Virgo man silence- Mercury retrograde?

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First off, I would like to thank you for reading my post. Recently my virgo guy that I've been dating for half a year has turned silent on me. He went to the EDC rave in Vegas this past weekend and after he came back he told me that his has no phone. After that he has never responded back to me again and it has been two days. He is usually not like his and I am concerned. Perhaps he had too much fun at the rave with all the booze and girls that he can't seem to come back to reality. We were suppose to talk about buying plane tickets when he comes back because I will be visiting him next month. I'm also worried about prices going up, but he doesn't seem to have that sense of urgency. I've been constantly reminding him about it but he always says that we'll figure it out next week and that he needs more time to think about it or that he's not sure. He's been doing that for three week already and I have been very patient. Unfortunately, I'm losing my patience with him. I am tired of asking and I think he is probably tired of me bringing up it all the time. I just want to save money for the both of us since he had mentioned that he is low on money. I'm assuming the mercury retrograde is affecting him since he's a Virgo. He usually talks to me and now he's giving the silent treatment. I feel like him going to Vegas has turned him into a different person and the mercury retrograde is shutting him down. What should I do now? I have been a loving and caring person to him. I have somewhat lost my trust in him because according to his friend he has been sending pictures of girls to his friend. I notice that he is very flirty when he's under the influence but very quiet and conservative when he's sober. I don't know if this is the type of guy that I want to be dealing as it may be unhealthy for our relationship.
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Posted by Nebulous_Cloud9
What does the retrograde have to do with anything? He is telling loud and clear, "He's not sure." If he wanted you to come see him, yes, he would be very eager; but he's clearly exhibiting none of it. Reality is harsh, but you seem to fancy him more than he does you.



True. However, he did promise me that we have this vacation together so I'm uncertain about his intentions right now.
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Yeah this has nothing to do with merc retro. sounds like what happens in Vegas...stays in Vegas :/
plus this...
"He is telling loud and clear, "He's not sure." If he wanted you to come see him, yes, he would be very eager; but he's clearly exhibiting none of it. Reality is harsh, but you seem to fancy him more than he does you."

Friends talk and unless you actually see that hes been sending pics...you cant really accuse him of it. and promising the vacation doesnt mean anything..plans change, promises change, people change. I think he had a little toooo much fun in Vegas..but I'm just assuming so you cant take my words to heart. I've just heard a couple times before...Oh my phone died or I dont have my phone...everyone has their phone (yeah there are those occasions) but with him going silent after...makes me suspicious
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Posted by LostinmyMind11
I've just heard a couple times before...Oh my phone died or I dont have my phone...everyone has their phone (yeah there are those occasions) but with him going silent after...makes me suspicious



Exactly. I've never experienced disappearing acts w/ Virgos unless they are wary of you.

One thing you have to realize with Virgos is that they almost always agree with everything you ask of them; but half of the time, they don't mean anything by it and actually don't think much of it. They will agree, all the while, still take their time to make a decision about the request. So yes, even if he said yes to the vacation, in his mind, he is still deliberating whether he wants to go or not. In your case, it seems that he is pass-aggressively telling you he doesn't want to.
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Posted by LostinmyMind11
Yeah this has nothing to do with merc retro. sounds like what happens in Vegas...stays in Vegas :/
plus this...
"He is telling loud and clear, "He's not sure." If he wanted you to come see him, yes, he would be very eager; but he's clearly exhibiting none of it. Reality is harsh, but you seem to fancy him more than he does you."

Friends talk and unless you actually see that hes been sending pics...you cant really accuse him of it. and promising the vacation doesnt mean anything..plans change, promises change, people change. I think he had a little toooo much fun in Vegas..but I'm just assuming so you cant take my words to heart. I've just heard a couple times before...Oh my phone died or I dont have my phone...everyone has their phone (yeah there are those occasions) but with him going silent after...makes me suspicious



Got it, so it's not the mercury retrograde. Perhaps I will keep my distance from him. He is getting his last unemployment paycheck this month and I understand that money will become issue for him. Maybe that's why he's been reluctant about the vacation. He did say that we can hop on the plane tickets if we found a place to stay and I did find a place that we can stay at for free, but I guess he changed his mind regardless. I won't be bugging him about it anymore and I will be slowly backing off.
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Posted by LostinmyMind11
I've just heard a couple times before...Oh my phone died or I dont have my phone...everyone has their phone (yeah there are those occasions) but with him going silent after...makes me suspicious



Exactly. I've never experienced disappearing acts w/ Virgos unless they are wary of you.

One thing you have to realize with Virgos is that they almost always agree with everything you ask of them; but half of the time, they don't mean anything by it and actually don't think much of it. They will agree, all the while, still take their time to make a decision about the request. So yes, even if he said yes to the vacation, in his mind, he is still deliberating whether he wants to go or not. In your case, it seems that he is pass-aggressively telling you he doesn't want to.
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You're right. He does always agree with me on things and make promises but doesn't keep them half the time. I am starting to see the passive aggressive behavior. I have thought and decided to distance myself and just give him the space.