted by wgamador
I went without sex for a few months after a break-up. I mean, I did have sex at first because i was told that "to get over someone, get on top of their friends or someone else's" or something like that. So i did. But it was the first time i realized that I was possibly "strange". She was hot but she wasnt who I wanted. I worked it, but i burned for someone else. So I tried a couple more girls and not one of them could erase who my heart desired. So I gave up.....and in turn I went into a depressed state. The thing that was in my chest was far more powerful than what was in my pants. How was that possible?!! Venus in Scorpio. Motherfucker.
I met this Aquarius who just wanted to give me oral, and since that is my SHIT....I repeat, MY SHIT!
She was the only one who I allowed in my life. My BJ queen, I called her. She had a thing for me...dont know why, I was so depressed. My soul has been through the grinder man. LOL. I can only laugh.
Why is it that I think you're kinda sweet? 🙂
Reading between the lines, you're emotionally sweet, when your heart is touched, you follow by it.
I'm in aaww, and respect!click to expand
He does give off a really sweet vibe doesn't he?
yeah...kinda fuzzy feeling...I think if you walk into a room with him, you feel comfy right away 😉
I know. Like he'll hand you a terry cloth robe and a cup of hot cocoa. See, Pisces2202, that's how we Virgos do.
I know and I like that side of you...still some insecurities here, but that's my problem. We'll get there eventually I think.
WG..can I borrow that robe? 😛
WG..can I borrow that robe? 😛
Posted by Pisces2202
I know and I like that side of you...still some insecurities here, but that's my problem. We'll get there eventually I think.
WG..can I borrow that robe? 😛
I can sense that you have insecurities with your virguy. What's making you insecure?
Posted by wgamadorPosted by Pisces2202Posted by wgamador
I went without sex for a few months after a break-up. I mean, I did have sex at first because i was told that "to get over someone, get on top of their friends or someone else's" or something like that. So i did. But it was the first time i realized that I was possibly "strange". She was hot but she wasnt who I wanted. I worked it, but i burned for someone else. So I tried a couple more girls and not one of them could erase who my heart desired. So I gave up.....and in turn I went into a depressed state. The thing that was in my chest was far more powerful than what was in my pants. How was that possible?!! Venus in Scorpio. Motherfucker.
I met this Aquarius who just wanted to give me oral, and since that is my SHIT....I repeat, MY SHIT!
She was the only one who I allowed in my life. My BJ queen, I called her. She had a thing for me...dont know why, I was so depressed. My soul has been through the grinder man. LOL. I can only laugh.
Why is it that I think you're kinda sweet? 🙂
Reading between the lines, you're emotionally sweet, when your heart is touched, you follow by it.
I'm in aaww, and respect!
I love you for saying that.
But living with that is torture. I would not wish the empty intensity I feel on my enemies.
Even after all this time, the Love never faded, in fact it possibly turned to gold. I wish I was more like the guys i know. They dont care about the past, especially the girls who have come and gone.
I think my problem was suffering in silence for so long, not talking about what happened.
I seriously hope there is a purpose to all this emotional depth i seem to carry around. And if you were to ask me to prove that she loved me....i have no evidence to show you. I could tell you about the scar on my lip....thats the only thing i could show you.click to expand
I think the way she captured your heart is a way that she loved you, why would you otherwise let her in as a Virgo and as a human being? You don't let someone in if you don't have a gutfeeling there are eelings involved. I know living with it is torture, but you are the one choose the way you deal with it. Do you let it drag you down, or will and can you see it like she made you
Posted by valeria25Posted by VirgoVixxxenPosted by Pisces2202
I know and I like that side of you...still some insecurities here, but that's my problem. We'll get there eventually I think.
WG..can I borrow that robe? 😛
I can sense that you have insecurities with your virguy. What's making you insecure?
Yeah I can tell too. 😢click to expand
My damn intuition again, Valeria25.
Posted by VirgoVixxxenPosted by Pisces2202
I know and I like that side of you...still some insecurities here, but that's my problem. We'll get there eventually I think.
WG..can I borrow that robe? 😛
I can sense that you have insecurities with your virguy. What's making you insecure?click to expand
Can I tell it in this thread? Actually I'm not insecure with my virgo, I'm insecure about myself and I'm projecting it on him. In my past relationships I had always the control. Dominant and selfish because of my insecurities. Outside a relationship I'm self confident, but in a relationship I feel kinda weak. I know he isn't romantic, he's real sober like we dutchies can be "act normal, than you're crazy enough". I constantly seek reassurance about his feelings for me, even if he's so totally clear in his actions. So it's me, I long for reassurance he never can keep up. I need to trust myself. It's hard to explain in dutch so it's even harder to explain in english.
It's just hard for me not being in contact with him the 4 days we're not together, even when I know why. He knows where i am, he doesn't feel he need to contact me if there's not an emergency, and why does he need to tell me he misses me when it's his feeling and I know, cause he makes it clear everytime I'm with him.
I just need a kick in the ass for sabotaging a relationship that's actually quite good...
*vent over*
*continue for WG LOl*
Do you let it drag you down, or will and can you see it like she made you grow as a person? If so, torture isn't the way you should feel, but grateful. If guys can easily step over their past it's because they didn't live that moment like you do. If something happens in your life that has a great impact on you, it stays forever with you. Love is the most lovable yet hated emotion in live. I think she left a great person...
Do you let it drag you down, or will and can you see it like she made you grow as a person? If so, torture isn't the way you should feel, but grateful. If guys can easily step over their past it's because they didn't live that moment like you do. If something happens in your life that has a great impact on you, it stays forever with you. Love is the most lovable yet hated emotion in live. I think she left a great person...
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