Broken-hearted Libra woman over Virgo man #1

If anyone has advice or perspective about my recent relationship with a Virgo man I would really appreciate it. I am absolutely heart broken and having trouble processing this whole thing. Here's the story: I met "Mike" online in December. He has a high pressure job, 36, divorced, no children. We instantly hit it off and began texting and calling each other constantly. He even e-mailed me on a vacation he took shortly after we started communicating. I maintained my distance at first, due to concerns over his divorce (only less than a year ago). Still, we began going on dates and were out late every time just talking, laughing, etc...I had not met anyone in a long time who I got along with so well, like we had known each other for years. There were no issues, arguments, drama, etc...just good times. We had some scheduling problems because he has a complicated work schedule and we live two hours from each other, but both of us were dealing with it. He was as into the relationship as I was and I gradually let my guard down. In fact, he would joke about me kicking him to the curb. We went out about seven times through February and the last time we went out we had a great dinner. He told me how much he liked me and things were going in the right direction. We joked about one of us moving in the future, who could change jobs, etc....So, he dropped me off at my house and drove home two hours. Something changed then....

The next day he described himself as having trouble letting go of some of the things we talked about, ex. distance, moving, etc....We continued to talk the next day and he admitted he might have gotten "spooked". By the weekend we had a talk and he said he needed time to get things straight. Time by himself to figure things out. He said he had feelings for me and that he wasn't done for good, but wanted to put things on hold and come back to them when his head was right. So, I pushed through and tried to make him still talk to me through the next two weeks. Repeatedly he told me that he had feelings for me but couldn't give me what I want or deserve right now--a relationship. He said we have a future, just not right now. He texted me on Valentine's Day that he was thinking about me, we started talking again and made plans to see each other. He ended up legitimately having to work, but I was freaked out and texted him quite a bit about what his problem was, etc....I had been pushed to that because of all of the back and forth.

He already told you, clearly.

For the fact that you cannot handle that he needs time to himself to figure out his life at the moment .. doesn't mean he has a problem, it means you have a problem in being able to handle it.

A person is suppose to THINK about what they are doing in life, rather than just jump head first regardless of the consequences ... and at this point in the relationship he needs to think his way through his choices.

Being a Libra, I would have thought that you would get that.

It looks like you would rather try to force him into making rash decisions ... and that is so unlike any Libra I know. So, I want to know what is your problem?

The title of this thread says you are broken-hearted .. what the hell does that mean? He hasn't broken up with you, he hasn't done anything to hurt you at all .. so why are you being so dramatic in the titling of this thread?

In the title of this thread .... what do you mean by #1 ?

#1 MEANS POST 1 AS IN I WILL POST THE SECOND HALF OF THE STORY IN A NEW THREAD (HENCE #2 IN THE TITLE OF HER SECOND THREAD). DAMN.

Look .. the cunt who talks to me rather than addressing any issues is back.

Posted by P-Angel
Look .. the cunt who talks to me rather than addressing any issues is back.

The last thing anyone around here needs is your rude imput you wrinkled biatch. Why don't you leave this for Virgos or for people who can actually deliver some advice/suggestions with a little compassion. LMFAO.

Thanks for that Virgo Vixxxen. This is hard enough for me and I honestly was just looking for input, minus the judgements. I don't need anyone's harshness right now, as you noted.

amysue38,

I know this is hard but you are going to have to cease and desist all contact with him. He made it very clear that he is not ready for a relationship right now and if he feels as though you are pressuring him, you could quite possibly blow any chances for a potential relationship down the line. From the changing of pictures on his profile, seems like he just wants to have fun right now and is not yet ready for a committed relationship (and he knows that you are). From this point on, I would suggest that you take his advice and go on with your life. I know it's easier said than done but, in the end you will realize that it was much better to move on versus continuing to waste emotional, psychological (etc), energy on someone who cannot give you what you want/need.

Posted by amysue38
Thanks for that Virgo Vixxxen. This is hard enough for me and I honestly was just looking for input, minus the judgements. I don't need anyone's harshness right now, as you noted.

No problem amysue38. She's a bitch and treats every single female looking for advice about Virgo men this way every single time they come to the board. Like wtf? You would think she would give the Virgos a chance to chime in but nooooooooooooooooooooo...she's propped herself up as the official Virgo spokesperson. *rolls eyes* I don't think she realizes that people are more receptive to 'hard truth' if it's dispensed with a little compassion. They are able to digest it better and don't have to feel so shitty about themselves after the fact.

In any event, good luck to you and keep your head up. Time is a great healer and things will become more clearer/easier for you as the hours pass, and try not to give him everything you've got. In other words, never make a man your sun, your moon and your stars.

Posted by VirgoVixxxen

Posted by P-Angel
Look .. the cunt who talks to me rather than addressing any issues is back.

The last thing anyone around here needs is your rude imput you wrinkled biatch. Why don't you leave this for Virgos or for people who can actually deliver some advice/suggestions with a little compassion. LMFAO.

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LMFAO!!!!(Rolling icon).....