The famous disappear act

How long have a virgo disappeared on you or how long have you virgos disappeared on someone who you were romantically/friends with?

Also, do you act like nothing happened or get called out on the butter?

I never disappear from my partners.

From my friends..it depends on what's going on in my life. They know me well enough and know it's not personal. They leave me be until I come back..and I always come back with some awesome stories of how I've spent my time.

Which is it, Romantic? Or friendship?

The answer will vary the response.

i didnt realize it was that obvious...this habit of ours.
i have been in this weird thing where i have "disappeared" on this guy for a month? maximum. i don't know how to explain, but one little thing can give us the wrong vibe and we need space to decompress.
from friends?----maybe a day, but we are very loyal to our few true friends so we would never really disappear from them.

oh and i would act like nothing happened or it was no big deal.

well I wouldn't say disappear as in vanish but more so space and I was referring to friends or friendships multiple view points not just one type of relationship...

my virgo has distance himself for about a month now we've been friends for over a year and it seems like the closer our bond got the more he started acting weird I would even catch him watching me when he thinks I'm not paying attention but when I acknowledge him he acts like a girl and run away idk weird lol I'm a Scorpio girl so I don't chase any guy but if he gives off a vibe as wanting space then I have no problem giving it to him. We have been getting along lately had a few problems a fee months ago as far as communication but we're getting back to our normal friendship. The last time we hung out was pleasant we spent like a week together and after that he just became distant I'm not too worry though bc we have gotten closer. Our friendship is a funny one bc he tried to pursuit me when I had a bf two years ago I told him no bc I'm not a cheater and waited to be his friend when I was over the relationship he said I was the only girl that didn't give him play when I had a bf I find that amusing so I guess I'm different. He also knows I'm very goal/career focus and I'm moving to another state in a week with my family to finish school and told him he can visit me anytime I'm a hour flight away literally lol. All in all our friendship has gone back in forth from friends and finally pursing more I guess I shouldn't be too worried I do value his friendship and he's knows I'm very patient he actually said I was patient with him before randomly one day so yeah maybe he's just analyzing his feelings for me at this point.

This is actually the longest we've gone without contact though I'm use to hearing from him a couple days a week and hanging out every week we are aware that we both have feelings for eachother so maybe it's just space to decide if he's ready to take that big leap I know he's expressed that he wants to make sure he is goo in every aspect of his life as far as financial and goal wise he knows I'm very independent and career focused I guess he wants to make sure he can bring something to the table as well and I agree that people should be secure in they own lives first then commitment so I have no problem waiting I am in no rush and I'm in nursing school so that's my priority right now so I respect his space and I'm sure he will come back around and appreciate me more for accepting him whenever he's ready 🙂

I've always wondered about this.

My virgo ex who I was talking to all spring pretty much disappeared all summer. Not sure what to think.

I lost count of how long and yes I got called out on that shit. But so far that disappearing acts don't cost me any friends or lovers. Or maybe I just could care less I suppose.

Yeah I disaapper all the time!!!!

Then I just come back!

It depends on how consistant the person is!

If you're not consistant than he may read that you're not interested.

What I do like is when I disapper and its not on purpose and I am sent words of affrimation! 🙂

Lets me know that I have been missed!

Lol I swear virgo and scorps have a lot in common I don't purposely disappear out of feeling disinterest tho I don't chase men I just let them call me but I've heard my virgo tell me before that I never call him lmao it's not on purpose I'm just horrible to keep in touch nothing personal but I always answer his phone & text I just don't easily tell ppl how I feel without confirmation that love me back I'm super cautious

Posted by uncleVirgo4u
i didnt realize it was that obvious...this habit of ours.
i have been in this weird thing where i have "disappeared" on this guy for a month? maximum. i don't know how to explain, but one little thing can give us the wrong vibe and we need space to decompress.
from friends?----maybe a day, but we are very loyal to our few true friends so we would never really disappear from them.

50% is accurate. One of my close virgo male friends has disappeared for close to 4 months now without any sign that he is still alive. One day we're good, the next I'm as if I don't exist.

I get the decompression as I'm virgo rising and being gemini, I also like my alone time. But God Lord, 4 months? I've been one of those "loyal friends" and what did it get me? 4 months of nothing.

For me, it's not just about the disappearing act, it's the cold and dry cut off without any explanation. Most people understand this is rude, hurtful and just wrong. Virgo's (some not all, seems the ones I've had as friends etc.) for whatever matter don't seem to grasp this concept. It's always about THEM first and others be damned. Geez, have some cajones and just be honest and up front. What's so hard about that?

Which honestly is probably why many virgo's are alone. They want a perfect world. Earth to Virgo's.....That doesn't exist. It never has, never will.

Life is precious. Family and friends are gifts from God. You have to appreciate them because you may lose them one day. I often wonder if virgo's ever truly appreciate anyone in their lives. It seems as if they need you in their life, they'll show you. But only until they need to push you away and get their space back. It's a Catch 22. I'm a very forgiving person and have a big heart for those I cherish. However, when someone pushes you away and treats you with the same level of respect you'd treat an enemy, then it comes to a point where I say "enough is enough" and move on.

I have other close friends who value me for who I am and what I bring to their lives and vice versa.

With my virgo we have always been on and off. Even as friends. Being an Aquarius I have my way of disappearing from time to time but I am very vocal on why so. Virgo... eh... he kinda cuts you off cold and dry with out an explanation. Leaving you to think you did something wrong. Then he would come back as though nothing happened. Eventually I would bring it up and he would tell me what was wrong or why but in the moment you just have to let them be. We usually go a few days without talking when were dating but as friends sometimes it would be weeks. He always came back around. More so then I ever did. Again, the Aquarius in me would never let me.... only cause im off in my own world. I would apologize though if I knew I had hurt him.

My sisters are Virgos- one of them told me that its hard being a Virgo because the way they think just wont shut off. They think about every little thing to the point where they need to decompress. So it makes sense when a Virgo starts to get close to someone they start to over think. Then they need down time. I also notice virgos HATE to make mistakes... reason being they dont rush. They want to be sure about it all before they fully commit to something.

IMO- Virgos can be selfish, but not on purpose. Again, sometimes they can get so lost in their own head they dont see the person they may be hurting at the time. My sisters, my virgo guy, my 3 best friends (all Virgos) are very much like this. Its easier with family and friends to deal with this then a guy you are dating. You have to have tough skin. Don't always take it personally and trust that they will be back and most likely act as though nothing happened- guys in general do this anyways. But when they do come back make sure to bring it up. It doesn't have to be an emotional thing but more of a "Hey what happened". Talk it out for a bit and then let it go. If this isn't something you can handle then a Virgo may not be the one for you.