What do I do? I'm A libra who rushed a Virgo

Recently July 9th my Virgo woman was down and out of luck, before July 9th three years of knowing each other without sex and becoming close friends with her kids father jumping in and out the mix she disappears for a month, its cool you get used to it. My problem is July 9th she calls and asks to talk, i wanted to be the typical Libra and be a dick and disappear as well. Only thing is something told me to hear her out, She tells me she has been avoiding me due to the fact her Kids father had moved in but they are not dating. Its cool what do you expect from a single mother understandable. She then tells me as she's crying that the father had turned down all the family pictures in the house and had sex with another woman in her bed, holy shit right. Then the Libra in me is alerting VULNERABILITY! Make it official. Then she feeds me all this positive information " you were always there for me giving me positive advice, i would call you would answer even if it were late and you had work in the morning." After this i couldn't help myself i asked if you feel that way towards me, why aren't we together. Then i finish off with I'm not going to be waiting for you to make up your mind you know who i am you visit my family when I'm not there. She says what we should get together now? I hesitated because it was getting real, before i could decide she says "See your not even ready." honestly i don't know who rushed who but i couldn't let this woman pass me up. we made it official. Just some background for you repliers.

I feel as like my other women she will fall out of love or i will.
I know us Libras are notorious for jumping in and out of relationships because we rush into them, but i want this one to work she is perfect for me.
I'm really working hard at taking my time with her, i just need additional advice on how to go about this the right way. By the way be mean, nice whatever you want just plz comment on the matter at hand thanks.

so what you're saying is, she's still in love with her baby daddy. i mean, was she crying because the virgo in her is really upset that some other woman's juices are on her 70 thread ct cotton sheets or is she wholly pissed because she thought that "daddy's home?"

she may indeed like you, but i find it odd that she would reach out to you while this man is in her house and after he's clearly moved on. ever think that you're "payback?"

you said that dude had been in and out of her life over the past 3 years. could it be that this is another attempt to get him back "in?"

and the notion that they're living together, have 3 kids and they're not fucking or have fucked...libra is definitely not the sign of intelligence.

Ok you hit it the nail right on the head Caligula, Im not going to say were not intelligent, more stubborn if you ask me. Like i said im looking to keep her not let her go.

To answer your question shes upset because a woman were in her bed and she hasn't been home since @ Caligula As well she is stucked with him until her lease is up.

you said he moved in...implying it's HER place.

at the end of the day, you want to keep her despite the fact that she's most likely using you and unfortunately, i don't know how to give anti-advice.

luckily she's a virgo and there are plenty in this forum that can give you just what you need.

LMAO @ 70 thread count cotton sheets !!!

Good looking out Decan.

What the hell are you doing?

This is why I see so many Libra guys getting into fucked up situations and getting screwed. You guys don't think. Not with the right head, anyway.

You're a rebound, honey. It's plain as day. Why the hell would you sloppily jump into something like this? Quit trying to be a stupid rescuer and pay attention to the obvious.

Oh yeah, you aren't doing the whole jumping in fast and booking it later. Of course you'd think that right now. You think you're into this bitch. The reality is that you're in "I'm the shoulder to cry on" mode and you think you want this with her.

Overall, one of you is going to get hurt. Either you're going to run away or you're going to get burned because this bitch still has an ex way too involved in her life atm.

Run, Forrest, run.

Posted by Bigbear17
Ok you hit it the nail right on the head Caligula, Im not going to say were not intelligent, more stubborn if you ask me. Like i said im looking to keep her not let her go.

You're not being stubborn, you're being stupid.

I've got a Libra friend who did something similar to this. Knocked up some bitch, moved her in a week later, and married her within a year. We all warned him that he shouldn't marry her considering how many issues they had (and he deserved better).

Cue 4 years later, he's essentially homeless. Why? She's that much of a conniving bitch and it was the only way he could get away from her.

All because he stupidly married her because he was in love with her vagina. The warning signs were there, he just ignored them like an idiot.

You totally remind me of this guy. Don't be stupid. The red flags are already here. Why are you gonna take on some crazy baggage like that?

This is why I don't mind Libra's indecisiveness sometimes. Because when they rush in without thinking something over, omg, what the hell are they thinking??

I've seen this happen like 57835487 times with the ones that I've known.

Dont you think if she were over her baby daddy she would have been cordial w/ him around their kid and that would have been the extent of that... but to be so cordial as to let him move back in? Um yeah... she was prolly hoping for something more.

Theres something else goin on that shes not telling you. You dont wanna b part of a love triangle do you Libra? I dont think she sounds perfect for you because first she needs to sort her situation out. Then maybe the puzzle pieces would fit.