Dominant or Submissive?

Maygirl
Okay all you Libra guys (and gals if you want to answer),

Do Libras like their partners to be more dominant or submissive in bed?

The reason I'm wondering, is the other day when my Libra and I were together, I wanted to straddle him so I could look straight into his eyes, kiss his lips, stroke his face, etc. And he pulled me to the side and said (lovingly), "no you don't, you're too dominant on top." He seems to have no problem with me lying partially on him with one leg over him, and I've straddled him before and he never said anything.

So just wondering, do you think he's just teasing (we do tease each other a lot) or do Libras really not like too much dominant nature from their gals?

Anyone?
Libra
It's meant but equally it's not a complaint...
aquarianbrat
uuwww! Maygirl. Why was I going to post the same question!!! Reason being my libra and I have been talking in length about our likes and dislikes in bed and he has mentioned an interest in dominatrix.. I have little to no knowledge of this. So I read an article on it that was kind of scary but opened my eyes to the subject a bit. He states he is tired of always being the one in control and would like to be submissive. Now I have no problem being dominant in my own way, but to have a structure that I am supposed to follow, will be hard for an aquarius. Then I think.. what if I am not doing it right or to his liking or something.. What if I am not meeting his need in the act. Then I will be embarrassed and have waisted my time and energy. Libra's any suggestions??

Also, Maygirl.. I love to straddle guys and kiss, etc.
Libra
Aqua, I think I would go to a public place first...

Go for a drink, or something - do not drink too much though. Smile a lot. Feel at ease with words. Talk about nothing. Crack some jokes. It'll be great.

You don't have to bring anything up. He won't...

If it's day time that you will see each other, go and do something, ice skating or something.
little_sparrow
I prefer a dominant aggressive lover.

Change is good. Every now and then I get dominant.

A guy really has to be on his game with me. I have A LOT of personality and will just mop the floor with someone I don't respect. I need a guy who can earn my respect by setting me on my ass once in awhile. I think all Libras need to look up to their mate.
little_sparrow
Getting me to behave can be quite the war, VERY few men have won.
Maygirl
So Libra, are you saying he is saying that is his way of putting us in equal terms then?

I always feel like we were equal with each other. I never thought one was more overly aggressive than the other. I am certainly not the shy, make-him-do-all-the-work kind of girl; I like to be in on the action too.

I guess I'm okay then. I was just worried that it turned him off or something. He seems fine though (and Little Sparrow, like you, I think my Libra likes a little bit of a dominant partner as well).

Brat, our antics are certainly nowhere near the heavy dominatrix level; I think that would scare me a bit too.

Libra
I think he is comfortable enough with you to say it. So yes equal.

He means it but it is said in the moment. He actually does not mind. Just an observation.

We need Nico. Nico??!! Come hither...!
nicodemus
Alright I'm here.

Ok, well since were on the topic there are three types of bedroom personalities. Dominant, Submissive, and switchers. Switchers are the least common of the three types, they switch from dominant to submissive, sometimes having a slight preference for one of the other. In the astrological context, even though societally switchers are the least common, in my experience most Libras are switchers. I am, but with a preferrence for dominance.

This is gonna get confusing so recap: I like fifty fifty, but natrually revert to being dominant. I have a lot of confidence in bed and like to control the pace of things.

Heres the kicker, I am dominant in a weird way. I am not very aggressive. I use my charm and tease to bring my partner to the point where they "can't take it anymore" and make the first move. It appears on the surface I am being submissive but it was completely calcualted, I am in control without it being apparent. Once they make the initial surge I turn the tables and take control of the experience. Weather it be tossing the girl on the bed and teasing her endlessly or rolling over and placeing her on top of me, I am usually dominant about it. I remain dominant without being aggressive, usually. That is the other factor, even when dominant we are really intuitive about what our lover wants so even if we are taking control, we are doing it in a way that we can feel is the most satisfying for our partner. I have also been described as being dominant by the fact I alwayse get the other person off before I do myself, alwayse. I didn't think of that as dominant behavior until it was pointed out to me.

But, since I switch, I get bored if I am alwayse dominant, I can be so as long as here and there the girl takes complete control and has her way with me. All Libra males have a fantasy of being not their girls sex slave, but sex toy. In the end we are still the givers, not the takers.
I am not satisfied until my girl is moaning half unconcious rolling around on the bed wondering what the hell just happened.....our dominance comes out in our quest for ultimate pleasure.

I did the bondage thing with a Sag girl, I don't think we are inherantly comfortable with it as a sign. She wanted me to dominate her, tie her down bite her spank her and all of that. I met her half way by tying her down, blindfolding her and teasing her until the silk rope was about to snap....I can't really bring myself to do anything that I think would hu
nicodemus
This is also why we tend to start slow with the act of sex itself, and are huge on foreplay. We can't stand the idea of sex being uncomfortable so we make sure that our partner is passed the point of "no return" and still when it starts we tend to be more sensual and etheric, and let the intensity build rather than just drive it home off the bat because well....Venus signs are typically well endowed so gotta be gentle usually.


And theres more than you ever needed to know on the topic.
Maygirl
Nico, you always seem right on target with what seems to be happening between my Libra guy and me.

I can totally see this in him, now that you explained it that way. He sounds so much like you!

Thanks!
nicodemus
It was kinda cool with that Libra girl last week when things turned sexual, we were both aggressively trying to please each other, make the other submit, it was like I was with the girl version of me. I kinda liked it
Maygirl
Nico, when you are totally comfortable with a woman in bed, how do you act? Tease about things? Suggest things? Ask what she likes? Talk about things in general?

I would like to think my guy is totally comfortable with me (it seems that way to me), but you always wonder.

ammorocks
Nic, that sounds EXACTLY like my Libra. Luckily, I am also a switcher (surprise, surprise) and I can go with the flow. If I am on a dominant streak and he wants a change, he'll gently just change things up. I LOVE it b/c I don't always know what to expect, and also b/c he is so gentle about it, I never feel like a fool or feel bad for taking control when he wants it.
nicodemus
Yeah, that sounds about right. The real fun starts when we can tell you are comfortable, it's something we kinda feel. When the other person completely gives in the real fun starts.

I am very playful when I am comfortable. I say a lot of funny but sarcastic/cynical things, most of it is teasing. if a girl is walking around in ther pajamas I will pants her, or steal an item of clothing and talk her into keeping it off. towel snapping, spontanious stuff like that.
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