What does the virgo man wants out of a relationship—

Met this virgo man 2 months ago and it was great at first. He was the perfect gentleman and man a woman could wish for. It quickly changed to being demanding, insecure, critical and immature but according to him, those are my flaws not his. He doesnt apologize when he's wrong, disappears often without warning, bails on our plans..hes basically a moody 14 yr old girl on her period. He says he wants one thing but when i give it to him he doesnt care and gives me the silent treatment. I feel his constantly pushing my boundaries to test me. I made some mistakes and let my guards down, tried opening up to him, tried to communicate but he shuts down completely almost everytime. I thought he was serious about me, met some of his family and friends, he opened up to me, like raw emotions and full on crying session where i just tried to comfort him. Then boom shut down and push away again. I dont understand this man. One minute hes the most honest, open, soft, romantic, caring, emotional guy, the next he's the coldest, most rude, self centered, self pittying, distant a**hole u could meet. What the f- does he want— Im way too sensitive to keep my calm and not care and we get into fights where i am always wrong of course! Says he never wants to speak to me again, blocks me on social media but contacts me 2 days later to get a letter he left. Not his clothes, brand new hat but a letter! I kept my calm this time, i offered to meet up to give him his letter. He said he would confirm if he could but never texted back, this was tonight. He's been texting me for two days about this effin letter and now he cant text back— WHAT DO U WANT VIRGO MAN—!!! I feel he wants to test my loyalty to him and how i handle different situations but he's pushing me away. I know when i see him he will smile and i will melt but i want and will be strong and stand my grounds, u bow down to me now, u show me ur worth it. I dont even know if he wants to get back together but judging by his retreival of a letter bs texts, he wants to test the grounds but i am firm and do not engage in conversations, i am straight to the point, no frills, no i miss u, no emotions. Im sick of these mind games. I need to love fully and express it to my partner, i thought by what he said that he wanted the same but he acts the opposite. Again, what the heck does a virgo man want or need out of a relationship?

You ever see hellraiser? You notice that puzzle box?
Some Virgo men are just like that puzzle box.
Some can survive hell some cannot.
You have already admitted you are too sensitive.
So let him go. Ignore. Block. Move to a foreign country.

Lol yeah im about to move. Thing is i dont tolerate this in anyone i meet, ever. But with him, i tolerate stuff i never imagined i could because when he's good, he's the man of my dreams but when he's bad, he's freddy krueger lol yeah time to let this one go but im still curious as to who he is truly and what he wants. Ahh i feel with virgos its u love to hate them!

You have to be willing to go through their obstacle course for some. And that may be due to past hurt, cautiousness. Speculation whether you are what they think you to be.
I don't think very many ppl make it.

Thats the inigma. He wants someone who isnt heartless like he once said but he doesnt deal with emotions like he also said. so he wants a woman with a huge heart who doesnt show it too much or talks about anything emotional but once in a while he'll get super emotional himself and romantic as hell and im what, supposed to be unimpressed and not show it's what i wanted all along? Always play it cool so i dont scare mr pms away? I feel like shaking him and tell him to wake up and make up his mind! Lol

I'm not a Virgo- But i'll give you my perspective on what they want....

Most Virgos have already chosen their preferred partner, a long time ago.

From what the person looks like on a physical level- spiritually, emotionally, mentally...Everything- is all pre conceived, and again- was done so, a long time ago.

Either you meet their ideal- or you don't.

If you don't- that is when you receive the the renowned criticism Virgos are known for, in the field they feel doesn't meet their specific ideals.

All you can do, is invest time getting know the person, and take control of the situation if you feel like they forcing you into their personal ideal mold.

Anyhow to digress...

I'm curious!

I find it interesting, that he broke his silence...not to meet up with you to get his personal belongings from your house...But to get this letter. Clearly there is some sort of significant value to this letter.

What's in it? Can you share? O please share! :p

Hahaha yes i will share. It's a work related letter he has to turn in but its been at my house for weeks. I reminded him of this about a week before we stopped talking and he wasnt very interested in getting it. I know its an excuse to get in touch with me but he doesnt follow through and come meet me to get his precious letter lol i think he might be scared be ause im not responding to him the way i used to, his hold on me is gone and he told me when we first met that he was intimidated by me so i became softer and more attentive to his needs. Now im back to my true self and projecting alot of self confidence. Anyways its what i think anyways, what do u think?

so its another test to see if im gonna jump or a lame excuse to open a dialogue?

Posted by Leogurl
Met this virgo man 2 months ago and it was great at first. He was the perfect gentleman and man a woman could wish for. It quickly changed to being demanding, insecure, critical and immature but according to him, those are my flaws not his. He doesnt apologize when he's wrong, disappears often without warning, bails on our plans..hes basically a moody 14 yr old girl on her period. He says he wants one thing but when i give it to him he doesnt care and gives me the silent treatment. I feel his constantly pushing my boundaries to test me. I made some mistakes and let my guards down, tried opening up to him, tried to communicate but he shuts down completely almost everytime. I thought he was serious about me, met some of his family and friends, he opened up to me, like raw emotions and full on crying session where i just tried to comfort him. Then boom shut down and push away again. I dont understand this man. One minute hes the most honest, open, soft, romantic, caring, emotional guy, the next he's the coldest, most rude, self centered, self pittying, distant a**hole u could meet. What the f- does he want— Im way too sensitive to keep my calm and not care and we get into fights where i am always wrong of course! Says he never wants to speak to me again, blocks me on social media but contacts me 2 days later to get a letter he left. Not his clothes, brand new hat but a letter! I kept my calm this time, i offered to meet up to give him his letter. He said he would confirm if he could but never texted back, this was tonight. He's been texting me for two days about this effin letter and now he cant text back— WHAT DO U WANT VIRGO MAN—!!! I feel he wants to test my loyalty to him and how i handle different situations but he's pushing me away. I know when i see him he will smile and i will melt but i want and will be strong and stand my grounds, u bow down to me now, u show me ur worth it. I dont even know if he wants to get back together but judging by his retreival of a letter bs texts, he wants to test the grounds but i am firm and do not engage in conversations, i am straight to the point, no frills, no i miss u, no emotions. Im sick of these mind games. I need to love fully and express it to my partner, i thought by what he said that he wanted the same but he acts the opposite. Again, what the heck does a virgo man want or need out of a relationship?

He sounds awful. Why even put any more energy into it? Why do you want him?

Im not sure tbh. I have this problem where i imagine everyone is redeemable and deserves a chance to make it right. I know he has a heart and he feels very deeply but its locked away most of the time and it bugs me i cant get to it. Its there but i cant reach it. It drives me nuts. Im just being straight to the point with him now, he wants to talk, tells me whats new with him but i dont bite, i dont even aknowledge the "changes" in his life, i just want him to get his stuff, give me back mine and get out of my life once and for all. Hes giving me the silent treatment again but i dont bite to that either, i see right through him and i honestly cant care anymore so i leave him to be. He'll be back to texting me soon i know but i just want to get it over with. For someone who wants a loyal, honest, respectful partner he sure as hell cant provide it to his. Shame, hes an amazing guy when he wants to be, or feels confident to be..

Thanks TrueFantasy! i do deserve better and will get better. Its just frustrating to have all u wanted in front of u but have 40,000 locks on it with an electric fence.

I guess i just wished i could get some insight into the virgo's mind to figure him out and unlock the goodness.

Thank you princesslouise 🙂 thats very sweet

His birthday is sept 9

@TrueFantasy i don't. What is needed to get a chart?

Thanks! So mine is:

Zodiac : Tropical
Sun Leo 10°18'
Moon Pisces 1°52'
Mercury Leo 23°59' R
Venus Cancer 0°20'
Mars Leo 5°30'
Jupiter Aquarius 12°17' R
Saturn Scorpio 21°31'
Uranus Sagittarius 14°08' R
Neptune Capricorn 1°16' R
Pluto Scorpio 2°04'
Lilith Taurus 6°50'
Asc node Taurus


His is:

Zodiac : Tropical
Sun Virgo 16°53'
Moon Capricorn 21°35'
Mercury Libra 9°50'
Venus Libra 26°10'
Mars Leo 4°49'
Jupiter Libra 13°25'
Saturn Libra 9°38'
Uranus Scorpio 26°37'
Neptune Sagittarius 22°07'
Pluto Libra 22°51'
Lilith Scorpio 28°18'
Asc node Leo

Yeah he's messed up and not worth my time.

I find it funny coz it's the 2nd virgo i meet and it ends this way. The first one i still think about once in a while. We were close friends for a year, always flirting then we hooked up. Something tragic happened in his life and i tried to be there for him but he shut me out completely and we stopped talking. I always thought of him as the one who got away. Once in a while he'll pop up ask how im doing and thats it. If i meet another virgo ill be very careful not to invest any feelings lol

Posted by Leogurl
Met this virgo man 2 months ago and it was great at first. He was the perfect gentleman and man a woman could wish for. It quickly changed to being demanding, insecure, critical and immature but according to him, those are my flaws not his. He doesnt apologize when he's wrong, disappears often without warning, bails on our plans..hes basically a moody 14 yr old girl on her period. He says he wants one thing but when i give it to him he doesnt care and gives me the silent treatment. I feel his constantly pushing my boundaries to test me. I made some mistakes and let my guards down, tried opening up to him, tried to communicate but he shuts down completely almost everytime. I thought he was serious about me, met some of his family and friends, he opened up to me, like raw emotions and full on crying session where i just tried to comfort him. Then boom shut down and push away again. I dont understand this man. One minute hes the most honest, open, soft, romantic, caring, emotional guy, the next he's the coldest, most rude, self centered, self pittying, distant a**hole u could meet. What the f- does he want— Im way too sensitive to keep my calm and not care and we get into fights where i am always wrong of course! Says he never wants to speak to me again, blocks me on social media but contacts me 2 days later to get a letter he left. Not his clothes, brand new hat but a letter! I kept my calm this time, i offered to meet up to give him his letter. He said he would confirm if he could but never texted back, this was tonight. He's been texting me for two days about this effin letter and now he cant text back— WHAT DO U WANT VIRGO MAN—!!! I feel he wants to test my loyalty to him and how i handle different situations but he's pushing me away. I know when i see him he will smile and i will melt but i want and will be strong and stand my grounds, u bow down to me now, u show me ur worth it. I dont even know if he wants to get back together but judging by his retreival of a letter bs texts, he wants to test the grounds but i am firm and do not engage in conversations, i am straight to the point, no frills, no i miss u, no emotions. Im sick of these mind games. I need to love fully and express it to my partner, i thought by what he said that he wanted the same but he acts the opposite. Again, what the heck does a virgo man want or need out of a relationship?

Yikes, why even bother? That sounds ridiculous.

May have missed it, have you been intimate?

This doesn't sound like the Virgo guys that I know. Do not pamper earth signs. Sorry, but I think when you do, it's seem as weakness and they walk all over you.

OP,

You have moon in Pisces. Stop trying to save everyone as it won't work. You'll just get walked over as you have been for the last two months. I have Pisces moon. If it's like this with him now and it's only been two months then how the fuck is it going to change or get any better? Answer: it won't. Cut him off and find someone else who isn't a retard. Two months is a good amount of time to have seen what he's like. Just because you started dating it doesn't mean it's going to work out from day one. Thank him for his time and say goodbye.