Will my Scorpio ever forgive me? Please help!

gslove
Your Scorpio (in some weird way) was trying to make you feel better by the text he sent you that day. Scorpio men (and most men in general) identify and show their love with sex. He is hurt because he feels like he was reaching out to you to make you feel better by coming over and holding you and "making you scream" because that is what would have made him feel better if he was in the same situation. You just need to tell him that you are sorry that you overreacted, then when he forgives you then you can communicate to him that next time he wants to comfort you just to tell you that he wants to come over and hold you and make it all better. You just need to explain to him that you are different than him.
Hypno
"HYPO...you surprise me every passing day"

You know me for 2 days only now, and you are surprised..so it turned to be i am not that beast you thought i am.
CanTaur
I agree with Hypno, my Scorp guy has done this to me to. He's not going anywhere you just hurt his feelings. It's not hard to do....count yourself lucky that you've been with him for a year & this is the 1st time you've gotten a reaction like this.
Hypno
I don't know SG, i just think it's not right at all, maybe if he does it again then that is another case..but now i would assume he is not stupid to do it again if he has been told "quietly" not to do so.
Hypno
Not calling him or texting him again, would make it worse like i said before..now he is calm and know what he did because you told him how worried you were..but he needs to save his face now, he is just waiting for a warm message from you that doesn't contain yelling,complaining or anything such..just warm one..and he will find it as opportunity to comeback with dignity..
love is about compromises, try to change each other but slowly and gently..if you just give up from first obstacle, then no love relationship in the whole world would continue.
Hypno
sagiGoat, we have a famous saying here in Syria says "you wanna take the grapes or fight the guard?" or to make it more clear "do you wanna escape the prison or fight the guards?"..
If she loves him and want him in her life then she should do what it takes to save that, yelling at him and showing him that she is angry would make it worse, she would satisfy her pride and ego but she probably would lose him, i hate to yell at anyone ..even when i scream at someone i hate i juts regret it and feel sorry inside me after a while..
We all agree that he must grow up and stop acting this way, but would this happen in one day just by yelling at him? the idea here is to sit together and talk calmly and tell him that she is sorry for the harsh response but also how angry she was and scared at the same time for not showing up and not answering her..and make him promise not to do that again..all this should be done peacefully..he will understand, esp cuz he doesn't wanna lose you.

BeoWulf

**I was really ticked off that he was talking sex so I sent back "Look, u know I love when u come over but why does it always have to be abt. sex with u?" I got no response.**

His first response should have been, "what's wrong? Did you have a bad day?" instead of just ignoring you. Scorps are supposed to be "investigative" right? So why didn't he make the effort to find out why you were so snappish that day (the yelling at the office, your mom's money matters, etc)?

I think he's being childish. He knows that you want him and now he's using that to take his petty revenge on you.

Just apologize for that snappy message, explain that you had a bad day that day and then leave the matter alone. Occupy yourself with other matters.



ariesfire
To OP

Now may be the time to seriously consider whether you want to invest anymore time on someone who you are going to be "walking on eggshells" around.

For one thing, this was a texting exchange right? When you text you can't really inflect emotion. Its not like you called him and screamed to high hell about him only thinking about sex, right? If that was the case, then I could understand his anger. But the childish behavior of giving you the silent treatment is ridiculous no matter what.

Try to get him to see the humor in it maybe? Please don't be a pushover, as that will just be an invite for you to have to watch your words to him constantly. Who wants that? It is a very stressful way to live.
someonespecial
He'll talk to u again don't worry about that! If he knew u had a bad day maybe "making you scream" was his way of trying to comfort you...lol...He loves u which is why he's so hurt but I think he really overreacted...once u two have made up u need to let him know that his reaction wasn't cool cause u were worried....I hope it works out for the best....
VirGenny
Yes it was, someonespecial. That is why I really am afraid he will never talk to me again! Who does that to someone they love? He knows I was in a bad mood and didn't mean anything strange by what I said.
someonespecial
You're right, it was disrespectful, immature and unnecessarily cruel. You two should talk it out once he cools off.
VirGenny
It is Nov 13.

He is back on MSN. I am invisible. I want so badly to reach out to him, it is hard. As a Virgo, this is a mindbender. Hypno, what did you mean when you said that after a year I still don't understand him? I thought I was doing okay until now.
Hypno
VirGenny, what's his birthday?
Hypno
"I can understand my fault in this but I feel that what he did was very disrespectful"

He overreacted yes, but nobody is perfect..
After you both make up, just sit with him and tell him quitely that you made a mistake but he disrespected you too..so in future he will avoid doing such things.

"I feel awkward forcing conversation. "

Don't start a conversation, text him instead, and assure him you like him or love him..and leave the rest to him.
VirGenny
Elena, yes, I tend to try to analyze everything but here I can except that I hurt him without fully understanding why or how I hurt him - but I'm afraid not having that understanding will hurt us in the long run relationship wise. But I can let that go for now.

Hypno, I am torn. On one hand I want to call him, but on the other hand, I see Elena's point. I was near hysterics last night, though I only left one message. He knows I was worried sick and not mad and he knows that today, too, from when I messaged him on MSN. It's not about not wanting to be humble, I just don't want to look like a nutcase. It seems clear he does NOT want to talk to me right now and I feel awkward forcing conversation.

Someonespecial, thank you for all that. I do understand that. I am trying though to walk the line between understanding and pushover. I have been told before that I am too easygoing. I feel like he more than overreacted - he broke a promise and disrespected me. He knew I was waiting for him and deliberately did not show/call/text. I feel like if I send him some funny message or email it will be like saying he can treat me however he wants. I can understand my fault in this but I feel that what he did was very disrespectful.

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