Virgo Males - What did I do wrong? (Pisces female)

I have been seeing a male virgo for the past 5 months or so. Everything was great at first. He swept me off my feet, he told me he loved me, he loved being around me, he was the sweetest, most caring guy I've ever been with. He was just amazing. Really made me feel special. However, all this came to a crashing end last month.

I had been going through some drama between my soon to be ex husband and his mom. Because he came to me with his problems before, I figured I could rely on him to be my ear when I needed itI was feeling overwhelmed and hurt and basically dumped my negative feelings onto him in a text. I just wanted somebody I could vent and talk to and he just happened to be the first number I saw on my phone. He didn't like that because I had brought up my ex drama in conversations before and he had told me time and time again his advice on the matter. I apologized right away. I said I was sorry for doing that to him. I thought things would get better but then his texts started to be less frequent when he did text me, it was awkward and forced. He also started to distance himself from me at work. Then the drama started up again with my ex. I started to loose sleep over it, I was in a bad mood because of it, I was not the best person to be around at work. My virgo took notice of this and really kept his distance from me. He later confronted me and said I was too negative and that he can't be around me if I'm going to be that way. I was hurt by his words, and I really tried my best to show him that I was trying to be positive about my situation. But everytime I would try to talk to him, he would get even more distant with me. To the point where he was avoiding me all together at work. He's also been snapping at other coworkers too, including a close friend of his. That friendship is over until he apologizes.

Today, I had enough of it. I told him I was leaving work early. He told me goodnight have a nice weekend rather coldly. I turned around and told him bye and I added "stay positive". Kind of my way of saying I haven't forgotten what he told me.

He yelled at me. Said he doesn't have to listen to a word I had to say, that he didn't need me following him around... just really harsh stuff.

I kept my cool and walked out of the building but I cried on my way home. I feel like I lost my love but also a really close friend, and I think that's what hurts the most.

I'm pretty sure I royally messed up with him today and I should have kept my distance but as a pisces, my instincts is to find out whats bothering him and help him. I still consider him a friend despite him yelling at me and if he apologized tomorrow or just texted me whats going on with him, I'd forgive him in a heartbeat. I just want him to be his old self and be happy.

Virgos don’t handle same type of drama being brought up several times. They don’t cope well. It’s like somehow that bad energy is getting transferred to them and they don’t like it. Honestly, Virgos are like the worst partners to talk about issues with ( I’m a Virgo and dated several Virgo ). Only exception is if platonic friends. If I were you, i’d give them alone time so they can forget about it. Make sure not to bring it up again and just be your sweet self. I think Pisces will always be able to melt a Virgo that way.

Your problem is ur still trying to keep a bad thing going with ur ex.

His problem is trying to get a good thing going with u.

Posted by s_i_e_r_r_a

Posted by Toastedtoast

Virgos don’t handle same type of drama being brought up several times. They don’t cope well. It’s like somehow that bad energy is getting transferred to them and they don’t like it. Honestly, Virgos are like the worst partners to talk about issues with ( I’m a Virgo and dated several Virgo ). Only exception is if platonic friends. If I were you, i’d give them alone time so they can forget about it. Make sure not to bring it up again and just be your sweet self. I think Pisces will always be able to melt a Virgo that way.

Pisces do that, just dump things on people all at once but they do it so often it kinda spooks you away sometimes

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I have always understand that we sometimes need a privacy and alone time, i respect that, thats why i never had an argument with virgo male or female. But i feel like im just a sponge that absorb all their story hahha and a shoulder to cry on

Testimonials like these is why I say Pisces are disconnected emotionally and overrate their perception.

So all of that happens...and the best 2 words you could think of were "stay positive"? Like really? ofc he lost his temper because that's straight up insulting at this point.

Posted by s_i_e_r_r_a

Posted by Toastedtoast

Virgos don’t handle same type of drama being brought up several times. They don’t cope well. It’s like somehow that bad energy is getting transferred to them and they don’t like it. Honestly, Virgos are like the worst partners to talk about issues with ( I’m a Virgo and dated several Virgo ). Only exception is if platonic friends. If I were you, i’d give them alone time so they can forget about it. Make sure not to bring it up again and just be your sweet self. I think Pisces will always be able to melt a Virgo that way.

Pisces do that, just dump things on people all at once but they do it so often it kinda spooks you away sometimes

Whoa... not sure why my words turned into ??. (Unless it is my phone...) I meant to say “ my dad “ is also a Pisces.

Posted by MademoiselleFisk

A casual relationship with profession of love within 5 months and a drama-filled ex husband (that involes family) hanging around in the background... and you work in the same place?

You need to take care of the ex first, then you can invest a more positive relationship with this guy. Otherwise, there will always be a nagging doubt in the back of his mind.

As you being a pisces woman how long (years) did it take for you to realize that?, especially with a stagnant non changing water moon?

Posted by Fantana

I have been seeing a male virgo for the past 5 months or so. Everything was great at first. He swept me off my feet, he told me he loved me, he loved being around me, he was the sweetest, most caring guy I've ever been with. He was just amazing. Really made me feel special. However, all this came to a crashing end last month.

I had been going through some drama between my soon to be ex husband and his mom. Because he came to me with his problems before, I figured I could rely on him to be my ear when I needed itI was feeling overwhelmed and hurt and basically dumped my negative feelings onto him in a text. I just wanted somebody I could vent and talk to and he just happened to be the first number I saw on my phone. He didn't like that because I had brought up my ex drama in conversations before and he had told me time and time again his advice on the matter. I apologized right away. I said I was sorry for doing that to him. I thought things would get better but then his texts started to be less frequent when he did text me, it was awkward and forced. He also started to distance himself from me at work. Then the drama started up again with my ex. I started to loose sleep over it, I was in a bad mood because of it, I was not the best person to be around at work. My virgo took notice of this and really kept his distance from me. He later confronted me and said I was too negative and that he can't be around me if I'm going to be that way. I was hurt by his words, and I really tried my best to show him that I was trying to be positive about my situation. But everytime I would try to talk to him, he would get even more distant with me. To the point where he was avoiding me all together at work. He's also been snapping at other coworkers too, including a close friend of his. That friendship is over until he apologizes.

Today, I had enough of it. I told him I was leaving work early. He told me goodnight have a nice weekend rather coldly. I turned around and told him bye and I added "stay positive". Kind of my way of saying I haven't forgotten what he told me.

He yelled at me. Said he doesn't have to listen to a word I had to say, that he didn't need me following him around... just really harsh stuff.

I kept my cool and walked out of the building but I cried on my way home. I feel like I lost my love but also a really close friend, and I think that's what hurts the most.

I'm pretty sure I royally messed up with him today and I should have kept my distance but as a pisces, my instincts is to find out whats bothering him and help him. I still consider him a friend despite him yelling at me and if he apologized tomorrow or just texted me whats going on with him, I'd forgive him in a heartbeat. I just want him to be his old self and be happy.

Nothing what he said was harsh to you...you just perceive it that way. You will see this later on in life when he is not around.

Do you have children with this ex? If not, then why is this ex still existing in your life? I'd take 10 steps back too if I was with someone who always had constant drama with an ex for no reason and then to keep dumping it onto me when problems arise that should no longer be there unless kids are involved.

I get the whole "stay positive" thing...you were pissed off that he acting distant and wanted to take a jab at him but it backfired. At this point unless you get shit undercontrol with the ex (have nothing to do with him anymore). I'm not sure if this can be fixed tbh...since it's being going on for 5 months. I'd wash my hands of everything myself but who knows. 🤷

I think that this is just their way. I honestly don’t think Virgo men like anything that takes any attention away from their precious selves 😂 Seriously I will tread carefully though, I find that once they start interacting you in that cold way they usually dump you without warning after. They are more sensitive than they seem and if they so much as suspect you will hurt them or are playing them they will withdraw. Hope it works out well for you though