Cajunspirit
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Virgo Male : Why did he quit on me?
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Right, so I'm a 2nd Decan Virgo. The Enigma. Ruled by Capricorn and have a Capricorn ascendent to boot. I'm a tad socially challenged and totally emotionally retarded. But above all, I am a man baby!
As a man, a Virgo and a Capricorn influenced individual, Logic and Practicality are the things I relate to most. I try to make sure my decisions are governed with reason, morals, ethics, logic and practicality.
A practical man knows, you have a better chance of catching a fish, by throwing more nets!
Just because I was talking to one woman, doesn't mean there are not others I am actively interested an pursuing!
But Cajun, you cry... that's wrong!
You should commit to one woman!
Here's the thing, I don't go beyond light flirtation. I don't consciously lead them on. I just discuss the possibilities.
Once I am content and secure with a woman, committing is not an issue.
Hence, we can conclude our little story. A man wants what he wants.
Unfortunately, lots of us are feeble to the power of Desire.
What he desires most, he will make the effort to achieve.
In the event, that a Virgo man was "perceived" as into you but suddenly dropped interest can be summed up in the cliche' line.
"He's just not that into you"
He desires someone else more than you, more likely than not. Or you un-bewittingly messed up your chance, by not reciprocating
Reality is cold and harsh.
As a man, a Virgo and a Capricorn influenced individual, Logic and Practicality are the things I relate to most. I try to make sure my decisions are governed with reason, morals, ethics, logic and practicality.
A practical man knows, you have a better chance of catching a fish, by throwing more nets!
Just because I was talking to one woman, doesn't mean there are not others I am actively interested an pursuing!
But Cajun, you cry... that's wrong!
You should commit to one woman!
Here's the thing, I don't go beyond light flirtation. I don't consciously lead them on. I just discuss the possibilities.
Once I am content and secure with a woman, committing is not an issue.
Hence, we can conclude our little story. A man wants what he wants.
Unfortunately, lots of us are feeble to the power of Desire.
What he desires most, he will make the effort to achieve.
In the event, that a Virgo man was "perceived" as into you but suddenly dropped interest can be summed up in the cliche' line.
"He's just not that into you"
He desires someone else more than you, more likely than not. Or you un-bewittingly messed up your chance, by not reciprocating
Reality is cold and harsh.
To summarize what Cajun said..
U applied to one or more characteristic..
1.U SUCK
2.U ARE UNINTERESTING/BORING
3.U ARE CHILDISH
4.U ARE NOT MY TYPE
5.U ARE INTELLECTUALLY RETARTED
ETC...
😛
U applied to one or more characteristic..
1.U SUCK
2.U ARE UNINTERESTING/BORING
3.U ARE CHILDISH
4.U ARE NOT MY TYPE
5.U ARE INTELLECTUALLY RETARTED
ETC...
😛
I do the same thing. Cast out a lot of nets, flirt with all of them, and then if one matches right I will cut off flirting with the others and become exclusive with the one. Matches are hard to come by tho..
This just gives me another reason to like virgos cus I get them in their style of flirting/seeing people. Good job on describing this 🙂
This just gives me another reason to like virgos cus I get them in their style of flirting/seeing people. Good job on describing this 🙂
I'm a virgo woman and for me if I am getting to know a man then I will not ignore the fact that he might be dating other women. If we are not exclusive, what does it matter? At the same time, I don't like it when a man is so aloof to a fault. That makes a woman wonder if you even care about ANY woman. There is a fine line between giving her too little because you don't want her to think that she has it going on, and being a gentleman by just taking it day by day. The maturity level is probably not where it needs to be. I must say that if I show a man interest and then he behaves as if I am all that there is to do in the world, I get turned off. But if he acts as if he is too fly and that I should be greatful for him to be talking to me, that is a turn off too. Major. Dating different men at the same time is something that I have to get used to. I don't have the energy or the time to juggle different men. I need to connect on a deeper level so if you were to think that I am wasting a lot of time on just one or two then, so be it. Chasing a woman is something you should never do in the first place. That gets tiring. There should be somewhere you can meet in the middle. So, to answer your question, why did this happen? Because you said that the chasing stops. You want to butter her up, beg at her feet and then halt. Seems like you'd prefer "her" to start chasing you at this point. What is her sign? I'm a second decan as yourself. I can't stand dating virgo men, LoL.
Posted by 25thDecan
He's speaking in general because it's the norm to complain about "virgo guy just doesn't get me. He does everything right..I do everything...well I' don't do anything, I eat it up and then flirt elsewhere or tell him about other guys when I really want him and he bounces".....
I'll give the example AGAIN that he gave you(though, to be honest MEN do this....except the players would stick around and wait for the opportunity to f*^k you).
but anyhew....
"If we are not exclusive, what does it matter? At the same time, I don't like it when a man is so aloof to a fault. That makes a woman wonder if you even care about ANY woman. There is a fine line between giving her too little because you don't want her to think that she has it going on, and being a gentleman by just taking it day by day."
This is a HUGELY common way many young women approach men(not just virgo men), get dismissed and get angry and become jaded and...actually...MORE prone to being played by men who can mask NOT being like the man cajun describes. Just saying...how is it efficient for you to want someone who bounces between two extremes of affection/communication with you and then get angered when one extreme(usually the one of "I'm tired, I'm leaving) wins out?
Solution: it would behoove so many young women to look at how the guy pays them attention and then think "am I paying HIM attention? At all? Or am I reveling in what I recieve?" But..unfortunately, you will not. Even further, you will probably argue with me...as you are beginning to argue and question him. No biggie though, and please don't take this bluntness too seriously but this will continue until you've grown out of "thinking" you know and begin- in maturity- to just be.
LoL. I'm glad that you (like Cajun) were speaking "generally". My kindess gets mistaken for weakness. But ummmmm.....you pretty much covered it....ummmm ALL!! Hahahahahahahahaha! 😆 Please don't think that I was serious.
I don't like flirting with men or leading them on I feel like they will rape me.
I only like flirting with people I've already slept with.
I only like flirting with people I've already slept with.
Posted by Sagittarius89
I don't like flirting with men or leading them on I feel like they will rape me.
I only like flirting with people I've already slept with.
So how do you seduce them before you've got them in the sac?
Posted by PlanetMercuryGirlPosted by Sagittarius89
I don't like flirting with men or leading them on I feel like they will rape me.
I only like flirting with people I've already slept with.
So how do you seduce them before you've got them in the sac?click to expand
I'm just physically jump on them
Posted by PlanetMercuryGirl
At the same time, I don't like it when a man is so aloof to a fault. That makes a woman wonder if you even care about ANY woman. There is a fine line between giving her too little because you don't want her to think that she has it going on, and being a gentleman by just taking it day by day.
Agreed
I need to connect on a deeper level so if you were to think that I am wasting a lot of time on just one or two then, so be it.
The funny thing is, I sincerely believe Virgo women get this with Virgo men, however, they still overlook us in favour of the more emotional and expressive signs (Cancer, Sag, Gems). Which sucks, really....
Chasing a woman is something you should never do in the first place. That gets tiring. There should be somewhere you can meet in the middle.
Hallelujah
So, to answer your question, why did this happen? Because you said that the chasing stops. You want to butter her up, beg at her feet and then halt. Seems like you'd prefer "her" to start chasing you at this point.
Exactly
I can't stand dating virgo men, LoL.click to expand
Why?
Well Cajun, you said that you believe that Virgo women get you. They overlook virgo men for the more expressive signs because they do just that: express. Virgo men are just like the women. We are heavily gaurded and we need someone that can bring out what we are really feeling inside. Deep down we want to find that person that we can express with. I personally love to hear about how emotional cancers, pisces and scorpios can be. I totally want to give someone my emotional side but to the one that deserves it. In the process we miss out sometimes because we can be slow to warm. For you to want the girl to chase you, well....that is what is making you miss out. Being a man, there are things that you just have to do. I know that I said that chasing is something that you shouldn't do and that it can get tiring but I didn't mean to forget what being a gentleman is. If you felt the need to halt the attention that you were giving to her then you should expect what the consequences have become. If you didn't want it to come to this then maybe you should have thought more about how you approached her in the beginning. Even out your flow of things from the start. If you want to talk to the girl, then talk to her. But don't try and test her by changing your flow. No woman wants a man that plays games
Why can't I stand dating virgo men? Because they don't express themselves, LoL. I just don't like games, to tell you the truth. Sometimes they can act like they like a woman and then they get to this point (like yourself) where they feel the need to back off a little. I know that it doesn't mean that they are not interested. It's just an indicator that they are not sure if the feeling is being reciprocated in the same volume as his own. He kind of starts to act like he doesn't care but it's not hard to see right through all of that (well with me at least). And also (LoL) I heard that they are not freaky enough. I can't have that, LoL.
Why can't I stand dating virgo men? Because they don't express themselves, LoL. I just don't like games, to tell you the truth. Sometimes they can act like they like a woman and then they get to this point (like yourself) where they feel the need to back off a little. I know that it doesn't mean that they are not interested. It's just an indicator that they are not sure if the feeling is being reciprocated in the same volume as his own. He kind of starts to act like he doesn't care but it's not hard to see right through all of that (well with me at least). And also (LoL) I heard that they are not freaky enough. I can't have that, LoL.
Posted by PlanetMercuryGirl
Why can't I stand dating virgo men? Because they don't express themselves, LoL. I just don't like games, to tell you the truth. Sometimes they can act like they like a woman and then they get to this point (like yourself) where they feel the need to back off a little. I know that it doesn't mean that they are not interested. It's just an indicator that they are not sure if the feeling is being reciprocated in the same volume as his own. He kind of starts to act like he doesn't care but it's not hard to see right through all of that (well with me at least). And also (LoL) I heard that they are not freaky enough. I can't have that, LoL.
That's the advantage Virgals have, you can read and understand us men.
Why you would pick a finnicky, unstable, unreliable, emotionally needy man is beyond me. But to each their own.
Virgo men not freaky—
Have you met my brother-from-another-mother 25thDecan?
Worse yet, Sortilege and virgo69.
You gotta be nuuuutzzz!
Virgo man not freaky? Ummmm, ermmmm. Whoa. Oh yes they are. Underneath that Brooks Bros. suit beats the heart of a complete animal. Pocket protector optional.
Posted by venusianbull
Virgo man not freaky? Ummmm, ermmmm. Whoa. Oh yes they are. Underneath that Brooks Bros. suit beats the heart of a complete animal. Pocket protector optional.
Tell 'em!
Posted by CajunspiritPosted by venusianbull
Virgo man not freaky? Ummmm, ermmmm. Whoa. Oh yes they are. Underneath that Brooks Bros. suit beats the heart of a complete animal. Pocket protector optional.
Tell 'em!click to expand
I could, but I'm trying to protect the innocent. 😄
Posted by PlanetMercuryGirl
LoL. Who said that I liked the finnicky, unstable, unreliable part?
I said that I "heard" that Virgo men aren't freaky. They just might be. I just haven't met one that can get me hot just by looking at me from across the room. They don't really seduce, so to speak. Too shy
Take a look through my gallery of photos, if you have not already 😉
Could change your life! hahahahahaa
^^^^^^^Really? Am I missing something?
Posted by CajunspiritPosted by PlanetMercuryGirl
^^^^^^^Really? Am I missing something?
Most definitely....click to expand
LoL. Cajun....Cajun....Cajun....what is it that I am missing? Tell me more....
Posted by PlanetMercuryGirl
LoL. Cajun....Cajun....Cajun....what is it that I am missing? Tell me more....
A little bit of this on your pancakes....
Posted by virg_gokiPosted by venusianbull
Virgo man not freaky? Ummmm, ermmmm. Whoa. Oh yes they are. Underneath that Brooks Bros. suit beats the heart of a complete animal. Pocket protector optional.
*innocent gasp* I most certainly am not! I am a true blue gentleman
ahh feels good to be active again on dxp 😉click to expand
Of course you are goki, of course you are. In public. Behind closed doors though... 😄
They serve Virgos with pancakes now?
Posted by CajunspiritPosted by venusianbull
They serve Virgos with pancakes now?
Low fat kind, optional 😛click to expand
More than likely with fruit. Syrup is too high in processed sugars. 😛
^ LOL With strawberries?
Woops, post above that. 🙂
Posted by venusianbull
Virgo man not freaky? Ummmm, ermmmm. Whoa. Oh yes they are. Underneath that Brooks Bros. suit beats the heart of a complete animal. Pocket protector optional.
Since when is having the stamina of a Kenyan marathon runner considered freaky? =P
Posted by CajunspiritPosted by venusianbull
They serve Virgos with pancakes now?
Low fat kind, optional 😛click to expand
Well my pancakes are made with 2% milk fat but hey, at least its' not fat free.
Posted by LoveBucketPosted by PlanetMercuryGirlPosted by CajunspiritPosted by PlanetMercuryGirl
^^^^^^^Really? Am I missing something?
Most definitely....
LoL. Cajun....Cajun....Cajun....what is it that I am missing? Tell me more....
I'm with you Girl b/c I just took a look at his photos and he look 10 times more sweeter than Prince_Pisces!! 🙂 I'm smiling but, I'm also serious.click to expand
Hahahahaha! Imma leave that one alone. As a matter of fact, I just posted a photo of Prince (the entertainer) on the pisces message board. It was something about, who/what do you love. Hahaha! I gotta check out Prince_Pisces.
Posted by SomeRandomVirgoPosted by venusianbull
Virgo man not freaky? Ummmm, ermmmm. Whoa. Oh yes they are. Underneath that Brooks Bros. suit beats the heart of a complete animal. Pocket protector optional.
Since when is having the stamina of a Kenyan marathon runner considered freaky? =Pclick to expand
Since when is that not considered downright delightful? ^ LOL Liked the post.
*turns rosy red* 🙂
Stamina is good. Hyper stamina the entire time? Now that is not good.
Posted by 25thDecan
Solution: it would behoove so many young women to look at how the guy pays them attention and then think "AM I PAYING HIM ATTENTION? At all? Or am I reveling in what I recieve?"
I've come to the realization that I have a lot of work to do in this area. In looking over my "love" life I've stopped to ask myself what's really going on. What am I doing to contribute to not getting what I really want. That's when I became aware that when I approach a potential relationship, I find that I pull back...too far back.
In the past month or so I've heard "I don't hear from you that much" from more than one person. As for me, I find that in an attempt to protect myself (my heart) I'm not opening up, therefore I keep a distance that doesn't allow for that connection to develop. It's tough being vulnerable, BUT it comes with the territory of finding the love that's right for me.
I'm learning to relax, and do what "comes natural" meaning if I get that urge or thought to call...I'll go ahead and do it...with no expectations. And guess what? Just as I was about to press the send button on my phone...it rang...the guy (Virgo) I was reaching out to was calling me (smile). I'm going to initiate more contact with him, until he tells me I'm coming a bug-a-boo...lol.
Posted by virg_goki
i really believe virgos are the natural porn star... i mean *points @ cajun* look at those legs!!! LOL
My legs— loooool
Posted by 25thDecan
I'm not talking about stamina alone for "freak". Go to my song thread and listen to the song Arena. I want your every pore. Between your toes, on the floor, the wall, on your feet standing while I cheer you on to come like I told you. Back scratching, hair pulling, no orifice on you not licked, no nipple untouched...nevermind. all women are NOT good in bed, nor can you convey to them mentally what they have missed out on with you....
What can I say I'm liking...
Not all men are good in bed either. I find that the ones who claim to be are the exact opposite.
Thanks 25th...I'm working on it. AND I can truly relate to your past situation(s), "been in a relationship(more than one) where I was never told I was needed or even appreciated....ever."
While going through my divorce I asked my then husband was there ANYTHING that he liked about me, because he sure didn't show that he even loved me. His response, "All the little things you would do for me, just because..." I cried...WHY? What is SO hard with showing YOUR wife some appreciation.
After a while I began to shut down and not care (as much), but now I find myself holding back from doing what I would naturally do for fear of being met with the same opposition. But what's positive is that I can recognize what's going on and with much positive self-talk I can work through these road blocks.
To love and be loved, that's my goal.
While going through my divorce I asked my then husband was there ANYTHING that he liked about me, because he sure didn't show that he even loved me. His response, "All the little things you would do for me, just because..." I cried...WHY? What is SO hard with showing YOUR wife some appreciation.
After a while I began to shut down and not care (as much), but now I find myself holding back from doing what I would naturally do for fear of being met with the same opposition. But what's positive is that I can recognize what's going on and with much positive self-talk I can work through these road blocks.
To love and be loved, that's my goal.
Posted by PlanetMercuryGirl
Not all men are good in bed either. I find that the ones who claim to be are the exact opposite.
I AGREE! lol
Posted by PlanetMercuryGirl
Stamina is good. Hyper stamina the entire time? Now that is not good.
I have the hyper kind of stamina =/ I always try to warn them beforehand in my shy Hugh Grant-esque manner of speaking that they'll be up all night...they never believe me.
Is that like the 'softer side of Sears' or does it mean you need a dryer sheet with a bear on the front?
Hell yeh.
Posted by 25thDecanPosted by PlanetMercuryGirl
Not all men are good in bed either. I find that the ones who claim to be are the exact opposite.
So...it seems you and I are simply going to be in a revolving pattern of stfu. Is that it?click to expand
What I said was honestly not aimed at you. What you wrote DID however, prompt me to remember other scenerios of other men that made claims.
Posted by ImaBlvrPosted by PlanetMercuryGirl
Not all men are good in bed either. I find that the ones who claim to be are the exact opposite.
I AGREE! lolclick to expand
You feel me?
^^^^^ Yes, I feel ya PMG.
"he starts showing signs of interest.
Calls you a little more, hands out a compliment, makes you feel special and speaks of arranging some dates.
OK..right after that^^^^I'm smart enough to communicate and ASK, what's this about before I let that nasty little thing called imagination (below) happen. This way there's no misunderstanding and we are on the same page. This will refrain any intelligent person from holding back or overreacting until she/he gets the facts. Pretty simple
Now at this point, you're head might be swelling a little!
This gracious, well groomed and talented Virgo is taking you seriously, you're enjoying yourself.
You smile, text back when you feel like it and make a little " style " on him.
Calls you a little more, hands out a compliment, makes you feel special and speaks of arranging some dates.
OK..right after that^^^^I'm smart enough to communicate and ASK, what's this about before I let that nasty little thing called imagination (below) happen. This way there's no misunderstanding and we are on the same page. This will refrain any intelligent person from holding back or overreacting until she/he gets the facts. Pretty simple
Now at this point, you're head might be swelling a little!
This gracious, well groomed and talented Virgo is taking you seriously, you're enjoying yourself.
You smile, text back when you feel like it and make a little " style " on him.
...this way when I ask FIRST and the Virgo tells me it's only a light flirtation, I can be on my very way.😉
Damn, another bumped thread...oh well, my answer stands 🙂
Posted by Cajunspirit
Right, so I'm a 2nd Decan Virgo. The Enigma. Ruled by Capricorn and have a Capricorn ascendent to boot. I'm a tad socially challenged and totally emotionally retarded. But above all, I am a man baby!
As a man, a Virgo and a Capricorn influenced individual, Logic and Practicality are the things I relate to most. I try to make sure my decisions are governed with reason, morals, ethics, logic and practicality.
A practical man knows, you have a better chance of catching a fish, by throwing more nets!
Just because I was talking to one woman, doesn't mean there are not others I am actively interested an pursuing!
But Cajun, you cry... that's wrong!
You should commit to one woman!
Here's the thing, I don't go beyond light flirtation. I don't consciously lead them on. I just discuss the possibilities.
Once I am content and secure with a woman, committing is not an issue.
Hence, we can conclude our little story. A man wants what he wants.
Unfortunately, lots of us are feeble to the power of Desire.
What he desires most, he will make the effort to achieve.
In the event, that a Virgo man was "perceived" as into you but suddenly dropped interest can be summed up in the cliche' line.
"He's just not that into you"
He desires someone else more than you, more likely than not. Or you un-bewittingly messed up your chance, by not reciprocating
Reality is cold and harsh.
So what do you do when you feel you messed up with a Virgo. Mine always tells me he does not chase. If I mess up, I have to come to him. Annoying.
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You met a Virgo guy or knew him for a while... he starts showing signs of interest.
Calls you a little more, hands out a compliment, makes you feel special and speaks of arranging some dates.
Now at this point, you're head might be swelling a little!
This gracious, well groomed and talented Virgo is taking you seriously, you're enjoying yourself.
You smile, text back when you feel like it and make a little " style " on him.
You know what you want out of him, but you have not made it clear as yet. Maybe you're waiting for the right moment.
So you hold back or maybe you do the opposite, reveal too much. In this case, what the Virgo thought was light flirtation, has become a full blown sensitive time bomb which he can't really defuse without you blowing up...
So what happens is... the chasing stops. Interaction is reduced and he is suddenly less interested in running around your feet, begging for attention.
You stop and feel a little hurt or convince yourself you don't care. Though I must say, you obviously do if you're reading this.
So this will segue into my next post... WHY did this happen?