Virgo girl falling for cancer man...

I just found this board in my desperate search during sleepless nights...
how can i tell if this cancer man i'm seeing is REALLY into me? i recently told him i loved him, he seemed happy about it but did not reciprocate. about a week later (new years eve!!) i saw him again socially but there were a lot of people and i talked to other guys and gals (i am very social, which he has said is one of the things which he was attracted to)... and the next time i saw him he was friendly but distant. after reading the cancer board, i'm afraid i've offended him mortally and that he won't ever feel about me now how i feel about him. i don't think i'm a typical virgo cuz my house is a mess plus i'm totally crazy about this guy! my first cancer!!!
i'm sorry to blab on but i'm at my wits end with him, why won't he tell me how he feels—— what should i do now—?? we are getting together tomorrow (a weekly occurance) during the day. i asked if he wanted to go out tonight (we do sometimes go see a movie) and he said he was too tired. first time he's turned me down. should i just play it cool and act like i don't care? should i apologize for being too friendly with others? should i ask him what's wrong? should i tell him to get stuffed? : ) thanks everyone
by the way, sorry for all you cancers out there screwed up by a virgo : (.

Hi & thanks for the post...I will try my luck at the cancer board! i will say though, I was getting ready to push like hell! so i am glad you said not to. what do i do instead? play it cool...like him...i hate that! anyway i AM a total slob much like my pisces ex! : )

i hope this one is worth the angst...thanks!

Hi Hopelesslyindecisive.

Another Virgo. I'm so excited lol 🙂 It's nice to meet you.

Let me try an impart a little something here. You told him that you loved him and he didn't reciprocate. This is an astrology board, but turn your back on it for the moment. Don't worry, it'll understand. To hear someone tell me "I love you" . . . all that exist, screeches to a grinding halt and turns in dramatic fashion with, "What did she say!?"

See, it's the word. Actually, it's not the word. Words are our representatives. Words polish and shine themselves to step out parading themselves in front another to convey what's going on inside us. They're imperfect in that regard, because words, regardless of how eloquently expressed can't fully express the force of a feeling. "Love" is a little different. That is a mighty representative, bold and brash in it's loud clothes. It speaks of what you're feeling, but sometimes, what's not said wears clothes just as brash and bold.

You told him you loved him and he didn't reciprocate. You see him as distant now. He may not be mad, just weirded out. If he doesn't feel the same way, after hearing something like that, awkwardness screams and dances around the room. It's a lot that could be going on here. If he thinks you're feeling more than he is, he maybe pulling away as to not hurt you. He could literally just be feeling awkward around you now. Or, he could feel slighted about something. The catch is, there's no way to know without asking.

If you two are really close, which I'm hoping you are if you could tell him you love him. Try to talk to him. The issue of dominance isn't a factor anymore, your Ace of Hearts is on the table. Essentially, you've shown your hand. You need to see his. Back to astrology, don't analyze my fellow Virgo 😉 Talk to him. Get to the heart of what's going on. Simply put, just ask.

Hope it helps.

VirgoSquared

Hi virgosquared...
I said I'm not a typical virgo but you're right...the analyzation of EVERY look he gives me, word he says, gesture he makes...becomes fodder for my active nighttime brain.
For the record, in the ongoing saga, i did see him today but he CANCELLED the original program. so by that point i was all freaked out - meaning i had already written his lines as well as mine before we even had a conversation. and of course, i expected it all to be bad.
sigh. : )
i was, to say the least, rather tense and nervous and i just couldn't shake it...why was i so serious— but in the end i did get him to talk and...he admitted that he did have some emotional feelings for me (a little, he put it) but that he was nervous about becoming too involved...he doesn't want to mess up the friendship, etc etc, is it possible for me to find a middle ground? i told him the middle ground had long since receded. then he told me sexually he was really into me. (we have a sexual relationship). so does this in fact just mean that he likes to have sex with me but isn't going to get emotionally involved, just dangle the possibility out to me to keep me from walking away? that's the conclusion i come to. but, i've known him for almost 2 years as a friend and he's not a jerk - ever. so what gives———? : )
i've read that it's a virgo trait to need to know where you stand in a relationship and where it's going...early on.
the thing is, i'm not clingy and i have a lot of friends and i've had successful relationships etc. i'm just totally head over heels for this guy! really, i'm not a loser! lol: )
thanks everyone. siiiiigghhhh....heartache...... : )

virgosquared...
excuse my manners! it's nice to meet you too! since i don't know how to post smiley faces, i just do these kind...: )
there isn't a lot of representation for us kind here it seems! us virgos aren't TOTALLY a bad lot. : )
hopelessly indecisive

Hi Hopelesslyindecisive.

Oh, the friends with benefits relationship. Sweetness, it's all fun and games until somebody loses an eye lol. That's they way I look these type of relationships. It's like, feelings don't necessarily know that you want keep things "just physical" so eventually, love approaches you one day and taps your shoulder and regards you with a weird look on it's face.

To note, "loser" never entered my mind. You're digging him. It's human nature. It makes me think you maybe feeling that way or afraid that's the image you're presenting, but it's not. You're just in love. A lovely woman in love is endearing.

Now, if I'm understanding this correctly, you two were friends, it turned sexual. "Friends plus" as a "friends plus" of mine used call it 😉 lol Don't take this the wrong way, but if you started this way, you can't fault him for not wanting to change the status quo. I don't think he's a jerk, because he is handling your feelings with silk mittens, but understand he has to be feeling a little weird here. The subtle pulling away, him asking if there is a middle ground just screams. Does this means he just likes to have sex with you? LOL!!! Omm, yeah! Dangling the possibility of a relationship though? Again, if the way this started wasn't relationship based, I don't think you can fault him with that. You two just have different expectations, neither of you are wrong.

Yeah, I always need to know where I stand, whether it's a Virgo thing or not. Who knows? Let me tell it; it should be an everyone thing. I'm curious though, how are you going to handle this? It's putting me in the mind of Seinfeld and Elaine where she says, "I want this, that, and the other" Referring to friendship, sex, and relationship. Hinting that she was breaking all ties if she couldn't get it. If there really is no middle ground, do you take your coat and scarf and nod good day? I mean, if he's really freaked out, and he genuinely cares about you as a friend, he may back off himself to mitigate your hurt. I would say try not to lose a friend over this though. If that means ending the "plus" to curb some of the feelings . . .I don't know. If it was me and it was a choice between middle ground and a close friend. I think I'd choose the middle ground. Just my take on it.

If you're willing, keep us posted on this. I'm curious to see how it turns out.

Good luck fellow Virgo,

VirgoSquared

One more thing Hopelessindecisive.

Of course we're not totally bad. They just misunderstand our depth.

My dear, just forgive them. For they know not what the do.

LOL!!!

Virgosquared...sigh!
Your post was so to the point, too bad I read it today! I saw him yesterday and I told him I wanted to go back to just being friends, as it seemed that it was probably going to be hard for me and also I didn't like the idea of putting pressure on him. It really didn't seem fair. (now, as you say, the middle ground seems MUCH more attractive!!!!)
Did I have an ulterior motive? Yes, I suppose I did wonder what he would do. of course, I'm not a very good chess player so why I try to control all the moves when in fact I just mess it all up. ..there you go.
What did he say—? Well, he said that he was on the verge of falling for me. What this means exactly...well, maybe YOU can tell me— I hope.

So now I am kicking myself, thinking I should have just waited and let him work it out. On the other hand, it reminds me of when I was a kid and my older brother would say..."i was just about to give you a candy when you asked me for one" (he would torture me with these sorts of mind games). but this gentle-man has never played these sorts of games with me, and in fact agreed that he would like to stay friends (and he has always said he didn't want our friendship to end).

So can I run back and say...wait...hold on, i changed my mind? or should i just let it go and chalk it up to a serious learning experience.
incidentally i'm going to see him in two days at a barbq on the beach and i've been thinking about offering a 'goodbye' physical session, as it were. (this aspect of the relationship is truly phenomenal). he asked for one, and i didn't entirely rule it out. would i just be stupid to do this? or maybe just fair to say goodbye properly (or just an excuse to see him again!)
can you tell i'm totally off my rocker— LOL
well, thanks for your thoughtful words. maybe you have some more— : )
.....
by the way, i've read some of your other posts mentioning the tug of war between heart and head...i wish i could shut off the head! we are definitely not a cold and unfeeling lot - the head just gets in the way!
HI (hopelesslyindecisive)

Hi HopelesslyIndecisive.

Well, Sweetness, I personally am a damn good chessplayer, and I still play it by ear sometimes lol. Some positions are unclear. Especially after the mixed signal, "Is there middle ground" and "I'm on the verge of falling for you." What the hell does that even mean? LOL! I'm on the verge? Dude, you're pregnant or you not, pick one lol. Superposition of states is for Quantum mechanics, not relationships.

Anyway, if I was in this situation with a stunning female. I couldn't run back to her and say I've changed my mind. In my mind, it would reek of desperation. But, if I did change my mind, as a subtle retraction, I may create a situation where she could seduce me; and of course I would bitterly fight 😉 ,but couldn't resist her feminine charms lol. Overtly retracting though, no. Waking up the next morning, "Damn it, I can't believe I let you seduce me!" Turning my head with a cough to hide the laughter. Yes, I am a Virgo LOL!!! That is calculating as hell, but, no apologies.

Joking aside, it's all up to you on this. What do you want? From a completely detached perspective, that "on the verge thing" sounds like one of two things. Either he's a friend protecting his "with benefits" with the dangling carrot of "Hey baby, keep sleeping with me. Maybe we could be more." Or, he doesn't want to hurt your feelings, or some combination of both. Even taken at face value, say he's really on the verge of falling for you (I still don't know what that means lol), you're in a box. I mean, do you really want your life to be chained and shackled by his ambiguity? Come on Sweetness, you're a Virgo. This is our domain 😉 LOL!!!

Out of what's possible determine what you want. You can have the physical relationship, you can have the friendship. If I'm understanding right, both are ensured for the time being. The want for more is the corner you can't see around. That's his domain, because you can't have "more" without him. I don't know, it's the contradiction; the mixed signal that speaks loudest to me. It makes that last option sound like a stretch, but I could be wrong. I'm not there, you are.

And you're definitely not unfeeling, you're obviously head over heels for this guy. Keep in mind, nothing you're doing here is right or wrong. It's just consequence and action. If you want to sleep with him, sleep with him. If you want to fade away with a good-bye, do it. It's all you. What you want out of it. But be sure to look out for your best interest here, be it physical or emotional. It sounds like he's doing the same.

Take care HI, hope something said helps.

VirgoSquared

Wow virgosquared,
thanks for listening! if only you could be sitting on my shoulder for the play by play... : )
everything you say is right and logical. the problem is, as you say, that he won't come out and commit. and maybe now he won't ever. i'm not sure how to get him into that position of having him seduce me! i think now he won't contact me at all, (as he hasn't) so i suppose i have to contact him...how does that get him to seduce me— how devious can i be— : )

well, i did see him on sunday (two days ago) and it was pretty relaxed, there were a lot of people and i chatted openly with everyone, male and female, but no flirting. i tried to talk to him too at one or two junctures but he was not really responsive. however he did come over and stand next to me on two or three occasions when i was talking to SOMEONE ELSE (boy or girl), although one time when it was a man he came and stood right next to me as if to say...she's mine. it was bizarre. of course i included him in these conversations. i'm not sure what it means? on one occasion i had a clear shot of him and when he looked over at me i swallowed my fear and just gave hiim a big smile, and he gave me one back. could he just be a bit insecure?? argh....

i'm not sure what the verge thing is either, here's one (fantasy) possibility, i'd like to run it by you? that he's already felt these feelings for me but hasn't told me, but was on the VERGE of TELLING me about them? in which case, what do i do? ok, nuff said. feel like i'm just spilling my guts for you to analyze, but what about YOU virgo squared? don't you have anything you need to get off YOUR chest? my guilt level is rising... : ) must be a virgo thang...

what else can i say, except thanks again. Oh, and i'll see him on friday evening with a few other people, general dinner party thing...we have a lot of the same friends, you see. but we haven't told anyone about us, that's why i'm bursting at the seams! LOL

eternally grateful...
HI

Hi HopelesslyIndecisive,

So, the old "get the other person to seduce you trick?" LOL. I just said it's something I would probably consider, that part my dear wasn't really advice 😉

The unresponsiveness, but standing by your side thing. Well, it could mean a few things. He could've had something to say, but didn't know how to say it. He could've felt awkward, but wanted to let you know things were okay through his proximity. Like his closeness being a reassurance. Being beside you. He could've just wanted to be near you. That's the trouble with analysis, sometimes it just yields possibilities, which leaves you neither here nor there.

The unresponsiveness though. You have to entertain the possibility he's pulling back just to protect your feelings. Again, it's a mixed signal. "I'll be somewhat distant in essence, but physically close to show her we're okay." I don't know. I still think that "on the verge of falling for you" was his way of keeping you there. Keeping his "with benefits" in tact. Hot stuff, you can't blame him for that can you? 😉

Any way, don't feel guilty about spilling. This is normal for me. Nothing to reveal here. You'll find that most communication with me is one way. It has always been that way. So, it's okay, I like hearing about it.

By the way. The hiding it, the secretiveness, it adds to it. It makes it that much more intense. Like fooling around under the table in a full restaurant. It's exciting, I so dig you on that.

A woman in love is definitely endearing.

Enjoy,

VirgoSquared

suck up

OJ - I like the ambiguity. i never know who you're referring to so I can always pretend it's someone else!

VirgoSquared...
well the hiding it part IS exciting, but i feel like it causes sooo much confusion and misunderstandings...and i always want to talk about that and we don't get the chance always. that's why there's so much going on in my head!
I did see him this week and he sort of opened up to me, and said nice things...without committing himself completely. so we're going to have one more 'physical' time and then see where we go from there. i'm beginning to hope for the best, but of course, as you say, it could just be a protection of his friends plus status. we'll see...i see him in a few hours and maybe i'll get some readings there.
is it just that your life is going well that you don't have any problems to share?? that would be cool, i hope so. when you get bored hearing about my endless problems with this STOOPID GUY!!! just let me know...endearing can turn to annoying...at least that's what i imagine. so take care, have a great friday...and thanks again for being there.
HI

Hi Hopelesslyindecisive.

Sweetness, you are such a Virgo. Look, don't feel bad about spilling. Quiet that incessant voice in your head that's telling you you're being a nuisance. It's lying to you. You're not being overbearing in anyway. You're fine. In fact, I'll make a deal with you. If ever 'endearing' becomes 'annoying' I'll abruptly change the subject. Fair enough? Now, put that voice to bed 🙂 lol.

As for me. No, my life isn't perfect. No one's life is, Nature made sure of that when she played ass hole and signed the "The grass is greener on the otherside" bill into law lol.

My life has given me a particular way of trying, emphasis on trying lol, to look at problems. I can't complain about things I can change, because, I can change them.

Things I can't change, I don't see the use in complaining, because, well; I can't change them.

Everything in between is figuring out of what's possible, what I want, and working like a bat out of hell to manifest it.

Now, in saying that, I do b*tch about things and fall into thickets of thorns and skin my knee. . .it's all life. I don't know, me giving my Worries and Complications their lunch box and putting them on a bus to the world implies I need help with something. Though it maybe true at times, revealing that sullies the "S" on my chest. That's like Superman getting beat up in a bar fight. Well, in the sense he's not Superman anymore. Okay, bad analogy LOL!!!, but, I feel more comfortable playing rock; is what's expected of me and I comply.

Anyway, let me know how your time with Mr. Cancer turned out. I'm curious to know how things went.

Take care HI,

VirgoSquared

Hi Virgosquared...
of COURSE you are superman!! and superman wouldn't get knocked out in a bar fight...he might get his shirt stuck in his zipper, though, ya know?? LOL ...some problems, even just the little ones, just require the presence of another person.

it's a great ability to change what you can and deal with what you can't...BUT what about when you are hopelessly indecisive and don't know if you SHOULD change what you can, if the grass maybe isn't greener, but you think it MIGHT be, do you take that chance or spend the rest of your life wondering??
would you give up everything just for a dream, knowing full well that the dream could turn to butter, and you could end up regretting your actions? ? ?
do you trade ... ok and good enough....for ...could be mindblowing and fabulous...hmmmmmmmm

ANYWAY regarding that cancer man, at the party he was definitely giving me all the go signs and we made a date to see the motorcycle diaries so i'm feeling good about that. i think it's all steam ahead, or maybe half speed but still forward. i do feel like i'm leading things a bit, but maybe that's normal with a somewhat shy guy? i DO like to be in control! LOL

let me know if your zipper ever gets stuck Superman! i'll be there!!

big hug...
HI

LOL!!!

HopelesslyIndecisive, my dear you are so Virgoing out on me. I guess we both are. Me trying to offer help but feeling odd about accepting it. I've always been that way. Even to my own detriment at times.

You're so right though. When you're hopelesslyindecisive, where does a human go? There's this song by Thursday, rock band, let me tell it, they walk on water lol, just this deeply pained and angst voice that . . . all right, diverging LOL. Back to my point. On their second album, "Understanding in a Car Crash," the name of the song hides in some crevice of my mind, but, the chorus, is "Betting on our own lives, making up for all the time, we lost."

Essentially, when something stirs in you, when it rattles at your core begging for expression; it means being confident enough to risk what you have, to get what you want. To bet on your own life. To make up for all the time given away to persisting in a particular unsatisfying condition. To know that what you are, is sufficient to get your happiness, and then to risk the stability of a modest present circumstance to claim that happiness. I know, idealistic as hell. But, I guess I'm not old enough to know any better.

I'm a Virgo, I'm hell bent on analyzing everything lol, but life is complex, and analysis quite often only yields potentials. Which brings you back to where you originally where. While on one path, clear, but meager in satisfaction, you see another path knowing that it's possible happiness waits at the end. The catch is there are corners you can't see around, and fog, and mist, and rain, and everything else that clouds it. That clouds clarity of decision to switch horses; that breeds the choice in the first place. I guess the test, when Choice stalks two paces behind you incessantly poking you, as annoying as the children in the back seat of the car heading to Disney World screaming, "Are we there yet, are we there yet, are we there yet," is what do you genuinely feel. How deep does that feeling go that one path is right over another. Does one choice over another shake and crash inside you pleading for acknowledgment? With me, it's trying to listen to that and going with it. Hell or high water, to trust it, and go balls to the wall to give that choice for happiness breath.

Damn it, I got to get pass this long windiness. LOL!!!

HI, if my shirt ever get stuck in my zipper, I'll look you up 😉

VirgoSquared

I wrote this in one shot so if anything is off or unclear forgive me. It's 4 AM and I got to be up by 6:30. Hope everything is all right though. Keep me up to date.

Hello HI.

Hope everything is going okay with your Cancer guy. Going away for awhile on a small vacation, but, keep things up to date for me. Let the drama unfold LOL!!!

It'll give me something to read when I get back.

Stay endearing.

Talk to you later,

VirgoSquared

Hi virgosquared,

hope you have a great time away...or had one, if you're back already. I trust it was refreshing, whatever and wherever it was...and that your shirt didn't get stuck in your zipper!! LOL

I really loved reading your last post. it wasn't longwinded at all, and it was totally clear. it's good to see my confusion all clarified in black and white! I had to go away and think about it a bit.
I think you're absolutely right, about needing to know what you REALLY feel in order to make the right decision. maybe that's my problem, i can't figure out what i really feel, i think too much! part of me wants to begin a new adventure, part of me thinks it's too risky and selfish...because to be honest, the decision to do that involves the suffering of others (and perhaps myself). in the past, i believe i would just do what i thought i wanted. but maybe that's not the best thing? but who am i to judge what might be better for others?
imagine this scenario...you have a chance at a position at your company, the vice presidency let's say. but in order to go for it, the current vice president would have to be let go. you know that perhaps, you would be better for the job. but what about the family that the current vp supports? what about his or her anguish or suffering? is it worth it just for some personal gain?

on the other hand, maybe that person can find another job that makes him or her far happier?

and then, what if the vp job turns out to be something different from what you thought... and you're not as well suited for it as it seemed, or once you have it, you don't want it, but you can't have your old job back...

with all these OTHER issues, how do you make the best decision then? and what if you don't know how to cut through all the crap and figure out...what do i really want?

and so, maybe it's best not to make any decision at this time, if it's such a mess. as the eightball would say, answer not clear. sighhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.

in the on-going saga with cancerboy (sounds like a negative version of wonderboy, going around and giving everyone tumors)...he said some things to me recently which confuse me. (what else is new??!!) maybe some virgo analyzation could help——?:

1. speaking of songs, (i don't know the band you mention, but i'll check them out - the name of the album itself is hilarious) - he said i remind him of a beatles song called something in the way you move...i can't recall the music so i looked up the lyrics online, they aren't EXACTLY flattering. not sure what he means.

2. we are supposed to be seeing a movie next week and he asked if he could invite someone else (girl, mutual friend) too...i was like, no, but you can go with her (but i said it nicely). it's a movie he invited me to go see originally...and when i said no and all that, then he said...
3. "i think of you more and more. i like the whole package. you're really lovely. you're hot." not necessarily in that order and a few things i forget interspersed but anyway...with no further committment or explanation.
i can't decide if he's being emotionally controlling, or just can't tell me how he feels, or is just nervous. or WHAT.
my past boyfriend was not exactly emotionally interactive at ALL although he loved me and was supportive, but none of this weird stuff. i like the tenderness and caring cancerboy expresses when we're together, but...is it worth it?

anyway, i would imagine this would be a mini-book for you to read upon your return. men----aaargh... present company excluded! LOL
thanks for listening................
HI

ps - virgo squared...just reread post...
didn't mean to be such a downer. it just gets frustrating when i can't get the neat and tidy answers i want!
maybe it's a learning thing - be less of a virgo??!!
as if THAT were possible. : )
HI

Hi HopelesslyIndecisive.

That's the rub. The risk in betting on your own life. Giving up what you have to take the chance at the happiness you want. It is a risk.

The thing with the Vice President. I love subjective puzzles, or maybe I just love to give my perspective, either way, I'm delving into this lol.

From a purely human perspective; whether he keeps his job or not isn't up to you. In this very specific situation, it's a business. Feelings in this sense don't come into it. You do what you feel is right for your advancement. Providing everyone else is doing the same, the playing field is even. If you don't, someone else will probably get the job provided the VP isn't qualified.

As cold as this is going to sound, from a purely business perspective, his family is moot. It's not your responsibility. It shouldn't even factor in your decision as to whether go balls to the wall to acquire that position.

From a purely spiritual perspective, it's still not your responsibility. Most things aren't right or wrong, they're just action and consequence. If the job is meant for you, you'll get it. Conversely, if it's not. You won't. There's no way to know the purpose behind you getting the job, or not getting the job, or the VP losing the job, or the VP keeping his job. There so many things to consider, analysis becomes moot. So, either way, in that situation I think you reach for what you want and "come what may." But of course, business is black and white. Business and relationships are two entirely different animals. It's like a bull and a platypus.

LOL!!! You said the lyrics aren't exactly flattering. That reminds me of a joke this comedian, Margaret Cho said. Something about a guy in the airport bumped into her and said, "You look just like my sister," and he showed her a picture of his sister, and the comedian said she looked at him and said," What treetr*nk is this!? Are you b*ttering me!?" She said the guys sister was butt ugly. LOL!!! It just made me think of that.

Dearest, it boils down to what you want. Are you satisfied with just the sexual relationship? I think the answer to this is no 😉 I'm pretty sure it stirs feelings in you that are a b*tch to deal with sense they go unexplored. So, a better question. Can you settle for just the sexual relationship?

I'm getting a thought here. Forgive my curiosity, but is there anything in particular barring a relationship? I mean, not to pry . . . well, I guess it is to pry. Tell me I'm way off here if it's none of my business. The VP example could somewhat apply to a similar situation. The difference being that's business, the situation I'm thinking about isn't. They contrast drastically. I mean the analogy could repres . . . okay. That's none of my business.

With the information given. Do you feel he's being emotionally controlling? I mean, to ask if there's middle ground, implies one thing. Asking to invite a friend on a date as a chaperone implies the same thing. Then to shower you with linguistic roses after you take issue with it . . . that's like, he's thinking to himself. "Oops. I'm loosing her. Better reel her in. Think fast, tell her something nice. 'I think about you more and more.' Yeah, that's it." 🙂

HI, don't know all the facts, so, I go with my old standby. Of all that's realistically available to you, figure out what you want; and if action and consequence finds you worthy, go get it. The catch is I don't know how available this Cat is to you. This is presumptive as hell, but, from here it seems like he's got his cake and is doing what he has to, to ensure he can eat a slice of it every now and then.

And, trust me. This isn't a downer. When more than one personality is at work, things get complicated. Sometimes a sounding board helps.

You say it's gets frustrating when you can't get neat and tidy answer

Hi Hopelesslyindecisive!

I'm having the same problem, with slight alterations. Ive got these two cancer male friends. They are both smashing people, love them to bits. Ive kind of fallen for one of them, and we are currently taking things slowly towards further, which is great because I think people tend to rush into everything and it's nice to be able to watch emotions grow, and everything to develop slowly, because you can therefor enjoy it more.

Although I'm not saying worldwind romances arn't any fun!

But the one I just see as a friend has fallen for me! It's such a horrid situation. He gets so jelous and possessive of me. He hates any of my other friends coming to see me. Constantly warning people off me.

Anyway, I hope it works out for you. I think Caner males are wonderful. Just chill out and see what happens. In my experience building a friendship was the best starting point.

I personally being quite subborn would have waited until he loves or told me he loves me. But thats just the way I am. Don't work your self up so much, your only setting yourself up for a fall.

Good luck and best wishes

Virgo Girl xx

It looks like hopelesslyindecisive will kick that cancer dude and take virgosquared as replace..LOL

Hey Hopelesslyundecisive. Not heard form you since long time! Whats up? I shte cancer still around?

🙂