Virgo and YOUR Jealousy

I haven't been on here for a while, so I got some bitchin' to do...

Ladies, if a Virgo Man declares his love for you, and he trusts you, then please extend the same courtesy to him...

One of the few things that irritates me about Debra is her weird jealousy - yeah, she's a Scorpio!

For example: Her Sag Son recently got engaged to a Taurus Gal. We took the happy couple couple out to dinner, and during our farewells, she hugged me - tight. On the drive home, Debra makes a remark about how I sure had a good time. Typical Virgo, I don't catch her meaning, and I start going on & on about what a great time I had - agreeing with her (I thought!). She gets pissed, and sullen, and I'm sitting there thinking, What The Fuck?? Then, she lets me know that she saw my face, and knows how much I enjoyed rubbing up against a young girl (who happens to be about the same age as my first Daughter). Needless to say, we had words, and a lot of unnecessary unpleasantness...

For the Record:

1. Virgo doesn't find your jealousy "cute" or attractive - he finds it annoying and offensive.

2. If he loves & trusts you, then he expects to be loved & trusted in equal measure.

Word.

It is said that one of the things that Virgo enjoys the most of her scorpio is her posesiveness..well I really could do without this annoying product of it...

It is annoying - but I guess you have to take the bad with the good.

While I'm thinking about it: Why would a grown, self-sufficient Virgo Man like myself want to be possessed by a woman? I have to admit, I do find her ownership of me to be comforting, and I've let her way in deeper into myself than any other woman - though I still don't quite understand why...

theskys: Cause you love her Dyar :-)

Okay. She still bugs the crap outta me.

TYPICAL Scorpio.

I recall myself stating to my ol' Scorp, that yeah this girl was really checking me out, and she remarks " Well I have to pluck out her eyes then! "

Some girl hugs my Virgo buddy and his Scorpio remarks " I will take a bottle and smash it over her head "

You can't win with them, they ALWAYS have to win and ALWAYS have to be right.

I got so tired of that crap.

Dyarstra,

This thread you created has echoed my thoughts. I was wondering if the virguyi'm very into will start to become a little annoyed at my jealousy when he's around other girls. If we were 'offical'....then i wouldn't have this problem. He is VERY friendly...infact he just wants everyone to be "be friends" and get along...so in saying that he is going to talk to these girls. I just have to remind myself of this when i see him with them. He always hugs people, is very helpful, has manners and doesn't like conflict in any way.

To make my point...we were at a party one night and a girl who he slept with a couple of times was there. He hadn't seen her since they were sleeping together (he ended whatever it was they had). He even told the story to me about how she wanted to be "friends with benefits" but he didn't like her "personality"...anyway that night at the party, he didn't ignore her, he was polite and spoke to her but made it clear to a friend of ours and ME that he wasn't going to hook up with her. I went up to him at one point during the night when it was just the two of us and said "i just spoke to kelly....you know, YOUR kelly" and he said quite seriously to me "that was a mistake" or accident (i can't remember his exact words..we were a little drunk lol)....but i realised that he was just being nice to her and didn't want to have any bitterness between her or that night.

vgm: DID YOU HAVE A WOODY AFTER THE HUG?

No way! Yuck! She's a child, and she's gonna be my daughter-in-law. I know this is The South, but I draw the line at cousins...

Is she pregnant again?

No, and she wasn't PMS'ing, either. She'll do this at the weirdest times, and catch me totally off guard. Hell, I can be talking to a woman AND her husband, and she'll get miffed about it.

Debra deals with guys differently than I deal with gals. She gives guys this attitude that they're getting nowhere, so don't even try flirting. But she does it subtly, and still comes off looking like a sweet petite. I guess she expects the same from me, but Virgos are much more open, and helpful, and sometimes a bit naive in social situations. I can't count the number of times she's told me afterwords some factoid that I missed. Scorpios are great observers - like Virgos - but they focus on different things (and, they're suspicious of other people in ways Virgos are not).

Cajun: You can't win with them, they ALWAYS have to win and ALWAYS have to be right.

I've found that if they trust and respect you, they'll listen to your arguments. Doesn't mean they'll admit a mistake openly, but they won't repeat their error (that you pointed out), so us Virgs know who's right and who's wrong...

Scorpchick: i realised that he was just being nice to her and didn't want to have any bitterness between her or that night.

Yeah, I don't like confrontation - especially in the setting y'all were in. Know in your heart: If he's like me, when he ends a relationship, it's OVER. No need for jealousy on your part. But if the ex-gal starts making moves, and he doesn't stop her, kick both their butts!

HAHAHA....Dyartsra, this girl KNOWS about my feelings for him and they didn't go near eachother all night because she was with me and a group of friends. I did find it weird though how he actually told me about her and him....i mean WHY— lolol

We Scorps are very vulnerable when we're truly in love and committed.

Very. Very. Very. Vulnerable. As. In. You. Could. Truly. Fuck. Me. Up.

So just try and concentrate on your wife's good points.

Scorpchick: I did find it weird though how he actually told me about her and him....i mean WHY—

Why? Because he's a Virgo - we're gonna tell you EVERYTHING. No secrets. We're not Scorpios. We find that things go smoother when we're up front - even if you get tired of all the tedious details...

Eaglegirl: So just try and concentrate on your wife's good points.

I do. There are only a handful of things Debra does that bother me - this one is at the top of the list. I trust her 100% , and I expect the same in return. Where's the problem with that equation? Hell, guys approach her much more frequently than gals approach me. If anyone has cause to be jealous, it's Dy. I don't flirt, and I would NEVER betray her, and she knows this intellectually. But, let her feelings get involved, and all that rational knowledge becomes meaningless...

Dy said, "But, let her feelings get involved, and all that rational knowledge becomes meaningless..."

Truer words were never spoken!

Although being a scorp, I usually do not get jealous so easily, must be a pride thing. However, there were a couple of times when I got jealous with my ex Virgo man.

1) Once when we were sitting in a restaurant. Him uninterruptedly starring at this child-aged young woman, who was in a group setting, was the loudest in that group AND was very attractive.

2) Second time was when he had caught attention of two gals in our neighbouring car, who looked like making out in the middle of the night. He stopped with us and started paying full attention to them.


Both incidences annoyed me, as he had made it TOO OBVIOUS when starring at them. His stare wouldn't end. It would go on and on and on. In my mind I know that he did not care for them sexually; it was just an interesting observation to him. However, TO ME his over-done attention makes him look like to the other person/s that he has interest in them (The V-stare you may not be aware of its impact at times!). Of course looking, hugging is a natural behaviour when kept in moderation. Virgo Guys seem to show too much pleasure/this flirty look (cutsie expression) on their faces sometimes, potentially open to misinterpretation by others. I think that is what Debra caught on your face, DY.


I like to underline this sentence: It is important for us scorps that we keep up appearances in a public setting. Don't make us look less. We will not make YOU look less either. We may have had an argument (let's say) a few minutes ago when in private, but publicly, we will make sure that you look like million bucks to us. And everyone will get that message: There is only YOU and no other!

f_s: It is important for us scorps that we keep up appearances in a public setting.

Virgos are the same way. Really want to piss us off? Cause a Scene in a public place! You'll see Mr. Spock become a Klingon!