@Tigereyesx011
7 Years
Need advice: Virgo man withdrawing
Why a Virgo Man Withdraws and How to Respond
A Virgo man may withdraw when feeling overwhelmed or uncertain about his emotions. His behavior can stem from fear or needing space to process. Respond calmly and give him time to open up. Avoid chasing or pressuring him, as Virgo men value honesty and patience in relationships.
Yeah it’s confusing mines was asking me to move in and get married now doesn’t call me! It’s really crazy I think they lovebomb to play mind games
ugh. I can’t stand this why not be straight up and honest?!
ugh. I can’t stand this why not be straight up and honest?!
That’s how I feel he should just tell me how he feel so we can move on or so whatever needs to be done
virgo men are con men just like pisces men.
Idk what I could have done?
This time I spent the night at his house. We hung out all the next day we went to where he practices. Then when we got back he was acting kind of off like he wanted me to leave.
When I left I noticed he blocked me on insta. But he didn’t on text. Now he is texting me that he’s so busy😑
virgos are analyzing you hence the step back. with these men things have to always make sense and they could be quite foreign to just simply emotional connection that they cannot make sense of.
Should I reach out or just no contact him?
We hung out a few times and after we hung out this weekend he has gone cold on me. Almost Immediately after I left he blocked me on Instagram.
will you give us the full story? i find it hard to believe that he would just block you, as if from nowhere.
also... what are your placements & what are his?
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Also I’m a Leo Sun/Pisces Moon/Scorpio Rising/ Cancer Venus
He’s a Virgo Sun/Virgo Moon/Leo Venus
virgo men are con men just like pisces men.
Ahh number one, fuck you. K.
Should I reach out or just no contact him?
If this Virgo isn't used to this love sh*t, he probably spooked himself out. It happens to a lesser degree the more experienced he is. If you're the first girl he loved, he probably confused himself with all of this new love crap. He's withdrawing back to safety and comfort and figuring out what just happened. Literally "it's not you, it's him." DO NOT CONTACT HIM. That will further spook him. Just let him return in his own time. If he likes you he'll return. If you want to love a Virgo, you better be patient. Also witty, and a conversationalist, but in this instance, patient is most important.
I kinda do the same thing, but to a lesser degree. I'll flirt, and chase, and take shots, and as soon as sh*t becomes "real" and she starts to show her hand, I'm like "ahh f*ck. Is this really what I wanted? Do I really want to be tied down by her right now (figuratively speaking (if we're talking literally, yes. Always yes))?" So I'll withdraw a bit until I figure out what I want. I wouldn't say "scared" of commitment. I'll commit if it's right. Just "cautious" with commitment.
Your guy seems new to it. Not so much scared of commitment but scared of love and emotions in general.
Should I reach out or just no contact him?
If this Virgo isn't used to this love sh*t, he probably spooked himself out. It happens to a lesser degree the more experienced he is. If you're the first girl he loved, he probably confused himself with all of this new love crap. He's withdrawing back to safety and comfort and figuring out what just happened. Literally "it's not you, it's him." DO NOT CONTACT HIM. That will further spook him. Just let him return in his own time. If he likes you he'll return. If you want to love a Virgo, you better be patient. Also witty, and a conversationalist, but in this instance, patient is most important.
I kinda do the same thing, but to a lesser degree. I'll flirt, and chase, and take shots, and as soon as sh*t becomes "real" and she starts to show her hand, I'm like "ahh f*ck. Is this really what I wanted? Do I really want to be tied down by her right now (figuratively speaking (if we're talking literally, yes. Always yes))?" So I'll withdraw a bit until I figure out what I want. I wouldn't say "scared" of commitment. I'll commit if it's right. Just "cautious" with commitment.
Your guy seems new to it. Not so much scared of commitment but scared of love and emotions in general.
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He did tell me a few times that he was scared and that he was liking me way too fast. Last time I saw him he told me to please not hurt him. I’m assuming he is nervous to open up to me.
But idk I guess I just find it strange that he came on so strong to me and then completely changed since the last time I saw him...
I just find it strange that he came on so strong to me and then completely changed since the last time I saw him...
Best get used to that
Two possibilities here:
1. He has another girl (or guy), he's losing interest in you and gaining interest in her. This is my main guess.
2. You did something that made him think that he's way more in to you than you are him, so he's consciously backing off a bit.
Blocking you on Instagram but still texting makes me think that he doesn't want the other girl to see you on his page, though. And him suddenly acting shady and wanting you to leave? It was almost time for her to get there.
Either way, don't chase him. Give what you're getting, no more, no less.
Update: I haven’t been contacting him but he texted me apologizing and that he’s been through a lot this week.
Don’t really know how to respond or take this.
He sounds shady and immature. Mental illness or cheater is my guess.
I’m starting to come to that conclusion too. Usually I don’t care too much but for some reason I can’t stop thinking about this one.
he texted me apologizing and that he’s been through a lot this week.
Best guess: his girlfriend is going out of town again, and he's hoping to have sex with you. This was the only way he could think of to excuse his shady behavior... blaming it on the enigmatic "lot" that he doesn't really want to define.
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So basically this guy seemed to be obsessed with me. Calling any chance he got, texting non stop, never failed to tell me how beautiful I am, that he wanted to be with me, etc. we have also had convos where he has told me he was so scared and that he was liking me way too fast.
We hung out a few times and after we hung out this weekend he has gone cold on me. Almost Immediately after I left he blocked me on Instagram. He still texted me though and when I didn’t respond right away he asked if I was ok. He is still texting me but way less than before.
I am so confused by this behavior. Should I fall back? Does he want me to chase him? Is he just scared? Need some advice on what to do. Never dealt with a Virgo before.