Help/advice with Taurus Man

Hello everyone, I am a Scorpio and I have been in a relationship with a Taurus for over a year. Our connection is great and while I will not lie and say its been all rose, it has been mentally challenging for me, but we still are a great pair. The challenges have mostly been within me as I have never run across someone so aloof with expressing feelings verbally and extremely practical about everything including emotions. Everything is so intense and I expect the same in return because that is how I measure things but being with him has actually been a blessing as I have toned down my deep, intense emotions. Lol. I love him and I show him with my actions very intentionally and that is something he appreciates and something that he says "he has never felt before" or "swept off his feet" as I do him. Last week, my Taurus asked me "Did I love him?" and I proceeded to tell him "yes, of course, I do. And you know it, you could probably tell with my actions" and he said, "I know you do baby, I know you do!" We have been getting closer and spending more time together even though we both have busy schedules, but it's been pure bliss. Here is the problem..

This is day two of him being back "aloof". Two-word text messages but still in the realm of "Hey baby" and sending a photo of something that makes us laugh hysterically. But no phone calls, no anything. I have called, he hasn't called back. We usually speak on the phone if we are not seeing each other at least 1-3 times a day for at least a 20 minute period to 2 hour period depending on the day.

This is like deja vu as this is not the first time he has (acted funny in my eyes) to me. I have always allowed him his space even though mentally I am asking all the crazy questions that I could muster up. I tend to keep those to myself as I know my Scorpio brain can go amuck. I have had to logically think and access at these times. In previous conversations, he told me this a couple of times "babe you have passed all of my tests and it's crazy" My reaction: TESTS? What kind of tests? lol and he's always comical about it but ever so serious "yes tests, it's something that I have to do make sure of things and you and us"

So all of that to say lol What do you guys think about this? I know it has only been two days of the aloofness but it's just odd that is coming a week after he asked me did I love him. Why do they do this?

Also, what was the point in asking me did I love him if 1. he knew 2. he wasn't going to say it back

All thoughts are welcomed! I have read some topics here and woo wee!

Thank you everyone and I hope everyone is being safe! Big Grin

i think you need to stop worrying. i know it's hard but you have to trust the ride and stop feeling the need to control the situation. some times things are out of our control and you just have to learn to go with it.

and it's only been two days. and you might be finding yourself going into another stage of your relationship. wait and see. if he really disappears then it's time to stress out but nothing has happened yet.

don't worry about the test thing. my partner also told me i passed all of his tests.

in my case, my relationship became more intense with my partner as time went on but at the year mark we were still feeling each other out. there were moments of quiet which had me feeling concerned but eventually i got to the point of just saying to myself "fuck it, i'll hear from when i hear from him." my letting go made me stop counting the days and the minutes, and somehow (and I always wondered if this was connected), it made him stop any sign of being aloof.

Hmm he’s ignored you for days and didn’t say I love you back? This doesn’t sound good. Him being a Taurus is irrelevant. Would you accept this treatment from anyone else or only a bull?

what @jeane said - stay chill and busy do your own thing - he's got you now that you've passed all the tests and it's time for a new phase - he's got to let this rest for a bit on his brain - quiet and contemplative or a bit scared because well - now it's real - where is this going - the builder in Taurus is always thinking and working hard to make things happen along the way in order to build whatever kingdom he desires in life

for a Taurus it's not good to be attached 24 hours a day to another - each climbs their own mountain daily and returns to their loved one - which gives for sharing what one has learned and experienced and thus both growing in understanding

Posted by bkbella86

Hmm he’s ignored you for days and didn’t say I love you back? This doesn’t sound good. Him being a Taurus is irrelevant. Would you accept this treatment from anyone else or only a bull?

i think it would be a mistake to conflate the two. taurus believe that you should just know how they feel about you.

Posted by jeane

Posted by bkbella86

Hmm he’s ignored you for days and didn’t say I love you back? This doesn’t sound good. Him being a Taurus is irrelevant. Would you accept this treatment from anyone else or only a bull?

i think it would be a mistake to conflate the two. taurus believe that you should just know how they feel about you.

click to expand

Yeah that's not the best trait to have but tis true - we show more in actions than words though which others do not so I guess it's a trade off - now some might say well his actions for the past few days isn't what I expected but we don't always do what is expected of us - we do it our way - he is still there and he is actually probably focusing on working hard and staying grounded himself so he can be there for his partner. Do you find he gives you little surprises or does things for you that you would not expect?

Posted by dillweed

Posted by tctapp007

what @jeane said - stay chill and busy do your own thing - he's got you now that you've passed all the tests and it's time for a new phase - he's got to let this rest for a bit on his brain - quiet and contemplative or a bit scared because well - now it's real - where is this going - the builder in Taurus is always thinking and working hard to make things happen along the way in order to build whatever kingdom he desires in life

for a Taurus it's not good to be attached 24 hours a day to another - each climbs their own mountain daily and returns to their loved one - which gives for sharing what one has learned and experienced and thus both growing in understanding

damn wow. my taurus always says “i wanna build with you” or “i just wanna lay this steady foundation”

“the builder in taurus...” idk why this struck me but... ya he really is like this.

click to expand

yep - read your astrology lol - we never stop building our fortress in life always trying to better things and love to have a great partner with which to share that dream

Posted by dillweed

Posted by tctapp007

Posted by dillweed

Posted by tctapp007

what @jeane said - stay chill and busy do your own thing - he's got you now that you've passed all the tests and it's time for a new phase - he's got to let this rest for a bit on his brain - quiet and contemplative or a bit scared because well - now it's real - where is this going - the builder in Taurus is always thinking and working hard to make things happen along the way in order to build whatever kingdom he desires in life

for a Taurus it's not good to be attached 24 hours a day to another - each climbs their own mountain daily and returns to their loved one - which gives for sharing what one has learned and experienced and thus both growing in understanding

damn wow. my taurus always says “i wanna build with you” or “i just wanna lay this steady foundation”

“the builder in taurus...” idk why this struck me but... ya he really is like this.

yep - read your astrology lol - we never stop building our fortress in life always trying to better things and love to have a great partner with which to share that dream

ya he is always talking about building things for the future. it’s interesting as ive never had a person be like this with me.

he’ll just say off the cuff shit like “should we buy a cabin?” or “imagine what our garden will look like in 10 years”. his earnestness is remarkably refreshing. by him saying this stuff, without me pressing, it helps me feel super secure.

i really never thought i’d date a taurus, yall always were overlooked by me. but damn, im like “should we get married—!??!!” lmao & i am NOT the marrying type.

click to expand

awwww, well apparently he sees something in you that you don't see

Posted by tctapp007

Posted by jeane

Posted by bkbella86

Hmm he’s ignored you for days and didn’t say I love you back? This doesn’t sound good. Him being a Taurus is irrelevant. Would you accept this treatment from anyone else or only a bull?

i think it would be a mistake to conflate the two. taurus believe that you should just know how they feel about you.

Yeah that's not the best trait to have but tis true - we show more in actions than words though which others do not so I guess it's a trade off - now some might say well his actions for the past few days isn't what I expected but we don't always do what is expected of us - we do it our way - he is still there and he is actually probably focusing on working hard and staying grounded himself so he can be there for his partner. Do you find he gives you little surprises or does things for you that you would not expect?

click to expand

i don't mind. i'm used to it now. and i guess i can understand the logic of "if you really knew me then it wouldn't be a question." not sure how well that works when you come up against your own insecurities in the beginning.

not so much little surprises but i know there is nothing i couldn't ask for that he wouldn't do. he just wants to keep me happy. if i am ever in a bad mood, it sets him off because he takes it so deeply to heart. he says he hates seeing me cry. if there is anything i want, he will bend over backwards to get it for me.

the last little surprise he got for me was a chocolate bar however by the time it got to me, he had eaten half of it. "sorry" he said, "i was hungry." lol.

Posted by jeane

Posted by tctapp007

Posted by jeane

Posted by bkbella86

Hmm he’s ignored you for days and didn’t say I love you back? This doesn’t sound good. Him being a Taurus is irrelevant. Would you accept this treatment from anyone else or only a bull?

i think it would be a mistake to conflate the two. taurus believe that you should just know how they feel about you.

Yeah that's not the best trait to have but tis true - we show more in actions than words though which others do not so I guess it's a trade off - now some might say well his actions for the past few days isn't what I expected but we don't always do what is expected of us - we do it our way - he is still there and he is actually probably focusing on working hard and staying grounded himself so he can be there for his partner. Do you find he gives you little surprises or does things for you that you would not expect?

i don't mind. i'm used to it now. and i guess i can understand the logic of "if you really knew me then it wouldn't be a question." not sure how well that works when you come up against your own insecurities in the beginning.

not so much little surprises but i know there is nothing i couldn't ask for that he wouldn't do. he just wants to keep me happy. if i am ever in a bad mood, it sets him off because he takes it so deeply to heart. he says he hates seeing me cry. if there is anything i want, he will bend over backwards to get it for me.

the last little surprise he got for me was a chocolate bar however by the time it got to me, he had eaten half of it. "sorry" he said, "i was hungry." lol.

click to expand

lol well at least he saved you half lol - yes, i could nearly kill myself doing stuff to make sure my partner was comfortable - we like it peaceful and will stop at nothing to have it

Posted by jeane

i think you need to stop worrying. i know it's hard but you have to trust the ride and stop feeling the need to control the situation. some times things are out of our control and you just have to learn to go with it.

and it's only been two days. and you might be finding yourself going into another stage of your relationship. wait and see. if he really disappears then it's time to stress out but nothing has happened yet.

don't worry about the test thing. my partner also told me i passed all of his tests.

in my case, my relationship became more intense with my partner as time went on but at the year mark we were still feeling each other out. there were moments of quiet which had me feeling concerned but eventually i got to the point of just saying to myself "fuck it, i'll hear from when i hear from him." my letting go made me stop counting the days and the minutes, and somehow (and I always wondered if this was connected), it made him stop any sign of being aloof.

Thank you Jeane! It is oh so very hard to trust the ride! Because it has been one heck of a ride! Not in any type of toxic way, but the need to control, etc as you stated!!

The very next morning he called me bright and early with a goofy loving good morning greeting and asking how I am and updating me about the two busy days (the aloof ones) and ever so wondering about what has been happening with me..lol I just shook my head and smiled and had a great conversation. We hung up and he called me a couple of hours later and then repeat again. Even stopped by after work before he went to grab his lil munchkin. lol.

The test thing! I was so curious lol. And he just kept saying "yes they're tests, and I have to conduct them and they aren't done" lol I just laugh it off, but he is so serious!

I do feel we are still feeling each other out as well, we are much more stable, and I have noticed that he is now more comfortable with coming over to my place and letting himself go, whereas before he would come over and he would kind of feel like he's invading my space. I wanted him to feel comfortable in his own time, but now! He will be down the street and call and say "babe are you home? is it ok if I come to see you, on the way!" and it's just natural for him now. I do see that there is a change. And it has been a steady change. It's beautiful to be in.

Those moments of quiet are concerning and I hope as we progress I come to the point in which you did and of course hoping eventually those moments of aloofness will subside!

Thank you so much for this advice! I need it! lol 😄 Love and blessings to you and your Taurus partner!

Posted by PhoenixStorm

I would just try to occupy yourself with something else. As long as he is still texting you on those days, even if the conversation is dry as least he is still in contact. As someone who is introverted myself, some people just need time alone to recharge. But as a Scorpio woman myself, I can also understand why you are overthinking and feeling out of control. Try to direct your attention to something else that will keep you busy.

As far as him asking if you love him, I wonder if maybe that’s a taurus thing. Lol maybe they need words of affirmation. I recently had a taurus guy that I was briefly dating ask me that multiple times but we were only dating for like a month 🥴 so I don’t love him and told him to stop asking me that question 😂

Thank you so much PhoenixStorm for the advice! Yes I definitely want my alobe time to recharge. I call it my transformational period. You know us Scorpios need to have rebirths and these periods of shedding old skin only to come back bigger and better, sounder and wiser! We need that! (Love your username by the way! Reminds me of us being like Phoenix's!) Oh and that control thing and overanalyzing! I promise it will be the death of our brains! lol

A month—? Oh heck no lol MAYDAY MAYDAY-someone come get this loon 😂

Posted by dillweed

i am a scorpio dating a taurus.

question: does he have a taurus mercury?

what is the rest of y’alls charts?



my taurus isn’t super communicative on the phone. sometimes he is very chatty but most times he doesnt say much.

Hi dillweed!

His is Sun in Taurus, Moon in Libra, Mercury in Taurus, Venus in Gemini, Mars in Taurus

Mine is Sun in Scorpio, Moon in Capricorn, Mercury in Scorpio, Venus is Sag, Mars in Capricorn

And I don't know what any of that means! 😂

Posted by tctapp007

what @jeane said - stay chill and busy do your own thing - he's got you now that you've passed all the tests and it's time for a new phase - he's got to let this rest for a bit on his brain - quiet and contemplative or a bit scared because well - now it's real - where is this going - the builder in Taurus is always thinking and working hard to make things happen along the way in order to build whatever kingdom he desires in life

for a Taurus it's not good to be attached 24 hours a day to another - each climbs their own mountain daily and returns to their loved one - which gives for sharing what one has learned and experienced and thus both growing in understanding

Thank you @tctapp007 ...these tests 😂 I would love to know what they have been lol he did call me at the tip top of the morning being great and his usual self telling me about his busy days!

That word BUILD!!! He is always telling me about us building and we always come up with business ideas, he initiates them, I support them and start working on the idea in more depth and we come together and come up with even greater ideas! We have a plethora of them and it feels great! He is always in awe about how much we can bounce ideas off of each other! I truly appreciate it as well!

Posted by scorpio52

Posted by tctapp007

what @jeane said - stay chill and busy do your own thing - he's got you now that you've passed all the tests and it's time for a new phase - he's got to let this rest for a bit on his brain - quiet and contemplative or a bit scared because well - now it's real - where is this going - the builder in Taurus is always thinking and working hard to make things happen along the way in order to build whatever kingdom he desires in life

for a Taurus it's not good to be attached 24 hours a day to another - each climbs their own mountain daily and returns to their loved one - which gives for sharing what one has learned and experienced and thus both growing in understanding

Thank you @tctapp007 ...these tests 😂 I would love to know what they have been lol he did call me at the tip top of the morning being great and his usual self telling me about his busy days!

That word BUILD!!! He is always telling me about us building and we always come up with business ideas, he initiates them, I support them and start working on the idea in more depth and we come together and come up with even greater ideas! We have a plethora of them and it feels great! He is always in awe about how much we can bounce ideas off of each other! I truly appreciate it as well!

click to expand

much luck and many happy years together

Posted by HankJWimbleton

I can't speak for relationships and I have yet to meet a Scorpio in person other than two perverted nobodies who tried to use violence on me in middle school, but according my circle of Taurus friends from late high school to university their bad blood with people born under Scorpio is notable, especially sibling wise. One of my closest friends (Taurus male) nowadays clashes with his stepmother (Scorpio female) in just about every way, and her aggression according to my friend rooted from items listed but not exclusive to: homophobia, christian knight-templar bigotry, communism extremism, and possible OCD or sociopathy. In terms of Dxpnet Taurus forum, I believe that the majority of users here absolutely despise the guts of Scorpios.

Now I know you have love for each other, but this is the case for where love is irrelevant or nonexistent. Also this is to shed some light on the lives of Tauruses I know.

My point being this is hard to imagine, and that my friend will probably wholeheartedly disagree with everything being wrote here.

I don't know how different your personality would be as a Scorpio in comparison to the ones who were hostile to my friends.

there is a spectrum of expression for everything. So your not wrong or right. I'd question the kind of people you are around though. Don't allow a few bad examples to spoil your view as a whole.

Posted by scorpio52

Posted by jeane

i think you need to stop worrying. i know it's hard but you have to trust the ride and stop feeling the need to control the situation. some times things are out of our control and you just have to learn to go with it.

and it's only been two days. and you might be finding yourself going into another stage of your relationship. wait and see. if he really disappears then it's time to stress out but nothing has happened yet.

don't worry about the test thing. my partner also told me i passed all of his tests.

in my case, my relationship became more intense with my partner as time went on but at the year mark we were still feeling each other out. there were moments of quiet which had me feeling concerned but eventually i got to the point of just saying to myself "fuck it, i'll hear from when i hear from him." my letting go made me stop counting the days and the minutes, and somehow (and I always wondered if this was connected), it made him stop any sign of being aloof.

Thank you Jeane! It is oh so very hard to trust the ride! Because it has been one heck of a ride! Not in any type of toxic way, but the need to control, etc as you stated!!

The very next morning he called me bright and early with a goofy loving good morning greeting and asking how I am and updating me about the two busy days (the aloof ones) and ever so wondering about what has been happening with me..lol I just shook my head and smiled and had a great conversation. We hung up and he called me a couple of hours later and then repeat again. Even stopped by after work before he went to grab his lil munchkin. lol.

The test thing! I was so curious lol. And he just kept saying "yes they're tests, and I have to conduct them and they aren't done" lol I just laugh it off, but he is so serious!

I do feel we are still feeling each other out as well, we are much more stable, and I have noticed that he is now more comfortable with coming over to my place and letting himself go, whereas before he would come over and he would kind of feel like he's invading my space. I wanted him to feel comfortable in his own time, but now! He will be down the street and call and say "babe are you home? is it ok if I come to see you, on the way!" and it's just natural for him now. I do see that there is a change. And it has been a steady change. It's beautiful to be in.

Those moments of quiet are concerning and I hope as we progress I come to the point in which you did and of course hoping eventually those moments of aloofness will subside!

Thank you so much for this advice! I need it! lol 😄 Love and blessings to you and your Taurus partner!

click to expand

it sounds like you are on your way. everything you have mentioned sounds really positive. be happy! enjoy it! from what you describe you have what most people crave for.

i get the control thing - it comes from fear of being hurt/rejected/tricked/abandoned/humiliated. no one wants any of those things but without risk comes no reward. so believe in what you have, see the good in your partner and believe that whatever happens you will deal with it when it happens (and only then) and be ok.

things will take time. from my experience, it took time for him to really let me in because as above, he also didn't want to be hurt/rejected/tricked etc etc. i had to show him that he could rely on me to be who i said i was. i (my emotions, reactions and feelings too) became the lighthouse for him - constant, steady and always in the same place. we're very happy now but i had to make changes to the way i behaved to allow him to make changes to the way he behaved.

i think we were together maybe 18 months before i think we finally and truly committed to each other and the relationship meaning that we both let go and promised that we would always be there (and i mean really there, through thick and thin) for each other. once you commit to that there is no need to control.

I have more questions than advice. Water and taurus both like commitment and people mistake that as insecure and clingy.

Are you sure thats neediness and not your water element gravitating towards earth?

Do you really think its a good idea to confess that you are insecure? Can you just not use that word, and open a general discussion about attachment style s/your chemistry/your respectie needs/ the pull between the two of you, and feel him out to see if he feels similar pulls?

I was called clingy a lot by air and fire signs, I feel at home with water signs who love attachment as well.

Can you activate your scorpio strength and flip the dynamic and make him want you more? How big is your toolbox seduction wise?

Cause you are supposed to be the seductive vixen who has the upper hand, I mean if you believe in the scorpio woman hype.

You should have asked him if he loved you when he asked you that. And if he shows that he is testing you but not telling how, maybe you should say ok lets see who passes then, as I have my own tests for you. He is making it sound as though he gets to decide the future of this relationship? You know him better and maybe feel his love for you, so his comments don't matter, but just listening in from outside, it sounds like he has the upper hand.

Posted by colors

You should have asked him if he loved you when he asked you that. And if he shows that he is testing you but not telling how, maybe you should say ok lets see who passes then, as I have my own tests for you. He is making it sound as though he gets to decide the future of this relationship? You know him better and maybe feel his love for you, so his comments don't matter, but just listening in from outside, it sounds like he has the upper hand.

why turn it in to a competition? that tit for tat stuff has never ended well in my experience.

taurus are strange with their tests. it's not so much that they test you or create tests to test you, they watch to see how you behave, what you say given certain circumstances, they observe. these are the tests they talk about it. they are naturally cautious so they want to make sure they are certain with someone before they really invest in them because once they do, they know there is no going back for them.

Posted by jeane

Posted by colors

You should have asked him if he loved you when he asked you that. And if he shows that he is testing you but not telling how, maybe you should say ok lets see who passes then, as I have my own tests for you. He is making it sound as though he gets to decide the future of this relationship? You know him better and maybe feel his love for you, so his comments don't matter, but just listening in from outside, it sounds like he has the upper hand.

why turn it in to a competition? that tit for tat stuff has never ended well in my experience.

taurus are strange with their tests. it's not so much that they test you or create tests to test you, they watch to see how you behave, what you say given certain circumstances, they observe. these are the tests they talk about it. they are naturally cautious so they want to make sure they are certain with someone before they really invest in them because once they do, they know there is no going back for them.

click to expand

Not competition, but he has to fear losing her too. I feel both need to make equal effort. But again, if OP does not feel offended by his talking about the tests, and he makes her feel secure otherwise, then no big deal I guess.

Posted by dillweed

Posted by colors

Posted by jeane

Posted by colors

You should have asked him if he loved you when he asked you that. And if he shows that he is testing you but not telling how, maybe you should say ok lets see who passes then, as I have my own tests for you. He is making it sound as though he gets to decide the future of this relationship? You know him better and maybe feel his love for you, so his comments don't matter, but just listening in from outside, it sounds like he has the upper hand.

why turn it in to a competition? that tit for tat stuff has never ended well in my experience.

taurus are strange with their tests. it's not so much that they test you or create tests to test you, they watch to see how you behave, what you say given certain circumstances, they observe. these are the tests they talk about it. they are naturally cautious so they want to make sure they are certain with someone before they really invest in them because once they do, they know there is no going back for them.

Not competition, but he has to fear losing her too. I feel both need to make equal effort. But again, if OP does not feel offended by his talking about the tests, and he makes her feel secure otherwise, then no big deal I guess.

we all have our little tests that we do. they are mostly subconscious unless you are a complete manipulative psycho.

anything can be considered a “test”. an answer to a question, see how you handle stress, how you present yourself in front of family. etc etc these are all relationship “tests” people put each other through.

click to expand

I am mostly talking about him saying it out loud that he has tests for her. It sounded like that bothered OP or maybe not, only OP knows. It is fine to see if you are compatible with someone, but I guess not by making them uncomfortable saying I am testing you?

Posted by dillweed

Posted by colors

Posted by jeane

Posted by colors

You should have asked him if he loved you when he asked you that. And if he shows that he is testing you but not telling how, maybe you should say ok lets see who passes then, as I have my own tests for you. He is making it sound as though he gets to decide the future of this relationship? You know him better and maybe feel his love for you, so his comments don't matter, but just listening in from outside, it sounds like he has the upper hand.

why turn it in to a competition? that tit for tat stuff has never ended well in my experience.

taurus are strange with their tests. it's not so much that they test you or create tests to test you, they watch to see how you behave, what you say given certain circumstances, they observe. these are the tests they talk about it. they are naturally cautious so they want to make sure they are certain with someone before they really invest in them because once they do, they know there is no going back for them.

Not competition, but he has to fear losing her too. I feel both need to make equal effort. But again, if OP does not feel offended by his talking about the tests, and he makes her feel secure otherwise, then no big deal I guess.

we all have our little tests that we do. they are mostly subconscious unless you are a complete manipulative psycho.

anything can be considered a “test”. an answer to a question, see how you handle stress, how you present yourself in front of family. etc etc these are all relationship “tests” people put each other through.

click to expand

I'll gladly lose the test if its for you~ 🙂

Posted by dillweed

Posted by colors

Posted by jeane

Posted by colors

You should have asked him if he loved you when he asked you that. And if he shows that he is testing you but not telling how, maybe you should say ok lets see who passes then, as I have my own tests for you. He is making it sound as though he gets to decide the future of this relationship? You know him better and maybe feel his love for you, so his comments don't matter, but just listening in from outside, it sounds like he has the upper hand.

why turn it in to a competition? that tit for tat stuff has never ended well in my experience.

taurus are strange with their tests. it's not so much that they test you or create tests to test you, they watch to see how you behave, what you say given certain circumstances, they observe. these are the tests they talk about it. they are naturally cautious so they want to make sure they are certain with someone before they really invest in them because once they do, they know there is no going back for them.

Not competition, but he has to fear losing her too. I feel both need to make equal effort. But again, if OP does not feel offended by his talking about the tests, and he makes her feel secure otherwise, then no big deal I guess.

we all have our little tests that we do. they are mostly subconscious unless you are a complete manipulative psycho.

anything can be considered a “test”. an answer to a question, see how you handle stress, how you present yourself in front of family. etc etc these are all relationship “tests” people put each other through.

click to expand

I mean gladly lose the test if its gonna make you so happy~ 🙂

Posted by dillweed

Posted by einspisces

Posted by dillweed

Posted by colors

Posted by jeane

Posted by colors

You should have asked him if he loved you when he asked you that. And if he shows that he is testing you but not telling how, maybe you should say ok lets see who passes then, as I have my own tests for you. He is making it sound as though he gets to decide the future of this relationship? You know him better and maybe feel his love for you, so his comments don't matter, but just listening in from outside, it sounds like he has the upper hand.

why turn it in to a competition? that tit for tat stuff has never ended well in my experience.

taurus are strange with their tests. it's not so much that they test you or create tests to test you, they watch to see how you behave, what you say given certain circumstances, they observe. these are the tests they talk about it. they are naturally cautious so they want to make sure they are certain with someone before they really invest in them because once they do, they know there is no going back for them.

Not competition, but he has to fear losing her too. I feel both need to make equal effort. But again, if OP does not feel offended by his talking about the tests, and he makes her feel secure otherwise, then no big deal I guess.

we all have our little tests that we do. they are mostly subconscious unless you are a complete manipulative psycho.

anything can be considered a “test”. an answer to a question, see how you handle stress, how you present yourself in front of family. etc etc these are all relationship “tests” people put each other through.

I mean gladly lose the test if its gonna make you so happy~ 🙂

hmmm 🤔

click to expand

Guess who got one fans~ 🙂

Posted by dillweed

Posted by einspisces

Posted by dillweed

Posted by einspisces

Posted by dillweed

Posted by colors

Posted by jeane

Posted by colors

You should have asked him if he loved you when he asked you that. And if he shows that he is testing you but not telling how, maybe you should say ok lets see who passes then, as I have my own tests for you. He is making it sound as though he gets to decide the future of this relationship? You know him better and maybe feel his love for you, so his comments don't matter, but just listening in from outside, it sounds like he has the upper hand.

why turn it in to a competition? that tit for tat stuff has never ended well in my experience.

taurus are strange with their tests. it's not so much that they test you or create tests to test you, they watch to see how you behave, what you say given certain circumstances, they observe. these are the tests they talk about it. they are naturally cautious so they want to make sure they are certain with someone before they really invest in them because once they do, they know there is no going back for them.

Not competition, but he has to fear losing her too. I feel both need to make equal effort. But again, if OP does not feel offended by his talking about the tests, and he makes her feel secure otherwise, then no big deal I guess.

we all have our little tests that we do. they are mostly subconscious unless you are a complete manipulative psycho.

anything can be considered a “test”. an answer to a question, see how you handle stress, how you present yourself in front of family. etc etc these are all relationship “tests” people put each other through.

I mean gladly lose the test if its gonna make you so happy~ 🙂

hmmm 🤔

Guess who got one fans~ 🙂

the novelty wears off

click to expand

I hope you always stay healthy~ 🙂

Posted by HankJWimbleton

I can't speak for relationships and I have yet to meet a Scorpio in person other than two perverted nobodies who tried to use violence on me in middle school, but according my circle of Taurus friends from late high school to university their bad blood with people born under Scorpio is notable, especially sibling wise. One of my closest friends (Taurus male) nowadays clashes with his stepmother (Scorpio female) in just about every way, and her aggression according to my friend rooted from items listed but not exclusive to: homophobia, christian knight-templar bigotry, communism extremism, and possible OCD or sociopathy. In terms of Dxpnet Taurus forum, I believe that the majority of users here absolutely despise the guts of Scorpios.

Now I know you have love for each other, but this is the case for where love is irrelevant or nonexistent. Also this is to shed some light on the lives of Tauruses I know.

My point being this is hard to imagine, and that my friend will probably wholeheartedly disagree with everything being wrote here.

I don't know how different your personality would be as a Scorpio in comparison to the ones who were hostile to my friends.

Oh no! Those are horrible experiences! I have heard about alot of Scorpios being more in tune with the darker version of themselves and maybe these Scorpios are that. That is sad. I hope one day you run across a good one! We have great hearts and super nice but also won't get ran over but also can take a lot in the realms of relationships, friendships, etc. We play for keeps! 😄

Posted by jeane

Posted by scorpio52

Posted by jeane

i think you need to stop worrying. i know it's hard but you have to trust the ride and stop feeling the need to control the situation. some times things are out of our control and you just have to learn to go with it.

and it's only been two days. and you might be finding yourself going into another stage of your relationship. wait and see. if he really disappears then it's time to stress out but nothing has happened yet.

don't worry about the test thing. my partner also told me i passed all of his tests.

in my case, my relationship became more intense with my partner as time went on but at the year mark we were still feeling each other out. there were moments of quiet which had me feeling concerned but eventually i got to the point of just saying to myself "fuck it, i'll hear from when i hear from him." my letting go made me stop counting the days and the minutes, and somehow (and I always wondered if this was connected), it made him stop any sign of being aloof.

Thank you Jeane! It is oh so very hard to trust the ride! Because it has been one heck of a ride! Not in any type of toxic way, but the need to control, etc as you stated!!

The very next morning he called me bright and early with a goofy loving good morning greeting and asking how I am and updating me about the two busy days (the aloof ones) and ever so wondering about what has been happening with me..lol I just shook my head and smiled and had a great conversation. We hung up and he called me a couple of hours later and then repeat again. Even stopped by after work before he went to grab his lil munchkin. lol.

The test thing! I was so curious lol. And he just kept saying "yes they're tests, and I have to conduct them and they aren't done" lol I just laugh it off, but he is so serious!

I do feel we are still feeling each other out as well, we are much more stable, and I have noticed that he is now more comfortable with coming over to my place and letting himself go, whereas before he would come over and he would kind of feel like he's invading my space. I wanted him to feel comfortable in his own time, but now! He will be down the street and call and say "babe are you home? is it ok if I come to see you, on the way!" and it's just natural for him now. I do see that there is a change. And it has been a steady change. It's beautiful to be in.

Those moments of quiet are concerning and I hope as we progress I come to the point in which you did and of course hoping eventually those moments of aloofness will subside!

Thank you so much for this advice! I need it! lol 😄 Love and blessings to you and your Taurus partner!

it sounds like you are on your way. everything you have mentioned sounds really positive. be happy! enjoy it! from what you describe you have what most people crave for.

i get the control thing - it comes from fear of being hurt/rejected/tricked/abandoned/humiliated. no one wants any of those things but without risk comes no reward. so believe in what you have, see the good in your partner and believe that whatever happens you will deal with it when it happens (and only then) and be ok.

things will take time. from my experience, it took time for him to really let me in because as above, he also didn't want to be hurt/rejected/tricked etc etc. i had to show him that he could rely on me to be who i said i was. i (my emotions, reactions and feelings too) became the lighthouse for him - constant, steady and always in the same place. we're very happy now but i had to make changes to the way i behaved to allow him to make changes to the way he behaved.

i think we were together maybe 18 months before i think we finally and truly committed to each other and the relationship meaning that we both let go and promised that we would always be there (and i mean really there, through thick and thin) for each other. once you commit to that there is no need to control.

click to expand

Thank you so much Jeane for your perspective! Everything you touched on is so true! He asked me "was I giving up on him and throwing him out in the trash?" and I had to relay to him, that just sounds absurd! I am here! And he said "me too! and that he trust me" and I relayed the exact same thing. He said that I was so loving and caring and he would never take advantage of it and that it's his job to protect that part of me. We both stated we aren't going anywhere and we don't plan on ever. He says I can be assured, he won't be going anywhere so to get out of my thoughts, bc my thoughts do too much lol (he knows that brain of mine)

I'm feeling pretty good about that! 😄

Posted by colors

You should have asked him if he loved you when he asked you that. And if he shows that he is testing you but not telling how, maybe you should say ok lets see who passes then, as I have my own tests for you. He is making it sound as though he gets to decide the future of this relationship? You know him better and maybe feel his love for you, so his comments don't matter, but just listening in from outside, it sounds like he has the upper hand.

Hi, colors! To be fair, after responding to Jeane, I realized I do have tests too and I do them subconsciously. Its me looking at his behavior.. I LOVE HARD, so I need someone that will love just as much as I do not so much showing it the same way as I do but still whatever actions it has to be hard, I suppose. My number one fear is to give that type of energy and to not receive it back. I am super guarded but once the flood gates open, its a wrap, there is no exit clause. We are rocking until the wheels fall off if not in a toxic situation. I am ok with the tests, I know he feels just as much as I do and doesn't want to waste his time. We have the same ideals on that and we both went into this knowing we both were people that played for keeps! He is just more vocal about telling me about them. 🙂

Posted by jeane

Posted by colors

You should have asked him if he loved you when he asked you that. And if he shows that he is testing you but not telling how, maybe you should say ok lets see who passes then, as I have my own tests for you. He is making it sound as though he gets to decide the future of this relationship? You know him better and maybe feel his love for you, so his comments don't matter, but just listening in from outside, it sounds like he has the upper hand.

why turn it in to a competition? that tit for tat stuff has never ended well in my experience.

taurus are strange with their tests. it's not so much that they test you or create tests to test you, they watch to see how you behave, what you say given certain circumstances, they observe. these are the tests they talk about it. they are naturally cautious so they want to make sure they are certain with someone before they really invest in them because once they do, they know there is no going back for them.

click to expand

Said perfectly in what I believe his tests are! And I think he is still testing me! lol I went on a tangent this weekend (my thoughts) but through it all, I said but I am still for you and not going anywhere. My loyalty is to you and regardless, I am here to stay through thick and thin" and he said "there you go passing again" lol!

Posted by dillweed

Posted by colors

Posted by jeane

Posted by colors

You should have asked him if he loved you when he asked you that. And if he shows that he is testing you but not telling how, maybe you should say ok lets see who passes then, as I have my own tests for you. He is making it sound as though he gets to decide the future of this relationship? You know him better and maybe feel his love for you, so his comments don't matter, but just listening in from outside, it sounds like he has the upper hand.

why turn it in to a competition? that tit for tat stuff has never ended well in my experience.

taurus are strange with their tests. it's not so much that they test you or create tests to test you, they watch to see how you behave, what you say given certain circumstances, they observe. these are the tests they talk about it. they are naturally cautious so they want to make sure they are certain with someone before they really invest in them because once they do, they know there is no going back for them.

Not competition, but he has to fear losing her too. I feel both need to make equal effort. But again, if OP does not feel offended by his talking about the tests, and he makes her feel secure otherwise, then no big deal I guess.

we all have our little tests that we do. they are mostly subconscious unless you are a complete manipulative psycho.

anything can be considered a “test”. an answer to a question, see how you handle stress, how you present yourself in front of family. etc etc these are all relationship “tests” people put each other through.

click to expand

Yes yes dillweed!

Posted by colors

Posted by dillweed

Posted by colors

Posted by jeane

Posted by colors

You should have asked him if he loved you when he asked you that. And if he shows that he is testing you but not telling how, maybe you should say ok lets see who passes then, as I have my own tests for you. He is making it sound as though he gets to decide the future of this relationship? You know him better and maybe feel his love for you, so his comments don't matter, but just listening in from outside, it sounds like he has the upper hand.

why turn it in to a competition? that tit for tat stuff has never ended well in my experience.

taurus are strange with their tests. it's not so much that they test you or create tests to test you, they watch to see how you behave, what you say given certain circumstances, they observe. these are the tests they talk about it. they are naturally cautious so they want to make sure they are certain with someone before they really invest in them because once they do, they know there is no going back for them.

Not competition, but he has to fear losing her too. I feel both need to make equal effort. But again, if OP does not feel offended by his talking about the tests, and he makes her feel secure otherwise, then no big deal I guess.

we all have our little tests that we do. they are mostly subconscious unless you are a complete manipulative psycho.

anything can be considered a “test”. an answer to a question, see how you handle stress, how you present yourself in front of family. etc etc these are all relationship “tests” people put each other through.

I am mostly talking about him saying it out loud that he has tests for her. It sounded like that bothered OP or maybe not, only OP knows. It is fine to see if you are compatible with someone, but I guess not by making them uncomfortable saying I am testing you?

click to expand

My guy really says a lot of things that many may consider he should of kept to himself, but he is honest to a fault lol its okay about the tests I know he is seeing how I react to things and making sure my word and how I present myself match up to real life situations. I never saw him telling me that lol but I should of known! lol

Posted by scorpio52

Posted by jeane

Posted by colors

You should have asked him if he loved you when he asked you that. And if he shows that he is testing you but not telling how, maybe you should say ok lets see who passes then, as I have my own tests for you. He is making it sound as though he gets to decide the future of this relationship? You know him better and maybe feel his love for you, so his comments don't matter, but just listening in from outside, it sounds like he has the upper hand.

why turn it in to a competition? that tit for tat stuff has never ended well in my experience.

taurus are strange with their tests. it's not so much that they test you or create tests to test you, they watch to see how you behave, what you say given certain circumstances, they observe. these are the tests they talk about it. they are naturally cautious so they want to make sure they are certain with someone before they really invest in them because once they do, they know there is no going back for them.

Said perfectly in what I believe his tests are! And I think he is still testing me! lol I went on a tangent this weekend (my thoughts) but through it all, I said but I am still for you and not going anywhere. My loyalty is to you and regardless, I am here to stay through thick and thin" and he said "there you go passing again" lol!

click to expand

said perfectly. it's just what they want to hear.

Same here .. I’m a Scorpio rising sun 8th house Gemini... and he is a Taurus sun 7th house venus Gemini 8th house! The intensity is insane! But with Taurus the minute they like you they back up ! I know this because I act like one in a relationship (hints my 7th house)! Taurus can be intense so they try to act cool when they are scared!