Trying to understand virgo man in love ?

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There is very handsome virgo guy I know for a long time, pretty much since high school. I always thought he was cute but never said anything to him cause we were just friends of friends and I really didn't know him very well. My best friend john and the virgo guy mike have been friends since high school and recently my bestfriend john started to hang out with him again, so naturally cause I hang out with john a lot I started hanging out virgo mike as well with a few other of their friends. At first I liked his mikes cancer friend because me and him had talked a few times n made out, but I really don't see anything going anywhere with the cancer guy cause he's to shy it seems, I always have to make the first move and he just got out a relationship not to long ago so I don't think he wants a gf just someone to have fun with. For some reason though I felt that the virgo guy mike kept looking at me secretly out his eye and he even asked for my number ( in a friendly way of course ) he started texting me randomly. Then we all started going to the movies n dinner with our group of friends and shockingly we have so much in common. Then this weekend he talked about having a little get together at his house n have people come over for drinks, I said if he did I would cook... I'm a cancer female and I love to cook and I had cooked food for him and his friends before and they loved it. So he was really excited about it. He knew I liked his cancer friend but never really said anything much about it, then the virgo mike asked me for advice about a girl at his school he thought was cute n wanted to invite and I told him how he should approch he. Well he did and she didn't respond to him and he normally texts me but he called me and we talked about it on the phone for a bit and I told him just to forget about her cause he's a good looking guy n there's more fish in the sea. Then he just texts me all the time and just asked me if Saturday night if me him and two of our other friends wanna watch a movie. I think for some reason he kinda might like me but doesn't want to say anything cause he thinks I still am into his friend, which I am but I kinda like them both lol. Its clear to everyone I like the cancer guy but its kinda a secret that I like the virgo guy. But I don't know maybe virgo is just being friendly. But what are vrigo men like ? How do they act when they like a girl ? What are the dos and donts with him ? I really need to know what are the signs he's into you
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Where do I start young grasshopper? RUN! Run like the wind!

Cancer-Cancer (really takes work to make it happen)
Cancer woman-Virgo man (RUN)

Okay Virgo men take awhile to warm up to you. A long while. You will find yourself wondering how he feels about you very often. When they finally figure out that your good enough, you'll know b/c they will find ways to give you "constructive criticism". He's in love now. He will find ways to make you feel secure with minimal emotion on his part. They do not readily show emotion although they are full of them, and they really don't want to deal with your emotions either. They are extremely private people. You'll be in the dark on many things in his life. He a thinker, and will needs lots oof time to do so. Private time.

On a more positive note if you get a good one, it'll be the most secure feeling you've ever had. He values home, and you'll know it. You'll feel like no one could love you more, ever! when it's bad- it's emotional warfare bad. When it's good- it's dayum who put me on this cloud good.

They are very confusing beings, and I am just not sure if it's in a good way. Get ready to ride the roller coaster in this relationship. I am a Cancer woman with a recent Virgo ex. Emotional nightmare of my life. I will never date another Virgo man. Ever!

My advice.....RUN!!!!
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He seems like the nicest guy ever. He was in relationship with a girl for about 2 years but they broke up cause he went through a hard time after his dad had died. He seems very open and not shy like the cancer guy, and I liked the fact the virgo guy seems like take charge while the cancer guy really just sits back and doesn't say much. Talking to the virgo guy he really opened up and expressed alot of his feelings to me, cause we both lost our parents around the same time and he just seems like he has such a good heart. I like them both but each guy is different. Virgo guy will ask me about plans for all of us to hang out, he's picked up once to take me a friends house, he was the one who asked me for my number first, he texts me alot, and for the first time he called me last night and we talked on the phone for an hr. Cancer guy was really shy when i first met him, didn't really say much. I had to ask him for his number, he never texts me, I always text him, and when we do text it takes him hrs to respond, he never ask to hang out, so I always made plans with virgo guy because were all friends and I knew cancer guy would be there. But when I'm around cancer guy he's all over me and flirting with me when we drink. So to me it just seems like he only really cares to show that he likes me when he's around me & to be honest if I never saw him I would probly never hear from him cause he never texts me. I kinda think virgo guy likes me but because I came on to his friend first and me and his friend made out Im sure that even if he did like me it would be weird for him to say anything. But then again the virgo guy could just be really friendly and like me as a friend. Were all hanging out tomorrow at his house to drink and eat food so I guess this will be interesting to see how both of them act around me and what happens lol.
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Posted by Brown69
Where do I start young grasshopper? RUN! Run like the wind!


Okay Virgo men take awhile to warm up to you. A long while. You will find yourself wondering how he feels about you very often.




I def. do that.
I've been trying to distinguish the difference between how a Virgo treats someone he likes and someone he values as a friend. Got anything else besides constructive criticism?
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When Virgos like you, they will talk more, they like to cater to your likes. Be careful to notice their needs, and cater to their likes. This will be difficult b/c Virgos like to appear to have it all under control. They have needs/likes/interests too. although the signals might be faint, dig a little. Sometimes Virgos will only mention something once, so pay close attention. It's a ploy to see just how much attention you are paying. They are a service sign, but they also need care. You might not know it but they are loving it! *smiles*

Show them you are invested as much in their happiness as they are in yours, and they'll fall hard....
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Posted by Midgetbull
Oh yeah, Dy is right. If you're looking at multiple guys and he knows it a virgo won't give you the time of day. They need to know they can trust you, and if they don't think they can trust you they'll be gone before you blink.



Indeed.

I know a few Cancer girls, much like you.

Highly attractive and overly friendly. They honestly seem to just enjoy attention and that keeps me far away from any kind of serious approach with them 🙂
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Posted by radar10
For some reason from the very start I felt like he liked me but I didn't really care to think about it cause I liked the cancer guy. I'm at the point were I don't want to say anything to the virgo cause I don't want to make things weird. Do u think it would be a good idea to lay off the cancer guy for awhile n see if virgo gives me more attention in a flirty way ?



This post alone summarises you and your situation.
You're just playing games.
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Posted by 25thDecan
You sound very young. Secretly "liking" someone and making out with men who seem too shy for you WILL lead to unnecessary bull.




Yes I am young, I'm only 21 years old so it's not like I'm trying to settle down to get married right now. I don't want to tell the virgo guy I like him cause Im aware that I already dug myself a hole by liking his cancer friend, but I never expected to have more of a connection with the virgo guy. I can't help the way I feel. I'm not trying to have a sexual relationship with either guy...in fact with any guys be exact unless I'm in a full on relationship. But I see nothing wrong with flirting and kissing, and if a guy get's another idea that it will lead to sex thats on them lol. And I don't just go around kissing random guys, I just happen to like cancer guy and we both made it aware that we liked each other. The issue with the cancer guy is that it's not going anywhere, he's not really trying to get to know me more and Im not trying to get to know him more, it's pretty much when we see each other we see each other, and when we flirt or kiss that's what we do. Maybe a relationship could come along if we both decided to make the effort but if he's not willing to even get to know me more besides just partying and hanging out with me through mutual friends then why should I go out my way. I put all the signs out there that I would like to get to know him more then just flirting with him and stuff when we hang out with out friends, I left the ball in his court and he's not doing anything with it so right now I really could care less what it turns into. But I can't help the fact that I like the virgo guy. I didn't expect it to happen. Virgo guy is sweet, actually wants to hang out with me and texts me and calls me all the time lately. We have so much in common it's crazy. But now Im kinda screwed cause my bestfriend likes him, but she has no idea I'm into him cause she thought I was into the cancer guy, which at the time I was but that was just more of a fling with the cancer guy anyways.
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Posted by Cajunspirit

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This post alone summarises you and your situation.
You're just playing games.
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Ummm no Im not playing games, I don't play games with people cause I know what it feels like to have games played on me, this past couple month guys have been doing nothing but playing games with me. I put it out loud and clear that I liked the cancer guy, yes we flirt and kiss but I actually maybe wanted to see where things go with me. But they really haven't gone anywhere and I'm fine with that. But over the past couple of weeks talking to the virgo guy I started to like him because he's very sweet and actually has alot of things in common with me, he makes an effort to text me, call me and hang out unlike the cancer man who has done nothing. The only time I even see the cancer man is when I make group plans with the virgo man for all of us to hang out. I kinda felt like the virgo guy liked me the start but he never really did anything to show me that he liked me and at that time cancer guy just went right for it so I was into the cancer guy, but now I see that the thing with the cancer guy is nothing more then a fling which im okay with.. but now I see that virgo guy is someone who I could actually be in a relationship with. It just sucks because he thinks that I like his cancer friend and I really don't, its just a fling that we had nothing more nothing less, but he doesn't know that I would maybe want something more then just a friend with the virgo guy because I just think he's all around just a great guy. But I wouldn't want it to be weird around them, then again maybe he wouldnt even care if I told him I liked him but I don't know. Thats why I said if I would just back off cancer guy with the flirting and just see how virgo reacts to me.
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Posted by Midgetbull
Maybe you should think about what you want radar? Do you know what you want from these guys?



Well I wasn't really looking for a relationship, Im just going with the flow of things. At first I thought cancer guy was cute, we flirted alot and kissed a few times but that was it. I was maybe interested in seeing if it could go anywhere but it didn't. I made it clear through my actions and words that I wanted to hang out with him more, maybe just me n him besides the whole group thing, and he has no effort at all to hang out with me solo and try to get to know me at all. Which isn't breaking my heart because I was okay from the very start that if it turned out to be a lil fling that's fine. With virgo I always liked him since high school but I never thought he liked me that, thats why when we started to hang out again I never thought twice about making a move on him or getting to know him more. But over time we just naturally have alot of things in common and he makes time to text me, and even call me on the phone which I was shocked about. And I realize that he would be a perfect guy for me, so would I want a fling with him... no. I would want a relaitonship over time cause I wouldn't want to rush into it. I just don't know what to do now because I still like cancer guy but just a fling, someone to flirt with that I think is cute but I wouldn't try to have a relationship with. Virgo guy I would actually want something more over time. I'm just not sure how virgo even feels about me. Hes asked me for advice on other girls that he could talk to, but that could be because he still thinks I want somehting with his friend when I really dont. We are all hanging out tonight, eating a dinner Im cooking for all of my friends then drinking afterwards. So I don't know if I should back off cancer guy and even see if virgo guy flirts with me at all or ? Idk
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Posted by VitasXisto
"If the Virgo is aware of your interest in other guys, he is not going to treat you the same way he would if HE was the ONLY guy you acted interested in. We're fairly smart. We can figure out if a girl is flirt who wants lots of attention from lots of guys." - DynTryin

This ^. Us Virgo men don't like to fuck around with women who play games or attention whores, we like quality women not low trash ego boostin wannabe hoes.



Honey if ur trying to say that I'm a hoe and have some time ego ur wrong. I'm not intertested in guyss I was interested in one person but it just turned out to be a fling. I don't give a crap about getting attention from guys, and virgo is a nice guy and is not even thinking like that I'm sure. I can't help the fact that me and virgo have more a connection. If virgo would have expressed his feeling to me more from the start then maybe I would have tired to talk to him. But at the time me and cancer just hit it off but now I'm noticing how I have deeper feelings for virgo. I can't help the way I feel. I'm not trying to play games with either of them. Its pretty clear that me and cancer girl aren't going to grow into a relationship cause that's not what he wants right now. But me liking virgo does not make a slut or a hoe or a mind game player. Playing games would be leading both of them on and I'm not doing that. I could if I wanted to but I have to much respect to try to talk to both of them. I'm just simply asking if back of cancer guy a bit and just talk to virgo more would he show me maybe that he likes mesince I have a feeling he secretly does. Wow some people just down out rude on here. if you want to give me advice that's great but I don't care for ur rude remarks !
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Posted by DyTryin

radar: Honey if ur trying to say that I'm a hoe and have some time ego ur wrong.

I don't think you're a whore - you're just young, and possibly flirty. Lots of young gals are flirty, and like to hang out with the guys.

What I'm saying: If the Virgo sees you as flirty, he's probably not going to pursue anything with you - even if he's attracted to you - we don't try to win popularity contests... ESPECIALLY when we don't know for sure how you feel about us.

If you're more interested in the Virgo, then let him know - be less talkative to the Cancer, give the Virgo more attention. Pretty simple, really...



Thank you !