will he change his mind if i give him space?

me and my virgo man were head over heels in love and we split up the other week, he even said i was "the one". It was totally out of the blue and im devastated. It happened over two weeks in which i tried to give him space (with difficulty because at that point i hadnt read about the virgo man and I thought he was being inconsdirate and didnt care about me). At the time as an emotional tauras id also got very upset. He'd always wanted me to move ot london to be with him and out of the blue he suddenly said he didnt want me to move as he didnt think id be happy and he'd feel bad if it all went wrong. He said it's better to end things now while things are good (How does this make sense??!!)

When it finally ended we met up and he said he didnt know how he himself was feeling right now and he stil loves me but he has lots of things stressing him out at the moment that he needs to sort out. We have a long distance relationship and he said he didnt feel good enough for me as he couldnt text or call as often as i needed him to and he didnt think id be happy moving down to london. He said breaking up was the right decision.
I just cant understand the situation i cant accept that its over because i dont knwo what went wrong and he said he still loves me. I wonder whether i pushed him away by being emotional and he didnt know how to deal with that. The other half of me thinks maybe i interupted him when he hadnt finsihed analysing the situation and if i give him space then he'll come back eventually? This all happened 3 weeks ago and after the 1st week he texted telling me to have a good holiday (as he knew i was on vacation) i didnt reply. Since then i texted him on the tuesday saying i miss you this isnt the same without you. He texted back and said "sorry to hear that just try and enjoy being with your friends and by the sea we can chat when you get back if you want". I replied saying "that would be great" but i havent heard anything since and i havent been in contact with him. Ive sent him a birthday card but apart from that im going to continue not contacting him and see if he contacts me when he's ready. What i want to know is whether he just needs to analyse the situation and he'll come back or is it really over? I just cant understand how a relationship can be so perfect and then just end like that for no good reason? Id really appreciate your thoughts as im in such a bad place right now x

One thing that is always said in here, and it's the truth .. a Virgo will pull away to analyze, without fail .. if he has feelings for a woman.

But, there is also another truth, rescueme .. once they have done their analyzing, once they've made up their mind .. they WILL TELL the other person, unequivocally, exactly where the standing is.

And he has done this very thing .. true to the Virgo nature.

even though he says he still loves me and he doesnt know where his head is at at the moment? It makes me think he's done this to make sure he can have some space but he thinks he may come back?
What's wierder about this situation is that he keeps his feelings close to his heart. Even though he's 26 im his first serious relationship i know im the first person he's told he loves and he told me im the one which i dont think he would have done lightly and that wasnt so long ago. He'd obviosuly taken his time thinking about it. I thought when virgos made their mind up they were loyal to the end?

rescueme, if if wasnt for these postings i would have given up lol..i have a similar situation to yours..long distance, we met online. he was sooo into me in the begining, even proposed. i said yes. then i started to notice the pulling, and me being a Cap and not so sure didnt ask him anything, just let him be. i didnt want to chase him, i figured if he really wants to be with me like he said, he will say something. HOWEVER, i think we may be in the same boat lol..virgos analyze alot, not knowing if they will be good enough,etc. P-Angel, thanks for bringing that up. i thought mine lost interest, u know out-of-sight-out-mind, we havent seen each other in more than a yr, so why hasnt he come to see me.. well he stopped contacting me, and now after 4 mos he sends me an email telling me he thinks of me and how much he cares for me..i dont even know what to think at this point. is he trying to come back? maybe urs is also affraid..u know the move,etc..P-Angel, why do they pull away when they have feelings?it doesnt make sense to me..i dont want to get hurt, even tho this is supposed to be normal for virgos i dont wanna be fooled into thinking something that isnt there. i have given him space also. i guess they retreat. i think im just as confused as you lol.

for virgo it's easy to fall in love and they know it but then they start planning and that's where they might not communicate their love to you in the best way because while the feeling is there they have all these worries about the future, be they financial or otherwise and since we always assume the worst we will have this hesitant tone even when we say the l-word, not to mean we don't love you but we have worries about the future

this where virgo partner can interfere and give them another way of looking at things which will bring the optimistic side in them again and there you go, you have few weeks of cheers joy, maybe even months before they go back to square one, but on another issue

living with the virgo ... simply like living, good times and bad times

_ reccomend u not to call him for weeks or months ._ think he will call u just to sy how u doing ,or something like that. when that time comes act as if nothing bad happened and go on from where u split up . just an idea.

Yes, rescueme was saved from further heartache, for she found out he wasn't true to her .. however, that didn't stop the aching heart of injuries thus far.

:::: sighs ::::


CappieLatina, a year is an awefully long time for any person to be apart from the one that moves them. I would have to conclude in your case that this Virgo isn't yet ready for a relationship, for whatever reason. That's not to say that one day he won't be ... but, for now, I think you tread very cautiously with this man when it comes to your heart. A year of absence isn't right, that's too much time for a Virgo to need.


However, it's always possible for people to have a new-found love 🙂

In any event, it would probably be a good move to keep your feelings for him at bay until you can figure out what it is he's doing and what his intentions are. The thing with a Virgo is .. they actually let you know what's going on, how they feel, what they want ... it's just us other people are so complicated that we often mistake their simplicity, and the signs that are there telling us our answers.

I'm confused .... :::scratches head:::



Are we talking to Rescume or Cappie?

Yeah, I thought Rescue was finished and had begun her healing process.

I don't really know, or remember, this Cappie's tale ... are you saying that this Virgo man went missing after proposing marriage to her in a LDR?

That's not good 😢


That's just an insecure man looking for emotional rescue at the time, and once he got whatever strength from her at the time, he took to use for his own benefit.

A sincere man who proposes marriage jsut isn't going to do that. 😢

i know it looks bad lol. i totally agree for that reason i dismissed him in my mind awhile ago. we had a great connection, i often wondered if i had something to do with it. i am not very expressive(i dont trust men)and i never chased him as maybe some woman do, but i would show him by my actions. intimately, i may have ruined it, he felt i wasnt into him(that wasnt the case).we werent exactly in a relationship, he told me he had never felt like this with anyone(i didnt say anything)but i was showing interest..i have read that virgos analyze and get scared, maybe he wasnt sure if it was going to work and wasnt ready financially. i didnt encourage his visits,i wasnt ready for him to come at the time, i admit i never told him i wanted to see him so maybe he questioned my interest.. i dont want to give excuses for his behavior...i know he messed up, i dont know if he is trying to come back, but i will be very cautious and will play alittle hard to get. i cant have him think he can return as if nothing has happened..P-angel, since your married to a virgo, what is my best approach, should i ask him why he disappeared & stoped calling (btw, i neve called him either, nust be the Cap in me)

sorry rescueme, i know this is your post, dont mean to hog it up ...just need some advice..thanx

At this point, you should probably not even think of him as a potential, and try to get to know him better as a person, a friend ... you really don't know what his intentions are with you, and it's obvious that niether of you are smitten ..... so, to keep it on a friendly basis would probably help you to determine what he doing.

And he's probably thinking the same thing about you. For example, you said ....

"we havent seen each other in more than a yr, so why hasnt he come to see me.. well he stopped contacting me .."

... meaning, you waited for him to make contact with you and it was a whole year. That really isn't any indication to a man that a woman is into him.

So, you both sit pretty unexpressive .. wondering what the other wants.

So, at this point, I think you should just try the friends thing, rather than the LDR thing .. and try to get to know each other a little better.

P-Angel, well we havent see other, but he continued to call be up until 4 mos ago, that is when he disappeared. i didnt call him either. i know the distance was a factor, since we never got to date, as you do when your local. i know he likes his space, and moving with him so abruptly scared him. I have read tha virgos tenf to analyze the situation to an extreme.we only got to know each other over the phone, with the exception of our weekend together. it is important to be friends, maybe he wasnt ready for a committment. i will be upfront with him, if he does come back. i wont play this game.