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After MONTHS of pain with my Scorpio Ex, REVENGE

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Bethann
7/29/2012 11:33:54 PM | IP

I truly believe he regrets what he did, I believe with all I am worth that he feels the same, we had a few very tearful conversations about it, tears on both sides. He has apologized over and over. His exact words " I almost lost you, I did not realize how much I loved you, then you were gone". I do not doubt his love, I ran the gamut of feelings, hurt, anger, defiant, then hurt again I was all over the map, but slowly I came out of it, I never stopped loving him. He missed me. He missed such funny things, I guess I twirl my hair when I am tired, he missed my perfume on the pillows, the way i tilt my head to look up at him. So, I've decided to forgive and open my heart up to his love again. I have too, I would regret it forever if I didn't. But I believe in our love.
Nefer
7/29/2012 10:41:44 PM | IP
Nefer

41 years old female from Michigan  

Totally freakin' awesome, LOVE being me!

Loving yourself, realizing/believing in your worth, and treating yourself so well that you never, ever accept piss-poor or indifferent treatment from a man IS INDEED the way to a man's heart, absolutely.

I just don't know if I could ever take a CHEATER back (I never have), I would imagine I'd always feel this little niggling in the back of my mind, this whisper.. He could do it again.. he did it once.. he shattered me.. he could do it again.. and this time it would hurt SO much more!

Best of luck to you though, and hey.. at least you already know you could survive the betrayal and still be breathing throughout learning to love yourself again and rebuilding the pieces, cuz you already have.
Bethann
7/29/2012 10:31:21 PM | IP

Wow I was very angry back then.
Bethann
7/29/2012 10:28:01 PM | IP

The best thing about this whole situation is what I learned about myself. As far as Taurus? Very nice man, as far as he knowing about my break up? We talked about relationships, so? I was honest, while we didn't 'mesh' he's become a great friend. I am not saying I handled anything perfectly, far from it, I did some pretty stupid things. So did Scorpio, he admits it, i admit it, oh well. Right now? He is sleeping right next to me, with my dog. I never stopped loving him, I tried, I really tried, who was I kidding? No one, just myself. but I love this man with all my heart, and have for a long time, and he loves me, he always has, he effed up, he regrets it, I did not go rushing back in, I had to guard my heart, and take my time, he understands that, he knows he blew my trust out of the water, but I believe he really loves us as us too. I believe he really missed me, by the things he says and does.
PhoenixRising
7/29/2012 10:03:49 PM | IP
PhoenixRising

female from Toronto, ON  

I'm a Scorpio. What else is there to say

I really need to pay attention to the dates on threads before contributing. I could have saved my time...As I stated above, I already knew where this was going. Funny thing though, (your words):

11/11/11: "Now all of the sudden he wants me back. No freaked way! Two weeks ago? I was teetering, today? Nope. I didn't feel anything when he was pissing and moaning but annoyed. I thought if unheard those words I would cave, and I didn't. He was almost pitifully transparent and oh so cliche'. How boring. I can and have found better...So here I am, I had waited to hear those words 'please forgive me and come back'. And when I finally did? To little, to late. I loved what we had at one time, but it would never be that again. The thing is, I don't see him the same way, he's really a jerk! He's a liar. He's just not man enough."

11/14/11: "I want him to eat his heart out, oh wait he would have to have one!"

11/19/11: "I knew innmy gut he was cheating. It was the most humiliating time for me when I got home. He made such a fool of me. But in the end? I never had a public melt down, It was hell...All the crap, all my hurt, he didn't give one butter! Suddenly he didn't look so great anymore. He looked pathetic. All the lies! I meant nothing. It all hit me and I didn't care anymore...I didn't deserve that and you don't deserve me. You put me through hell, and could not have cared less."

And now....?

Posted by Bethann
Scorpio and I are back on and better than ever....I no longer will be a door mat! I am worth being treated like a woman, with respect, and c



Okay, well good luck with that Smiley
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7/29/2012 9:41:59 PM | IP

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Bethann
7/29/2012 9:37:48 PM | IP

Care. Well, we are firmly back as a couple. I have learned some very valuable lessons, do not ever let a man take you for granted, speak up! Scorpio men are flirts, they attract women like flies to a barnyard, but we have to believe in ourselves! We are stronger than we were before, the sex? Well that was never an issue, but off the charts. The biggest change is me, I no longer put him on a pedestal. I no longer am afraid to draw my line in the sand. In the time we were apart? I learned to love ME, to always stay true to myself and the rest of life seems to go so much better. We have fun, I am so happy now. And what's interesting? I trust him again. I trust me and my intuition.

He hated knowing I was dating other men, it drove him nuts! He told me he would lose sleep wondering if I was being intimate with anyone. He said when he saw me out? It would break his heart what he threw away, that he messed up and that no other woman could fill the void in his heart. He compared women he met to me! The first time we made love after getting back together (i wasn't sure, so it took 5 weeks!) he held me so close, and said he will never let me go again. He missed me terribly, and thought I would never give him another chance.

He loves how feminine I am, that I fuss over my hair, I always dress like a lady, classy, sexy but in a understated sexy way, he loves that I am all woman and classy while out in public, and loves that behind closed doors? Him and I? Well, I'm not inhibited with him at all. He likes when I run around the house in just a T shirt. Scorpio men, from what I have learned, want that challenge. The thing is? It's not a game, i tried that and it back fired HUGE, the challenge comes in when you learn to believe in yourself, respect yourself, don't be a puppet for him or anyone, live your life, be true to yourself, don't drop plans if he calls and you've made plans! That's not game playing,you have plans with your friends, stick to them! He will respect that. That is not game playing. Its life. If a guy wants you enough, they will make the effort, that is not being hard to get, it's being worth getting. BTW? We are going to Lake Tahoe for a two week VK on a luxury houseboat! So this Virgo woman and her Scorpio man have been through a lot, but are stronger than ever!
PhoenixRising
7/29/2012 9:33:59 PM | IP
PhoenixRising

female from Toronto, ON  

I'm a Scorpio. What else is there to say

Posted by scorpiopics
Posted by everevolvingepithet
Nope, he could be genuinely wanting to be respectful after the break up and be civil.
It's always interesting to note how people go all out with the 'revenge on a scorpio thing'.
He's just continued to be himself and you've gone to greater lengths to show him you're 'doing you'.
Alternatively he could be a douche and doing a 'don't know what you've got 'til it's gone'.


I remember when a Sag did that with me.
I pretended to be so jealous and she continued to waste her time trying to
make it worse ... it was so obvious she was trying to play a game with me
so ... haha.

Used to serve my ego so much when I'd walk into a room and she'd turn her
back to me and get close with the nearest guy in the gym - at the dance -
just to show me that I don't matter at all.

Grade 8 was a hard year for her.

What grade are YOU in?


^^^^^THIS! Smiley
PhoenixRising
7/29/2012 9:20:33 PM | IP
PhoenixRising

female from Toronto, ON  

I'm a Scorpio. What else is there to say

calls at 1am as a victory. It is simply the dance we Scorpios are infamous for....

I will read through the rest of this thread, but I already think I know where this story is gonna go....
PhoenixRising
7/29/2012 9:18:49 PM | IP
PhoenixRising

female from Toronto, ON  

I'm a Scorpio. What else is there to say

Posted by Bethann
I think after what he did to me a few swift kicks his way are warranted. So if I am taking pleasure in my tiny little victories, so what.

I have met a Judge. His wife died three years ago. We workout at the same gym, we have gone for coffee a few times and are going kind of getting to know each other. He knows I'm coming off for me a hurtful breakup.


This is just a question based on what you've shared thus far, but what victory are you celebrating exactly? The very fact that you have started a thread asking us about a man--whom we've never met mind you--what he might be feeling? says a lot. But there's more. You want to know what are his motives, you're worried about what his CURRENT girlfriend is doing when she sees you, how she dresses and asking your girlfriends to "watch his reactions" doesn't sound like you've moved on to me. You also have the opportunity to start a new thing with someone else and you seem to have started that potential relationship with tainted stories about hardship from your past. Why does a man that you have gone out with for "coffee a few times" need know you're coming off of a hurtful breakup? Perhaps because you haven't moved on? All of this screams "the Scorpio is still a priority"---oh and sorry, in my book that means he's really winning. I'm not sure if others will/have asked you this later on in this thread, but you need to ask yourself why did he called you at 1am in the morning--drunk call or not? My guess is because he knew he could. You (despite whatever you are trying to convince us in this thread) are still "available". And before we get into a back and forthSmiley about what that means, I don't necessarily mean physically. I mean he can smell that there is a opening he just needs to try hard enough. If you weren't available he wouldn't be able to talk to you, let alone have the balls to call you after hours because he lost that right by virtue of being a dirt bag and cheating. He wouldn't have wasted your time "reminiscing" when he called, it would have been "hey I saw you and realized I really treetr*nked up. Could I get another chance?" But he didn't do that, why? Because he plans to play this little dance with you--again because he can. Don't mistake his
Bethann
7/29/2012 9:05:24 PM | IP

Scorpio and I are back on and better than ever.

It was hell on me when we were apart, I tried dating others, but my heart was always with Scorpio. I would see him out with others and it never got easier. I hid the hurt better as time went on, but ugh! We would run into each other from time to time, maybe grab a coffee or a quick lunch, but I knew he was with 'the skank' as I referd to her. I dated a few guys, nothing serious, I simply could not get Scorpio out of my heart. We would see each other at a clubs, I would purposely sit with my back to him cuz it hurt to much to see him out with others. he would watch me, who I danced with, one time I was slow dancing, NOT grinding and getting all nasty, but a slow dance, guess who came and slow danced right next to me? I about died seeing his arms around someone else! Later I found out he was furious I was slow dancing, he told me he wanted to kill the guy! But I digress.

But we were friendly to each other. One night I needed gas and forgot my credit card, I called Scorpio, he came and paid the 90.00 in gas, we went for a drink, and had a great time. I dressed extra nice the next day and showed up at his office to pay him back (he didn't take it btw) I knew 'she' would either see me or would hear I was there. Well, he invited me to lunch, and as we walked towards the door? 'she' was coming down the hall. She was furious, he told her he needed some report on his desk by 4 and off we went. She blew up his phone. At lunch, as we talked, I finally had the chance to tell him how her and her friends had rubbed my nose in the dirt of him and her. He got tears in his eyes! We talked some more and he invited me to dinner the following Sat., I hesitated, I said, well I'm not sure, I would love to, but you will cancel and I will be left hanging like before. The look on his face was priceless. But we did go to dinner and dancing it was a great evening. He wanted to rush right back into a relationship, I wanted it to, but I slowed things way down, he crushed me before, I was devastated and did NOT want that again. So I dated him, but I kept to my life, the gym, my wine nights with the girls, etc., he had to put in an effort, no more last minute calls and I would go, he had to call me in advance, cuz if me and the girls made plans? I would not change them cuz he called. He had to put in the effort to date me. I no longer will be a door mat! I am worth being treated like a woman, with respect, and c
PhoenixRising
7/29/2012 8:33:33 PM | IP
PhoenixRising

female from Toronto, ON  

I'm a Scorpio. What else is there to say

And people say Scorpios are spiteful.....Smiley
PhoenixRising
7/29/2012 8:28:52 PM | IP
PhoenixRising

female from Toronto, ON  

I'm a Scorpio. What else is there to say

Posted by DazedScorp
Fair warning, seeking revenge on a Scorp is a dangerous game...


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