Sexual repression vs. necessary restraint (Page 2)

I understand and yes you can tell it in this thread. Virgos are very independent and we don't go in for grand displays of emotion. This can leave our partner feeling neglected and confused especially if we are with someone who is a little more emotional than us (i.e. a water sign). However, this doesn't mean that we don't love you. It's just our way. It's important to get used to each other's processes because that's the only way you will find comfort in the differences. Just because your guy isn't calling you every minute does not mean that he doesn't care. I do understand where you are coming from and what it's like to be vulnerable emotionally. Trust yourself and if you feel you need a little more from him, tell him. This way you won't sabotage the relationship with your insecurities and he won't have a clue that he's been 'cheating' you since you haven't expressed yourself.

well at this point our difference in approching things are coming above surface. He thinks practical...why text or call when it costs money if I see her in 4 days again. And me, why isn't he texting or calling, doesn't he like me anymore?

Heart versus mind.

I have just to much free time to analyze every step, word and action from him, and it makes me nuts! I'm just not used to the structured relationship we have. It's the weekends and just that. With my ex I could step in the door whenever i wanted, and vice versa. It's not that i don't want this relationship to be like this, it's just that I'm not used to it....or something...ugh wrong words

Well of course. Emotions vs. logic. you seem to understand the way he operates and I'm sure he understands the way you operate. I can tell that you are not used to it. Were your ex's more emotionally open? Is this your first time dating a Virgo?

Yes he's my first Virgo 🙂 and yes I need to get use to that too 😉

My ex was emotionally closed too, but with him I was kinda dominant and selfish and if I was insecure I just claimed my security. When I divorced I got a major point of selfreflection, and I saw what I did wrong. I can't claim security from someone if it's me that needs to trust herself. They can never meet or fullfill my need of reassurance, cause they already let me see it even if i don't see it (you'll get? lol)

With my virgo I don't want to make that mistake, because i want a future with him, and i do see a future with him, if I just let go of all these feelings that are just killing ME inside.

I do understand the way he's operating and i really want to accept it, and to get use to it, cause I know, his way of approaching this relationship is sooooo healthy for me in the end.

Posted by Pisces2202
Yes he's my first Virgo 🙂 and yes I need to get use to that too 😉

My ex was emotionally closed too, but with him I was kinda dominant and selfish and if I was insecure I just claimed my security. When I divorced I got a major point of selfreflection, and I saw what I did wrong. I can't claim security from someone if it's me that needs to trust herself. They can never meet or fullfill my need of reassurance, cause they already let me see it even if i don't see it (you'll get? lol)

With my virgo I don't want to make that mistake, because i want a future with him, and i do see a future with him, if I just let go of all these feelings that are just killing ME inside.

I do understand the way he's operating and i really want to accept it, and to get use to it, cause I know, his way of approaching this relationship is sooooo healthy for me in the end.

Pisces2202 please don't take this the wrong way because I do not mean any harm but have you thought about seeing a therapist? I only ask because it could help with your feelings of insecurity. It sounds like you really love and care for this guy tremendously and It would be such a bad thing for you to sabotage your relationship with him because of your insecurities. His lack of emotion/display of emotion, seems to be feeding your insecurities (which were already there to begin with) even more and you might want to take a more active approach to gain a handle on it...no? I'm quite practical and I think therapy can do wonders for those who are truly open to it.

I could be going a bit far at the moment (with the whole therapy bit) but maybe your virguy will be willing to make some concessions? Have you spoken to him about this?

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Posted by CLCNY30
Honestly? I think anyone from any sign can sometimes just feel they need a break from sex.

Oh most definitely, but why can Virgos abstain for much longer periods?

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I can't speak for other Virgos, but concerning me...here goes...

I think I seek partners that are less likely to last (those who are long-distance, or already seeing someone else), because I'm afraid of trapping myself in an unhappy relationship (I said the same in the security vs risk taking thread I made). I love the idea of being in love, and the whole hopeless romantic aspect of how it will happen and with whom...but putting it into action just scares the bejesus out of me...

I like using my imagination to get me off...nah'mean? I just feel that reality opens the doorway to disappointment, and then kills any hopes of being able to use that segment of reality for future imaginative applications.

Some people are hands-on, phsyical--they need someone and they need them now
This Virgo is more emotional, imaginative...I can hold off until it feels right, even if it's forever and a day

reassurance = reassure...blegh..language hickups

CLNY,

Co-sign, co-sign, Co-sign. Who needs the real thing when you've got the powerful virgo mind? Ooohhh the daydreams. Haha! Like you, it just has to feel right or it's not happening. Love is scary and all, but, if it's going to be worth my time it has to be with someone that I truly care for.

Posted by VirgoVixxxen
CLNY,

Co-sign, co-sign, Co-sign. Who needs the real thing when you've got the powerful virgo mind? Ooohhh the daydreams. Haha! Like you, it just has to feel right or it's not happening. Love is scary and all, but, if it's going to be worth my time it has to be with someone that I truly care for.

Exactly.

I'm far from a prude--God the daydreams, and especially the fact that I like it rough...

But yeah, I don't sleep around. It's just not for me.

Posted by CLCNY30

Posted by VirgoVixxxen
CLNY,

Co-sign, co-sign, Co-sign. Who needs the real thing when you've got the powerful virgo mind? Ooohhh the daydreams. Haha! Like you, it just has to feel right or it's not happening. Love is scary and all, but, if it's going to be worth my time it has to be with someone that I truly care for.

Exactly.

I'm far from a prude--God the daydreams, and especially the fact that I like it rough...

In some instances, daydreams can be just as effective.

But yeah, I don't sleep around. It's just not for me.

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Me either...boring...yawn.

Posted by PandorasBox
Wow.. Clc & Vixx What do your moon, venus, and mars look like?

I feel we are very similar 😛!

Moon in Taurus
Venus in Virgo
Mars in Cancer

Posted by PandorasBox
Wow.. Clc & Vixx What do your moon, venus, and mars look like?

I feel we are very similar 😛!

Moon in cappie
Venus in scorp (so that means I'll make a damn good lover...when I'm ready)
Mars in Libra

Posted by CLCNY30

Posted by PandorasBox
Wow.. Clc & Vixx What do your moon, venus, and mars look like?

I feel we are very similar 😛!

Moon in Taurus
Venus in Virgo
Mars in Cancer

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We both have our moons in earth. Nice.

Sun virgo
Moon Libra
Venus virgo
Mars Libra

clueless! 😄

Posted by Pisces2202
Sun virgo
Moon Libra
Venus virgo
Mars Libra

clueless! 😄

Who's chart is this P2202?

My virguy's VV lol

I saw CL's Venus is in Virgo too

Yep 🙂

Oh I see. Earth and air. Earth and air. What's your chart CLNY?

ok earth and air...is he an airhead? I think he is...sometimes 😄

Sun in Virgo 16.52
Rising Sign is in 21 Degrees Scorpio
Moon in Taurus 8.11
Mercury in Virgo 14.03
Venus in Virgo 21.08
Mars in Cancer 21.01
Jupiter in Leo 26.04
Saturn in Virgo 17.12
Uranus in Scorpio 17.48
Neptune in Sagittarius 17.46
Pluto in Libra 17.55
Lilith in Virgo 6.55
Asc node in Virgo 8.26

God I almost have a relationship with you 😕

Posted by Pisces2202
ok earth and air...is he an airhead? I think he is...sometimes 😄

No, he's not an airhead.

Posted by Pisces2202
God I almost have a relationship with you 😕

LMFAOOOOOOOOOOOOO

Well it's a good sign that we get along, no?? 😉

Posted by CLCNY30

Posted by Pisces2202
God I almost have a relationship with you 😕

LMFAOOOOOOOOOOOOO

Well it's a good sign that we get along, no?? 😉

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but your a gal...he's a...I dunno sometimes 😄

Posted by CLCNY30
Sun in Virgo 16.52
Rising Sign is in 21 Degrees Scorpio
Moon in Taurus 8.11
Mercury in Virgo 14.03
Venus in Virgo 21.08
Mars in Cancer 21.01
Jupiter in Leo 26.04
Saturn in Virgo 17.12
Uranus in Scorpio 17.48
Neptune in Sagittarius 17.46
Pluto in Libra 17.55
Lilith in Virgo 6.55
Asc node in Virgo 8.26

Kewl...here's something for you

Moon in Taurus

Familiarity is important to Lunar Taureans. These people are earthy and strong-willed. They feel with their senses and they are pretty much rooted in their ways. They revel in material comforts--in fact, building a solid and comfortable home and foundation helps to keep them feeling safe and content.

It isn't wise to try to push Lunar Taureans into doing anything, but once they have made a commitment, they're persevering.

There's a steadiness to this position of the Moon that is comforting to those close to them. But the conservative streak in these natives can be maddening to more progressive personalities. They tend to go out of their way to avoid "messy" or unpredictable situations, crises, and emotional displays. Instead, they focus on creating a reliable and secure life around them. In relationships, Lunar Taureans may not easily recognize their partner's need for change, growth, or emotional stimulation.

Moon in Taurus natives are generally very romantic. Their affections are strong, deep, and unwavering. They are sentimental and warm. Since Taurus is a practical earth sign, the placement of the Moon in this sign suggests an ability to protect themselves and their own interests. They will rarely make a move without first determining that it is safe and that there's something in it for them.

Generally, Taurus Moon people have reliable instincts. They are very much tied to the physical world, and they often have a particularly well-developed sense of smell.

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Relationships with people born with this position of the Moon are often quite enduring. Many Moon in Taurus people hang onto their mates, even in the face of serious conflict. Taurus is a fixed sign, so break-ups don't happen easily.

There is a serenity to them that is calming. In fact, it takes a lot to really get to them. However, they do get off-center every once in a while. They are not the most adaptable people when their own routine is interrupted, for example.

Though some Lunar Taureans might be considered anal, most simply have a stubborn streak that keeps them rather resistant to change. Rarely are they spontaneous sorts. Uncomfortable with surprises, these natives value stability. Their needs are strong but quite simple at the same time--they love the "good things" in life. The world of the five senses is all-important to these natives. Their love of stability and steadiness can make them slaves to routine. However, they are loyal and capable people.

I have Moon in Taurus too 😄

Posted by Pisces2202
Sun virgo
Moon Libra
Venus virgo
Mars Libra

clueless! 😄

Hey P2202, heres for you:

Moon in Libra

Moon in Libra people have a strong need for partnership. Without someone to share their lives with, they feel utterly incomplete. This is why many people with this position get involved in marriages or living-together arrangements quite young.

Because this drive for harmony, peace, and sharing is so powerful, Lunar Librans are apt to do a lot of conceding. They are sympathetic and concerned for others, enjoy socializing, and revel in a good debate. Mental rapport with others is especially important to them.

Lunar Librans feel safe and secure when they are in a partnership. These are the people who seem to always need to have someone tag along with them wherever they go—even if it is to the corner store. They find strength and reinforcement in and through others.

Both men and women with this position are often quite charming. They can be very attractive to be around, and are often given to flirtatiousness. Rarely directly aggressive, these people win your heart with their gentle and refined ways.

^^if that ain't me, I don't know what is.

The only thing said in that description that I don't feel matches who I am was:

"There's a steadiness to this position of the Moon that is comforting to those close to them. But the conservative streak in these natives can be maddening to more progressive personalities. They tend to go out of their way to avoid "messy" or unpredictable situations, crises, and emotional displays. Instead, they focus on creating a reliable and secure life around them. In relationships, Lunar Taureans may not easily recognize their partner's need for change, growth, or emotional stimulation."

Seems I'm just naturally drawn to drama, LOL. I can't help it, I don't like people talking sh.it, or picking on others, I'm the type to pick up a wine bottle, crack it in half on some nearby surface, and join in the battle with the mindset that I'm going to win cuz I sure enough am and always do. I also love emotional displays...except for men crying...I've dated men of water signs (Pisces, and Cancer) who cried a lot, and it made me uncomfortable; if your friend/family member/pet died or you're sick, I'm here for you--cry all you want into my waiting arms, but if a Hallmark commercial comes on, or you're out of cheese for your sandwich...you start crying, and I'm gonna turn the TV up a la Peter Griffin while Lois was throwing up while pregnant. I also do recognize my partner's need for change--and will either try to work with them to create that change, or--if I feel I just can't be a part of that change, will pull away and wish them the best of luck to go out into the world to find that change.

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Moon in Libra natives simply can't help but see flaws in their environment and their relationships. In fact, anything out of whack will bother them until it's fixed. Although diplomatic with acquaintances, when Moon in Libra natives argue with their long-standing partners, they rarely let up until they win. And, winning an argument is a Libran specialty—in fact, they may not even believe what they are saying, but will adopt all kinds of ideas just to get the last word. Living with Lunar Librans can sometimes feel like you are on trial, and Libra is the expert lawyer. Sometimes, though, Libra is defending you and supporting your point of view.

Lunar Librans' idealistic outlook and constant striving for the best, most harmonious life style can lead to much discontent. Looking for that one (elusive) perfect way to lead their lives can detract from enjoyment of the moment.

The post above is the second half of the 'moon in Libra' for P2202...for her virguy.

Posted by Pisces2202
I have Moon in Taurus too 😄

Wonderful. Killed two birds with one stone.

reading that...his moon can't be in Libra..not him at all

Really?

Posted by CLCNY30
^^if that ain't me, I don't know what is.

The only thing said in that description that I don't feel matches who I am was:

"There's a steadiness to this position of the Moon that is comforting to those close to them. But the conservative streak in these natives can be maddening to more progressive personalities. They tend to go out of their way to avoid "messy" or unpredictable situations, crises, and emotional displays. Instead, they focus on creating a reliable and secure life around them. In relationships, Lunar Taureans may not easily recognize their partner's need for change, growth, or emotional stimulation."

Seems I'm just naturally drawn to drama, LOL. I can't help it, I don't like people talking sh.it, or picking on others, I'm the type to pick up a wine bottle, crack it in half on some nearby surface, and join in the battle with the mindset that I'm going to win cuz I sure enough am and always do. I also love emotional displays...except for men crying...I've dated men of water signs (Pisces, and Cancer) who cried a lot, and it made me uncomfortable; if your friend/family member/pet died or you're sick, I'm here for you--cry all you want into my waiting arms, but if a Hallmark commercial comes on, or you're out of cheese for your sandwich...you start crying, and I'm gonna turn the TV up a la Peter Griffin while Lois was throwing up while pregnant. I also do recognize my partner's need for change--and will either try to work with them to create that change, or--if I feel I just can't be a part of that change, will pull away and wish them the best of luck to go out into the world to find that change.

Yeah I just take what applies and throw the rest away.

Men crying...hmmm...I guess it depends on what it's about.

I don't care for messy situation either but if you bring it, it's on!

^^^cha know? 😉

Posted by VirgoVixxxen
Alright, since we're all doing the cumbaya thing now...

Are we sexually repressed when we're not having sex for long periods of time or simply exercising necessary restraint until we find the right one? Since Virgo is known as the 'bachelor' of the zodiac, there are many who can go long periods of time without having sex (I have personally met quite a few). Tell me your personal experiences or those of Virgos you know. Do you think the no sex thing could be due to a hang-up(s) beyond the cleanliness factor? (again, I know plenty of Virgos who will not sleep with people because they just can't seem to find anyone clean) I know you have to look at this question in terms of the individual but, why can Virgos seemingly go without sex for longer periods of time than most other signs, or am I wrong?

I'm an Aries, and if you read too much into what astrology has to say about me as a sign, then I'm basically a sexaholic that preys on men to satisfy my sexual needs.

I'm currently remaining sex-free until I do meet someone who is worthy to have sex with. It's a personal choice. So far, I've gone almost 3 months without having sex. I feel great!!!! No stupid boy drama is in my life. I'm not worried about what a guy thinks of me. I get hit on all the time when I go out, and I just turn my head. Yes, I'm being a snob, but men really need to start changing their approach to females if they want to go far with her. Guys think that it's as simple as hitting on a girl, and treating her like she's sexy, and treating her out is the way to do things. But it's not. And those men who have a solid partner and has found the one he can claim as his girl knows that it wasn't all that simple either.

I'm tired of hearing stupid bitches cry about how a guy treats her. They don't see that they allow him to treat her like that.

Sex is no longer the objective of the game anymore. I'm looking for a solid partner that will be an asset to me and my life.

Posted by Mars.In.Aries

Posted by VirgoVixxxen
Alright, since we're all doing the cumbaya thing now...

Are we sexually repressed when we're not having sex for long periods of time or simply exercising necessary restraint until we find the right one? Since Virgo is known as the 'bachelor' of the zodiac, there are many who can go long periods of time without having sex (I have personally met quite a few). Tell me your personal experiences or those of Virgos you know. Do you think the no sex thing could be due to a hang-up(s) beyond the cleanliness factor? (again, I know plenty of Virgos who will not sleep with people because they just can't seem to find anyone clean) I know you have to look at this question in terms of the individual but, why can Virgos seemingly go without sex for longer periods of time than most other signs, or am I wrong?

I'm an Aries, and if you read too much into what astrology has to say about me as a sign, then I'm basically a sexaholic that preys on men to satisfy my sexual needs.

I've read it a thousand times but of course I don't think all Aries women are this way.

I'm currently remaining sex-free until I do meet someone who is worthy to have sex with. It's a personal choice. So far, I've gone almost 3 months without having sex. I feel great!!!! No stupid boy drama is in my life. I'm not worried about what a guy thinks of me. I get hit on all the time when I go out, and I just turn my head. Yes, I'm being a snob, but men really need to start changing their approach to females if they want to go far with her. Guys think that it's as simple as hitting on a girl, and treating her like she's sexy, and treating her out is the way to do things. But it's not. And those men who have a solid partner and has found the one he can claim as his girl knows that it wasn't all that simple either.

Men are an interesting breed indeed (as are we women) and a guy has to come correct way before the courtship phase.

I'm tired of hearing stupid bitches cry about how a guy treats her. They don't see that they allow him to treat her like that.

Sadly, sometimes they don't see.

Sex is no longer the objective of the game anymore. I'm looking for a solid partner that will be an asset to me and my life.

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We've got something in common.