Victim if the Virgo stare please help

I know this has been discussed before but I need some advice. The Virgo stare? Gaaah! So there is a Virgo guy at work who I think is very attractive. He seems extremely confident all the time (very in shape. Dresses impeccably) has a few close friends he's always with BUT He stares at me Incessantly. Never says anything at all. So I decided to talk to him. Said good morning. (His response was a pleasant good morning then he ducked out of the room) I tried again and complemented his shirt one day. (He said thank you again very politely and didn't try to keep the conversation going.) now he wears this shirt all the time. But in the meantime he just stares! Never speaks. Just stares. No smile. Just stares. I don't get it. Is he into me? Shy? Trying to figure me out? Analyzing me? Hates me? Trying to get under my skin and be a jerk— I was starting to get weirded out and tried avoiding him...but he'll walk by my desk ( which is kinda outta the way and there is no reason to come by) my coworkers say he'll stare again as he passes by. I've seen his friends glance at me too often Now I'm starting to get way self conscious. He had the chance to hold a door open for me before and didn't. Pretty much let it fall closed on me. Also nearly ran me outta my parking place one day trying to take my spot as I was leaving. All I could do was look right at him and laugh. I have no idea what his deal is. I need help. I'm an Aquarius and love a mystery and challenge but I'm starting to get frustrated. And I'm thinking he's a huge jerk. Any Virgos have advice?

Yes he is trying to finger uou out was you stareing.at him because some time they stare at you because they are trying to finger out why you stareing at them..and also it can mean he thanks you are very beautiful and pretty but I think he likes you and trying to get your atention

Sorry my spelling was bad I did not know until I sent the comment

Posted by Aquarius77
I know this has been discussed before but I need some advice.

But in the meantime he just stares! Never speaks. Just stares. No smile. Just stares. I don't get it. Is he into me? Shy? Trying to figure me out? Analyzing me? Hates me? Trying to get under my skin and be a jerk— I have no idea what his deal is.

I need help. I'm an Aquarius and love a mystery and challenge but I'm starting to get frustrated. And I'm thinking he's a huge jerk. Any Virgos have advice?

You don't need help OR advice. Instead of assuming all of the above, communicate directly and ASK. He sees right through your chit chat attempts. Ask HIM directly.

Posted by Candace

... trying to finger uou out ...

lol, this is the best response in history ... he's trying to finger you out !!!

I was taught that it's rude to stare at people .. perhaps this guy simply has no manners, afterall he practically ran you out of a parking spot ... so, he probably is just rude.

^^NOT ALL STARING IS RUDE. LOL. That's one hasty generalization. @_@

Im definitely an Aquarius in every sense of the word. Social butterfly, outgoing etc. but have always been a little shy around men I'm interested in. I thought the casual comments would elicit something but....nope. I'm starting to see that's a trait he has as a Virgo. I'm just unsure how to approach this. But if I'm not mistaken our signs aren't necessarily a good match.

You have identically situation as I was with Virgo. It still the same atctually, almost two years. Sometimes he smile, sometimes make some joka and is happy if I laugh on it. Yes, the stare... always. But he is too shy to make some move, so enjoy this stare. Or go for him first. Dont know, but our situation is identical.

In my attempt to help the other signs understand the Virgo male in your life from all the crap out there.

First thing what is his Decanate 1st ,2nd or 3rd. The first two are roughly the same and hence all people treat virgo's the same. But the third is known to be a 'fallen angel' meaning we don't follow the norm of virgo's. We are not as ridged and way more adaptable then our conterparts.

So you need to know his Decanate and you can figure out a lot about him.

But the biggest thing you need to know about virgo's are we are not golden retrievers we are more like Snow Leopards. Very shy and elusive. We have a hard time with first, second or third contacts.

However if you win us over we are yours for life and we curl up in your lap and never ever leave.

I meen figure

Hmmm...that makes sense about initial contacts. Just some persistence huh? He's a 1st Decanate

Well he is more the archetype of the sign. He may even be vrey rigid (or as I find the 1st and 2nd Decan's.) In either case virgo's feel our emotions very intently that people may think we are cold and aloof when in reality we are deeply sensitive probably more then any other sign. We seek perfection in ourselves and we assume others are trying to do the same in themselves and so the error arrises that people think we are critical of them when in fact we think we are advising them of something they may not know about themselves.

Oh I think he likes you but we are afraid of being hurt. Emotional wounds are hard on us. So if you like him and you really want to make a go of it with him I suggest you do a lot less flirting and a lot more talking to him. Even if he walks away he will so start talking to you.

Wow don't hold back or anything...I'm sorry if it "annoys you" this is the first time I've encountered this so I was curious. There is absolutely no need to be rude....anyways to the people who have been helpful...much thanks!!! He and I actually had a great conversation today! And even the rudeness of one person won't get me flustered! 🙂

Posted by Aquarius77
Wow don't hold back or anything...I'm sorry if it "annoys you" this is the first time I've encountered this so I was curious. There is absolutely no need to be rude....anyways to the people who have been helpful...much thanks!!! He and I actually had a great conversation today! And even the rudeness of one person won't get me flustered! 🙂

Aquaris77

Hey don't take RomancingA too seriously. I've read some of her posts. She brings good insight, but holds strong opinions when it comes to Virgo's. I can appreciate that. I'm not a virgo, but i too hold strong opinions based on experience and about 30 + years of wisdom.

Now, onto your inquiry about the virgo stare. I've experienced it several times. It is not BS, it is real. So what's it all about? I truly believe it is about them analyzing you. VIrgo males aren't big into coming up to you and introducing themselves. That is not their way. They do, however, like to study people. I've seen this many times. They like to see if you are as interested in them as they are into you. This takes time. They will not pursue you until they know how you feel. The stare is part of their process....or the "dance" as I call it.

His weird actions around you are probably due to him being unsure how you feel about him, and he's nervous as hell. VIrgo guys are funny in that sometimes when they seek perfection, because of their intense emotions on the inside, they do something totally out of character. That's usually an indication that they are into you in some way.

If I were you, I'd just keep chatting with him. You know, nothing too personal, maybe discussing current affairs or work issues. VIrgo's like women with intelligence and who can carry a good conversation. You have to get to know him as a friend first before he decides to take it any further. And word of caution: Virgo males take things slow.....when i say slow, I mean S...........L.............O...............W........

So don't hold your breath thinking things are going to heat up quickly.

Hang in there.

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Posted by Aquarius77
Wow don't hold back or anything...I'm sorry if it "annoys you" this is the first time I've encountered this so I was curious. There is absolutely no need to be rude....anyways to the people who have been helpful...much thanks!!! He and I actually had a great conversation today! And even the rudeness of one person won't get me flustered! 🙂

Aquaris77

Hey don't take RomancingA too seriously. I've read some of her posts. She brings good insight, but holds strong opinions when it comes to Virgo's. I can appreciate that. I'm not a virgo, but i too hold strong opinions based on experience and about 30 + years of wisdom.

Now, onto your inquiry about the virgo stare. I've experienced it several times. It is not BS, it is real. So what's it all about? I truly believe it is about them analyzing you. VIrgo males aren't big into coming up to you and introducing themselves. That is not their way. They do, however, like to study people. I've seen this many times. They like to see if you are as interested in them as they are into you. This takes time. They will not pursue you until they know how you feel. The stare is part of their process....or the "dance" as I call it.

His weird actions around you are probably due to him being unsure how you feel about him, and he's nervous as hell. VIrgo guys are funny in that sometimes when they seek perfection, because of their intense emotions on the inside, they do something totally out of character. That's usually an indication that they are into you in some way.

If I were you, I'd just keep chatting with him. You know, nothing too personal, maybe discussing current affairs or work issues. VIrgo's like women with intelligence and who can carry a good conversation. You have to get to know him as a friend first before he decides to take it any further. And word of caution: Virgo males take things slow.....when i say slow, I mean S...........L.............O...............W........

So don't hold your breath thinking things are going to heat up quickly.

Hang in there.

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As a virgo male, that was a good answer.
Unless already in a relationship, about to move somewhere for a career soon, or strictly gay.

I was interested in a leo & he liked me too, but I felt like he wanted me to make the 1st move all the time. He'd see me walking out of our flat building & asked where I was going. I'd tell him & he'd just stand there without a word. *I* always had to ask 'do you want to come along?' & the answer was always yes. I got sick of it & just ignored him. Why should I be the one always initiating & goarding him when he obviously wants the same thing, a relationship? He has moon, venus & mercury in virgo. He still gives me hopeful looks, but I'm done with that. I want a male, not a snail.

Wow thanks so much! Lots of great info here!

Thanks Virgoflirt. It's actually an intense eye contact kinda thing. I've had the check out kinda stare before and know what that's about lol. It's definitely a straight in the eyes kinda look. What I find really interesting is that if we are at a distance I get the intense stare. I've even caught him peeking over cubicles at me lol. It's endearing sometimes, But if we are only feet apart he mostly avoids looking at me directly. At first I thought it was shyness. But he appears like THE MOST confident guy ever. So much so that when I asked some coworkers what they knew about him they all said he was extremely handsome but looked like he's be a jerk lol. I couldn't imagine he would be shy. I've seen him interact with others he's very friendly...but with me he clams up very soft spoken and brief. This has been going on for 5 months now and it's tough making headway. Unfortunately I don't know about our compatibility. As an aquarius I think It may be a disaster waiting to happen.

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Posted by VirgoFlirt
Well here is the thing now: just based upon my interactions.

If you get the 'psycho vertical stare'[1], then it's usually on with ya. So if you got that from him maybe he wants in your pants and more. I never stare at something like that, unless I want it or anything for that matter.

[1] lol, staring at you up and down only and not from side to side but letting your eyes see into the gateway to my soul.

If he never looks into your eyes then, you should move along but that's just my opion. Take from it what you can.

Lol you just gave her what she wanted to hear.....

Thus the topic of post....she's fishing to be told a pre determined answer.
Some people never grow as humans.....*cough* OP.


"Oh.....I dropped my phone and bent down to grab it and my hip went out and I had to wiggle it....as I turned around I found my virgo with a boner.........and he stared at me.....what does that mean?"



Sometimes I wish I could line all the women like this up all side by side on this forum and just run down the line slapping them in turns.

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You remind me of one of my former friends in HS and who was my tennis doubles partner. She is also a virgo. As you, she was always right, put others down, and very smug.

I'm not sure if you realize you come across this way, but you do.

If your avatar pic is indeed you, then you're still young. I'm a mother of two boys and been married for 15 years. I can tell you with the way you come across to almost everyone (and I've read a good number of your posts), there aren't many men who will enjoy your condescending tone. You are a perfect example of why virgo's get a rap for being so critical.

It's ok to have differing opinions. This is a forum exactly for that. But you go beyond that. And so did my former friend. No one enjoys being criticized and demeaned every post. You're a virgo, there's no doubt about it.

lol no worries....I'm not easily riled by people who have no class. I'm an unemotional aquarius! But she sure is concerned with what I'm talking about. ha!

Anyways, I was thinking along those lines Virgoflirt. Just by reading some of the Virgo traits I'm realizing more that it's a terrible combo. I'm more aloof by nature and don't really dwell on things. I don't typically play it safe and I crave adventure. The perfectionist nature would probably frustrate me. That's okay for friendship but that's most likely it for me. Besides someone said before that Virgos take things sllllloooowww...and I get bored easily. Lol. Ahhhh but he is nice eye candy.

Thanks for all the great input everyone. It's been really helpful! Must be the analytical side everyone here has. 😉 best of luck to you all here!

Absolutely right!

Posted by RomancingA

I am young(er) than you but I'm not young. Just because I know more than the average tard on this site doesn't mean I'm condescending. People run to that as a defense when they feel inferior. That makes it YOUR problem and not mine.

My virgo spouse doesn't seem to mind my headstrong opinions....he likes my honesty.

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LMAO! Yea right. I feel inferior to you. NOT.

I will take my experiences in life, my wisdom, my family, and my degrees/expertise and trump your cheap a $ $ attitude any day of the week. You are head strung. Actually, there is another word for it, but I will refrain from posting it.

Here's a newsflash. Just because you are strong minded doesn't always make you honest nor correct. You definitely have no humility, that's for sure.
I learned a long time ago never to take advice from someone who wasn't humble enough to use that same advice in their life.

OK, so you think you know more than the average "tard" as you put it, on the board; great. I'm glad you are a legend in your own mind. Good luck with that.

RE: Tennis: I'd kick your smart A $ $ from one side of the court to the other. Just the same way I kicked my former virgo friend's A $ $ .