my virgo man disappeared without letting me know!

i ve read most of the posts on other threads...i felt like these are all mirror infront of me....how can alot of people have exactly same stories!!!

ok..make it short, i was dating a virgo man (30old) for 3 weeks..all went well till the last date...he was so much into me....liking me,missing me...and like all other virgos not into texting, calling or dating much....

but i was happy with him cause i could feel he was really honest with me.

last time i met him i asked him if im a girlfriend or just a date. i asked this cause he had mentioned before that there were girls that he just dated and nothing worthy with them but he had girlfriends that he took so serious.so i wanted to make sure.

he didnt answer directly but said its obvious and showing emotions that sent me signal im his serious girlfriend.

but after that night he faded away...its been two weeks. no call or text or trace of him...i even called him once he didnt answer...and texted him two times and no answer...the first text i sent i didnt know at all that he pulling away.

so im totally confused....i didnt do anything wrong and he was satisfied with me according to what he told me several times.

why he backed off without letting me know....what is he going through to?any chances that he gets back?

im leo...

and no, this messaging strategy doesnt work for him for sure and will turn him off more...its so sticky if he doesnt return call or answers and i keep sending and calling like a bug.

if he really needs space then i give him space...its up to him if he wants to come back or no.

i think i showed enough to him that im caring this relationshp.

I wish people could knew what goes on in other's mind. at least i knew if he left or just reserving space!!!

I hope you are right and he comes back....he was really my type...the more i think the less can i find anything in him that i dislike...

i ve read posts for other girls with virgo,their virgoes returned to them after longtime ,even more than 3weeks....thats why im not loosing my hope...

yet, i cant understand what makes them to come back after these long abscence...how do they explain why they were not around and how come dont they forget us after weeks?

so complicated signs! what sing are you? ever handled a virgo like this?

its his birthday next week....dont know if i have to send any text or no....since no return from him im just confused...dont want to show clingy at all.

what would be a good happy BD text that is no teasy or needy yet make him want to meet me...shaking one without offering a date! im not good in that...

"he was so much into me....liking me,missing me..."

"last time i met him i asked him if im a girlfriend or just a date."



3 weeks ... only 3 weeks ....


You believe he was so much into you, that you would project these feelings onto him, as if they are his .. and ask him if you were considered his girlfriend. When in reality .. he wasn't really so much into you, because if he was, then he wouldn't have disappeared on you.

Unfortunately .. women project this onto men, which appears to men as though women are emotionally needy and desperate to cling onto whatever looks like it will handle this woman's emotional need to be needed.

He' likely sitting back right now, going .... "Wow, I thought she was emotionally solid, could hold her own. But, after just 3 weeks, she's already attempting to trap me."

Why do women treat men like this, is what I want to know?

Men aren't females ... they aren't emotionally desperate to have another carry this baggage for them.

You scard the shit out of him when you asked him this question ... any further communication from you that is geared around you appearing to be in need of having emotional consolling will only push him away further.

you mean i shouldnt know where im standing in a relationship— if we cant communicate in relationship then wht is it for—

besieds i wasnt cliny at all...

i was about to send him a Birthday wish text next week...so you think i shouldnt? he has gone totally?

"where im standing in a relationship"

Yeah ... IF ... you were in a relationship. But, you're not, for if you were then you wouldn't have had to ask him the question of whether you were his girlfriend or just a date.

And that ^^^ asking of this question is what makes you appear clingy.


Women do this to men all the time, and it really pisses me off, to be honest .... they try to make an impression upon the man that they are free, independent, emotionally strong, confident woman, in which women know will draw said man to her because the guy is actually looking for a woman who can hold her own and not be emotionally dependent upon him ... then, once she thinks she has him snared, she then attempts to lay an emotional entrapment on him.

That ^^^^ is what makes a woman confused, you know. She thinks the man, himself, is making her confused about his intentions .. when in reality, the confusion is coming from the woman, herself, because she cannot comprehend that she made a false impression of emotional fortitude originally, which wasn't the truth.

The truth is ... she IS emotionally dependent upon a man, she is simply searching for one to whom she can find who will carry this burden for her ... and her false persona's within herself of how she presented herself to him, and how she actually is .... is what has confused her.


Sending him a birthday wish isn't crossing any lines .. I said ..

"any further communication from you that is geared around you appearing to be in need of having emotional consolling will only push him away further."

You said that you read other threads in here about Virgo's ... and I suggest that you read them again, for the actual message, and not just read them for purposes of finding reasons why your Virgo is similar to other V-men .... because, most women just like to bitch about their men, and want a support system for their men treating them in what they percieve as "bad treatment" because to have a support system satisfies the ego with believing it's the man who is fucked up, and not anything the woman is actually doing to participate in creating this attitude in the man.

"that there were girls that he just dated and nothing worthy"

If you really listen to what is said about Virgo men .. you will be able to understand what attributes are considered "worthy" to him. He said this to you, and you just blew past fully comprehending what "worthy" means to him, and attempted to project onto him your desire to be of worth to him, by asking him if you were his girlfriend or just a date.

Worth to a Virgo man revolves around many things ... the main thing is for a woman to be emotionally strong. He NEEDS a woman who can hold her own, who is very capable of maintaining this fortitude without him nurturing this for her.

By you asking him this question = not worthy, and just like the other women to whom he dated.

I'm not suggesting that you did anything intentionally to push him away, and certainly, your tone indicates that you are wanting to make things right .... I'm saying that you inadvertantly displayed to this man the complete opposite kind of woman he is seeking to complete him.

In your position ... I would send him the birthday wish, and nothing more. Don't put any kind of words in it to suggest you are in need of any kind of emotional support from him to express where this relationship is.

Three weeks is nothing to a Virgo ... and he is likely thinking that you are a desperate woman to want to have clarity this early in the courtship.

What you need to do at this time, is to carry on with your life displaying that you are a strong woman who can live everyday without him providing anything to you. You'll have to find a way to show him this .. maybe hang out with friends at a place you know he will be, so he can see that you aren't dependent upon him to make you feel needed. However, don't ignore him, spend time with him as well ... just make sure he understands that you are capable of living fully, all by yourself.

i think you are right...i shouldnt have asked him that question...i didnt want to ask...my friends said ask him...and me the fool gal listened to them....such an idiot i am....

but still he told me he will talk to me later....so he still wanted...yea ,but probably later he sat and thought and ouch!!! what a mess i did!

ok, i will just text him happy birthday.....and hope he doesnt take it as a desperate girl...i never shown to him im emotionally attached girl...he always said that....but that last time....uuuuhhhhh...i just cant stop thinking....

but really are there any chances he comes back— or he totally has forgotten me....why sometimes do we do things that regret us later while we know we shouldnt do them...

We're human 🙂🙂


Try not to panic .. if this is meant to be, it will happen.

The main thing you just have to keep in mind at this time, as you wait for him to come to grips with this potential relationship, is that because he is a Virgo, which equates to analyzing EVERYTHING over and over and over again ... is that this mental evaluation takes a very long time.

They will NOT rush into a relationship hastily .. their minds are extremely organized, and all details have to be put into perspective before they are able to approach relationship terms.

So, you just have to be patient .. very, very patient.

Don't worry about his intentions with you ... for as sure as I'm sitting here, I can guarantee you .. a Virgo says what they mean, and they mean what they say .. so will not be left in the dark. Perhaps, while they are going through their mental masturbation, you won't know what's going on .. but, once he decides how he feels about you ..

.. he WILL tell you .. I promise. Just don't expect it to be on a spur of the moment thing, because his mind won't allow him to be rash.

i hope its like what you say about their mind....i just wonder how they can remember the person and even think of her when they ignore her totally for weeks....

well yes...im still thinking of him cause i dont know what happened that he left and i like him....but im not sure he is still remembering me or not!!!!

im patient enough to wait.....dont want to rush to another relationship now so i can wait....but how long,i dont konw....only if i knew what he is going through

labeling?? i just wanted him to know that im not there for only sex...though he never pushed me for that....thats why i wanted to be a gf....and im in the middle east...people here have different point of view towards the gf/bf and dating relationships....he was christian but still views are different from western people.

u made me smile....being in the middle east doesnt mean my family will put pressure or etc...
im alone here and he is alone here too....our families are in other countries..we are from different nationalities...and i think yes...probably you re right...he thought this girl will be bug me....

who knows....guys never give time to girls to prove themselves ....they leave without knowing you....

im not sure if i have to send him Birthday text or no...he was so great in my birthday and i just want to send him a text to be polite...but he may take it as pushy,needy ,clingy

how much are people really affected by their zodiac signs? should we take all these things a matter of their sign ? virgos disappearance!!! my virgo though really believed these signs characteristics...he was kinda a sample...quiet...observer...analyzer..double thinker...hard worker...lazy in texting or calling....

yea...ive already forgotten him...good im not that emitional girl otherwise i couldnt bear it....

Starfish,thats so interesting for me... you always persist on their return as if you are aware of all virgos destiny and plan....there are cases that happens against your belief.

just because virgos around you have returned doesnt mean that other virgos also will be back....im talking about my case...how is he going to go back while its been almost one month and hes definitely been involved with other girls during this time....i would be shocked if he still has my number!!! the process that you all think is their contemplation period is indeed their happy time with other girls.

im not waiting anymore...even if he comes back from no where i wouldnt accept him....though i really want him to come back when im very happy with someone else and arise his envy!

StarFish,

we didnt end up,or better to say i didnt! we never fought and the last time i met him everything was perfect and then he disappeared,so there was no mistreating or break up. only i asked him what kind of relation we have which he reacted very nicely that time.

but the return that you talk about (after a longtime,months or years)i dont think if is anymore A RETURN!!!! its just crossing your way as you mentioned...like i may see anyone by accident after longtime, even other zodiac signs and they may show interest again just cause of a sudden revolution in their heart in that very second,as its happened to me before, but that is not return,its accidential meeting!!! A return is when you purposedly think about someone and pave the way smoothly or quickly to have him/her back...

correct me if im wrong.

P-angel

he came back ...after 3 month...of course just a text message appeared on mobile from him saying" you are still adorable"....i didnt answer and dont want to answer...but i think he just wantedto open a way or really saw me somewhere...

Remember The Eagles? There's this famous line in one of their songs ....


You can spend all your time making love, or you can spend all your love making time.


Virgo's pretty much spend all their love making time.

And Leokitten is right, Shinny ..... he wants the panties, he wants to spend his love trying to make time with you.


Pretty much just sex ... this is where they put all thier worth, and the sorry part about that is .. they are horrible lovers.

Pretty much just sex ... this is where they put all thier worth, and the sorry part about that is .. they are horrible lovers.

lol!!!! P-Angel you are funny 😄 My brother would crap his pants if he were told he was a terrible lover 😆!!!!!

It's true .. if a person spends all their love making time, then the reciever is just a fill in for the time slot ...

Seriously .. months go by .. nothing from the Virgo, zilch .. then suddenly, a phone call full of charm and praise. wtf—

That's trying to make time.

Here there was a woman LOVING this man .. fucking LOVE.

And he would spend, use up this love trying to make time.


::: shakes head ::::


Virgo men should be exterminiated for doing that to women, or at least casterated.

This is interesting ...

I'd admit, I couldn't marry a guy that wasn't the good in bed. I just couldn't maybe thats just my 23 year old self talking lol!!!! I not sure if I could handle just lying there while the guy is runting his ass off LOL! I need why more then that.

Oh hi leokitten 😄 😄 😄

How are you——??



hey, my comment wasn't about your leo friend, I was just talking in general lol. I will say that I would have to really love the guy to marry him if all he does is get on top of me lol ... or there has to be something else in it for me 😉

Compatibility is about compromising.


Cappysweetie, you'd be surprised at how easily it is to give this up, and still be happy.

The only part that is hard is the absence of intimacy ... without that a woman cannot feel her man.

The only part that is hard is the absence of intimacy ... without that a woman cannot feel her man.

YES! I need intimacy. It easy for some signs to get screw and thats it -- either from the front, back or the side you know lol. And thats it, me ... I can't do that, I need more then that. Especially if I'm going to marry this guy -- he probably going to want sex more then twice a week so I need to at least enjoy it lol

Virgo's are easily controlled.

A woman only has to not put pressure on him to perform sexually, nor put pressure on him to be intimate and express his feelings ... while sexing him up regularly.

He'll do anything you want, be whomever you allow him to be.

I hear you Cappysweetie .... without it, a woman diminishes .. and Virgo men are first to admit ... they shrug off intimacy.

In doing so, they leave theirselves no other option except to spend all their love making time.

That's really sad, leokitten .. to be shunned like that.

Yeah, I see it with my brother -- we fight like hell LOL, be we are close none the less 🙂 We had a huge falling out this past July over something stupid but he couldn't admit I was right in what I did. So I said I don't have to talk to you (him) anymore. About two weeks ago, guess who I get a call him 🙂

haha, he said, "You haven't totally disowned me have you? Your birthday is coming up so I need to make sure you still love me."

hahaha, so yeah they can shrug off stuff for a while but they usually come to their sense when they are wrong. So it was nice to hear from him, we have made amends 🙂 -- he tries to talk to me at least once a week now hahahahaha. My brother gets away with murder with everyone in the family, he can't do it to me 😉 and its cool that I let him know that LOL!!!!

I'm not sure why I went off on that ....

I hear you Cappysweetie .... without it, a woman diminishes .. and Virgo men are first to admit ... they shrug off intimacy.

In doing so, they leave theirselves no other option except to spend all their love making time.

I think a good slap accross the face wouldn't hurt some virguys 😄 They need that or else their brains won't function properly.

i think i was stunned initially...but in truth, i just let him go. over the two years of their relationship, he had been more distant...i think that makes sense.

Why do they do that to their close friends? I wonder? Like to just not communicate. hahaha, I mean, I may say, "DON'T EVER TALK TO ME AGAIN" hahaha, but I'm a woman and I get emmtional, so thats different, in like 48 hours I'm like, "Where is he?"


or maybe thats just me, I'm complexed hee

Sometimes, friends just drift apart, and I guess the only thing you can do is memorialize what you had for cherishing.

"Its just a certain way you have to be and deal with these guys"


Right, a certain way you have to be to deal with them .. and in being this certain way, it's actually you who has the upper hand because you are aware of adaptions. And being aware of adaptions, you learn manuevering, while they remain rigid.

Mind control isn't obvious, it's not noticable .. it's not like you walk up to a Virgo and announce that you are going to manipulate them.

Because they are pure, and can only hear their own tune .. is WHY they are easily controlled. You merely have to play their tune for them.

..And yes women need to know rather he is playing games or trying to figure this out..The signs are there as to what he is doing..

Virgo men do like playing games, I thought the cancer guys liked playing them but no the virgos do too.