Virgo's and Jealously

Hi guys..I have a question..I have been dating a Virgo guy for two months and recently hahaha been showing signs of jealously, and slight possesiveness...Like he doesnt like when I dont answer my phone RIGHT when he calls,and he brings up comments that he has seen on my myspace and etc...Are Virgo's jealous?

I'm a Virgo woman, but I can say that YES!!! I AM JEALOUS!!!
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But only with someone I have a lot of feelings for. Otherwise I could care less what they do, where they go, or who they're with. Usually I'm just happy that they're off doing something else which means they're giving me some much needed SPACE. 🙂

When I feel for someone though, I'm naturally one dimensional & focused on that ***ONE*** person. It puts me at a disadvantage because I can't always see things clearly and get insecure. I know not everyone becomes as focused(& loyal), so I worry about them with other people.

Consider it a compliment. If he didn't like you he wouldn't look at your Myspace that closely & he sure as heck wouldn't be calling you. 😛

Do u think two months is too soon for someone to develop feelings?

Cause I really like him,but I question what I feel for him a nd what he might feel for me, with it being so early in the relationship...

Virgos aren't typically known to fall fast. According to most astrology sites & books we're non-emotional robots. lol But I have my moon in Aries which might account for me getting in too deep, too fast. I also can fall out of infatuation just as fast. But that's me. Not your boyfriend.

That being said, how fast someone can fall for another person is unique to each person.

Thats strange. I'm a Virgo female as well, and I'm told all too often that I am too distant. I don't know why he'd be showing those signs unless you're really TOO flirty. For me, it's like.. be with me or don't, but don't lead me on, you know? Generally, I can take it pretty easily when people don't want to be with me.

Kiss - you've never had feelings for someone to the point of being hurt? I can understand if they just dont want you what's the point . . . .

"Other than that, I don't really understand them from a relationship point of view."

i agree. even up to this age -- my age .. his age .. being friends with my virgo-ex .. i still hear his stories about his love life .. and upto now the same problem we had in our relationship before .. he experiences the same thing with all the women he have relationship with .. may it be older than him .. younger than him .. same age as him .. honestly speaking, he's so stubborn to know that the problem is not his girls .. it's his attitude .. the answer he keeps on searching for looking for waiting for is just right under his nose .. the change he is looking for wouldn't start from the world around him but from his ..

i wouldn't be surprised to know that they'll end up bachelors .. living life up to their standards and their own illusions .. building a castle made of sand and not bricks .. who never admit their own fault and be sorry for it and once they're sorry for it they'll intentionally do it again .. i even reached to the point of turning my back to him even as being a friend .. he's just so stubborn and hard-headed .. who doesn't need any advise and pity ..

they have been taken for granted by the one they love and who love them .. are not in good terms .. wishing and hoping for the stars to fall down their lap .. thinking that is their destiny .. which is to save the whole world by letting go of the one they love .. 'coz they think they can never make them happy .. 'coz they think that relationship should not have problems at all .. that in order to be happy one must have lots of money ..

when it is only the heart that one can see rightly .. and that the essence of love only has one meaning and one purpose .. which they fail to see ..

Thank u everybody...No,I'm not overly flirty...But we have been at the same place, but not together, and I get alot of attention, and he see's it, and has mentioned it. SO maybe that has something to do with it. Lately, he has expressed to me that he is very pleased with how I treat him andhe also asked me in so many words what why I wanted to see him, which I didnt answer, being a Cancer, direct questions make me somewhat uncomfortable.

Every time you speak, vgurl .. my mind always has to remind itself that you're talking about a different man and not mine, lol

Hey Softy .. long time since we've talked. I can tell you about my Virgo when it comes to jealousy and possessiveness. I've not experienced this with him, though, I've been told by his family that he displayed these mnay times with past girls, and at one point, early in our relationship, I asked him many times about it, since it was within his reputation to be this way .. but, there was no detection of it in his demeanor.

He says, he only acts this way when he doesn't get REAL attention .. let me explain. In other relationships, when this was prevalent, it was because the women were USING flirting with other men to try and play for his attention and he would freak out .. get jealous, get possessive because these girls weren't actually giving him the attention, rather, giving to others to play on his feelings. Whereas, with me, I don't do that, so I can't see this side of him.

It's all a matter of how they are treated. Say at a social gathering, if a man friend of mine came to one of our parties, I could hug him, we could put our arms around each other for hours .. nothing, no jealousy at all from my Virgo because he knows that I'm not doing this to get a reaction out of him, rather, because this man is a dear friend and nothing more.

It's likely that in the past, your Virgo has experienced women who USE the giving of attention to others to try and manipulate him into showing her more, and this is the reason for his attitude about it. But, once he realizes from his woman (you) that you aren't playing on his feelings by showing someone else attention .. he'll become his normal self and back down.

People have friends, both genders, and typically, the Virgo doesn't have an issue with this .. however, because the Virgo will carry past issues around like herpes, FOREVER (see vgurls post), then if he's experienced a woman who flirted with another person soley to make him jealous, then this is how he will handle future partners, until he realizes that you aren't like that.

You have to prove to him that you are true and not trying to "win" him over by giving others your attention. This jealousy and possessiveness only comes out in the Virgo when they think they have to fight and conquer .. the normal Virgo love, that isn't a contest, is normally very warm and peacefull and understanding of friendship

"I'm not overly flirty...But we have been at the same place, but not together, and I get alot of attention, and he see's it, and has mentioned it."


Softy .. just make sure he knows, by giving him all the attention he needs, that when you get this attention from others that he sees, that it's just you being friendly with your mates, and not for the sake of making a show for him to conquer you.

This is likely why he's upset .. he's probably trying to figure out whether you are just loved by alot of people, or whether you just him to think you are, so he will give more.

If a Virgo thinks he is being emotionally manipulated .. they will have a bad reaction to it .. so, just make sure he knows that you just have a lot of people in your life and that he is one of the most important ones.

Hi P-Angel..How are you?

Well here is the thing, we have not yet agreed to a monogamous or committed relationship. Although we have both said that we are not sleeping with anybody else. I think he likes the amount of attention I give him, but maybe he is insecure because I am not technically his girlfriend...I visited him last night, and he mentioned that he hoped I wouldnt ever talk to anybody at his college, because he doesnt want me to be a topic of discussion...Honestley, I dont why he acts that way...It's flattering to a degree...but then it makes me wonder if it can get worse...What I do like about him is that he is super affcetionate and treats me really well.

Well the thing is this, I do not do ANYTHING to try and make him jealous. I dont play those type games. That is the reason I posted the question, If I was doing things to make him jealous, then I would already know WHY he was behaving that way. Maybe there was a misunderstanding somewhere...

I'm not a disloyal person. I'm not seeing anyone else but him, I was just saying that we havent made a VERBAL COMMITMENT, and maybe that is why he gets jealous FOR NO REASON AT ALL..I like him, he knows I like him, and I show him in many ways how much I like him...so once again...I think there has been a misunderstanding of somewhat in one of my post,

And I was honest and SAID that I found it a liitle flattering, but ONLY because it shows that he cares somewhat. Let me get off this board and go to bed..goodnight

LOL..Okay. After reading it again, I didnt think u were trying to insult me..sometimes its hard to tell when your reading text. Thanks for your advice..