what happened? confused by Taurus man

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2/23/2012 12:11:54 AM | More
saggie1123

things were going really well with a Taurus man I was seeing. he was very interested in me.. took me out to nice dinners, dancing, drinks, etc. we had good chemistry and I figured we were on the same page. after a couple months of seeing each other he made it clear that he didn't want to be exclusive yet and wanted to just continue hanging out and getting to know each other. this was fine but we ended up hooking up and things haven't been the same since. he hasn't spoken to me in over a week. this post probably doesn't make much sense but thats really the gist of it. I'm very confused. are all Taurus men this flaky? what should my next move be or should I just completely through him to the curb? I really do not understand what happened.
2/23/2012 12:16:25 AM | More
saggie1123

One more thing.. when he tried to have sex with me I told him I wasn't ready. I don't know if this influenced anything in any way but thought I'd share. it was after that night he stopped talking to me.
2/23/2012 12:33:16 AM | More
venusianbull

43 years old female from A Lush Meadow, US of A  

In the dead of night, it's the anti-sig.

You know? Sometimes I wish we could just have a heart to heart with the penis in general. "Oh hello there Penis. Yes you are very lovely, I like what you've done with your hair..new style? I'd like to tell you that because I say 'no' to you, does not mean I am saying 'no' to everything that surrounds you. Understand? Good, now forward that to the Brain please and thank you..and quit confusing the man with your impudent thoughts. One more thing, please stop equating your morning stance with your aura of manhood. Kthx. Smooches and licks later? Fabulous."

Easier, no?
2/23/2012 11:51:38 AM | More
c0mrade

27 years old male from Hamburg

Hey Guys, this is c0mrade (not my real n

His MindVoice: She is stopping my sexual advances? Then she is not really into me.. she dont like me. Is she just acting like she is interested? Could be. I should stay away from her for a while and see if she is willing to reach out to me to confirm whether she is really interested in me or not.
2/23/2012 12:01:32 PM | More
venusianbull

43 years old female from A Lush Meadow, US of A  

In the dead of night, it's the anti-sig.

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2/23/2012 6:25:32 PM | More
KittyKnitter

well he sounds like he was into you and likely still is. maybe he is more into you than you think. maybe you did the unexpected and he took what you said as a rejection or you threw him because he expected things to be physical and they aren't. this would be an adjustment he would have to make. does he want to? maybe not. maybe he is thinking he has to put more effort into things and he is not ready for that. by the way, if he is into you, saying he doesn't want to be exclusive could be a way to say he is afraid of rejection but he wouldn't tell you that of course. wanting to get to know you? hanging out? well mature tauruses look at friendship as the basis of a solid relationship. maybe he is just thinking about his options or maybe even he is even letting you miss him and wonder what he is up to. taurus men are good at mind games and testing the interest and affections of the ones they are attached to. he will likely be back in touch.

men don't see time the same way women do. so a week in a man's world isn't long especially when he is nursing a grudge or imagined slight or when he is testing you, lol. if he is really interested in you he will be back. the thing with taurus is bend don't break. don't let him have things all his own way. he will respect you for your values or you don't belong together...

that said, a taurus i know backed off after his friend died as well. it sort of threw him into a tail spin and he broke a commitment. taurus doesn't like feeling lack of security or knowing where things are going and of course he wants to take things at his own pace. we stayed lovers and became better friends and are dating again. we may or may not commit again but for today we are happy to spend time together when we can and not worry about the future. usually the future takes care of itself i find. so i would think that if this taurus guy has any depth to him, he will back. he might be back in his own time. but if you have lost interest by then, so be it.

2/24/2012 10:25:45 AM | More
saggie1123

thank you everyone for the great and helpful responses! Our thing while we were dating was going dancing so I texted him this morning asking if he wanted to go dancing tonight. If he doesn't respond I'll take the hint and drop it but I thought I should give it a final try.
2/24/2012 2:31:48 PM | More
TaurusBadGirl

female

Taurus do not take rejection very well...men or women....Believe me he is into you..Im not saying it's not possible but Taurus men are not big on just having a relationship based on sex...Don't stop your life waiting on him but you might want to show concern and email him or text him and feel him out.
2/24/2012 5:59:28 PM | More
KittyKnitter

i agree with TaurusBadGirl, if things were not happening the way he expected, he may be feeling uncertain of himself. tauruses want their lover to be their friend too, and no this doesn't mean friend with benefits, i am talking true friendship, which is likely what he meant by hanging out and getting to know each other better. letting things take their course and see what the future brings. of course the sexual part would be important too, as physically connecting is part of what tauruses want as well but they usually want the whole package.

tell you what, the main reason i wanted to continue to have taurus bull as a lover, even after he broke commitment, was because it was a way for us to connect on a basic level and he could communicate with me in that way although his words often failed him and his thoughts got in the way of his feelings. don't expect a guy to always say things the way you would. meaning sometimes you have to interpret and clarify things. so he might be a little awkward or uncertain of what to do next. you can help just by letting him know where you stand now and you still would like to have him in your life.
2/25/2012 12:27:58 AM | More
Mistery

female

..."after a couple months of seeing each other he made it clear that he didn't want to be exclusive yet and wanted to just continue hanging out and getting to know each other. this was fine but we ended up hooking up and things haven't been the same since. he hasn't spoken to me in over a week."

"...when he tried to have sex with me I told him I wasn't ready."

So did you have sex with this guy or not? Hooking up usually means one form of sex or the full hog, which is it? Yes, it means a lot in evaluating this situation especially after he made it clear he didn't want anything exclusive. That was your cue to express your needs and wants which are equally important.

My best guess based on my experience is that if it must be generalized about Taurus men, they are very good at 'do what I say not what I do', especially when it comes to sex. They tend to respect and like a girl who cuts him off at the pass first with her expectations. He likes to know where he stands with a woman. If he has sex with a woman after telling her not to expect more from him, well, that's what you're gonna get. YOU have to know what you want, state it clearly and follow through even though he'll test you to see if you'll falter. He wants to be sure you're worth his time and are not easily swayed or care about being a people pleaser which equates to wishy-washy which = someone he can't rely on.

Taurus men IMO, want a woman who has her own mind, body & soul firmly in grasp and won't offer it up to just anyone. It can seem hypocritical as the Taurus man can be quite a player but when he wants to get serious, he knows how to act and needs to see that in his partner.
2/25/2012 11:08:24 AM | More
saggie1123

I texted him last night and asked him if he wanted to go dancing (which was our thing when we were seeing each other.) he said we should get coffee and talk a bit. I invited him over but he got caught up with work so I just said you let me know when you have time. Haven't heard from him yet...
I like him and that is why I would rather wait to sleep with him. I want to build something more solid instead of letting it become something purely physical. So he should be flattered that I wasn't ready to sleep with him. In my book (I'm a saggie, obv) it's a good thing!

2/25/2012 11:49:05 AM | More
saggie1123

Good luck Aquagirly! Let's keep each other posted and maybe we'll eventually figure these men out
2/29/2012 9:40:11 PM | More
saggie1123

Still haven't heard from him. This was my first Taurus male experience and you Taurus' are way too sensitive and confusing for a Sag girl like me. I need to keep things moving!!
3/1/2012 2:55:57 PM | More
cowpuncher

42 years old

Posted by venusianbull
You know? Sometimes I wish we could just have a heart to heart with the penis in general. "Oh hello there Penis. Yes you are very lovely, I like what you've done with your hair..new style? I'd like to tell you that because I say 'no' to you, does not mean I am saying 'no' to everything that surrounds you. Understand? Good, now forward that to the Brain please and thank you..and quit confusing the man with your impudent thoughts. One more thing, please stop equating your morning stance with your aura of manhood. Kthx. Smooches and licks later? Fabulous."

Easier, no?


Sorry... sometimes I get excited, and then I get a swelled head and my ego gets the best of me. I don't mean it personally, I just get carried away with myself. At times, I get so jittery and full of nervous energy that I even act prematurely. I need therapy, but often a gentle, soothing massage will calm me right down. Thank you for your consideration and understanding. Regards - The Penis.

3/1/2012 2:59:09 PM | More
venusianbull

43 years old female from A Lush Meadow, US of A  

In the dead of night, it's the anti-sig.

LMAO
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