Mercury

Hello!
I'm extremely confused by this Gemini guy. He has his Sun, Mercury and Venus in Gemini. His Moon is in Taurus, his Mars is in Pieces and his ascendant in Virgo.
My placements are Sun in Virgo, Moon in Aquarius, Mercury in Libra, Venus in Scorpio, Mars in Cancer and Aries ascendant.
About 2 and a half years ago I started developing a crush for this guy. We work together. And at first I didn't know he had a girlfriend because they were in a LDR so I just allowed my feelings to develop. When I found out about his gf, I tried to stop and act like a friend. His relationship was really toxic and he eventually broke up with his gf. We developed a connection and I always knew he had feelings for me so about a year ago I decided to tell him that I had some feelings for him. He said he only saw me as a friend. Things were normal between us for a couple of weeks and then he started avoiding me. He always does that whenever we get closer to each other even if by accient. So, I moved on. He started dating another girl and I also started dating another guy. When he found out about the other guy he started asking questions about my relationship with him to one close friend of mine. He then broke up with this other girl and things with the other guy didn't go well either and when I told the gemini guy about it he was really happy.
Then the lockdown came and we stopped seeing each other everyday and he would occasionally text me to see how I was doing and telling me to stop by his place and all but I never went. As they started easing the lockdown we spent a day together with other two co-workers and that day I knew something was happening inside his head, I could feel it.

Last Friday we had dinner at my sister's restaurant with the other two co-workers. He saw me talking with a male friend who was also there and kept asking who he was and stuff like that. He also asked a couple of questions about the guy I dated last year. Like where was he and trying to know if I was still in contact with him. He was really nice with my sister and was complimenting me in front of her and even tried to bond with my brother-in-law. Totally random, he asked me if he should shave and I said yes and he said he would. I wasn't even the only girl there... Why ask me?

Later, he started getting a bit drunk and we went to his place and started playing games and got really competitive because I was winning and the other two were tired so they left. We stopped playing and started talking. He was telling me he was kinda lost because he knows he has a problem with alcohol and that he has a lot of stuff in his head. Then it started getting late and I told him to go to bed and that I was leaving and he started asking me to stay there with him. Then he tried to kiss me and I rejected him because I was afraid of the next day. He kept insisting for me to stay and for us to watch a movie but I eventually left.

The next day he called me but it took me too long to reach my phone and he hang up. I called back twice immediately after and he rejected the call. Then I texted a guy who is really good friends with both of us and he told me he had called him while crying.

I was genuinely worried about him and the next day I texted him asking if he was alright and he texted back in a really cold way saying "yeah yeah everything's fine".

I don't know what to make of this. I know he was drunk but he still knew what he was doing. I had parked my car in a place where it was blocking the road because it was late but when he saw the sun up he told me to park it somewhere else because people would start passing there. If he could think about the car, he knew very well what he was doing. He also has this habit of starting relationships when he's drunk. It was also not the first time we were alone while he was drunk. I once even slept at his place because I was also too drunk to drive and nothing happened. (This was a long time ago) He usually runs away from me when he's drunk. But not this time.

I know he isn't afraid of commitment. He wants a serious relationship but I always felt he was afraid of his feelings for me. He once mentioned when we were with some friends that he didn't believe in love. To me it sounds like something someone who is afraid of falling in love would say. Sometimes I feel like he kind of realises he might feel something and then shuts down and avoids me for a few days. And by the way he texted back yesterday he really is avoiding me. But I don't understand why he called me Saturday night and then didn't pick up when I called back. Do you think he feels rejected?

Also, am I over-thinking or do you think he might actually not want to admit his feelings? Why did he try to kiss me now knowing very well I had feelings for him? What should I do now?

Thanks in advance.

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by jezzyboo21

Posted by stillstillwater

Posted by jezzyboo21

Posted by stillstillwater
Wow that IS a nice chart. Only thing Im not crazy about is the Cap Mercury but other than that, that's a really nice chart.

Venus is one placement I like Scorpio in. And he has a gentle Mars. Just perfect

what's wrong with cap mercury?

Hhmm good question. Just feels off to me... because Mercury to me is methods of communication and thought. Capricorn is known to be more restrictive than exploring and open. I prefer a more flexible and open sign for Mercury such as Gemini, Virgo, Aqua.

However, I'm not well versed in astrology to give good reasons why. So may be some other folks can speak on this....

funny you should mention. I'm a cap merc, that's why I asked. That is very interesting but I have been told that my mind is very strange and that I think differently than most. I'm not saying that cap merc isn't restrictive but I don't know.... because like it's weird for me I always try to empathize with others and their perspectives. I may not agree with them but I do understand where people are coming from. I do have issues with small talk though because I'm so busy wanting to talk about things like multiverse and reality possibly being an simulation. What I'm trying to say is I think it all really depends on other aspects and placements

capricorn is one of the universal signs

connected to higher vision and universal love

but i still sometimes find cap energy to be out of place amongst the others

due to earth vibes

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what do you mean

Posted by stillstillwater

Posted by jezzyboo21

Posted by stillstillwater

Posted by jezzyboo21

Posted by stillstillwater
Wow that IS a nice chart. Only thing Im not crazy about is the Cap Mercury but other than that, that's a really nice chart.

Venus is one placement I like Scorpio in. And he has a gentle Mars. Just perfect

what's wrong with cap mercury?

Hhmm good question. Just feels off to me... because Mercury to me is methods of communication and thought. Capricorn is known to be more restrictive than exploring and open. I prefer a more flexible and open sign for Mercury such as Gemini, Virgo, Aqua.

However, I'm not well versed in astrology to give good reasons why. So may be some other folks can speak on this....

funny you should mention. I'm a cap merc, that's why I asked. That is very interesting but I have been told that my mind is very strange and that I think differently than most. I'm not saying that cap merc isn't restrictive but I don't know.... because like it's weird for me I always try to empathize with others and their perspectives. I may not agree with them but I do understand where people are coming from. I do have issues with small talk though because I'm so busy wanting to talk about things like multiverse and reality possibly being an simulation. What I'm trying to say is I think it all really depends on other aspects and placements

Oh ok. Do you find that it's easy for you to communicate your thoughts and feelings?

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it depends. If I like a person enough. Then I'm like a water faucet

Posted by jezzyboo21

Posted by stillstillwater

Posted by jezzyboo21

Posted by stillstillwater
Wow that IS a nice chart. Only thing Im not crazy about is the Cap Mercury but other than that, that's a really nice chart.

Venus is one placement I like Scorpio in. And he has a gentle Mars. Just perfect

what's wrong with cap mercury?

Hhmm good question. Just feels off to me... because Mercury to me is methods of communication and thought. Capricorn is known to be more restrictive than exploring and open. I prefer a more flexible and open sign for Mercury such as Gemini, Virgo, Aqua.

However, I'm not well versed in astrology to give good reasons why. So may be some other folks can speak on this....

funny you should mention. I'm a cap merc, that's why I asked. That is very interesting but I have been told that my mind is very strange and that I think differently than most. I'm not saying that cap merc isn't restrictive but I don't know.... because like it's weird for me I always try to empathize with others and their perspectives. I may not agree with them but I do understand where people are coming from. I do have issues with small talk though because I'm so busy wanting to talk about things like multiverse and reality possibly being an simulation. What I'm trying to say is I think it all really depends on other aspects and placements

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Oh ok. Do you find that it's easy for you to communicate your thoughts and feelings?

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by jezzyboo21

Posted by stillstillwater

Posted by jezzyboo21

Posted by stillstillwater
Wow that IS a nice chart. Only thing Im not crazy about is the Cap Mercury but other than that, that's a really nice chart.

Venus is one placement I like Scorpio in. And he has a gentle Mars. Just perfect

what's wrong with cap mercury?

Hhmm good question. Just feels off to me... because Mercury to me is methods of communication and thought. Capricorn is known to be more restrictive than exploring and open. I prefer a more flexible and open sign for Mercury such as Gemini, Virgo, Aqua.

However, I'm not well versed in astrology to give good reasons why. So may be some other folks can speak on this....

funny you should mention. I'm a cap merc, that's why I asked. That is very interesting but I have been told that my mind is very strange and that I think differently than most. I'm not saying that cap merc isn't restrictive but I don't know.... because like it's weird for me I always try to empathize with others and their perspectives. I may not agree with them but I do understand where people are coming from. I do have issues with small talk though because I'm so busy wanting to talk about things like multiverse and reality possibly being an simulation. What I'm trying to say is I think it all really depends on other aspects and placements

capricorn is one of the universal signs

connected to higher vision and universal love

but i still sometimes find cap energy to be out of place amongst the others

due to earth vibes

click to expand

what do you mean like it's on the lower levels?