Will a virgo maybe come back?

Him:

Sun Virgo
Moon Pisces
Mercury Leo
Venus Leo
Mars Virgo
Jupiter Leo

Me:

Sun Pisces
Moon Scorpio
Mercury Pisces
Venus Aries
Mars Cancer
Jupiter Libra


This virgo guy and I both work in agriculture. We met during our local wheat harvest. He was nervous but would always try to flirt with me, finally he added me on FB and asked for my phone number. We would text and snapchat everyday and facetime most nights even though he was busy. It was definitely him chasing me. He took me out to dinner and drinks, and then we went on a long drive together listening to music. We live a couple hours apart so after staying out super late he bought a hotel room. He probably spent like $ 200 on our date.

I have bad experienced from past relationships but things he said made it sound like he was planning on sticking around for a while so I began to trust him. We went to a dance together where he paid for my ticket and introduced me to some of his best friends. We had a great romantic time and I kind of drunkenly opened up to him that I "liked" him and if he was just looking for a hook up he should find someone else. I know words don't mean much but he reassured me he liked me too and he only wanted to spend time with me blahblahblah. At this point we had been actively talking/dating for one month which I know is too soon.

I'm usually a pretty secure person but unfortunately wheat harvest was the end of my job (I just graduated college and haven't found a career yet). I moved about to where I grew up and have little friends here. So I am basically sitting around lonely looking for jobs. For someone who was very popular and successful in college this didn't hit me well. I began to get needy. Which came at the worse time. When he was starting potato harvest which was VERY busy for him (averaging 19 hour days 7 days/week, sometimes 40 hours straight). He sent me a goodnight texts the day after we went to the dance together and said he was starting harvest and going to be busy. A couple days later he sent be a brief "hey what's up" text and reiterated how busy he was. I wanted to make sure he wasn't just trying to slow-fade so I straight up asked him if he was just exhausted or no longer interested in me. He bluntly answered, "I'm just exhausted and busy." I contacted him at the end of his first week of harvest and he talked to me for a while, and told me he had been harvesting for over a day straight. Over the next few days he sent me some snapchats but wasn't very chatty. At this point I start taking out my insecurities on him and sent him the following texts over a 5 day period:

Wednesday night:
- ME: hey what's up (no response)

Thursday night:
- ME: How about you skip harvest and come hangout with me? 🙂 I'm starting to miss you ... (no response)

Friday night:
- ME: *call* (no answer)
- ME: Hey can you call me? I promise I'm not going to be a bitch, I just need to talk 🙂
- ME:

Friday night:
- ME: *call* (no answer)
- ME: Hey can you call me? I promise I'm not going to be a bitch, I just need to talk 🙂
- ME: My life would be alot easier if you didn't ignore me
- HIM: hey what's up sorry I can't call?
- ME: if you're just busy and still want to hangout after harvest I need some reassurance. And if you aren't interested any more I need you to tell me that. (no response)
- ME: My life would be alot easier if you just talked to me. (no response)

Saturday morning:
- Oh my lord. I'm so sorry for those overwhelming texts. I had a rough night. I know you're busy and hopefully harvest is going well. (no response)

Sunday night:
- Hey I am going to be in [town by where he lives] for the next two days. Maybe I could go to work with you and we could chat?
- If not, that's fine. I just want to stay friendly. (no response)

Since then I have calmed down and been pretty embarassed about my actions. I went on a trip to visit friends so my life didn't seem so pathetic. He watches my snapchat stories so hopefully he sees that I am not completely lonely and pathetic.

Pretty soon I should be getting a new job and moving into a new place. At that point my life will be alot more secure and I'll be in a better position to date. My question is, any chance this guy will come back? And is there anything I can do to get back that deep attraction he had to me two months ago? He should be done with harvest within the next week and have time to rest. In a couple weeks when I am settling into a new job should I reach out to him?

I've read quite a few I was just wondering if anyone had anything specific to say about these charts 🙂

Ask TaureanVIrgo haha she will explain it better and will send her thoughts to you guy...

And yeah for more information read other virgo threads.

Posted by nauticaldream
At this point I start taking out my insecurities on him and sent him the following texts over a 5 day period: [...] Since then I have calmed down and been pretty embarassed about my actions

Unlike a lot of people..you own up to this behavior and see you've jumped the gun. That is pretty rare on these boards.

Posted by nauticaldream
Pretty soon I should be getting a new job and moving into a new place. At that point my life will be alot more secure and I'll be in a better position to date

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Minus the insecurity episode, you seem pretty grounded and with a good head on your shoulders about this.

My advice would be to just text him or call him once after you've settled and you're in a better head space (and also after he finishes the harvest). Engaging and friendly. And then see if you can build back from there. I'm saying that because it seems you were both under a lot of stress. Either way, you'll know. No need to start with the apologies again, just put a good vibe out there and see if he responds and you both can continue where you left off without this loop.

Posted by magma
I agree with what Damnata gave for advice. I would just emphasize that a good rule of thumb with anyone is to watch for reciprocation. If you're not getting any after giving it a fair chance, something is wrong. Adding anything into the situation that can be construed as pressure will probably be counter productive. If/when you read about relationship problems in other threads, keep the reciprocation factor in mind and you will most likely see that the "injured party" couldn't see the obvious, that reciprocation was lacking, but kept right on investing in a lost cause and became bitter.

Sorry I'm a bit confused by what you mean here ...

Ohh you just mean if he does come back around make sure he's still into it. If he's not reciprocating feelings than it's not worth it. Right?