Stung by Virgo 'friend'.....

I've only been reading the board a few weeks, if that & if I've read anything on here it's a lot of being told to be patient with virgo men lol.

When my Virgo 'friend' (and I now call him a friend due to my lack of a better term) & I started out it was an instant attraction & never a day went by without talking or seeing each other sometime.

All of a sudden 4 weeks ago he backed off completely complaining of money troubles, he was injured, etc. & this I know was true because he was pretty good about sharing what was going on in his life. I decided to give him space & stop e mailing & calling, thinking that was what he wanted. I know, big mistake right, ASSuming what any Virgo wants.

Anyway, every 2-3 days he'll call & always tells me what's going on with his injury & his recently acquired jobs. The last 2 times we spoke he seemed very depressed & I really didn't know what to say to him without sounding like a mother.

I resigned myself to the fact that perhaps he didn't really have any money & that was the reason he didn't wish to see me (I mean he did tell me they shut off his cable & were threatening to forclose on his home). I was fine with just being there for him when he called to talk.

He just called me at work to tell me about his injury & also added that last night he had dinner with an old girlfriend - whoa. Big sting for me. I was really hurt it was like a slap in the face I guess realizing that he had been lying to me about the money issue. If he has money to take out an old girlfriend, how could he not have money to take me out.

I did not let on I was hurt, I just listened to him tell me about the date & we talked like normal.

Now this probably is a big fault of mine saying this but damn, I can't understand him. When we talk he still tells me I'm beautiful & how he likes calling me yet he doesn't want to see me? And I tried to explain to him when he 1st told me of his money issues that I did not care what we did, we could sit at his house for all I cared, we didn't have to always go out. That didn't work either.

Maybe I am overreacting but I keep reading that Aquas & Virgos don't mix lol & I was hurt. I'm normally not this sensitive but wow.

Any insights anyone? I do like this man very much as a person though he can be very pessimistic (surprise? LOL). I don't want to end anything with him but I just sometimes can't stand always shaking my head at him & how he operates.

Thanks everyone - happy Tuesday by the way 🙂🙂

Aquarian and Virgo - what a pair. In the end it probably would not work. Your lack of understanding and patience will wear thin - and the old girl friend is nothing more than a friend.
I doubt if anything is going on there. My advice is to tell him how you felt. Poor sometimes dense Virgo - probably won;t get it. But explain it to him anyway.

I thought about telling him how hurt I was, but then he has a tendency to say I whine when I tell him my feelings. Another very annoying point if you ask me!! He even imitates me when I don't think I am whining at all.

I know his ex is just a friend, he's spoken of her before & I'm not jealous of that. I'm just hurt over the money thing & I should probably say something yes. But then being so new to each other I don't want him to think he has to defend everything he does or doesn't do.

I'll remain quiet - and keep asking myself why am I so very attracted to this man?

Hi Virgoluver, that's weird - your bad case of Virgo-itis sounds a bit like mine. I don't know whether you read my post a few days ago but anyway the update on it is that we had a big huge row. More correctly I got really angry and had a hissy fit at him via text messagees. I realise already that this is not the best way to reason with a virgo of all star signs. So now he is being silent and no communicative in another county in Ireland. His lack of communication is irritating me and making me itch for him and I would suggest that maybe this is what is drawing you to your virgo man when logic owuld say that is a self centred cold blooded insensitive man. This must be the case with me too. I reckon maybe it harks back to our own sense of self, ie we go for men who are gonna treat in the aforementioned way because of a lack of self confidence in ourselves.

Virgo men or just men in general - when having financial woes are not apt to want to be involved with anyone. He needs to work things out for himself - and that means without your help. Virgo men pride themselves on their independence alot and are apt to be out of sync with emotions.

He probably does not mean to hurt you or make you feel bad, but at this time it's not about you - it's about him and his problems. And you don't want to be a part of his problems.

In talking to him and he gets irritated about what you are telling him - sounds like he doesn't want a lot of drama in his life. And women do seem to want the drama of what is going on within themselves.

My advice is to let it fly - step back - call him sometimes to ask how he's doing and then go on with your life. If he wants to contact you - then he will. Virgos seem to need more space than most. I have been with one for going on 4 years and sometimes it's not easy. You have to let him be who he is - and stop the dreaming about who you think he could be.

Do you love him? If you do, there is nothing you can do. This man is going to do just as he pleases, and you either deal with it - or you leave it alone.

I had to get to a level of comfort for myself in dealing with the Virgo I know. We have had ups and downs - and both of us still have a bond together - tho' it should have been broken a long time ago. I am a Scorpio - and the good has out weighed the bad most of the time, but it had had a degree of pain also.

Don't DO anything - let him do what he feels he needs to - it'll be better for you in the long run. Because if you keep trying - you'll end up being hurt.

Virgoluver39,
Dreamy-Eyez here. I'm going to begin saying this to you. (SHAKE IT OFF!!!! SHAKE THAT S-H-*-T OFF!!!) One of my friends is a Virgo, and I feel so sorry for the women that he dated. From observation, he draws them in with all this talk about telling her "She's the one" and talking about their future together . . . then later on he comes to me and his other friends complaining about her. He creates these negative issues in his head, yet does not want to admit it to himself. He never communicates with his girlfriends honestly and then he'll just break it off with them leaving them an emotional or psychological mess. Don't let this happen to you. Obviously, he feels as if he can just tell you anything and be okay with it like some sort of doormat. I'm a Pisces male and quite frankly, I'm so sick and tired of seeing the good women getting implanted with psychological scars from those "loser a*% boyfriends" that plays with their heart and minds. Don't let that happen to you. Let him go. . . Please. Dreamy-Eyez out.

Thanks Branh - The one I know was born in September - and he really is a reliable person - has made no false promises, but when he tells me he is going to do something he does it. It may take him a minute but he follows through. If I ask for his opinion or help - he does it. I don't take advantage of his goodness, but really enjoy the times we spend together. Granted he's been a little hard on my feelings at times - but those are the downs and they haven't been many. He's a little anal at times, and tosses out things to me - but I gently smile at him and tell him he's going to be OK. I find that Virgo men - tend to like a comfort zone. Someone who they know will be there. But you also have to allow them time to work out things within themselves. Harping on where you stand and when things are going to happen - will in fact make them run and back-off from you. Virgos are planner and thinkers, and will appreciate the fact that you care about them. Sometimes they are a little unsure of themselves and can be insecure with dealing with someone - and it's well hidden. But overall, the one that I know is a very nice person - who is sometimes cranky and out of sorts - can be mean at times. And I just quip back at him - but if you have a true understanding of his personality and it takes a while to get there - they will appreciate it. Tho' he maynot tell you all the time. The one I know can be affectionate sometimes and it's so sweet - I like the quiet times we enjoy in each other's company. If you have the patience to deal with it, then stay. If you want sugary speeches and declarations of love and that white knight - better go else where and find him. This man is logical, technical, and down to earth.

Glee and Branh: Spot on!

When a Virgo has financial problems, not even a naked super-model get's a second glance. We have a lot of thinking and planning to do.........

Also, we tend to be loyal, and if we know somebody LONGER then you, they will always get preferencial treatment. Sorry.........

Dreamy -eyes: Thank God that you exist! Women everywhere should kiss your feet. Good boy!!

On second thought: Get a freakin life! You, and the other freakin pisces male(Haffo) posting on the Virgo board. Let's not forget cancerbuddy!

Virgo or any other board, is not your property. So shut the hell up Excess. As for life thingy, my life standarts are different from yours and I am happy the way I am living. For what you can kiss my ass.

Virgoluver39,as you can tell already posts drift off from the topic itself easily here from hurt people who associate every situation with thier own so little help will be found here.First aquarians and virgos don't mix well is a crock and doesn't have much to do with reality in terms of relationships-any starsign combo can work.As far as your situation goes,you may still need to investigate it a little more being as he was honest about it-meaning she may have paid for it and it may be just a friend dinner.At the least you should probably question some things before letting some overreactive suggestions get into your head.You love him so at least give him a chance to prove it wrong if it's not a cheating thing.

Tiamat's right there - I've realised that I too was adding in my own little personal bit that tilted this convo in another direction. So to get back to the original intention of this post, I would say that all these speculations about virgo are of a general overview and should not be used to making sweeping assumptions and decisions about the particular virgo in question. Perhaps this message board serves better as an indicator of how Virgo are likely to behave in the long term. And in particular I would say that Virgoluver39 should not deperately jump to the conclusion that this guy is wining and dining an ex. (Although perhaps he could be whining while he was dining with her!).

...and in that case you needn't feel jealous!

Hello Brahn913,
I actually respect your opinion about the decans because they are true sometimes. When I heard about Virgoluver39's situtation, it automatically reminded me of the drama my friend went thru.

Cancerbuddy- Thanks.

Virgoluver39- I saw your last post. I'm glad that things are working out for you. I just remembered the saying. . . "Good things happens to those who wait."

Excess- Like I told Virgoluver39 to brush that guy off? I'm glad she didn't because it actually worked out, but I'm going to brush off what you said about Pisces. Please cut it out with the riiculous zodiac segregation crap. It's getting as old and outdated like an "8 track."

Dreamy-Eyez out.

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