what makes you jelly...?

yes I am asking this question... Even if you virgo's are the cool, calm and collected of the bunch. Does anything make you jealous in a relationship? Just curious! Thanks my peeps!

Posted by CancerMoon
Alot of things make us jealous. We just don't show it.

i dont think virgo is a jealous sign i dont get jealous easily and the virgos i know dont either we see it as a sign of weakness lmao.

Posted by Shaka_laka_boomboom
Why you ask? you want to use certain information to manipulate him? 😛

maybe...maybe not...maybe... Haha actually I really am JUST wondering. Being a scorpio, we tend to be naturally jealous. My bf is a virgo, and he simply just laughs when we kid around about stuff. Nothing seems to affect him. So yea... Just curious. 🙂

well if you're the only one... What makes you jealous— Lol

Posted by LeGendary ViRGo

i dont think virgo is a jealous sign i dont get jealous easily and the virgos i know dont either we see it as a sign of weakness lmao.

I would say excessive jealousy or when its unjustified is weak, but jealousy is an emotion and any emotion used improperly can be bad and perceived as weak.

Posted by sweetscorpio84

maybe...maybe not...maybe... Haha actually I really am JUST wondering. Being a scorpio, we tend to be naturally jealous. My bf is a virgo, and he simply just laughs when we kid around about stuff. Nothing seems to affect him. So yea... Just curious. 🙂

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When a situations comes and jealousy arrives, there is a 3 way scenario that comes to mind.

Lets say he sees you with one of your male friends. And you two are talking and laughing, and maybe a little flirting. And it bothers him...
A. (Light Jealousy, and more often the virgo path) To brush it off or just rationalize it away. Which does show great emotional strength and control, but to me is one of the weaker options.
B. (Moderate Jealousy) Walk over there and ask to speak to you privately and address that he doesn't like what your doing and that it bothers him. Act maturely motivated by jealously.
C. (Excessive Jealousy) Either blow up in both of your faces or find a girl and try to make you jealous. Both pretty pathetic even if justified.

But to stop with my lecture and answer your questions
Do we get jealous? Yes
How to make us jealous? Pretty much the standard things that make any guy jealous

Just because we don't display emotions as often as everyone else doesn't mean we feel or display them differently... Just not as often. 😛

Doing something with someone else, that you won't do with me.

Example, making a fuss and a scene just to hug someone you have not seen in a while and never doing so with me.

hmm... I haven't tried anything. At least not yet bc I don't really care to. But he always tries to make me jealous... Even if we're just kidding. I've just grown to playing it off... Even if it bothers me. May I ask another question?? Mostly for male virgos... If your friends are kidding around telling you how 'whooped' you are... Is it naturally in you to try to display behavior that would prove them wrong? He's kind of being an ass... For lack of a better word. I just don't understand how he says 'he loves me and wants to marry me' etc etc... And has minimized his attention on me these last few days. What gives?! You virgos are confusing...

I don't know much about Virgo women, but from the several Virgo men in my life, I've noticed their response to jealousy is to internalize it. They'll feel jealous, but won't acknowledge that sentiment to their parter, or even sometimes to themselves.
As rational as they are, their jealousy can make them feel stupid as they realize how it can derive from a place of immaturity. Thus, they almost feel defeated/dejected from feeling jealous.

Really, they have a difficult time processing emotions since emotions are a psychological occurrence that escape thought and logic. Being all about logic, imagine how scary it is for them to be faced with something that they can't think through! They can try to rationalize why they SHOULDN'T feel a certain way, but rationality doesn't apply to feelings, so they feel them regardless, and compounded, is their feeling of frustration that they weren't able to rationalize their feelings.

Posted by Cajunspirit
Doing something with someone else, that you won't do with me.

Example, making a fuss and a scene just to hug someone you have not seen in a while and never doing so with me.

This is important...must lock that in my brain for future reference, never thought of that but can see how annoyed he would get..Thanx!

Virgos don\'t feel jealousy they feel rejection.

Rejection forces a Virgo to try harder because he does not become possessive of the person he becomes obsessed with himself. This obsession is an imaginary standard he draws upon himself to meet the needs of the person he is with and the people he is around. His insecurity is magnified into a dilemma where a the partner cannot understand because the partner thinks the Virgo is rejecting her when he is only rejecting himself, which leaves the other party confused.

^ This is the problem that occurs 90% of the time with a virgo-male and/or virgo-female.

As the Virgo loses focus of his confidence (Virgos are highly confident people, so don\'t be fooled), he is left to squander his emotional grip, and he is left to make irrational decisions. I will tell you of an analogy between a pinata breaking in the air and the Virgos emotions.

Once his emotions has finally shattered like that of a pinata, he will try his best to capture all the pieces before it hits the ground (or reach the surface *as in to be shown for people to acknowledge*), and as hes running around in circles trying to save all the pieces, there will be many parts that touch the surface to be exposed.

Sounds bad, but its far more than bad its great >=D

Take a look at GG allin, he knew all.

wow! So much insight...man I love you guys... Even when you confuse the heck out of me. I have to step outside of the box to be able to understand how you are not as connected to your emtions as I am. My life revolves around my feelings and doing everything passionately... It's like a color talking to black and white... Does that make sense?

Posted by sweetscorpio84
wow! So much insight...man I love you guys... Even when you confuse the heck out of me. I have to step outside of the box to be able to understand how you are not as connected to your emtions as I am. My life revolves around my feelings and doing everything passionately... It's like a color talking to black and white... Does that make sense?

It makes sense to me, but maybe because I speak in color, too. And I don't just mean 'colorful language.' 😉

Posted by TheLadySagittarius
This is important...must lock that in my brain for future reference, never thought of that but can see how annoyed he would get..Thanx!

Scorpio and Sagittarius women have been guilty of this in my life.

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Posted by TheLadySagittarius
This is important...must lock that in my brain for future reference, never thought of that but can see how annoyed he would get..Thanx!

Scorpio and Sagittarius women have been guilty of this in my life.

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It changes a bit once you've been with someone a long time. With the right person, you just know you have a strong foundation to express yourself from, and that if your partner is showing affection to a friend, it doesn't take away from your relationship. But it takes time and a good relationship to get to that point.

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Posted by wgamador
I dont show my jealousy to its full extent. Unlike my Aries babe, who tries to hide it, but still shows it externally.
I get jealous when I feel a vibe or can see what the slick bastard is truly up to when he is talking to her.

But i learned from very early on....if you want to be with a beautiful woman, you need to control jealous emotions because, she will get attention regardless of wether you are there or not. Its the price one has to pay for being with a precious flower.

So for me, show me that you and some guy are 'vibing' and I will get jealous and probably will alienate myself for a brief moment only to remind myself that my job is never done and I should re-enforce my affection for you.

This is me. Now, if she does things to make me jealous or tends to do things that are disloyal...DELETED. why? Because she enjoys attention from others more than being loyal....LOL.

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lmfao ur funny and cool 25th i respect you and ur honesty.

Posted by sorti-fantastic poney
Rejection forces a Virgo to try harder because he does not become possessive of the person he becomes obsessed with himself. This obsession is an imaginary standard he draws upon himself to meet the needs of the person he is with and the people he is around. His insecurity is magnified into a dilemma where a the partner cannot understand because the partner thinks the Virgo is rejecting her when he is only rejecting himself, which leaves the other party confused.

^ This is the problem that occurs 90% of the time with a virgo-male and/or virgo-female.

So Sorti, how can I turn this around if it happens? How will I know the difference if its him or me?

Well, would you tell her? Give her a chance to explain? Suppose I don't realize what I did, like Cajun's statement above. I wouldn't necessarily have picked up on that being an issue.

Posted by wgamador
I dont show my jealousy to its full extent. Unlike my Aries babe, who tries to hide it, but still shows it externally.
I get jealous when I feel a vibe or can see what the slick bastard is truly up to when he is talking to her.

But i learned from very early on....if you want to be with a beautiful woman, you need to control jealous emotions because, she will get attention regardless of wether you are there or not. Its the price one has to pay for being with a precious flower.

So for me, show me that you and some guy are 'vibing' and I will get jealous and probably will alienate myself for a brief moment only to remind myself that my job is never done and I should re-enforce my affection for you.

This is really good! My ex (Scorpio) would get so jealous and would tend to blame it on me even when it was no fault of my own. As a person you can't help who might be looking at you or trying to talk to you. Now if they are getting inappropriate then of course you should let them know to stop and tell them you are with someone. I wouldn't even pay no mind to anyone trying to look or talk to me but I would still receive the blame when what he really should have done is what you said at the end and that is to re-enforce his affection for me but he would do the opposite and it made the chasm between us widen over time. I used to be more jealous when I was younger but then I realized that I had nothing to be jealous about b/c if I am not enough for someone then I am not with the right person. I feel secure in who I am now and yes, I may get a pang of jealousy here and there but I know that I am of value and as long as the person I am sharing myself knows this then I don't have anything to worry about! I just wish more people realized what you pointed out wgamador and just reinforced in each other the positive and loving feelings for each other!
😄

Posted by sweetscorpio84
wow! So much insight...man I love you guys... Even when you confuse the heck out of me. I have to step outside of the box to be able to understand how you are not as connected to your emtions as I am. My life revolves around my feelings and doing everything passionately... It's like a color talking to black and white... Does that make sense?

No, its more like you, a single shade of colour, is talking to an entire color chart, us. Does this scenario make sense?

Posted by TheLadySagittarius


So Sorti, how can I turn this around if it happens? How will I know the difference if its him or me?

From what i know, Virgos never blame the other party, unless in a debate or competition, for something they think is their fault, so you just have to make him realize that life isn't so serious, but the best way are jokes...

If you know a virgo, they love laughing at anything even at the most mundane crap to the most obscene crap. If he is able to know that you can be a woman he can open himself too without feeling that he must act like a true "Man's-man" then you are golden, and you'll notice he'll be telling you crap that not even you were noticing.

Aries women have the most difficulty when it comes to allowing a virgo to open up. *waits for a response*

Posted by 25thDecan
Yes, I would. I'm past silently letting things spiral into resentment. But, if its in her nature to simply be a disloyal person...ie...doing things with/for others that she wouldn't with me, id tell her and get rid of her when I do.

I can totally see your point here. This happened to me, but with a scorpio male, and he would purposely try his best to make me jelly by doing things with other girls he wouldn't do with me. Jerk face. Anyway... Things as such are a deal breaker. Well said, sir.