A good thing gone to hell...

So things have been going good with aqua dude. He's still confusing as heck but things are at a great place. My bday is in two days but a mutual friend told me that he asked her if he could go with her today to go get a cake for my bday that he wanted to surprise me with. When she told me about it I didn't believe her becuase of the past and it being awkward with him and him forgetting about me and forgetting about things important to me. But she did end up going with him to pick out a cake and she said he seemed so excited and wanted to buy this very fancy elaborate looking one and she told him that was too fancy for a birthday cake but she told me he was so excited.

At one point when we were all hanging out I had stepped out becuase I forgot my bag in my car, no one saw me step out so when he was going to surprise me with the cake I was "missing". When I finally came back inside my close friend was trying to trick me to come into the room where the cake was in. Even though I knew about the whole surprise I was just pretending to be oblvious but I went along with their "trickery" and when I stepped into the room everyone was standing there cake was lit and so i went there and blew out the cake. Aqua man was no where to be seen.

So I was like kinda semi disappointed but I was going on with teh charade I blew out the candles and the "happy bday chorus". I start slicing the cake and I said OMG you guys are fantastic who's idea was this.

Aqua man's friend who is also an aqua said that he did and i was like "Oh wow thanks" (even though i knew it wasn't him) and then aqua man II said "Just kidding it was aqua man"

I then look at aqua man who was just sitting there and i was like "Wow thank you" and he quietly said you're welcome. So I'm slicing away feeling semi disappointed and i kinda look up and aqua man is not realy paying attention and is just talking to a mutual friend while everyone is watching me slice the cake.

Then I'm passing out the cake and i offer one to aqua man and he says no thank you and i said come on for me please and he reluctantly takes one. Then he goes off to talk to the guys and at that point I'm wondering what his problem was so i just kinda resign to this turning out shitty again so i go talk to my firend that went with him to get the cake. Next thing I knew aqua man continues to do his own thing while most are chit chatting with me about my bday and plans this weekend.

Then the moment was kinda over. He

@feby sorry it got cut off, I didn't realize LOL.

But basically what happened was, I knew something was being planned. Not by him just in general, someone always does in our group. Usually the one who instigates the planning is my friend but this time he approached her (she's one of my closest friends) and he kept talking about for days about getting me a cake/card or if she got me a card already stuff like that. She said he kept bringing up things like "Where's her card...where's her card" then today, he asked her "Today's her bday isn't it?" and she reminded him again that it was on Sunday. So he says to her, can you go with me to get a cake? We are going in the morning. That morning he rushed her and so they went, and he kept trying to pick out fancy looking cakes and she kept trying to tell him that you can just go simple but he ended up getting a very pretty one.

Then at some point in the afternoon he had planned to say something to get me to come over so I did and I'm being "fake" clueless and around the time I had figured he was planning the candles and etc. I realize i forgot my purse in my car so I go outside to go get it and I'm on the phone and I guess that's when he went to look for me and I was no where to be round.

According to my friends account she says this is kinda where she thinks he kinda started acting weird. SHe eventually found me outside and i walked into the room and I did the whole "fake surprise" thing and I noticed he was no where to be found. So everyone's singing happy bday and by the time they finish singing he walks in and he just stands in the back with the demeanor of someone who didn't give a s.h.i.t

So I start to get a little sad enternally cause I expected him to at least initiate something...helping me cut the cake, telling me to blow the candles but nope he stood in the back chit chatting away with one of his buddies. So I go on with the charade, slice cakes and pass them out. Tried to offer him one and he kept saying no and didn't want it.

So it pretty much was being uptight, kinda ruining things and he didn't say one word to me. DIdn't ask what I was doing for my bday weekend. Didn't ask me anything, he just walked away to go chit chat with people as if none of this whole cake hting just happened while everyone else is talking to me about my bday and then all of a sudden he just goes off and leaves the room comes back a sec later and just goes back to chit chatting with others. So eventuall

So eventually I just resign myself and just go chit chat with my firend asking her "I thought you said he was excited"

ANd she swore he was giddy the entire week/day and i told her this turned out crappy and she didn't know what was going on with him cause she too noticed he was acting indifferent. Especially because he didn't say anything to me for a couple of hours after that which I found weird. So I decied to just give up and leave so it went like this:

Me: See ya. (I figure he didn't deserve a bye)
Him: Have a good night. Also, have a great birthday 🙂
Me: I will and thank you for the cake, it was very nice of you.
Him: YOur welcome. (Goes back to looking at his phone)
Me: (didn't know what to do so i start to leave)
Him: Did you see "XYZ" dancing
Me: (sighs) no..I wasn't really exactly paying attention to THAT
Him: Oh. (it gets quiet)
Me: I guess I'll go. See you.
Him: Bye.

It's like wtf. My firend even asked him later on what was wrong with him and why wasn't he participating in the celebration and him participating was important to me. He acted all "WTF are you talking about" kinda response. She asked him if he even asked me about my bday plans or anything about my birthday. He said "NO?" as if he didn't get the sentimentality in it and then he just cut her off mid conversation to answer his phone.

She was shocked and I was to when she told me becuase he's not the rude type. He never cuts people off because he's soooooooooo insistent on manners. I'm just as confused as she is. It was totally out of character for him and none of us really get what was he thinking.

No it just happened. My bday is this sunday (tomorrow) so I'm a scorpio. Yeah I don't believe in middle men and everything but if you seen other posts this aqua has a history of treating me differently and everywhere I read it says they treat EVERYONE equally. But yet he does things like this. He never does sentimental things so when I found out about the cake thing and how excited he was and stuff I was surprised. I was also surprised when he did something fantastic for me for xmas too but then was acting the same way.

He gave me a super nice xmas gift but then did the ignoring indifferent thing and that confused me then.

I don't get it LOL.

Posted by Huldra
Sorry if it seems dumb asking for your sign. Sometimes people digest their own story and write it here some 2 weeks later, so I wasn't sure if this just happened.

She's a Scorpio (just had her b-day...😄) but could have been a Leo. Letting her minions wait, while she goes away to blabber on the phone, asking for more attention.

Aqua is a socially skilled sign who takes friendship very seriously. Probably he was annoyed by her rude behaviour and was seriously reconsidering their relationship.

pfff never mind. I have to read the rest of the comments. -.-

i'll unhide if it's relevant.

I was just so shocked at his behavior. He's invited me to his family gatherings and he's a wonderful host. Why didn't he do the bday host thing this time?

I don't mind the him chit chatting. But it was the way he was doing it. I mean he wasn't in the room when they sang happy birthday, he knew I was walking to the room where the cake was when I got surprised. I saw him in the hallway but he didn't come in when they started singing.

Then he just walked in at that point and just stood there in the back looking at other things like a magazine on a table nearby just not paying attention to the moment. His male aqua friend (Aqua II) i guess took over and was shouting blow out the candles!

SO I did and i blew all of them out at the same time, and aqua II was like "Nice jooooooooooooob!"

Because I as pretending not to "know" about the surprise I was like, man you guys planned this good. And Aqua II said "Well I am a great cook" and I said "lol you did this? LOL or xyz did (his wife)" and he's like "no I'm just kidding Aqua man got this."

Posted by feby
Hi again. To me it sounds like he got crunchy about something. I can act the same way if I'm hurt....

hmm i dunno.

i let alot of stuff slide cause it's not worth it and i'd just rather be happy and my loved one happy.

only if it's really really BIG.

like say, if he embaressed me in front of people.

I'm containing my anger ....containing it soooooo much but i'm FURIOUS inside. I won't let loose until we are HOME and then he will get my wrath.

anyway...that usually doesn't happen cause my hubby doesn't embaress me and i dont do that to him.

The explanation for his behaviour towards her is to be found in HER recent behaviour.

He wasn't ignoring (e.g punishing) her friend or anyone else.

Aqua is a fair sign.

Posted by Undine
The explanation for his behaviour towards her is to be found in HER recent behaviour.

He wasn't ignoring (e.g punishing) her friend or anyone else.

Aqua is a fair sign.

i dunno that sounds more libra. He might have libra in his planets. That's a more FAIR sign. Always looking out for others and seeing all sides.

this aqua might have libra mars, or libra rising ect.

So I look up at Aqua man he's just sitting there paying attention now but just being all indifferent. So I just simply say "Well Thank you." and he says "You're welcome" kinda in a more quiet serious tone.

So Aqua man II said "we need to cut the cake!" So everyone was gathering around the table and Aqua was in the back kinda unseen as he was sitting down and everyone was standing. So I said to Aqua II that I can't cut a cake with a plastic knife.

Aqua man must have heard cause he started talking from some where I didn't see him cause I hear his voice talking about getting a bigger knife. I somehow have a bigger knife, and I start slicing and Aqua II and everyone is saying random things about wanting a skinny piece, others talking about how pretty and fancy the cake was...I was throwing compliments about how pretty it was and I don't want to slice such a pretty cake and that I loved chocolate on chocolate. I kinda glance up and aqua man is off in the back of the room chit chatting with Aqua II and another buddy, not paying attention but yet Aqua Man II keeps going back and forth between talking to them and joining us in the festivities.

So we're all eating cake and he's just standing in the back chit chatting and I'm upset by now. So I go up to him and offer him a cake and he flat out says no. So I say, "For me please?" and he's like no. So I walk away join everyone surrounding the cake and he's like "I'll have a thin piece." so everone's talking to me about my bday plans and all of this stuff, he just walks away to god knows where. And basically even when we're int he same room he just doesn't say anything just spend his time with the guys chit chatting and that's fine but I expected at least one bday conversation as we hadn't had one at all.

So after 1-2 hours after having asking a friend of mine that went with him to the cake purchase what was up with his shying away and indifference (which she noticed as well) I left kinda deflated and that's when I did the bye conversation to him.

This is his chart i think. But i really didn't know his birth time...and I'm pretty sure I know his birth place.

Sun Aquarius 19.26
Moon Capricorn 23.21
Mercury Aquarius 18.23 R
Venus Pisces 11.56
Mars Capricorn 13.17
Jupiter Pisces 21.04
Saturn Cancer 12.57 R
Uranus Scorpio 2.28 R
Neptune Sagittarius 11.29
Pluto Libra 9.03 R
Lilith Pisces 0.24
Asc node Sagittarius 7.26

Posted by IAmMystified
This is his chart i think. But i really didn't know his birth time...and I'm pretty sure I know his birth place.

Sun Aquarius 19.26
Moon Capricorn 23.21
Mercury Aquarius 18.23 R
Venus Pisces 11.56
Mars Capricorn 13.17
Jupiter Pisces 21.04
Saturn Cancer 12.57 R
Uranus Scorpio 2.28 R
Neptune Sagittarius 11.29
Pluto Libra 9.03 R
Lilith Pisces 0.24
Asc node Sagittarius 7.26

do you know his houses? where they're at? he could have a stellium in a certain house.

Capricorn moon usually (generally speaking) wants to look GOOD. you know, appearances. It's a Saturn thing. Although, aloofness is usually considered as if they aren't interested, so they appear 'cool'. And it's not really, it's just that capricorn energy wants to contain all that energy inside (kind of like earth is contained) Ohhh he's got Saturn Cancer opposing his Moon and mars.

Someone more professional around here would help. Undine?? 😛

I don't know what any of that means.

How do I figure out houses? Im new to this stuff.

Posted by IAmMystified
So I look up at Aqua man he's just sitting there paying attention now but just being all indifferent. So I just simply say "Well Thank you." and he says "You're welcome" kinda in a more quiet serious tone.

.

ugh. lmao 😄

men who act aloof!!! how can you take it? 😆

Posted by IAmMystified
I don't know what any of that means.

How do I figure out houses? Im new to this stuff.

just go to astrotheme.com
or there's cafeastrology, or astro.com

the wheels are a bit different though.

Posted by lisabethur8

Posted by Undine
The explanation for his behaviour towards her is to be found in HER recent behaviour.

He wasn't ignoring (e.g punishing) her friend or anyone else.

Aqua is a fair sign.

i dunno that sounds more libra. He might have libra in his planets. That's a more FAIR sign. Always looking out for others and seeing all sides.

this aqua might have libra mars, or libra rising ect.

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Don't be so modest. All Aquas I know are acting fair, even if it means to make some people cry. My father, for example, used to give bad marks for underperformance, even when he knew the students were poor and they would be losing their scholarship.

Libra ex husband and sister ...far more subjective in their thinking.

Okay let me find out.

As far as the aloofness it doesn't drive me nuts most days. But I expect more on special days. God he knows sentimentality is BIG for me and he still does that crap.

I don't know what i'm pulling but his chart shows this also:


Planet Aspect Planet Orb/Value
Sun Conjunction Mercury 1.03 451
Moon Sextile Jupiter 2.16 127
Venus Sextile Mars 1.20 292
Venus Conjunction Jupiter 9.08 81
Venus Trine Saturn 1.00 88
Venus Square Neptune 0.27 -108
Mars Opposition Saturn 0.20 -175
Mars Square Pluto 4.14 -27
Saturn Square Pluto 3.54 -12
Neptune Sextile Pluto 2.26 23
1062 -322 740

Posted by Undine

Posted by lisabethur8

Posted by Undine
The explanation for his behaviour towards her is to be found in HER recent behaviour.
He wasn't ignoring (e.g punishing) her friend or anyone else.
Aqua is a fair sign.

i dunno that sounds more libra. He might have libra in his planets. That's a more FAIR sign. Always looking out for others and seeing all sides.
this aqua might have libra mars, or libra rising ect.

Don't be so modest. All Aquas I know are acting fair, even if it means to make some people cry. My father, for example, used to give bad marks for underperformance, even when he knew the students were poor and they would be losing their scholarship.

Libra ex husband and sister ...far more subjective in their thinking.

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Are you freaeking tricking on me, Undine?


it's fucking trickery you're playing here.

i can't believe you'd even say that. You know damn well that's CRUEL.

and that's WEAK of him.

sigh. i'm sorry you had to grow up with that kind of father. 😢

that just makes me angry and upset when i read stuff like that.

Posted by lisabethur8

Posted by IAmMystified
This is his chart i think. But i really didn't know his birth time...and I'm pretty sure I know his birth place.

Sun Aquarius 19.26
Moon Capricorn 23.21
Mercury Aquarius 18.23 R
Venus Pisces 11.56
Mars Capricorn 13.17
Jupiter Pisces 21.04
Saturn Cancer 12.57 R
Uranus Scorpio 2.28 R
Neptune Sagittarius 11.29
Pluto Libra 9.03 R
Lilith Pisces 0.24
Asc node Sagittarius 7.26

. Undine?? 😛

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*shrugs*

His Mercury and Sun conjunct my Mercury and Venus. I think I get him!

Cap moon cares about social norms and wants them respected.

what do you mean social norms?

What's normal is him to play friggen host and lead the surprise he organized by himself.

Posted by lisabethur8
sigh. i'm sorry you had to grow up with that kind of father. 😢

that just makes me angry and upset when i read stuff like that.

I can understand him. Studying at university is a privilege. Getting a scholarship based on lower parental income is another privilege.

Father was giving marks objectively, according to student's effort. Not according to privileges. Wish more were like him in that corrupt country!

Studying was free, bzw....we were in a socialist country.

Aquas do look at things objectively when everyone else wants them to look at things subjectively.

Objectiveness ideally is supposed to avoid issues but ironically it does not lol

Posted by IAmMystified
what do you mean social norms?

What's normal is him to play friggen host and lead the surprise he organized by himself.

Some friends of yours gathered to celebrate your birthday. They brought a cake with them.

Once you were there, it was YOUR party, not his. Your job was to cut the cake and make sure they are entertained. You became the host.......but after two people went looking for you, one after the other. How long did they have to wait for you? Did you actually apologise for the delay you caused?

Posted by IAmMystified
I'm being "fake" clueless and around the time I had figured he was planning the candles and etc. I realize i forgot my purse in my car so I go outside to go get it and I'm on the phone and I guess that's when he went to look for me and I was no where to be round.


So I start to get a little sad enternally cause I expected him to at least initiate something...helping me cut the cake, telling me to blow the candles but nope

I guess buying you the cake, trying to do something nice, surprise you AND go looking for you when you're playing coy on the phone trying to work more attention wasn't enough, huh?

Then you get upset? do you really need him to help you cut a cake? tell you how to blow out candles? what are you 3?

Is it really so hard for someone to be appreciative when people displays kindness and generosity? 😢

@Shell when you break it down like that i get it. But I guess my expectations developed on past memories I guess. I mean i don't know if all aquas are like this but he holds back alot. Around me alot for some reason. I guess when I heard about the cake thing, i figured maybe this time he will just let go and just be sentimental and not so hesitant. But nope.

@Undine no it was all his doing and planning. This entire week he kept bringing my birthday up to my friend. THen the day of he asked her if she could go with him to get my cake. Cause he figured she knew what I'd like. So he kept bugging her to go ASAP. She didn't know how he was going to plan the whole thing cuase he wasn't exactly detailed he kept trying to pick the fancy cakes and she kept trying to tell him just get something basic for a person's bday. But he ended up getting this beautiful cake and eventually hours later he got me to come over where they were having the secret celebration. At one point I went back outside cause i had left my stuff in my car. When I went outside i was on the phone (i maybe was out there for like 5-7 minutes).

My friend found me, and he was like strolling in the hallway. she tells me to go into the room (where the surprise was). I do the fake surprise thing.

Aqua man didn't come into the room. He eventually did but by that time was when I blew the candles. By that time everyone was all being festive and talkign and he did standing in the back chit chatting with a friend of ours about other things i think it was music.

That's when I looked up and saw him not even joining in and that's how the disappointment snowballed LOL

Low affectivity: showing little enthusiasm, speaking in a monotone, engaging in very little eye contact, behaving in a very unexpressive way.

I was with an Aqua w/Aqua Venus for a long time. I, like you, knew he had a lot of emotion underneath and thought that one day he would open up and share. It NEVER happened.

Why? because that's not how Aquas work. There's never going to be a big "switch" all that under the surface doesn't really come to light because that's not how they express themselves. It is not in their nature, they don't want to be like that so you wanting or trying to get him to be like that makes them resist it more. They KNOW what you want. Aquas will rebel against your expectations of them, trust me on this one.

As a water sign being with an Aqua taught me to let go of my romantic expectations and be more detached. One time my ex flew me to another country for a shopping spree. I loved it but the actual trip was not romantic in anyway. It was the gesture, the act was how he expressed himself. period. He gets along way better with Taurus.

Any romance and affection in our relationship had to come from me and I ended up resenting it.
Are you ok with that? If not, you will continue to be disappointed...

@shell

When you talk about your ex taking you on the shopping spree, that's the kind of thing the aqua in my situation would do. The "providing" thing.

I guess without expressive emotion, I'll always be unsure of what his boundaries are because he's not necessarily verbally expressive either. It's not a bad thing, but I guess for me to understand people and what they are thinking and where they stand on any subject matter, I watch for their facial expressions and things they say.

With aqua its hard to tell what's important to them.

But I do see him express himself. He loves frozen yogurt and roller coasters. So he gets really giddy with those things but its rare to see that side of him.

Posted by IAmMystified
@shell

When you talk about your ex taking you on the shopping spree, that's the kind of thing the aqua in my situation would do. The "providing" thing.

I guess without expressive emotion, I'll always be unsure of what his boundaries are because he's not necessarily verbally expressive either. It's not a bad thing

No, it's not a bad thing it's just different and you may have to resolve yourself to always being unsure...

My ex is taking our kids on a trip, he's giddy excited about it and their itinerary. The planning and attention to detail, wanting to make the trip perfect is his way of showing his love for them.

My daughter has Cancer merc/venus. She gets upset with him because he's always joking... especially when she gets emotional. It drivers her crazy and she complains to him but he's not going to change or cater to her emotional state. She whines to me about it but all I can do is point out the things he does do, get her to focus on that and the ways he provides for her. That's the best she's gonna get. *shrug*

I'm sure he can tell you what else is important for him (apart from you). Just ask. All Aquas I know are passionate about several things. Including about love and relationships. If you really want to understand him, let him give you the big picture, the one he has had in his mind long before he met you. See if this picture is compatible with yours, because it's unlikely to change.

In fact, you could put my first sentence into a question. In this way, he would feel relieved to know that it's not one of those "relationships" questions, and that you are genuinely interested in HIM, not only in what he can do for you.

One day, he will be asking what's important for you too. Again, try not to say "it is important for me that you do this and say that". Because this sounds exactly as pathetic as : "My goal in life is to manipulate a man".

@shell

"My daughter has Cancer merc/venus. She gets upset with him because he's always joking... especially when she gets emotional."

Haha the aqua man does the same thing! The times where I see any emotional expression out of him are most of the time where he's making fun of people and he cracks up sooooooo hard his face is red.

But yeah I know what you mean but its just so confusing like when he kept bugging my friend about the card she always buys for people's birthdays, he kept asking her daily where it was so he could sign it.

So I was thinking ...wow he must have wrote something special in there. I look at it and it said "Happy Birthday Mystified. Hope you enjoy your day!"

I look at that and im like WTF 😐 What was the point in making sure he got a chance to write in it lol.

But I've been reading up a lot this morning. I'm trying to get myself to understand things from his point of you but being the sign that I am...it's hard for me to take the emotions out of things.

@Undine You remind me of the time he was asked that and his only response was to make people happy. That's all he wants. I can't remember the exact conversation but that's what I remember him saying. Nothing more nothing less.

You also reminded me about something. I don't think I ever have, or maybe I have but I don't think it's been for a long time..but I don't think I've ever asked him what's important to him or what HE wants out of anything at all. I don't think I've asked him anything about himself in a long time.

I guess I have some conclusions to think about in reference to yesterday and just whether or not we fit in each other's lives in any format. I do realize that I was emotionally charged yesterday and sentimentally is super important to me and for a day there...I forgot what he was about and I threw my expectations in there and fell back into old habits.

Things were going so well too. I think fortunately he's oblvious to my disappointment...or maybe he isn't. But we shall see after my birthday weekend when I see him next.

Thing is, I find him exhilirating because we do connect so well intellectually and our sense of humor is spot on so he knows how to get a reaction out of me, cuase it is hard to do so for most people. But this confusing thing just sucks.

1. You heard how much effort he put into it, so I think he deserves care for it.

2. He was probably pressured into something emotional by everyone their thats why he acted that way.

3. Aquas and sentimental dont mix too often.

4. Your expecting alot of emotion from an emotionless creature.

Just see him as emotionally retarded like most of us are. If you look at it that way this guy did pretty well that night. He also might have just not wanted cake he could have had an upset stomach for all you know. I like cake but I can remember plenty of special occasions I didn't want any.

This post brought me back from lurking for half a year smh

Posted by Aqualad
1. You heard how much effort he put into it, so I think he deserves care for it.

2. He was probably pressured into something emotional by everyone their thats why he acted that way.

3. Aquas and sentimental dont mix too often.

4. Your expecting alot of emotion from an emotionless creature.

Just see him as emotionally retarded like most of us are. If you look at it that way this guy did pretty well that night. He also might have just not wanted cake he could have had an upset stomach for all you know. I like cake but I can remember plenty of special occasions I didn't want any.

For an emotionally handicapped individual, picking out the a fantastic cake and trying to surprise me is alot of an aqua man (and him especially not knowing ever what people want lol) I guess its just little nuances that really get me confused.

I mean when I thanked him for the cake he acted like it was not a big deal and just simply said "you're welcome." What is with that?

Can he at least smile and say something like "I'm glad you liked it" something that at least shows that he understands how things like that are important to me. Anything...not some stoic response.

We dont like feeling vulnerable so I would probably say it the say way. Dont let the little thins get to you when we dont know what to say and our emotions hit us the hardest we tend to say the least. Well with the more detached ones at least.

Posted by Aqualad
We dont like feeling vulnerable so I would probably say it the say way. Dont let the little thins get to you when we dont know what to say and our emotions hit us the hardest we tend to say the least. Well with the more detached ones at least.

I wouldn't know if he's "detached" but I do know he's so uncomfortable about emotional situations which I know but when it comes to other people and showing how much they mean to you then show it!

otherwise thinigs like this cake thing is pointless. Why do it at all if he's going to technically half ass it emotionally/sentimentally.

All I'm going to say here is I am a watery emotional person dating an Aqua and I agree whole heartedly with a lot of what other people are telling you. It is difficult understanding Aquas stoic responses to things as an emotional person.

I totally get where you're coming from.

On my birthday I got an unwrapped dented microphone from my Aqua. On the surface that might seem kind of shitty but actually, he knows I broke my studio mic some months back, and couldn't afford to replace it so he gave me his and cooked dinner. It was incredibly sweet and I was truly appreciative.
You aren't gonna get Hollywoodized gestures of romance from an aqua, but what you will get is probably more genuine.

Posted by Aqualad
We dont like feeling vulnerable so I would probably say it the say way. Dont let the little thins get to you when we dont know what to say and our emotions hit us the hardest we tend to say the least. Well with the more detached ones at least.

^that

Posted by CancerLeoDynamite
All I'm going to say here is I am a watery emotional person dating an Aqua and I agree whole heartedly with a lot of what other people are telling you. It is difficult understanding Aquas stoic responses to things as an emotional person.

I totally get where you're coming from.

On my birthday I got an unwrapped dented microphone from my Aqua. On the surface that might seem kind of shitty but actually, he knows I broke my studio mic some months back, and couldn't afford to replace it so he gave me his and cooked dinner. It was incredibly sweet and I was truly appreciative.
You aren't gonna get Hollywoodized gestures of romance from an aqua, but what you will get is probably more genuine.

I'd had loved the microphone thing, that's incredibly sweet. But it's one thing to do nice thing but then when I'm expecting some sort of friggin smile when I "found" out the cake thing from him, he had this "i don't want to be here" look. Anyone would have thought he looked like he couldn't care less if it was my bday. His buddy who is also an aqua was tons excited, asked me what my plans are...was joyous and stuff. Things I expected this aqua to be since it was his idea!

But yeah I get it. They show it in small ways that are comfortable to THEM.

Posted by CancerLeoDynamite
All I'm going to say here is I am a watery emotional person dating an Aqua and I agree whole heartedly with a lot of what other people are telling you. It is difficult understanding Aquas stoic responses to things as an emotional person.

I totally get where you're coming from.

On my birthday I got an unwrapped dented microphone from my Aqua. On the surface that might seem kind of shitty but actually, he knows I broke my studio mic some months back, and couldn't afford to replace it so he gave me his and cooked dinner. It was incredibly sweet and I was truly appreciative.
You aren't gonna get Hollywoodized gestures of romance from an aqua, but what you will get is probably more genuine.

aw 😆 that is taking it almost to "cheapskates" tv series level. 😆

well if he can't afford it, he can't afford it. it is the thought that counts and he really wanted to make you happy. Also made you dinner.

You ladies ever watch that cheapskates tv series? The woman who is married to the guy gets upset, but she still stays with him no matter what. She even CRIED one time during their anniversary when he took her to a restaurant (it wasn't a luxury restaurant, more of a cafe/diner) and he took the food off of the tables from other people.

she cried, but she always STAYS/STICKS with him no matter what. Alot of women would not even stay one day with that guy.

Then again, lots of women stay with abusers and those who beat them up everyday.

you see?? sometimes those types of men have more worth to them than those men who beat up women or have plenty of mistresses and are super rich!!

Which of you ladies prefer??

but i notice the wife loves her husband (the cheapskates husband)

Posted by lisabethur8

Hahahahahahaha if I showed this to my aqua he'd probably do it just to bug me. The thing is even if he was rich I'm pretty sure I'd still have received that microphone, unwrapped. I can't even think of a better gift tbh - my music is everything to me. (I'm a vocalist) and if you knew me, you'd know I am FAR from a princess. The mic is worth several hundred bucks. I wouldnt want a brand new one, just for a birthday gift that would be awkward and the fact that it used to be his is nice cause I can think of him when I use it.

@Cancer yeah that's pretty sweet. It was something of his he was giving to YOU to have permanently. That takes alot for people, to give up something that brings memory to them and gives it up as a sacrifice to make you happy.


Gosh thinking about this makes me think about all the times I had a douchey response to something nice he was doing becuase he was doing it in an aqua sorta way. I feel bad now 😢