Virgos tell me what do i do?

Hi every and sweet Virgo people!
first telling my story with this virgo girl!

She a friend for 11 years and she was my crush for 7year during high school..
and somehow we did got together in some sense?
but somehow i don't know why.. maybe her shy attitude and emotionless reaction to things that i do to her..
made me feel not wanted? as in she don't like me?
and somehow i retreat.. even thou we had really wonderful chats and dates together... even on friends wedding we'r usually sharing a plate of food ourself...

but anyway this 6 months we haven't really had much chats or any form of communication. Even thou i did try, but her cold reaction to me was so.. hmm i don't know how to type it.. hope you people know 🙂

Anyway just yesterday we met up with 2 other friends for a gathering..
when i reach and says hi to everyone.. somehow i notice she had a deep look into my eyes. i was instantly melted.. but somehow it only lasted for 2 seconds? and she turn away..
Even thou my facial and outlook does not show i'm vexed for that.. but in my mind i'm keep thinking of her.
after 1hr or walk and chat.. we just did not talk and she aviod eye contact.
But luckily after many tries i did to talk to her.. we start conversing..

It's good.. all good.. but i can feel that.. we still had something.
and potential to be great lovers..
But.. her shy or her ways of not showing emotions..
Jus cant give me the drive to be assertive.
You know.. as a sag i am.. i dont like forcing people..
Yet she dosent give me any reaction.. i always felt that she dosent love me?
Or am i worrying to much and just go ahead?

anyway sorry if i had some bad English typed..!!

A Virgo doesn't know how to show you feelings inside of them without an example of yours to follow. She will remain to appear without emotions so long as you are distant and not expressive .. once you express how you feel about her, she will follow your lead and show you in the same way. This is the reason for the stare in your eyes .. if you are looking deep into hers, she will into yours back.

If you engage her in a walk, she will walk with you
If you engage her in a long conversations, she will talk with you
If you hold her hand, she will hold yours

If you don't lead her, she will stand emotionlessly still and await your lead ... and it has nothing to do with not being able to feel you, it has to do with not being able to know HOW to show it.

If you love her, and you think she loves you .... take the leap, reach out and show her how to love you back.

xross_S,

First of all: Do you really fall in & out of love so quickly?? That could be your problem!
On 3/18/2008 I was advising you about a Scorpio girl you were ga-ga about...

"i don't know why.. i'm so in love with this scorp lady.."

Now, just 10 days later, you're: "It's good.. all good.. but i can feel that.. we still had something. and potential to be great lovers.." about a Virgo girl...

Since you obviously can't make up your mind, let me do it for you: The Virgo Girl sees you as a Friend, and that's all. That's all it will ever be. Accept it.

You say yourself: "She a friend for 11 years and she was my crush for 7year during high school.."

She hasn't been waiting for you to express yourself, she's been quite clear about your status with her - but you're wanting to see and hear something else.

"...her shy attitude and emotionless reaction to things that i do to her.."

Yep, that's because you're in the Friend Box, and once we put you there, it takes a whole helluva lot to get you out...

Forget the Virg, and stick with the Scorp until she kicks your ass to the curb...

"goddammit! are virgo women really that bad?? you make them sound like voodoo dolls p-angel!"


Voodoo dolls and dollettes, Rox .. the response goes for both genders.

Ah Angelina, keep bangin' that same ol' drum, OK??

I guess it's a good thing that I married a Black Magic Woman...

I've got a black magic woman
Got me so blind I can't see
That she's a black magic woman
She's trying to make a devil out of me

Anyone who's been on DXP long enough, and has read any of Brandon's, DY's, Strings', 25thDecan's, or Ferghus' posts would know that Virgs don't wait around for anyone to tell us what to think or feel about anything.

A Virgo doesn't know how to show you feelings inside of them without an example of yours to follow.

Complete rubbish & utter nonsense! Truth: A Virgo won't show his/her true feelings to a liar or faker. My Scorp has encouraged me to be more comfortable expressing my emotions, but she never tells me which emotions I should express, and I sure as shit don't wait around for her to show me...

Dyr, it isn't rubbish .... you've been alive 4, nearly 5 decades, and had to shown how to express your emotions.

I'm not saying a handbook has to be written .. I'm saying you have to be lead .. such as you just validated.

A Virgo love is reflective .. you know that as much as I do, and if a person isn't leading then the Virgo can't reflect. I would suppose that a Virgo's biggest fear would be a faker and a liar then, wouldn't it?

What is rubbish is that this is the truth in which you cannot accept.

"Anyone who's been on DXP long enough, and has read any of Brandon's, DY's, Strings', 25thDecan's, or Ferghus' posts would know that Virgs don't wait around for anyone to tell us what to think or feel about anything."


Alright, I suppose my analogies were a bit literal .. however, when dealing with some minds, you have to be in order for them to grasp a concept, for they can't form a solid image ...

I don't mean that you guys don't know what to feel or think ... I mean that you have to be shown how to express this in a partnership. Just like you, you've been married, have had relations ... just like the others you've mentioned above .. when a new relationship starts, then whatever feelings you've had from past aren't carried forward, you have to wait until the current partner expresses their feelings about loving you, so you can reflect them back onto her.

That's how you work .. there's nothing wrong with being who you are.

hey everyone!! really thank you peeps for replying!!

hi P-Angel!!
first of all, i notice this.. after flashing back the times i had with her.. she usually like people to lead! and yea.. she'll keep wanting me to make decision on where to eat, where to walk where to date.. but somehow sometimes i'm just a Mr Anything.. haha.. this does frustrate her sometimes!
somehow i thank her for this.. she did change most of my indecisive traits away!

but well, Dyar- hi again!! anyway your right.. but well u know, it's hard to 4get someone i'm so into for so long.. and yea, theres times when i thought of what you said.. she just take me as a friend for now.. the ways she's been treating towards me is so different from the times when we'r so close.. really very very different.. she's cold towards me..
and sometimes it make me feel sad..
but i always rmb those happy times we had.. i rmb.. we'r both stuck on the bus-sheather in the 12midnight.. so endin up we'r chating and hugs frm the cold weather till 4am, and we ride back home..
loving the times where we got to share a box of ice-cream tgt in the mall, and having couple envying our non-couple ice-cream feast!
& ya "Scorp until she kicks your ass to the curb..." haha thats hmm!!

hiii Roxi again!
hahaha, sure i'll let you pinch, just not too hard!!
n thanks for the comment.. u look cute too!!



well somehow i find... if i'm set in her friend box.. why at times i cant sense that she's actually avoidng eye contact or even chats from me?

only after times i've tried.. she would reply.. and p-angel.. your lead talk.. hmm i realise.. sometimes when we'r only walkin side by side.. could feel that she trying to keep up my pace, when i've tried walkin faster in the crowds :X

Yes, Virgo love is reflective, but only in context - not in content. We're cautious, and we'll wait for the other to act before we do, but once we know the depth of the water, we'll wade in (yes, we'll have on a life jacket in a kiddie pool, and shark repellent in our utility belt, but we will take the plunge at some point!)...

If we didn't take love so seriously, we wouldn't be so lovable. Most people who truly love us do so because of our silly shit, not in spite of it...

"why at times i cant sense that she's actually avoidng eye contact or even chats from me?"

She doesn't want you to get - or keep getting! - the wrong idea. I have to watch myself around females, because sometimes what I regard as being nice / well-mannered / friendly gets read as something else by women who aren't used to that sensitivity in a man...

I think she likes you if she is avoiding eye contact and being shy especially around you.That's how I(virgo girl) act.I don't know her personality so I can't be sure.Why don't you try talking to her? She will open up.