What would you do?

I have a serious problem. All advice will be appreciated. I love a girl but she dumped me. A year ago. I still love her. She moved on. I'm a Virgo, she is a Pisces. We are gay. Are you hanging in with me on this? I do need advice... Please refrain from trying to give me any of the macho B/S advice. Any real heart's that appreciate love- please advise. I miss her. She moved on. What I want to know is why she as a Pisces told me (Virgo) that I was her greatest love ever but yet, she left me for someone (her ex) like I was nothing. She wouldn't talk to me or give me any kind of truth. I was done to her. I loved her. I think she's just a bitch!
Then, I think about how we loved each other. It wasn't fake. When did she become fake? When my bank account didn't buy her that new car or her classes to become a massage therapist? Am I better off without her? Good question. Advice please?

Hi! I am a cancer male and my virgo boyfriend dumped me too for someone else. It's been 5 months now. I loved him with my whole heart and soul - Oh my God! I thought I would never get over him and move on. But when the dust settles and time does heal all wounds, I realized that I am the one with the capacity to love, sustain, committ and why deprive myself of meeting someone who loves and respects these elements. I will always care for my ex - but I would NEVER want him back. In my heart, He lost more than I did. You know how gay life can be - it's very difficult. Hang in there honey - and remember leopards don't change their spots, they just move them. You derserve better, as I do. Be strong and move on with your life. Keep in touch!

It is always difficult to detach yourself and look at a past relationship as past when your feelings are still in the midst of it...

But, if your ex went back to a former then she has not evolved to the extent that she is worthy of you...going back always means they have too many unresolved issues...going backwards is not where it is at..going forwards...now that is where the kings and queens and the wizards live far as I can tell...but, it can be a magical place...just give it a chance...

Thank you both for your advice and it really does make sense. I need to stop romanticizing something that is past and look forward to my future. I have met someone new and she is awesome and really cares for me. I'm hesitant to let her in my life. It's easier to be self sufficient. In my opinion... I'm not willing to give up my heart? Not just that, I can't afford a new girlfiend. I only make barely enough to cover my own a** from week to week. I truly cant "wine and dine." She's sweet but...I have to be my own life support. After-all, I wasnt good enough for my last girlfriend and I nearly went busted dating her. I made much more money then. When will I find a lady that wont cost me my survival? Just any dumb a** who allow's themself to be used question...I'm so sick of it.

Why don't you just try to be friends, noboby have to know you are crazy about her and its more fun being friends. Just be her friend you will learn more by beening that.

..but it's so hard being friends after you've been betrayed as a lover. I, myself, was so in love with my boyfriend, and I got dumped for someone else. He didn't want to "lose me" as a friend, but I cut off everything - friendship - everything! There is alot more involved than just that he met someone else - alot of emotions - and some lies involved. I don't play games, and I just wanted all that gone - and find someone who will appreciate and respect me. So, No - it's very difficult to be friends with an ex who betrayed you, why would you want to anyway?

I don't want to be friends with my ex. I agree with the last posting. Why have her new relationship (or her new rekindled relationship with her ex) thrown in my face. I would resent her and that would not make for a good friendship. Truthfully, I am crazy about my new girlfriend. I'm just scared of getting hurt again. I know that my new girl is different and she is so wonderful. I think she could be my soul mate. She has patience and is very honestly quite sweet. I told her that I love her today and she told me that she loves me too. Were going to take it slow but we were friends for several months before the sparks ever got ignited. Now we want to be together or we miss each other- a lot! She and I know each other and enjoyed our friendship and that will only get stronger. I think she is awesome. She loves me and I can feel that in my soul. She keeps reassuring me that I don't have to be afraid. That she understands my being hesitant but she wants me as a partner for life and for me to be her companion-Forever. That does scare me but the truth is...I feel the same way deep inside about her. It still scares me to let go and trust her fully. That makes me feel very vulnerable being a Virgo. Yet, I really do want her too. Sorry for all of the mushy talk but this has taken me by quite a wonderful surprise. Actually, I feel very blessed. What a dork huh?

No No No!!! I think this is very therapeutic for people that have been emotioanlly scarred by another. I have dated since my b/f brokeup with me - and it is hard. I often feel weary about trusting abother - since I trusted my ex implicitly. Just take it very slow - and let your emotions build - dont't rush! I will be in the same boat - soon - when I'm ready for another guy. I know it's been very hard - I just can't believe sometimes that my ex virgo guy did this. Is this a virgo trait - cheating?

Nah, I don't think that Virgo females would cheat unless things between them and their lover are already broken. As far as Virgo males go..they would cheat if they meet someone who comes on to them and is "eye candy." They appreciate pretty women. If one hits on them they (I feel) get tempted to tease and flirt. If that gets reciprocated they will follow through and could very possibly cheat on their mate.

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I guess I'll take that last posting as sarcastic. If they wanted to be together would'nt she have made that known? I think the writer has made it known. Then got "shot down!"

What do you think? Anybody?

I'm confused

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