why this virgo...........

This topic was created in the Virgo forum by libradimple on Friday, June 25, 2010 and has 7 replies.

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@libradimple
16 Years

im having a dilemma with my virgo guy...he is my boyfriend and im just wondering,,,and we are inlove with each other... i dont know yet any of his family members...i havent met his mom... and im wondering why he havent introduce me yet to his mother? are virgo usually of quiet type upto this extent? uhmmmmmm i just want to know does this mean anything... why this virgo havent introduce me yet .... or am i just being paranoid?

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@libradimple
16 Years

we've been together like 1 year and 7 months... together as in everyday because of we are workmates and he also brings me home everyday upto this period of time... but just this april we opened up our feelings to each other... so if you are asking me how long are we having a relationship officially.... its just like 3months... but the togetherness, its 1 yr 7months..

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@xxxLeogalxxx
16 Years

Q: Have you introduced him to your fam/parents/friends? If not, why not? Sometimes we have to lead by example... if you feel this union is worthy of a gear change you lead the way, if he does not respond in positively then you MAY not be on the same page and may need to review your relationship. :o)

6-8 months sharing time and energy with someone is adequate time to know if this person is for you or not. So IMO,
1yr and 7 mths is more than adequate time and can be considered as wasting time if things have not developed further!!! Dont try and down play it by saying it's really only 3 months..... Be real with you!!!!!

Good luck.

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@lildol
16 Years5,000+ Posts

Another aspect, Has he been to even see them lately? (if they're not local, this is clearly a non-issue IMHO). Are they aware of you might be the better way to look at it especially if he is not in constant contact with family.

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@libradimple
16 Years

as to your questions...i have introduced him to my parents....they know him already way back as my co worker...... but i havent told them yet that we are bf and gf... though they know it even im not talking.... and my parents and him are in good terms...

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@P-Angel
21 Years25,000+ PostsPisces

The biggest problem people have in any kind of relationship is the fact that they expect the other to treat them according to how they would treat someone .... and here's is a prime example.

You would deem the meeting of family paramount in terms of relationship measurement. For this reason, you have introduced him to your family.

Now, you are expecting him to feel the same way, and in this expectation of how you think he should feel ..... you want him to treat you accordingly.

He is his own person, he is not you ..... if he thinks the meeting of families an important measurement of relationship status, then he will be making plans for the big event .. if the thought of this meeting hasn't even crossed his mind, then it's insignificant in terms of relationship status.