Virgo Thinking Process

I’ve recently broken up with my Virgo gf (we’re a same sex couple). Btw, her moon’s in Scorpio. I’m a Pisces sun, Virgo moon.

Anyway... my mental health started to take a toll on our relationship. We started to argue a lot towards the end. I’ve only decided to seek help, basically the day after I broke up with her. I just wanted to get things right with myself and I just didn’t want to hurt her anymore. I told her that once I get better, and if the timing was right, I would love for us to get back together. She says she has to think about it.

We’ve kept in touch via text since the break up. But she calls me up when she’s drunk, which i’m concerned about. She still says things like “make sure you eat properly”, and “drive safe”.

We had a really great relationship. She is by far the best partner I’ve ever had and she said the same thing also.

I just want to know what is the thinking process of a Virgo and how long does it usually take til they make a decision? I miss her so much and I really want another shot.

I don’t know if it means anything but she unfollowed me on Insta and removed myself, my friends and my sister of her following and followers list. I confronted her about and she said that she felt like she had to do it!!

What does that even mean? 😢

I asked her if she was trying to move on and she said that she didn’t mean it like that.

I dated the opposite sex he was the most complaining ungrateful person I ever met. He started to mentally drained me.

Posted by alexscaries

I have a scorpio moon and virgo rising. TBH it's all or nothing with me. I'm male so don't how much that plays a part. Virgos weigh up options and stick by them once they've made a decison it sounds like she's in the weighing up stage, with scorpio moon it's really deep and I'm sure for most scorp moons black and white, you'll know because she won't even be friends - I don't have any friends that are ex-girlfriends, but maybe it's different for her. The caregiver mentality is very virgoian, my scorp mentality is more like pushing people out of their comfort zone.

BTW the most important thing is that you are healthy and safe, not whether you are dating. But that's stating the obvious. From my experiences Pisceans don't stay single for long.

You’re an Aries sun Scorpio moon?

Posted by alexscaries

Posted by Sunsetvirgo

Posted by alexscaries

I have a scorpio moon and virgo rising. TBH it's all or nothing with me. I'm male so don't how much that plays a part. Virgos weigh up options and stick by them once they've made a decison it sounds like she's in the weighing up stage, with scorpio moon it's really deep and I'm sure for most scorp moons black and white, you'll know because she won't even be friends - I don't have any friends that are ex-girlfriends, but maybe it's different for her. The caregiver mentality is very virgoian, my scorp mentality is more like pushing people out of their comfort zone.

BTW the most important thing is that you are healthy and safe, not whether you are dating. But that's stating the obvious. From my experiences Pisceans don't stay single for long.

You’re an Aries sun Scorpio moon?

Yep. I'm Virgo rising and do have some Virgoian traits I can really relate to how harsh Virgos can be on themselves I did it all through my teens 😢

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Have you ever... dated a Virgo before? 👀 I’m trying to see somethin 👀

I don’t know what to do. So, she called me up in the middle of night after drinking by herself to say goodbye to me and that she doesn’t wanna get back together in the future. I don’t think she made a rational decision.

I’ve been msg’ing her and she’s been msg’ing me back. But I really don’t know if this is really it and if I should just move on...

Posted by greylatern

The cutting you off is a Scorpio thing not Virgo. She is hurting. A Virgo will watch over you even at a distance. It's her moon she is drunk. Drunk= poor mental & emotional filters.

That is the way she is feeling. What are the rest of both your placements? I'll give you credit for looking beyond the sun sign.

If you want her to wait for you and you must follow though. Tell her exactly what you are going to do with a respectable time table with update conversations. Virgos don't handle uncertainty well and that moon isn't ok with that either. She will help you though and hold you accountable. Minimal physical contact. So you don't slip into old patterns. if this was a long term relationship. Takes time to rewire yourself. Not easy or fun.

If this is not a good idea for you then do what you got to do and be honest with her about it. She will respect that at least. As a rule of thumb I don't mess around with Scorpios for this reason. Scorpios are ride or die in my experience. Great if your on board otherwise ya....

Honestly a shot in the dark: if you guys had a abusive relationship she should do a session or 2 as well for putting up with it.

MINE:

Sun - pisces

Moon - virgo

Mercury - pisces

Venus - aries

Mars - gemini

Jupiter - leo

Saturn - aquarius

Uranus - capricorn

Neptune - capricorn

Pluto - scorpio

AS - pisces



HERS: (she said she was born between 7-8pm and she said she’s pretty sure it’s 7:40pm so i went with that time)

Sun - virgo

Moon - scorpio

Mercury - libra

Venus - virgo

Mars - libra

Jupiter - sagittarius

Saturn - pisces

Uranus - capricorn

Neptune - capricorn

Pluto - scorpio

AS - libra

I hope this is what you meant by placements!

We didn’t have a physically abusive relationship. I became quite possessive for some reason and was easily triggered. It’s weird cause I wasn’t like this in previous relationships.

Other than that, we had such a passionate and loving relationship. Can confidently say she felt the same about our relationship.

I just hope she’ll be a bit more rational with her decision making, I think it would be a bit harsh to completely put a line through my name. And i feel like she would probably agree on this also.

Posted by greylatern

astro.com chart imagine is always better. Easier to see aspects and see the whole pie. My advice still stands. PM me about that last paragraph question if your uncomfortable answering it openly. Your not going to be able to work though and get past anything you can't admit to. Both of you. I'm not talking out of my ass either. It's from personal experience. Nor am I judging.

So, in a huge turn around...

We ended up calling each other a few times last night. I convinced her to change her mind. She wants to give it another go. I sent her lengthy messages after lengthy messages trying to reassure her that things would be different this time. Basically, I was honest and open and took full responsibility for the mistakes I had made.

I think she’s quite hesitant about her decision which I can understand, and to me it seems like she’s contemplating whether she’s making the right choice or not.

Also, since Feb we’ve been LDR but we had lived together for the past year prior to Feb. I’m going over on a visa in 4 weeks time to where she is. This was something we had planned for a long time now. Just it seems unvirgo like to throw away such plans but I think she probably feels guilty about it and was a factor in her changing her mind.