kellz
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why is my Virgo man ignoring me ??
How long have you guys been a couple?
^^AGREE.
antonarnia we have been together 3 months but known each other 2 years
Posted by LilyTree
LOL, YES! A VERY important point: sometimes they are just busy! 😄 VERY true. It's easy to read into a situation and make up scenarios in your mind. I have done this. But usually, I found, I was wrong. Just ask him casually when you two talk. 🙂 My Virgo usually doesn't realize he's "ignoring" me when he's doing it. To him, he's just studying it his exams and will get back to me when he's done. ^__^
it's been a week and 4 days and i really miss talking to him ..all i can do is think the worse....should i call him first or wait for him to do it ??
Wait. He will 🙂
Or send him a little reminder text like "hope your week is going good 🙂 "
No communication for 4 months and you think you are in a "relationship" — Sorry but if you are in a relationship with someone communication is very important, if he ignores and dissappears on you for 4 months, I have news for you: he doesn't give a butter about you or your "relationship"
Women must be desperate to be making up excuses and to make up this crazy maginary relationships... SMH
Women must be desperate to be making up excuses and to make up this crazy maginary relationships... SMH
Posted by moongirljj
I keep hearing this BS about "The Virgo disappearing act" and it's nonsense, its just women making excuses for BAD manners and bad behavior. It has nothing to do with sign, any guy who doesn't have the common decency to reply to a message is just plain rude or plain uninterested. I have been with my Virgo man almost a year and he has never disappeared, not one single day.
What really pisses me off that is that this doesn't piss anyone off! it's all "be patient, play it cool, give him time blah blah blah"
NO! call him out on being an inconsiderate piece of shit and send him on his way.
Better still ignore HIM for the foreseeable future and if he doesn't do every single thing in his power to get hold of you, short of getting sky writers to paint "WHERE ARE YOU??" above your house then never answer him again.
This weak, enabling behavior is so sad to see. Geez wake up!
You are not alone Moongirl!!!! It pisses me off to no end... :-/
Posted by moongirljj
NO! call him out on being an inconsiderate piece of shit and send him on his way.
Agreed.
"I think it's healthy to spend time alone. You need to know how to be alone and not be defined by another person." This is something my Virgo is teaching me. While I never had a problem being alone, when I met him, it was always about being in contact with him. We balance each other out: I make him less of a "loner" and he makes me less of a..."not loner."
This has nothing to do with a relationship, nobody can teach you how to be alone, if you have a good understanding of who you are, if you love yourself, usually you have no problems being alone, actually you enjoy those moments of solitude as much as you enjoy spending time with your partner.
But make no mistake, if you are in a relationship, a healthy one, your SO should be there for you regardless of his moods, a phone call, a text, regardless of how busy he is is the LEAST you can ask for... that's why is a relationship, two people making a commitment to be together, to make it work...
If I had to be with someone that only wants to talk to me when he is not "busy" and that goes weeks or months without contact just because he is "trying to find himself and see how he feels about me" then I would stay single love...
So what are you telling yourself is that is not only fine for your bf to ignore you for weeks at at time but that by doing this he is also helping you grow, because you have learned how to be alone... DAMN this guy is good... :/
This has nothing to do with a relationship, nobody can teach you how to be alone, if you have a good understanding of who you are, if you love yourself, usually you have no problems being alone, actually you enjoy those moments of solitude as much as you enjoy spending time with your partner.
But make no mistake, if you are in a relationship, a healthy one, your SO should be there for you regardless of his moods, a phone call, a text, regardless of how busy he is is the LEAST you can ask for... that's why is a relationship, two people making a commitment to be together, to make it work...
If I had to be with someone that only wants to talk to me when he is not "busy" and that goes weeks or months without contact just because he is "trying to find himself and see how he feels about me" then I would stay single love...
So what are you telling yourself is that is not only fine for your bf to ignore you for weeks at at time but that by doing this he is also helping you grow, because you have learned how to be alone... DAMN this guy is good... :/
Posted by LilyTree
Dafna, thank you for your input. I also appreciate your insight.
When my Virgo was finding himself, he wasn't trying to figure out how he felt about me. He was figuring himself out. You are right about a healthy person valuing their own company. I have always been that way, and I still am. But...I'm an extremist. When I'm happy, I am HAPPY. When I am excited, I am EXCITED. I have big emotions. I'm learning how to control them, but it's still a work in progress. When I'm interested in something, I'm INTERESTED. And when I'm disinterested...you get the picture. For example, I had an exam I wanted to study for it. I poured everything into it that I even forgot to eat. Life is about balance, and I'm still trying to find it.
My Virgo...He doesn't want to pour himself into the relationship like he would like to because he can't. We are not physically in the same location. Moderation is key to maintaining a steady flight until, one day, we can be together. But I am learning a lot from him because we are so different. I love his mind. He has such a unique perspective on things, and he lends me a different point of view just by being himself. I hear you. I get what you're saying. But to me, being in a relationship does not entitle me to demand he change himself. I believe in open communication, compromise, and understanding. We will figure it out. We're still growing together. It's not an instant puzzle that will just click together. It's only been a year and a half. I believe that, yes, we're in a relationship, but we are still our own person. I don't know if I'm explaining myself very well.
You are in LDR... isn't communication the only way a LDR can survive—? I am in a relationship too and we are both very much our own person but we do talk everyday and we do see each other every week...
I don't think is about you explaining yourself very well is just that I don't get it, is ok we can agree to disagree... and yeah there are days when my bf and I are both very busy, when this happens we make sure to let each other know we probable won't be able to talk, the way I see things, I don't hear from my bf in a week and he ignores my communication attempts, he is either dead lol and if I realize he is still alive, he wouldn't be my bf anymore, I would consider myself single...
Posted by LilyTree
Kellz,
I've also read about the infamous Virgo Disappearing Act, but I wasn't convicted. I wanted to hear from HIM and understand from HIM. So, I just asked him. He's very patient and he answered me.
His response was that he doesn't like to react. He doesn't like for his emotions to control him. HE wants to control his emotions. So, he told me if he's upset, he'd go quiet to think about why he's upset and if he even has a right to be upset. Or, if it's not that he's upset, he just needs to think things through to understand his emotions. He's very much about analyzing. And to analyze a situation, you need to sometimes remove yourself from it to get a clearer picture. And when you're as thorough as my Virgo seems to be with his thinking process, it can take a lot of time.
I'm saying this, but even I'M still trying to fully understand. I'm learning to accept it's just how he operates. I need to communicate and express, he needs to think and process and THEN communicate. Lol, I'm learning from him. It's a great skill to have. He reassures me that sooner or later, he'll ALWAYS let me know what bothered him.
My advice is to not push it. You can ask him and let him know that you've noticed he's quiet and if he's okay. He'll open up when he's ready.
Virgos...they take patience. I'm an Aries, and patience doesn't come naturally to me. Life has a great sense of humor. ^___^
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