why virgo disappears unanounced

I have been thinking about it for a while ... the general wisdom seems to be that we need time to reflect and rest which is fine because then we come back refreshed and ready for the next phase, might even take things up a notch

but what happens when virgo disappears and never comes back? that's where evaluation must come in place, I have done this with many acquaintances and

You've been reading "Men are from Mars Women are from Venus" Havent you Evan. Dont lie!!! LOL. If a man disappeared on me, its because I want him to go away. 😉

so called friends

the thing with virgo is that they keep things inside them, they keep anger, disapointment, hurt while giving and giving ... there is passive element innate to the virgo nature which "hopes" that the other person will somehow "change" and stop doing the things that hurt or disappoint them and start doing the things that make them feel good

they communicate this ever so subtly and expect the other person to get the hint that they were hurt by a remark or that they were disappointed by an action or the lack-of

so it takes a very observant and clever person to get the virgo in that case, and that's to only to get that something is wrong, to understand why is another ball game that might never be understood outside the head of that individual

anyway to come back to the original theme, virgo disappears or decides to cut the relation abruptly without a warning because throughout your interaction you have been doing things to him which he doesn't tolerate, he has been giving you hint after hint but you missed them one by one and finally he decided you weren't the one for him, if he was attracted to you physically then he would have been crying inside why doesn't she get me but in the end this to him translate that you either aren't a match for him or that you don't care enough, both are very good reasons to end a relation regardless of the benefits of keeping it ( sex, company ... )

there seems to be a myth circulating which says that if your virgo is taking care of you then you should relax and enjoy the ride, this couldn't be further from the truth, when virgo is taking care of you reciprocate! yes at that moment you can let go but have pay-back in mind and the sooner the better

good advice but this should go for any sign anyway. People who care about one another should take care of one another - it should go both ways, thats how it works 🙂

WOW...mister_ee... you sound exactly almost word-for-word like what my virgo said to me... I had no idea he was feeling the way he did until the very end... yes he did drop 'subtle hints' all the time (so he tells me) but I missed every one. He told me that he was hurting the whole time because he loved me but all of his 'evidence' that he had gathered showed to him that I was in love with my ex and he kept thinking that I would change or the situation would change... but since I didn't think there was anything wrong with it (since I had NO feelings for my ex, it was purely a parenting relationship for the children's sake, and also for our own sake!) I didn't change the situation and he got fed up and blew up one day and broke up with me... The conversations after that breakup were painful and very surprising to me because that's when he revealed his inner torment about this situation and how long he had been 'observing' and that's why he came to his conclusions.
I am more in love with him now than ever... but it's been about 3 weeks and I don't think he's coming back. I know I will be fine... but I still have this crazy feeling that I want him back. Anyway, thanks for your input mister_ee... if you have any advice for me, please let me know. 🙂

MisterE your words sound very true and very frightening. What can be done? Why can't they just say it directly if we/I am missing it?
I fear that I'm am missing it. I fear I am in the too late stage.

Sigh... the more I read and learn about the "virgo mentality" the more I see that I would not be able to handle being with one of these men seriously on a long-term basis. I cannot imagine living with someone who never tells me what they're really thinking, ...until it's too late. Or who is always having me under a microscope, according to his standards, to keep 'testing' me or my loyalty time and time again. It seems to me that these men are highly insecure and it would be hard to deal with. We are not mind readers and I don't think it's our sole purpose and responsibility to read all of these obscure 'hints' they seem to throw at us! Why not say what's on your mind? Why make negative assumptions? I can tell you that my love for my virgo was (and still is) the strongest love I have ever felt for someone. Being unfaithful to him wasn't even a glimpse of a thought in my mind... I was always true to him with my heart, body, mind and soul. I would have stayed with him forever and cherished him with all my heart throughout the years... had he told me all of his concerns, instead of throwing random hints at me that I did not pick up, we could have worked on the issues at hand and persevered as a couple together in love. But instead we're apart, both hurting, loving eachother from afar but not together anymore because he thinks something that is not true at all. It's really sad to read time and time again that virgos do this to themselves. I understand it's part of their personality... but I don't think it truly benefits them... I think they end up missing out on the greatest love of their lives with this personality trait.
Self-preservation mode can lead you to see things in a very warped way and when you end up making your assumptions without talking them through, before they get to that point, you end up pushing people away that truly care and love you... imo.
I'm an aries and I have read into my sign thoroughly and I recognize some of my faults and have tried hard to work on those that do not serve me. Impatience is a big one for me, as well as impulsiveness!! I recognize that... it doesn't work well in every situation and it does not do any good for me to keep on making similar mistakes over and over again that only end up hurting me in the end.
Is there any virgos here that can let me know if there is anything you would consider, after getting to this point, so you can open your heart to want to give it another chance—??

I agree with you ariesfemale, people should voice concerns and the earlier the better but honestly virgo sign have their own logic and definition of love

to them love is more of a subtle communication, otherwise it looses its charm and becomes just business

marriage and relationships are based on neediness, that's why there are males and females in this species, we need someone who understand us without us airing every frustration or at least someone who makes letting go of these emotions easy because for a virgo doing so is hard work due to the risk of rejection involved

virgo wants a relationship to lean back on and refresh emotionally, intellectually and physically in preparation for the next day ahead

that's the price you pay with these weirdo's .. but you get your money's worth though

the best way to get at this hidden stuff is to gently seduce it out of them, they won't like it but they will like you for it, another way is to encourage them to talk ... both seem to work with me personally

@ Shaks ... denial is for 15 year olds mate ... not old moos like you and me

mister_ee.., thanks for your post! my question to you is this: IS THERE ANYTHING THAT CAN BE DONE NOW— I'm sure I'm not the only one who wants to know the answer to this... I"m going crazy!! lol

FYI I am also virgo sun, moon and venus ...

all I can say is give it a shot again ariesfemale if you really want to ... and this time have preset rules like he must try to communicate with you before going on a fishing expedition and that you promise to take practical measures to elevate his doubts

actually the latter seems to help a lot because personally when someone understands my doubts and tries to

help I start relaxing more and more because it means they care enough to do this for me ... all virgo wants to know is that you care, but they have to touch this first through tribulations

but they have to touch this first through tribulations

Testing? Disappearance and reappearance as if not a day has been missed?

life is for living ... highs and lows and the ones who stick through this are the ones I want to accompany me in this path ... but before I have to put you on a little test drive to see what you're made of then let's fly away

stupid virgo philosophy I know

Not so stupid, just alot to expect someone to know or figure out when you dont communicate this to them, yet you share and communicate so much more.
I dont like to waste time, patients, something i did not have so much of before this man, as well as another stated, i have learned how to better express myself in the words i choose, still working on that....he i DELIBERATE with his wording, use of proper english, yet i did catch him ONCE in a misuse of word, or else it was a test/hint and i didnt catch that part of it....things that make ya go hmmmmmmmm........

I love your choice of words MisterE, I dont find it a "stupid" philosophy at all......

he is DELIBERATE with his wording, typo' can so change a meaning, this is why i really dont like text either..........

Thanks for the input...I appreciate all you have said thus far. I don't think my question came out like I intended it, though... I guess I should have worded the question a little differently... I'll try again: What would it take for you, a virgo, to reconsider your 'conclusions' and be able to forgive? What would it take for you to want to be with us again? Is there anything I could do or should I just let you realize it all on your own? These are the things that I'm really struggling with...

MrE you have once again revealed more insight on these peculiar virgo men.

but why does it always seem the onus of making the relationship work is on the other person? the virgs seem to give up so easily, they don't appear to fight or pursue the love interest. so perhaps it's true, the virgs don't want love. They are the virgins of the zodiac and they possess wings making it much easier for them to 'fly' away.
but scorps also have wings and we are quite capable of flying. I wonder if this is what makes virgs and scorps so compatible. when we and virgs get it right we can fly real high.

I have a tenacious personality, I will keep trying with the virg I know.

it's called humbleness you little excuse for a man!

Here's what happened since...
After weeks of internal pain and heartache I felt way better and started living my life again. I "accepted" the fact that it was over and started to move on with my life... well guess what... lol... He called me on Tuesday this week just to see how I was doing... What?!?! lol It brought me right back to the feelings I had before. It was the first 'nice' conversation we've had since our breakup. We talked about what each has been up to, he told me that his daughter misses my children... We laughed lightly about stuff... and then I had to let him go because I was on my way out to do a workshop. We left it at "I hope you have a very nice day" and that was that. Since then I've been wondering what the heck that was about— I thought he hated me! lol I am very confused by this and don't know what to make of it. What do you think?