Will She revisit our relationship?

Hi Taurus People, I've been away for a while- My Taurus and I of almost 3 years moved separately and after of a lot of miscommunication, and dishonesty and Unpleasant behaviors on both of our parts-her inability to want to grow, and her not doing the work needed, I asked for a break. What I didn’t realize is that she did begin making changes and it has shown even more now.....I started talking to someone, short lived and now I learned she is too and has been physical. She tells me she is saddened everyday because we didn't work out, and things didn't go as planned.... And shes really getting the time ( since we live separately) to work on herself. She said she is finally able to breathe and hear her own thoughts and her getting there is not about anyone around her. We sat and talked, communicated where we both messed up an how we killed the relationship and how she doesn't want to be in a toxic situation and asked me if I’m doing my part to heal .... I sent her an email, thanking her for her transparency ( something she struggled with) her honesty ( this was non existent) : I honestly want to take space to heal and try again...But is she done?

She is very involved with my daughter, and is always asking me if I need something when she’s making a run for toiletries....

Her response was this:

This makes it all worth it .. I know I’m slow but I’m trying..I’m trying to be that person that I needed frowning up for myself .. And I know none of it all is your fault but it means so much to me that you see me.. that’s all I ever want is to be seen as N.A.P .. no aliases.. I will always love you .. you made me realize the pain that was inside the darkness, that I cannot out run my broken past . But most important that the scars are to be shown as war wounds of a battle fought and won. I thank you for the continued push. for standing toe to toe with you during times of struggle that we faced together you will always be my rock and I am forever in awe of you as I was day one . You are a brilliant woman a trailblazer way ahead of your time . That’s why you don’t settle. I get it ! Your passion unmatched in everything you put your mind to. I am blessed that you are in my life. I love you! And you know That is not a easy task .. but harder is loving me Thank you! Thank you ! I love you.... sorry for the typos

Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns

@Ssasy What are your placements?

One thing I notice from your post is it sounds like you were trying to push her into making changes. That’s like rule #1, do not do with Taurus. You may have been right but we need to do it on our own time and our own agenda. She said it herself that we’re slow.

She hasn’t closed down the avenues of communication so that’s a good thing but seeing someone else isn’t great.

I don’t think you should go back expecting to change her.

Im a scorpio moon shes a libra moon (which I read that isn't the best match because shes calm and im not)

I pushed her alot, and when I took a step back she began doing the work.... She has opened up a alot.

She said that the girl isnt the issue and it isnt serious, and she isnt able to tell me that she isnt coming back because thats not how she feels......But she wants to continue to speak to me ALL the time....😢

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Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns

@Ssasy What are your placements?

One thing I notice from your post is it sounds like you were trying to push her into making changes. That’s like rule #1, do not do with Taurus. You may have been right but we need to do it on our own time and our own agenda. She said it herself that we’re slow.

She hasn’t closed down the avenues of communication so that’s a good thing but seeing someone else isn’t great.

I don’t think you should go back expecting to change her.

Im a scorpio moon shes a libra moon (which I read that isn't the best match because shes calm and im not)

I pushed her alot, and when I took a step back she began doing the work.... She has opened up a alot.

She said that the girl isnt the issue and it isnt serious, and she isnt able to tell me that she isnt coming back because thats not how she feels......But she wants to continue to speak to me ALL the time....😢

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I dont know what to do other not do nothing at all. Ive gone into jealous rages, snooping, accusing and it just causes arguments..... SO Im trying to detatch.

Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns

@ssasy, what do you want to happen? To get back together?

Eventually yes. But I know right now, It isnt best because we are both harboring pain and resentment from the relationship....

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Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns

@Ssasy What are your placements?

One thing I notice from your post is it sounds like you were trying to push her into making changes. That’s like rule #1, do not do with Taurus. You may have been right but we need to do it on our own time and our own agenda. She said it herself that we’re slow.

She hasn’t closed down the avenues of communication so that’s a good thing but seeing someone else isn’t great.

I don’t think you should go back expecting to change her.

Im a scorpio moon shes a libra moon (which I read that isn't the best match because shes calm and im not)

I pushed her alot, and when I took a step back she began doing the work.... She has opened up a alot.

She said that the girl isnt the issue and it isnt serious, and she isnt able to tell me that she isnt coming back because thats not how she feels......But she wants to continue to speak to me ALL the time....😢

I dont know what to do other not do nothing at all. Ive gone into jealous rages, snooping, accusing and it just causes arguments..... SO Im trying to detatch.

Is it the same Taurus you had problems with a while back? As painful as it is it might be better to let her go if it causes you stress to be together. Sounds like there might be compatibility issues.

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Yes it is the same ex I had issues with before. The compatibility issues was her not opening up, and not being trusting. She has made changes and has taken accountability for her actions.

One of her messages to me was -

I can’t remove pieces of you you are part of me .. your pieces make me me .. every intricate piece of this crazy puzzle that is the mess of me ..

I love you and miss you to and I am sorry also ... but we both have to be good for ourselves before we can for each other or anyone else .. I’m just trying to piece my life together .. not because of you because I was broken way before you.. and I’m just tired of the hurt caused and that I caused and I just want us both to be truly happy no matter what it looks like .. my best blessing is seeing MS happy now doing teenage things that I never really got to do and I’m glad I’m apart of it.. You guys are my family .. I hope that never changes 😥

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Posted by Ssasy

Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns

@Ssasy What are your placements?

One thing I notice from your post is it sounds like you were trying to push her into making changes. That’s like rule #1, do not do with Taurus. You may have been right but we need to do it on our own time and our own agenda. She said it herself that we’re slow.

She hasn’t closed down the avenues of communication so that’s a good thing but seeing someone else isn’t great.

I don’t think you should go back expecting to change her.

Im a scorpio moon shes a libra moon (which I read that isn't the best match because shes calm and im not)

I pushed her alot, and when I took a step back she began doing the work.... She has opened up a alot.

She said that the girl isnt the issue and it isnt serious, and she isnt able to tell me that she isnt coming back because thats not how she feels......But she wants to continue to speak to me ALL the time....😢

yikessss you pushed a fixed sun / libra moon?

libra moon reaaaalllllllyyyy hates pressure

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YES and we had MANY Blow Outs....And had another recently becaause I asked her to JUST say I DONT want to ever get back together....

and I asked her to OWN up to liking the girl... more than she wants to admit...:/

But I am realizing now I need to jsut focus on myself...And dont even think about it.

Worse part is we live in the same Building because we did move as a couple.....So I see when the girl visits because I went snooping and found out what car she had. Taurus wasnt too happy about this because in the relationship I did alot of snooping because I literally felt when something was off......



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Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns

@Ssasy What are your placements?

One thing I notice from your post is it sounds like you were trying to push her into making changes. That’s like rule #1, do not do with Taurus. You may have been right but we need to do it on our own time and our own agenda. She said it herself that we’re slow.

She hasn’t closed down the avenues of communication so that’s a good thing but seeing someone else isn’t great.

I don’t think you should go back expecting to change her.

Im a scorpio moon shes a libra moon (which I read that isn't the best match because shes calm and im not)

I pushed her alot, and when I took a step back she began doing the work.... She has opened up a alot.

She said that the girl isnt the issue and it isnt serious, and she isnt able to tell me that she isnt coming back because thats not how she feels......But she wants to continue to speak to me ALL the time....😢

I dont know what to do other not do nothing at all. Ive gone into jealous rages, snooping, accusing and it just causes arguments..... SO Im trying to detatch.

Is it the same Taurus you had problems with a while back? As painful as it is it might be better to let her go if it causes you stress to be together. Sounds like there might be compatibility issues.

Yes it is the same ex I had issues with before. The compatibility issues was her not opening up, and not being trusting. She has made changes and has taken accountability for her actions.

One of her messages to me was -

I can’t remove pieces of you you are part of me .. your pieces make me me .. every intricate piece of this crazy puzzle that is the mess of me ..

I love you and miss you to and I am sorry also ... but we both have to be good for ourselves before we can for each other or anyone else .. I’m just trying to piece my life together .. not because of you because I was broken way before you.. and I’m just tired of the hurt caused and that I caused and I just want us both to be truly happy no matter what it looks like .. my best blessing is seeing MS happy now doing teenage things that I never really got to do and I’m glad I’m apart of it.. You guys are my family .. I hope that never changes 😥

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that sounds like taurus inertia to me.

😕 this does not bode well for libra moon

You would think I learned with the amount of Explosive arguments we have had.

that sounds like taurus inertia to me.

Maybe 3 Months ago I would have agreed.

But she literally took accountability and out of her mouth admitted to the parts she played and said how much it has hurt her and knows it hurt me.

and a tactful libran let down

So youre saying shes gone....?

And shes letting me down gently?

Posted by Phantom_Dangus

It sounds like she's getting everything she needs from you without revisiting it.

It's a heartwrenching thing to come to terms...

Because its almost as if the relationship hasnt ended as she still comes to help out but I dont get to get close to her....

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😕 this does not bode well for libra moon

You would think I learned with the amount of Explosive arguments we have had.

sometimes these things take time to learn, ya know?

just work on yourself & move forward.

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I am making my way to doing so.....😢

I realized my pushing and probing was me being controlling....Because I wasnt receiving the communication part of her....

And I wasnt accepting her for who she is....Guess lesson learned.....

Posted by Ssasy

that sounds like taurus inertia to me.

Maybe 3 Months ago I would have agreed.

But she literally took accountability and out of her mouth admitted to the parts she played and said how much it has hurt her and knows it hurt me.

and since then?

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Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns

@Ssasy What are your placements?

One thing I notice from your post is it sounds like you were trying to push her into making changes. That’s like rule #1, do not do with Taurus. You may have been right but we need to do it on our own time and our own agenda. She said it herself that we’re slow.

She hasn’t closed down the avenues of communication so that’s a good thing but seeing someone else isn’t great.

I don’t think you should go back expecting to change her.

Im a scorpio moon shes a libra moon (which I read that isn't the best match because shes calm and im not)

I pushed her alot, and when I took a step back she began doing the work.... She has opened up a alot.

She said that the girl isnt the issue and it isnt serious, and she isnt able to tell me that she isnt coming back because thats not how she feels......But she wants to continue to speak to me ALL the time....😢

I dont know what to do other not do nothing at all. Ive gone into jealous rages, snooping, accusing and it just causes arguments..... SO Im trying to detatch.

Is it the same Taurus you had problems with a while back? As painful as it is it might be better to let her go if it causes you stress to be together. Sounds like there might be compatibility issues.

Yes it is the same ex I had issues with before. The compatibility issues was her not opening up, and not being trusting. She has made changes and has taken accountability for her actions.

One of her messages to me was -

I can’t remove pieces of you you are part of me .. your pieces make me me .. every intricate piece of this crazy puzzle that is the mess of me ..

I love you and miss you to and I am sorry also ... but we both have to be good for ourselves before we can for each other or anyone else .. I’m just trying to piece my life together .. not because of you because I was broken way before you.. and I’m just tired of the hurt caused and that I caused and I just want us both to be truly happy no matter what it looks like .. my best blessing is seeing MS happy now doing teenage things that I never really got to do and I’m glad I’m apart of it.. You guys are my family .. I hope that never changes 😥

that sounds like taurus inertia to me.

and a tactful libran let down

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yup

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and a tactful libran let down

So youre saying shes gone....?

And shes letting me down gently?

well i am not a taurus but i am a fixed sun w/ libra moon. i have a tendency to let down as “graciously” as possible. i don’t wanna hurt feelings.

she obviously cares but too much pressured back & forth will exhaust her. she prob really wishes it could all work out. but, the last thing you want is for someone to be with you, out of obligation. resentment builds & that is never ever fun.

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I don't know a thing about Libra Moon except that you guys are social butterlfies and LOVE people and to have a good time...

I think parts of her misses that side of me and resents all the emotional sappyy depressive back and forth...

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Posted by jeane

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Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns

@Ssasy What are your placements?

One thing I notice from your post is it sounds like you were trying to push her into making changes. That’s like rule #1, do not do with Taurus. You may have been right but we need to do it on our own time and our own agenda. She said it herself that we’re slow.

She hasn’t closed down the avenues of communication so that’s a good thing but seeing someone else isn’t great.

I don’t think you should go back expecting to change her.

Im a scorpio moon shes a libra moon (which I read that isn't the best match because shes calm and im not)

I pushed her alot, and when I took a step back she began doing the work.... She has opened up a alot.

She said that the girl isnt the issue and it isnt serious, and she isnt able to tell me that she isnt coming back because thats not how she feels......But she wants to continue to speak to me ALL the time....😢

I dont know what to do other not do nothing at all. Ive gone into jealous rages, snooping, accusing and it just causes arguments..... SO Im trying to detatch.

Is it the same Taurus you had problems with a while back? As painful as it is it might be better to let her go if it causes you stress to be together. Sounds like there might be compatibility issues.

Yes it is the same ex I had issues with before. The compatibility issues was her not opening up, and not being trusting. She has made changes and has taken accountability for her actions.

One of her messages to me was -

I can’t remove pieces of you you are part of me .. your pieces make me me .. every intricate piece of this crazy puzzle that is the mess of me ..

I love you and miss you to and I am sorry also ... but we both have to be good for ourselves before we can for each other or anyone else .. I’m just trying to piece my life together .. not because of you because I was broken way before you.. and I’m just tired of the hurt caused and that I caused and I just want us both to be truly happy no matter what it looks like .. my best blessing is seeing MS happy now doing teenage things that I never really got to do and I’m glad I’m apart of it.. You guys are my family .. I hope that never changes 😥

that sounds like taurus inertia to me.

and a tactful libran let down

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yup

Posted by dilettante

Posted by jeane

Posted by Ssasy

Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns

Posted by Ssasy

Posted by Ssasy

Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns

@Ssasy What are your placements?

One thing I notice from your post is it sounds like you were trying to push her into making changes. That’s like rule #1, do not do with Taurus. You may have been right but we need to do it on our own time and our own agenda. She said it herself that we’re slow.

She hasn’t closed down the avenues of communication so that’s a good thing but seeing someone else isn’t great.

I don’t think you should go back expecting to change her.

Im a scorpio moon shes a libra moon (which I read that isn't the best match because shes calm and im not)

I pushed her alot, and when I took a step back she began doing the work.... She has opened up a alot.

She said that the girl isnt the issue and it isnt serious, and she isnt able to tell me that she isnt coming back because thats not how she feels......But she wants to continue to speak to me ALL the time....😢

I dont know what to do other not do nothing at all. Ive gone into jealous rages, snooping, accusing and it just causes arguments..... SO Im trying to detatch.

Is it the same Taurus you had problems with a while back? As painful as it is it might be better to let her go if it causes you stress to be together. Sounds like there might be compatibility issues.

Yes it is the same ex I had issues with before. The compatibility issues was her not opening up, and not being trusting. She has made changes and has taken accountability for her actions.

One of her messages to me was -

I can’t remove pieces of you you are part of me .. your pieces make me me .. every intricate piece of this crazy puzzle that is the mess of me ..

I love you and miss you to and I am sorry also ... but we both have to be good for ourselves before we can for each other or anyone else .. I’m just trying to piece my life together .. not because of you because I was broken way before you.. and I’m just tired of the hurt caused and that I caused and I just want us both to be truly happy no matter what it looks like .. my best blessing is seeing MS happy now doing teenage things that I never really got to do and I’m glad I’m apart of it.. You guys are my family .. I hope that never changes 😥

that sounds like taurus inertia to me.

and a tactful libran let down

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yup

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Posted by Ssasy

I realized my pushing and probing was me being controlling....Because I wasnt receiving the communication part of her....

And I wasnt accepting her for who she is....Guess lesson learned.....

this is a super important thing to know about yourself.

this, actually, shows that you have the ability to self reflect & be self aware. not a lot people ever get to this point.

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Thank you! I pride myself on being able to do this.

It comes usually after a HUGE meltdown when Ive lost all control.......

I probe ALOT and when I get what I believe to be "Evidence" It doesnt calm the monster but it feels good for the moment because I controlled evrything to prove how I dont have the trust.

Before I pursue anyone especialy her - I need to work on it.

Posted by Ssasy

Posted by dilettante

Posted by Ssasy

I realized my pushing and probing was me being controlling....Because I wasnt receiving the communication part of her....

And I wasnt accepting her for who she is....Guess lesson learned.....

this is a super important thing to know about yourself.

this, actually, shows that you have the ability to self reflect & be self aware. not a lot people ever get to this point.

Thank you! I pride myself on being able to do this.

It comes usually after a HUGE meltdown when Ive lost all control.......

I probe ALOT and when I get what I believe to be "Evidence" It doesnt calm the monster but it feels good for the moment because I controlled evrything to prove how I dont have the trust.

Before I pursue anyone especialy her - I need to work on it.

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if you go looking, you will always find something.

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Posted by Ssasy

that sounds like taurus inertia to me.

Maybe 3 Months ago I would have agreed.

But she literally took accountability and out of her mouth admitted to the parts she played and said how much it has hurt her and knows it hurt me.

and since then?

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Since then, she has opned up more about where things went wrong. she is calmer whn speaking, she has been open to communicating on where we both went wrong and she admits to being broken and trying to fall in love with herself again....

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Posted by dilettante

Posted by Ssasy

I realized my pushing and probing was me being controlling....Because I wasnt receiving the communication part of her....

And I wasnt accepting her for who she is....Guess lesson learned.....

this is a super important thing to know about yourself.

this, actually, shows that you have the ability to self reflect & be self aware. not a lot people ever get to this point.

Thank you! I pride myself on being able to do this.

It comes usually after a HUGE meltdown when Ive lost all control.......

I probe ALOT and when I get what I believe to be "Evidence" It doesnt calm the monster but it feels good for the moment because I controlled evrything to prove how I dont have the trust.

Before I pursue anyone especialy her - I need to work on it.

if you go looking, you will always find something.

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Aint that the truth.....It drives me nuts but I always get the axious feeling first....then I look and I find it... :/

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Posted by jeane

Posted by Ssasy

that sounds like taurus inertia to me.

Maybe 3 Months ago I would have agreed.

But she literally took accountability and out of her mouth admitted to the parts she played and said how much it has hurt her and knows it hurt me.

and since then?

Since then, she has opned up more about where things went wrong. she is calmer whn speaking, she has been open to communicating on where we both went wrong and she admits to being broken and trying to fall in love with herself again....

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but nothing of any real substance in trying to getting back together?

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Posted by jeane

Posted by Ssasy

that sounds like taurus inertia to me.

Maybe 3 Months ago I would have agreed.

But she literally took accountability and out of her mouth admitted to the parts she played and said how much it has hurt her and knows it hurt me.

and since then?

Since then, she has opned up more about where things went wrong. she is calmer whn speaking, she has been open to communicating on where we both went wrong and she admits to being broken and trying to fall in love with herself again....

but nothing of any real substance in trying to getting back together?

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She has asked me if I am doing what it takes to heal.

She says she doesnt want to revisit the relationship we had because it was toxic, but she cant say never because thats not how she feels..

She said she is trying to heal...

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Posted by jeane

Posted by Ssasy

Posted by dilettante

Posted by Ssasy

I realized my pushing and probing was me being controlling....Because I wasnt receiving the communication part of her....

And I wasnt accepting her for who she is....Guess lesson learned.....

this is a super important thing to know about yourself.

this, actually, shows that you have the ability to self reflect & be self aware. not a lot people ever get to this point.

Thank you! I pride myself on being able to do this.

It comes usually after a HUGE meltdown when Ive lost all control.......

I probe ALOT and when I get what I believe to be "Evidence" It doesnt calm the monster but it feels good for the moment because I controlled evrything to prove how I dont have the trust.

Before I pursue anyone especialy her - I need to work on it.

if you go looking, you will always find something.

Aint that the truth.....It drives me nuts but I always get the axious feeling first....then I look and I find it... :/

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so you are sabotaging yourself in order to cope with the anxiety.

i think at some point we all get to the stage where you just say fuck it. whatever happens happens.

do you control because you feel insecure and unsure of yourself? it's a tiring way to live.

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Posted by Ssasy

that sounds like taurus inertia to me.

Maybe 3 Months ago I would have agreed.

But she literally took accountability and out of her mouth admitted to the parts she played and said how much it has hurt her and knows it hurt me.

and since then?

Since then, she has opned up more about where things went wrong. she is calmer whn speaking, she has been open to communicating on where we both went wrong and she admits to being broken and trying to fall in love with herself again....

but nothing of any real substance in trying to getting back together?

She has asked me if I am doing what it takes to heal.

She says she doesnt want to revisit the relationship we had because it was toxic, but she cant say never because thats not how she feels..

She said she is trying to heal...

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so, a whole lotta nothing.

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Posted by Ssasy

Posted by dilettante

Posted by Ssasy

I realized my pushing and probing was me being controlling....Because I wasnt receiving the communication part of her....

And I wasnt accepting her for who she is....Guess lesson learned.....

this is a super important thing to know about yourself.

this, actually, shows that you have the ability to self reflect & be self aware. not a lot people ever get to this point.

Thank you! I pride myself on being able to do this.

It comes usually after a HUGE meltdown when Ive lost all control.......

I probe ALOT and when I get what I believe to be "Evidence" It doesnt calm the monster but it feels good for the moment because I controlled evrything to prove how I dont have the trust.

Before I pursue anyone especialy her - I need to work on it.

that scorpio suspicion, damn, it can really make us do crazy shit.

a scorpio that has their insecurities triggered can be a literal demon. & bc we are obsessive, we will push until our suspicions come to the surface. but sometimes, they are simply suspicions that get fueled by our own paranoia.

i am continually learning that my paranoia does not equal intuition.

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OMG!!!!!!!!!! Yes...

But My Paranoia crosses with my intuition....SO in some situations I have showed up where shes been...I felt she wasnt going where she said she was....But my paranoia pushed me to believe she was doing more than what she said...She has taken accountability for the parts she played but I ALWAYS went looking and always found that she wasnt being 100% honest...And alot of times I couldnt stop myself from looking. It was a cycle...she would get tired of the fighting and pushing entertain someone id feel it go snooping then find something.......

Its sad, she was always looking for a way out instead of communicating, and I was always going through her stuff instead of talking to her and bashing her for not opening up....

We did damage to one another...not having the tools....But Truly wanted to have a family..

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Posted by dilettante

Posted by Ssasy

I realized my pushing and probing was me being controlling....Because I wasnt receiving the communication part of her....

And I wasnt accepting her for who she is....Guess lesson learned.....

this is a super important thing to know about yourself.

this, actually, shows that you have the ability to self reflect & be self aware. not a lot people ever get to this point.

Thank you! I pride myself on being able to do this.

It comes usually after a HUGE meltdown when Ive lost all control.......

I probe ALOT and when I get what I believe to be "Evidence" It doesnt calm the monster but it feels good for the moment because I controlled evrything to prove how I dont have the trust.

Before I pursue anyone especialy her - I need to work on it.

if you go looking, you will always find something.

Aint that the truth.....It drives me nuts but I always get the axious feeling first....then I look and I find it... :/

so you are sabotaging yourself in order to cope with the anxiety.

i think at some point we all get to the stage where you just say fuck it. whatever happens happens.

do you control because you feel insecure and unsure of yourself? it's a tiring way to live.

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Very Tiring.... I think when we first started dating we fell randomly......and literally it felt like we a breath of fresh air for one another...and I began to panic I think my trust issues are wayy over the top now. She ignitied the match on the past but we both didnt help...

IMO I think the language she's using (assuming its somewhat recent) goes beyond an easy letdown. It seems she really thinks highly of you and has strong attachment to and feelings for you, as well as your daughter...I think if you just legitimately try to be friends with her and love her as a person, let the relationship grow organically without all of the toxicity, it could grow into romance again...Its probably the best way for you both to go about things at this point - start over in a different context, one with more distance and respect, and learn to actually love each other properly....If that works, you'll both know where things need to go and have a foundation to build on. I personally feel friendship can be a more pure form of love so it serves as just that - without all the jealousy/possessiveness/control and other agendas attached to it.

She sounds like she has her heart and head somewhat in the right place - any time you have a kid as a single parent, and you invite a third party into that dynamic who wants to then legitimately prioritize your kid? That's really a thing of value....Where you can ruin it is by demanding answers now, being too all-or-nothing/black & white about the romantic aspect, because perhaps that's your own nature. Neither of you really know whether the romance is workable, and I think her approach is best for all involved....

Tough part is shelving your feelings while she's seeing someone else, but you're seeing someone as well right?....so there's at least balance there, and you have to practice acceptance....If you keep investigating, getting paranoid and worked up, speculating about what she'll do rather than being patient and observing (e.g. asking randoms like us), ultimately you're going to recreate the kind of chaos that a Taurus will eventually run from....

Good Morning Folks....So Taurus decided to take a pic of herself in my college hoodie....We bought one for each other from the schools we graduated from.....PULLING on MY Heart Strings......

Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns

@ssasy, what do you want to happen? To get back together?

So I am trying not to watch everything she and try to decode it but the past 3 days she was emotional.

My phone reminded me a year ago we were in LA, so I sent her the photos.

This is what she had to say:

"I loved LA

I love us

love all we did

love what is still to be done

I will never ever cut us down

no one will ever light a candle to us the good the bad it was and is all worth it I don’t regret anything I ain’t sad about none of it I learned a lot came out scarred but a warrior non the less "

Then the next morning she said to me:

"why did we not see what we had"?

So i asked her if she was happy....She said

" amazing someone who could not immediately let things go would think that happiness is instant Well it is not it will take work ..

but today I just realize we as people get drown in the noise esp me.. and drop the plate worrying about the appetizers guess I’m having a moment it’s ok just too much noise we had the boton and could not believe it guess I’m just disappointed in my self"



She showed up yesterday to see me at work and had on the watch and shoes I got her....

Is she struggling with her feelings or trying to let me know shes still here?

I over analyze i know 😢

Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns

@Ssasy - yes, sounds like she is still thinking things over. I think you should either decide to try again with her or you should stop contacting her (tell her what you're doing and why) - at least then you can move forward.

I dont think its really my decision alone.....But im not ready to give up yet....But I wont try to control it either...