Would really like my Virgo to get his rocks off to

Sorry about that topic title. Does it sound a bit trashy? Well maybe it is an apt reflection of the state of my mind at this stage. Been with my Virgo man for just under 2 months and thus far there has not been any earth shattering passion in the bedroom. There have been however tentative and very tame encounters that have only seemed inadequate and lacking afterwards. It feels like there is something false about us being a couple, as if it is all a charade, like his body and my heart are not getting into it.

So what I'm wondering is if this is as good as it gets? Ok I'm panicking a bit as it is very early days in our relationship. What I've said so far sounds a bit uncomplimentary and pessimistic. This is not so in other aspects of when we're together. We get along very well, I enjoy his sense of humour and I find him very sexy in an unassuming way (also he possesses those famous cool clear Virgo eyes!).

In the first few weeks after we met I felt as if there was a hot dynamism between us but from then til now it hasn't developed into anything. I don't like it in myself the way I am lacking much faith in us but this is the way I have begun to feel in the last week. A number of hysterical ideas have passed through my mind; one of them being that perhaps, as all these astrology sites suggest, he really belongs with a pisces woman (actually his 10 years-ago-former pisces girlfriend introduced us!) and similarly I should stick to a Leo.

Twice he has fallen asleep during sex and the other few nights he has fallen asleep on the sofa despite telling me he would be following me up shortly. In fact I'm not sure how much of all this is related to his consumption of alcohol every night since I have known him.

Astrologically he has sun in Virgo, moon in Aquarius, Mercury in Virgo, Mars in Taurus and Venus in Libra. Actually it's his birthday today!

I have my sun in Aquarius, moon in Taurus, venus and mercury in Capricorn and Mars in Gemini.

I know sex is not the paramount in a relationship but it is an important factor. I tend to like a man to being assertive and not to check with me or wait for subtle signals. He, I get the feeling, is doing just that, and has not had an orgasm in nearly 2 weeks.

Can anybody throw some light on this for me?

Yours, frustratedly

MellowDee

Hi MellowDee and welcome back!

Gosh..sorry to hear of your frustrations...I really do not know all the facts and can only go by what you have written and expressed and what I am getting is....He just is not that into you. If he were, his actions would be different and you would not be wondering. Sorry to be so blunt but that is what I see - and I could be wrong!

Hey girlie, c'mon...when it's working - it's working!

I wish you the best and Happy Birthday to your Virgo pal today!

Well, it could be 2 reasons. Many experts agree that drinking kills the libido over the long-term. So if he's drinking every night- then maybe that's why his sex drive isn't at its peak. If it's not the drinking issue, then I agree with Freebird. Perhaps he's lost interest.

Or just other things on his mind. I think sometimes women think it's automatically another woman - sometimes it's not. Stess, illness, as you said drinking, depression, those could be some things also. And then your expectations of what you want could result in a backing away. Believe it or not ladies, men have their issues too. Men do begin to be fearful of a relationship or commitment.

Hi there, MellowDee. I think I understand what you are going through since my situation was similar in the beginning. Now it's almost three years later, and all I can say about it now, is that it's the best I have ever experienced--virgo men get better with time because it's about mastery I think. Whatever, he is fabulous and I am an aqu.sun, cap. rising, taur. moon. Good luck--lots of practice...

MellowDee

As I?ve said it before.. Sex and passionate pleasures resides on mind? when mind is not available for some reasons.. there will be no hot stuff..

Be patience with your V-man? it worth the waiting and its rewarding lady.. be patience..

Hey guys thanks! Patience patience. Think patient thoughts. Breathe patience. Exude patience thorugh my pores. Speak patiently. Try to be the living embodiment of patience! Ok will give it ago. Hope you're all having a good friday. Van Morrison's Have I Told You Lately That I Love You is playing now - very nice song.

Hi Dee-----as I said last nite to you.......give him a week if need be!!!;_)
Remember HER of the break your remote and smash your ashtray drama!!!!:-)
Me thought it was all over......but he came back a week later!!!!
And if and when he does come back, I'd demand a one nite of no alcohol fuelled pure lusty sex!!
Then you'll know for sure, if it's the drink that affecting him or as Freebird says....he just ain't into you.
In the meantime, it's your playtime:-) - the weekend is coming, you work hard and gotta play harder:-)
Having said the above, I wouldn't be waiting around too too long for anyone!!, even a Mister Virgo!!! - well you know what I do when there are interludes between me and Mr. Virgo!!!! If he doesn't want to be part of your world, then it's his loss.
Let me reiterate for all the ladies and gents here in Duncanville, after being out on the town with this lovely lady:-) where heads turned the minute she walks in each club and pub we went to.........this lady ain't got to wait for anyone!!! - she just needs a teeny weeny bit more confidence poured into her:-) and I say that in the nicest of ways always............

Your pal - Ax

Hey Alana thanks for that! Yes I know major confidence injection would be a great boost for me. It's something I must work at a lot. Well as it's compliments season, let me tell you that Lady Alana's quite a looker herself! A bit of a bombshell actually. No wonder Mr Ponytail can't get enough!

Will take you up on that advice about trying to get him alcohol free for one night and see how it goes.

xx Dee...who's still chanting the patience mantra!