cancergirl76
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Virgo man on dating site...
So that was last Saturday and it's Tuesday and NOTHING. Now I noticed he only got on the dating site a couple of times for a few minutes over those days but still... would an email back have been so hard? I am so confused. He was the one stressing "let's meet up" and I gave in and gave him my number. And NO contact. Nothing. And before he would email me at 6:30 in the morning or whenever.
I don't get it? Did I do something wrong? Can anyone help me understand. Of all the guys who contact me on the site, he is the only one I voluntarily gave my number to and emailed first. And I thought we were really having fun talking and joking around...
Anyone have any opinions— If it helps, he has a libra moon. (I am cancer with a virgo moon)
I don't get it? Did I do something wrong? Can anyone help me understand. Of all the guys who contact me on the site, he is the only one I voluntarily gave my number to and emailed first. And I thought we were really having fun talking and joking around...
Anyone have any opinions— If it helps, he has a libra moon. (I am cancer with a virgo moon)
He's working full time and then some? I'd be tired.
Wow my friend said the same as the first answer... maybe he's tired.
My mom said maybe he's married.
The first I can understand though I wouldn't understand why not even an email back.
The second just stinks! Aren't virgo's supposed to be loyal? So why would he cheat then?
My mom said maybe he's married.
The first I can understand though I wouldn't understand why not even an email back.
The second just stinks! Aren't virgo's supposed to be loyal? So why would he cheat then?
He could be what Bella said too.
I feel angry again.
I thought of that but then I thought... well it's a dating site and virgo's are supposedly very cautious right? So I thought maybe he was concerned I might be a nut. LOL I mean we all face that problem when we meet people online. I could be a crazy girl who will call him continuously and then he would be sorry. But the thought did cross my mind that he might have another reason he didn't want me to call. I just hoped I was being silly. 😢
Umm. Try not to expect anything from him. It'll hurt less if nothing happens.
Well the negative possibilities stink but that's why I am here. I wanted some honest thoughts. I may not like them but I don't want to get my hopes up that this guy could be someone cool if he's probably a jerk. Sadly, I don't know any virgos to ask or compare him to, only what I have managed to read about the sign. And what I have read is they are slow moving about decisions and overly cautious, especially with any kind of relationships. Normally I would think this stinks and toss the idea of it. However, I have done that in the past and lost out on opportunities (due to my stinking impatience!). So I don't know what I should do. He was the one guy I had a sincere interest in out of at least a dozen I have spoken to. Darn it!
oh gosh mooooove on....there is a huge possibility that you will mostly run into married men, men already in committed relationships with other women trolling online dating sites.
Tip #4:
He requests your phone number, but will not give you his number.
Married men will usually request your phone number fairly quickly after the first initial contact. He may use a line like —Hey, I??d really like to hear your voice on the phone. Could I get your number—
If a man requests your number, but does not offer his own in that same email or chat message, you may not want to share your number with him just yet. It might be a better idea to write back, requesting he share his number with you first. Or you could choose to give him a cell number instead (read this article).
Whatever you decide to do, just be very careful with your first initial phone conversation with him. If you have chosen to go ahead and give out your number without getting his, be sure that you ask for his number when he does finally call you. Chances are, that if he is married, he is either calling you from a phone other then his home phone, or he has some blocking feature that will keep you from getting his number if when you use the number call-back feature on your phone (or call waiting).
Just because a man may not offer his phone number when requesting yours, does not necessarily mean that he is married or has anything to hide. He may just be one of those men who is very old fashioned, and refuses to have the women make that first call. But, if he is a believer in calling the woman first, he will more than likely tell you that when he replies to your request. He will probably also give you his number without any qualms. If it is his home number that he gives you, then you are probably pretty safe to assume that he is likely not married.
Tip #4:
He requests your phone number, but will not give you his number.
Married men will usually request your phone number fairly quickly after the first initial contact. He may use a line like —Hey, I??d really like to hear your voice on the phone. Could I get your number—
If a man requests your number, but does not offer his own in that same email or chat message, you may not want to share your number with him just yet. It might be a better idea to write back, requesting he share his number with you first. Or you could choose to give him a cell number instead (read this article).
Whatever you decide to do, just be very careful with your first initial phone conversation with him. If you have chosen to go ahead and give out your number without getting his, be sure that you ask for his number when he does finally call you. Chances are, that if he is married, he is either calling you from a phone other then his home phone, or he has some blocking feature that will keep you from getting his number if when you use the number call-back feature on your phone (or call waiting).
Just because a man may not offer his phone number when requesting yours, does not necessarily mean that he is married or has anything to hide. He may just be one of those men who is very old fashioned, and refuses to have the women make that first call. But, if he is a believer in calling the woman first, he will more than likely tell you that when he replies to your request. He will probably also give you his number without any qualms. If it is his home number that he gives you, then you are probably pretty safe to assume that he is likely not married.
eh. i tried online dating for a little while, only to realize how much the whole thing turned me off. it was supposed to be low pressure and chill, then i started asking myself all these what ifs and worrying about doing things the right way. and i just lost interest.
there's all these great stories about people meeting online and great relationships coming out of it. but there's undoubtedly even more people who have no real luck, who just waste their time messaging people and talking on the phone and meeting in person and just not clicking with anyone. i'd rather just stick to meeting guys the old fashioned way, chemistry unfortunately matters more to me than compatible profiles online.
but it took a while for me to figure out that i didn't want to keep looking online. i abandoned some running conversations with guys who really did seem nice. i assume they've met other people by now, but maybe not. maybe i accidently confused somebody. oops.
maybe that's his case. maybe he's busy. maybe he's married.
but whatever the case, i'm gonna guess it's just a regular person/males/online dating thing rather than a virgo thing.
there's all these great stories about people meeting online and great relationships coming out of it. but there's undoubtedly even more people who have no real luck, who just waste their time messaging people and talking on the phone and meeting in person and just not clicking with anyone. i'd rather just stick to meeting guys the old fashioned way, chemistry unfortunately matters more to me than compatible profiles online.
but it took a while for me to figure out that i didn't want to keep looking online. i abandoned some running conversations with guys who really did seem nice. i assume they've met other people by now, but maybe not. maybe i accidently confused somebody. oops.
maybe that's his case. maybe he's busy. maybe he's married.
but whatever the case, i'm gonna guess it's just a regular person/males/online dating thing rather than a virgo thing.
Posted by cancergirl76
After that he sent me an email a day or two later and all he said was that he would contact me as soon as possible and he's just been so busy. So I joked and said "well you sure aren't making it easy for me to get to know you. 😉 hugs"
No reply. So the next day I decided to take a shot and I told him that I was under the impression that he wanted to meet me but since I havent heard much from him perhaps he changed his mind BUT that my friend was willing to babysit this coming weekend so if he was still interested I would really like to meet up while there is a good opportunity to do so. Then I told him however if his intentions changed, I completely understand and just to let me know...
You dont contact him twice after he says he will contact you. Learn the art of patience and slow down. And the second message just sounded like you are desperate and insecure. When a man wants to talk to you he will find the time to call you, unless he is dead or in a coma. He might be married or maybe he is single and you scared him off with your Clingfest 2010 message. No matter what if he is not calling then he is not interested or he is spending time with his wife. And you should move on.
Jeez, well I know 3 people who met and have either married or are seriously dating someone they met on a dating site so I try not to be so cynical about it. I really hope I don't have such a negative experience on there, as I am a stay at home mom (for right now) and my opportunities to meet people are limited. 😢
Anyway, thanks for the input. I appreciate any that I get. I really was not trying to scare him with any "clingfest 2010" either. HE mentioned meeting up 2-3 times first. Then my friend suddenly (minutes before I sent him the email to tell him) mentioned she would come up for the weekend in case I wanted to go out so I thought - oh cool, here's my chance to take him up on that! So I was letting him know since he seemed interested.
In any case I suppose all I can do is see if he comes around again. However I was just trying to figure out if this behavior is typical for a virgo male (backing off a bit or REALLY being too busy).
If anyone has anymore input, I thank you in advance, and thanks to all of those who have helped thus far. 🙂
Anyway, thanks for the input. I appreciate any that I get. I really was not trying to scare him with any "clingfest 2010" either. HE mentioned meeting up 2-3 times first. Then my friend suddenly (minutes before I sent him the email to tell him) mentioned she would come up for the weekend in case I wanted to go out so I thought - oh cool, here's my chance to take him up on that! So I was letting him know since he seemed interested.
In any case I suppose all I can do is see if he comes around again. However I was just trying to figure out if this behavior is typical for a virgo male (backing off a bit or REALLY being too busy).
If anyone has anymore input, I thank you in advance, and thanks to all of those who have helped thus far. 🙂
It's not a sign thing....MAN THING (and some cases women do it as well), my suggestion is to not take anyone serious until they have proven they are not just talking and really interested in getting to know you, also don't throw away your rules such as the whole phone number thing, stay consistent and you will earn respect so next time just ask for a phone number, no special VIP treatment it reeks with desperation and clingy-ness and some men hate that, they run as soon as they smell it.
IMO this guy seemed to be in the moment, chatting it up but not really all that interested....interested men call, they initiate emails and they follow up as to not lose that connection, even if this guy is busy with work he certainly isn't giving you much of himself which means he's unavailable, in what way unavailable who knows, it could work, marriage, girlfriend, laziness but the most important thing for me if I was in your shoes is to not spend too much time pondering about why a guy suddenly drops off the face of the earth after showing interest, it only serves to create this desperate vibe and make you feel unbalanced...That's why I said move on, not b/c this guy is bad or anything but b/c men like him are exasperating, they come and go, they are no shows and it's not worth a second thought.
If he's interested he may show up again but don't expect any miracles, he most likely is the in and out type and nothing will ever get off the ground....I encourage you to keep looking elsewhere, I'm sure you will find someone that's available and his actions and words will match up and you will be out on a date soon.
IMO this guy seemed to be in the moment, chatting it up but not really all that interested....interested men call, they initiate emails and they follow up as to not lose that connection, even if this guy is busy with work he certainly isn't giving you much of himself which means he's unavailable, in what way unavailable who knows, it could work, marriage, girlfriend, laziness but the most important thing for me if I was in your shoes is to not spend too much time pondering about why a guy suddenly drops off the face of the earth after showing interest, it only serves to create this desperate vibe and make you feel unbalanced...That's why I said move on, not b/c this guy is bad or anything but b/c men like him are exasperating, they come and go, they are no shows and it's not worth a second thought.
If he's interested he may show up again but don't expect any miracles, he most likely is the in and out type and nothing will ever get off the ground....I encourage you to keep looking elsewhere, I'm sure you will find someone that's available and his actions and words will match up and you will be out on a date soon.
invest in a skype account. it's less than $ 5 a month. you get a phone number. the connection is pretty good and gives you a disposable number that you can hand out to people you're not too sure of. good tactic for dating in general, not just online.
as far as this guy, i agree...married or involved. i have moved around a lot too so i feel you on being in a situation where you're damn near forced to go the online route to meet folk. but just because it's online doesn't mean normal dating rules cease to exist. a man who is withholding of his personal information is a no-go. and one who is overly eager to provide such information is a no-go.
being new to an area can suck but you're "new" not desperate. chalk this one up as a loss unless he's forthcoming.
as far as this guy, i agree...married or involved. i have moved around a lot too so i feel you on being in a situation where you're damn near forced to go the online route to meet folk. but just because it's online doesn't mean normal dating rules cease to exist. a man who is withholding of his personal information is a no-go. and one who is overly eager to provide such information is a no-go.
being new to an area can suck but you're "new" not desperate. chalk this one up as a loss unless he's forthcoming.
Posted by cancergirl76
Jeez, well I know 3 people who met and have either married or are seriously dating someone they met on a dating site so I try not to be so cynical about it. I really hope I don't have such a negative experience on there, as I am a stay at home mom (for right now) and my opportunities to meet people are limited. 😢
Anyway, thanks for the input. I appreciate any that I get. I really was not trying to scare him with any "clingfest 2010" either. HE mentioned meeting up 2-3 times first. Then my friend suddenly (minutes before I sent him the email to tell him) mentioned she would come up for the weekend in case I wanted to go out so I thought - oh cool, here's my chance to take him up on that! So I was letting him know since he seemed interested.
In any case I suppose all I can do is see if he comes around again. However I was just trying to figure out if this behavior is typical for a virgo male (backing off a bit or REALLY being too busy).
If anyone has anymore input, I thank you in advance, and thanks to all of those who have helped thus far. 🙂
I know you werent trying to scare him, but that is how we come off when we do say those type of things to a man. Just go with the flow and continue to keep your options open. And it is hard socially when you are stay at home mom. So just busy yourself with other moms and kids, good friends, pampering yourself, hobbies, your own kids (you do that already), working out at the gym, you know some other outlets where you can talk and meet other grown ups besides him or any man who you feel is potential. And when a man doesnt call dont worry about it, it is his loss, not yours. Men are like buses when one leaves another one will be by in 15 minutes. 🙂
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