Virgo withdrawal

Him: Sun in virgo, moon in sagittarius, venus in libra
Me: Sun in pisces, moon in aries, venus in aries

Question: what do I do? What is it with this virgo-_-

Background:
It started with a facebook poke. I didn't remember him then but it turned out he was two years ahead of me in school. He reeled me in with his charm and subtle flirting. It didn't hurt that he told me he had a crush on me since I was in grade 2, which was just too cute.
We talked on/off for a year given that I was overseas then but when I got back home, we started a sort of text relationship. A first date later, we were a couple.

I love him, he pushed all the right buttons but I can't deal with his emotional detachment. The way he disappears for days without any??communication. He can be open about 'surface' topics but completely shuts down if I delve deeper.
He is disinterested in knowing things about me, I'm not sure if it's a lack of curiosity or just plain disinterest
He admits he has trust issues and that he's scared that down the road I'll leave him. If he does something wrong he'll be like, you hate me now or I know that you don't love me anymore..which starts me in a long session trying to reassure him.

These are all red flags and I told him we need to tackle this communication breakdown. He agrees then tells me he's busy with work or that he's in the middle of something which sounds like a brush off.

To be honest I got to the point where I was going to break-up with him, but his sister passed away. I've been supporting him with that and for a while we grew closer. Then he started withdrawing again with him finally cutting off communication and not responding to my text and phone calls.

I've had it, but I can't break up with him given that he's in a bad place now and there's a part of me that still holds on despite my disappointment..

What do I do?

Wait it out and you are possibly setting yourself up for disappointment later, but it could also work out. Or walk away. Those are pretty much your options.

run.
and never look back.

It was a good start. >_

I'm a Virgo sun, Sag mooner
How many calls and texts you sent everyday?
if you want to end it, do it! Save your heart for more heartaches.
Have you tried texting him in a funny way?
We love to laugh a lot so you should learn to handle it in a nice and funny manner.
Dont think he is not interested in knowing you coz I bet he remembers everything about you.
We have an elephant memory.
Come back here on your thread I might help you with your issues. 🙂

It has been a good start>__

Posted by virgosagscorpio
I'm a Virgo sun, Sag mooner
How many calls and texts you sent everyday?
if you want to end it, do it! Save your heart for more heartaches.
Have you tried texting him in a funny way?
We love to laugh a lot so you should learn to handle it in a nice and funny manner.
Dont think he is not interested in knowing you coz I bet he remembers everything about you.
We have an elephant memory.
Come back here on your thread I might help you with your issues. 🙂

Hiya🙂

Yeah funny texts are my signature..with him anyway. I don't know about you but he takes himself too seriously ALL THE TIME so its
just my way to 'lighten up' the conversation

Umm, we used to text almost everyday then he pulls off a houdini..That would throw me in a PANIC
When I "accepted" that it's just his way, I have to admit I cut back on the daily texts...sending funny facts and lunch reminders (because he skips meals) just seemed unwanted/unappreciated..whatever

Um, I'm weaning myself off him bit by bit, eventually by the time he resurfaces I can make a clean break.

Why can't first loves be last loves*sigh*

Ugh a serious Sag mooner...
IMO when I pull away it's because I'm deeply thinking about something.
Or I am confuse so I want to make a sound decision.
This Virgo man is hard to reach on an emotional level. He will not show it.
It's like "I can give you my heart but you can't own it"
Lots of space! This is a man who wants to have a relationship but is afraid of being in a relationship.
If he's ignoring you for quite a long time, move on!
You deserve better than that 🙂

What's his Mars placement?

Tell him you care about him and want to be with him but he is not holding up his end of the relationship. Tell him what you need from him to function in the relationship, do it in a practical unemotional manner, ask him can he do it for you or not. If no leave him

Posted by virgosagscorpio
What's his Mars placement?

Mars in virgo while mine is in gemini



Thanks yellow, that's what I'm doing now..giving him that space.
You're right hungvirgo, I need to start taking control but as yellow suggested I'll wait until he resurfaces