Virgo guys - help!

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Foreign_flower
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Hey, all! This Virgo man caught my interest long time ago. He is like no one I met before. I am a Scorpio woman. I have posted about him in the past. Long story-short he doesn’t want to commit over all ( he was hurt in the past) and I do so we get drunk with friends and hangout alone after. No sex tho... we cuddle haha... and fight.. and many times that resolves in me storming out and not talking to him for months. This was happening for about one year- talking, ignoring, rejecting, pushing and pulling. I am not chasing him. I like him he knows that but I let him come to me by himself most of the times.

We didn’t talk for 2 months after the last time I stayed over. We got more action under the sheets than usual. We started having sex and 2 minutes after I stopped and said that I don’t want to feel used. I left his place, texted him twice after and he gave me the ignore. I got pissed and I avoided him for 2 months because I thought he finally got what he wanted and he vanished. I saw him few days ago tho... he came to talk to me after and was friendly, “ said I shouldn’t feel awkward”. Then saw him again the evening after... he was drunk, staring at me and getting jealous over I was talking with a guy friend at the bar. After my friend left he came to talk to me , trying to kiss me, telling me he likes me and it’s ok to be together but the problem is that I don’t like him.. he said he was never using me, he thinks I am awesome and he likes hanging with me. He wanted me to come over but I didn’t buy his bs and left for home. He kept texting and saying that the problem is that I don’t like him but I like the idea of him. What does that suppose to mean? The idea of him? Will he ever make the move? What I am doing wrong? He spends his time getting drunk and going out... he doesn’t talk to girls!! No one!! He is the weirdest motherf***er in the world and I am so hooked
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Foreign_flower
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Posted by Sunsetvirgo
Will he ever make the move ?

Sis, he’s made all the moves in the book.

No wonder he believes you don’t like him. You keep on leaving him all the time. Reread out loud what you just typed. You said you aren’t chasing him, so obviously he’s chasing you
Did he make all the moves in the book? He chases me only when he is drunk which I get as a booty call since he said he doesn’t want relationships. This guy is very shy
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Posted by Sunsetvirgo
Will he ever make the move ?

Sis, he’s made all the moves in the book.

No wonder he believes you don’t like him. You keep on leaving him all the time. Reread out loud what you just typed. You said you aren’t chasing him, so obviously he’s chasing you
Did he make all the moves in the book? He chases me only when he is drunk which I get as a booty call since he said he doesn’t want relationships. This guy is very shy
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You know this guy better than anyone on dxp. So if he only chases you when he’s drunk, have y’all even talked enough for you to like him? Why DO you even like him then
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Foreign_flower
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Posted by Sunsetvirgo
Will he ever make the move ?

Sis, he’s made all the moves in the book.

No wonder he believes you don’t like him. You keep on leaving him all the time. Reread out loud what you just typed. You said you aren’t chasing him, so obviously he’s chasing you
Did he make all the moves in the book? He chases me only when he is drunk which I get as a booty call since he said he doesn’t want relationships. This guy is very shy
You know this guy better than anyone on dxp. So if he only chases you when he’s drunk, have y’all even talked enough for you to like him? Why DO you even like him then
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well that’s easy.. first he is incredibly smart. He knows it all— especially the details haha he is humble and generous. He is a laidback, not the pushover macho man. He is honest and real, he will always tell me the truth no matter my reaction. He pays attention to my likes and dislikes. He is carrying, most affectionate man I have ever met. I am not in love with him but I like him a lot
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Sunsetvirgo
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Scorpio and Virgo of any gender is quite toxic and HEADASS unfortunately.

(With exception to @deleternerd and her mans)

There’s too much of an attraction between the two signs but unfortunately bc both of us are so suspicious of the other there’s no trust so all we do is fawn over the other from behind closed doors. I can’t trust myself around a Scorp mans unfortunately
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Posted by Sunsetvirgo
Scorpio and Virgo of any gender is quite toxic and HEADASS unfortunately.

(With exception to @deleternerd and her mans)

There’s too much of an attraction between the two signs but unfortunately bc both of us are so suspicious of the other there’s no trust so all we do is fawn over the other from behind closed doors. I can’t trust myself around a Scorp mans unfortunately

I gave up that paranoid life. Everybody leaves eventually, right?
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Those are facts
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Foreign_flower
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Hi, when he says that you dont like him, he means youre too pushy when it comes to getting him to express feelings and all of those flowery words you scorps seem to throw out so easily, and its suffocating because that stuff rarely pops into our brains and you make us feel like we're letting you down. If you want poetry, date a taurus. Thanks.
yep they belong together

I really think scorpio-taurus is one of the hottest pairings. I'd be okay with just being a voyeur.
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For some reason I have never been attracted to Taurus. Scorpio and Virgo is my weakness
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Foreign_flower
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Posted by Sunsetvirgo
Scorpio and Virgo of any gender is quite toxic and HEADASS unfortunately.

(With exception to @deleternerd and her mans)

There’s too much of an attraction between the two signs but unfortunately bc both of us are so suspicious of the other there’s no trust so all we do is fawn over the other from behind closed doors. I can’t trust myself around a Scorp mans unfortunately
I think the trust issue can be solved by being open to each other. In my case he doesn’t want to communicate and ignores me when I get upset ( he says after because he thinks I hate him ... )
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Foreign_flower
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Will he ever make the move ?

Sis, he’s made all the moves in the book.

No wonder he believes you don’t like him. You keep on leaving him all the time. Reread out loud what you just typed. You said you aren’t chasing him, so obviously he’s chasing you
i think she just wants to be chased some more

she likes being chased

Scorpios are very expressive. They want us to get on their level because we check all of their other boxes, but we're just like "uhhhhbhhdfkjkksjdkdk" but picture that monotone still lol
i'm not really that into water signs

pisces is the only one i really like

Does he pressure you to be more emotionally expressive?

I like pisces and scorpio. Love mutables in general. Scorpies are cray but theyre still lovely people. I cant get over april taurs being my favorite though 😭 theyre the only people I instantly bond with for no reason.

I want to throw a party and only invite mutables. They can bring a plus one fixed sign if they want, but no cardinals allowed. IDs will be checked at the door xD
i wouldn't say 'pressure' coz it's pretty easy for me to express myself to him when i need to

'coax' would be a better word.. it's just, i find them the most sincere of the water signs tbh
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I guess the question is what should I do now? I got that he gave me his signals, I misread them and pushed him away by leting him feel like he is not perfect for me. He now ignores my texts again because I expressed disappointment again.

From everything that both of you had to say I gather that I shouldn’t push him to communicate with me, I shouldn’t chase him but also I shouldn’t just leave and not talk to him myself for a long period of time which i usually do after he ignores me few times. It’s a rocket science 😭😭😭 he started with I don’t want to be in a relationship to ok I would but you don’t like me
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Posted by DeleterNerd
Posted by Sunsetvirgo
Posted by DeleterNerd
Posted by Sunsetvirgo
Scorpio and Virgo of any gender is quite toxic and HEADASS unfortunately.

(With exception to @deleternerd and her mans)

There’s too much of an attraction between the two signs but unfortunately bc both of us are so suspicious of the other there’s no trust so all we do is fawn over the other from behind closed doors. I can’t trust myself around a Scorp mans unfortunately

I gave up that paranoid life. Everybody leaves eventually, right?
Those are facts

I needed you to tell me there was hope 😭😂
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Well on the bright side you seem quite happy w your Scorpio mans ^-^ that’s all the hope you need