Virgo Man — Does He Not Like Me? HELP PLS!

So I’ve been trying to get to know a Virgo man I met online. He seems so kind and sweet. We matched almost a month ago. We talked online for almost two weeks before he gave me his number. I texted him the next day. We have been communicating. However I’m very confused when it comes to the lack of communication on his part. For the most part, I initiate conversations. He rarely if ever initiates conversation. He responds to my conversation attempts for the most part. We haven’t discussed anything “deep.” It’s usually “how was your day” type texts and some flirting on both of our parts. We also discuss lighthearted things like foods we like or music and traveling we’ve done. I am very much attracted to him. On paper, he has all of the qualities I would like in a man from what I know of him.

So how do I know if he is into me? I’m not the clingy needy Libra woman, and I’m not exactly the distant Libra women either. I’m somewhere in the middle. My day would be made if I got a “good morning” text or a “I hope you’re having a great day gorgeous” text. I don’t need constant communication from someone I’m not in a relationship with as that would annoy me. I do like my space too. I basically just want to know if he likes me. If he doesn’t respond to a text, I may send another one several hours later. If he doesn’t respond to that one, I take the hint and back off and reach out again in a day or two.

The other day he asked me if I was shy. I told him I was. He also said that he’s shy and that two shy people won’t work because we would move too slow lol. I have a friend that’s a male Virgo and he says that he does like me. He says that he is the same way and that women complain about it. He says that I have to be patient and I have to be blunt about liking him without timing across as clingy. Taking advice from my friend, I suggested a phone call to start breaking the ice. I told him he could call me. He didn’t budge so I told him I’d call him and he was fine with that. We had a good but short conversation because it was past his bedtime and he had to be at work early the next morning. At the end he said we should talk on the phone more. I agreed.

I didn’t expect a good morning text the next morning and I didn’t get one. However later during the day I sent him a flirty text saying I enjoyed the conversation and that I’d love to talk to him again. He responded flirtatiously and agreed. So I suggested that we talk again later that evening. No response. So I sent him another text several hours later. Still no response. So, I backed off. Apparently Virgo men like space.

Although I’m not a first move type of gal, I don’t mind asking him for coffee if it’ll break the ice more. However I would want to talk to him on the phone at least once more to see if I should do that. TBH, I want him to ask me out. But I understand Virgo men don’t typically make the first move.

Any advice on this situation? Is there anything I’m doing wrong or could do better? How do I convey to him I like him and want him to ask me for coffee without scaring him away? How do I convey to him that talking on the phone is how I overcome my shyness and see how he overcomes his? I don’t want to get ahead of myself. But I have a crush. Please help!

I’m sorry it’s so long. But if you need a TL;DR version:

How do I know if a Virgo guy is into me? I’m getting some mixed signals and he doesn’t initiate conversation. He says he’s shy. I don’t mind making a move if I know it’s welcomed. But how would I know it’s welcomed? He ignored my text when I suggested that he call me. So I backed off. He could’ve been busy because he works a lot. But this is frustrating. Usually I know if a guy likes me by now.

You shouldnt expect good morning texts from someone you aren't in a relationship with. That's boyfriend territory and he is not your boyfriend. Virgos are very proper with this stuff, he will take his time through the stages. With virgos, you need to be direct but also chill. Compliment him, flirt, and then leave it. Let him come to you, they want to be in control.

They are veeery confusing though, so you gotta be patient. They can be moody and distant for unknown reasons so some weeks you'll be wondering if hes moved on. Then they may return all sweet again. It's a mess. It's frustrating. If you like him, then be patient and genuine, dont play games, let him set the pace.

Sometimes virgos take ages to respond. Like days. They treat messages like emails, they "get to it" when they choose to. It doesnt mean they arent into you neccessarily, its just how weird they are.

THATS weird!

Kinda sounds like when I like someone but have no chemistry with them.

It's like I wanna interact but have no idea wat to say to them. And when they interact with me they just dont " draw" me out ya know. Idk but it's just like nothing🤷‍♀️

Btw if that is the case he'll ghost you very very soon.

Good luck

Your the empty air in his empty sandwhich.

In my opinion, that's a typical Virgo behaviour. They are true to their name, especially the malles. And especially if he has a lot of Virgo placements. He's testing the waters, to see if you are worthy of his time and love eventually. I think he likes you, like your friend told you, you will just need a lot of patience with him, till he comes out of his shell.

I understand you and feel for you, cause they are so hard to understand, especially for air signs. I went through the same ordeal, and I have no idea where I got the patience to put up with all the (for me) useless testing. But we are different, and that's why we had so much trouble understanding each other..

There are no rules as to how to approach them and behave, cause they do some irrational things to which there are no rational or logical answers. In the end, the strenght of your emotion toward him and wish to get him know better will decide. You will have to initiate everything untill he decides he can open up. Silly, I know, but that's how it was for me.

On the other hand, they are absolutely brilliant when they are yours. But it's a long road to get there, I wish you luck.

(There are so many topics here that might help you, just go through Virgo forum, and you will definitely find answers to a lot of your questions).

Good luck, once again 🙂