A good thing gone to hell... (Page 2)

Posted by IAmMystified
Gosh thinking about this makes me think about all the times I had a douchey response to something nice he was doing becuase he was doing it in an aqua sorta way. I feel bad now 😢

Don't feel, bad you didn't know.
Now you do and you can feel loved 🙂
It's a good thing.

I think I made amends. He was talking an hour ago if I could open his aspirin bottle for him and I asked why and he was telling me that he injured his wrist/forearm this past weekend so I opened his bottle for him and went and got ice for him. Huzzah 🙂

Then he was talking to me about being called in for Jury Duty and we cracked jokes with each other about that. So all is well again. I like how they move on from things quickly.

But I was talking to my friend about it (the one that with him to the cake thing), we came to the conclusion that he was uncomfortable with how peopel were acting before I walked into the cake surprise room. People were being silly and doing a little same spot dancing and he's just not that kind of person (silliness) wise. He is a very tame/controlled person and doesn't get silly. He does act goofy but he doesn't ever "let go". If that makes sense and when one of the guys was dancing in place it kinda creeped him out I think becuase he mentioned it to me and to my friend as well so he probably walked out and wasn't in the room becuase of that. Even if we are wrong, we are settling on that reason for my own peace of mind.

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Posted by lisabethur8

Hahahahahahaha if I showed this to my aqua he'd probably do it just to bug me. The thing is even if he was rich I'm pretty sure I'd still have received that microphone, unwrapped. I can't even think of a better gift tbh - my music is everything to me. (I'm a vocalist) and if you knew me, you'd know I am FAR from a princess. The mic is worth several hundred bucks. I wouldnt want a brand new one, just for a birthday gift that would be awkward and the fact that it used to be his is nice cause I can think of him when I use it.

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see? 😛 he knows what you love and what's dear to your heart. aww.

you really are very generous in heart and soul, CLD.

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Posted by IAmMystified
Gosh thinking about this makes me think about all the times I had a douchey response to something nice he was doing becuase he was doing it in an aqua sorta way. I feel bad now 😢

Don't feel, bad you didn't know.
Now you do and you can feel loved 🙂
It's a good thing.

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i was just about to say something to her reply.

+100

🙂

Thanks all for your kicks in the ass and the kind explanations. Gotta keep reminding myself of what I already know about him:

- Self contained/controlled
- Goofy but not silly
- Strong sense of duty/obligation/responsibility
- Emotionally dense
- Prefers directness
- Stubborn

etc. etc.

I feel better.

Posted by IAmMystified
Thanks all for your kicks in the ass and the kind explanations. Gotta keep reminding myself of what I already know about him:

- Self contained/controlled
- Goofy but not silly
- Strong sense of duty/obligation/responsibility
- Emotionally dense
- Prefers directness
- Stubborn

etc. etc.

I feel better.

youre welcome but i have to point out something that is disturbing... you keep pointing out 'aqua way, this and that aqua this that way his way is aqua way'

it's as if you're so "FIXED" on thinking this is the way this guy is because of his sign? Honestly, it's already showing bias because you keep putting up this sign in front of him that no matter what he does as a human being he is aqua this way and that because of what you read in books or something. Or from perspectives of other people. this happens to be YOUR guy, not theirs, and what he does and how he shows it, if it's NOT enough for you, then you know better than the rest of us that he's not enough for you. You can't just make a LIST for these things, trying to understand. You'd know intuitively and empathatically what type of guy he is.

and if he's going to LIVE with that kind of mentality, he's never ever EVER going to be good enough in your eyes. you should just move on if that's never going to be good enough.

oh totally know what you mean. It isn't that I'm trying to define him by some sort of list whether its his list or my list or whatever. I just needed perspective at understanding things I may not understand because in alot of ways I'm still blinded because of past experiences.

I know how he typically will be but because I know him well but I guess becuase I'm so blinded and still hurt at past things I either handle things well or handle it irrationally becuase in alot of ways I'm still disappointed by him. But that part is MINE to solve and handle and I get that.

The other part of it is, becuase he is who he is and I listed some of his personality quirks a sec ago...that's up for me to decide whether I can handle it or not friendship or otherwise. He's not gonna change for me and I'm not going to change for him but if we are to remain in each others lives we have to work really hard in understanding and accepting as is, otherwise we need to be man or woman enough to be direct. Whether we choose to comprimise or not is another story in itself.

But the one thing we have going for ourselves and our friendship or whatever it is, is the fact that there's comfortableness and ease he has with me that I know he doesn't have with anyone else and for that I'll always be grateful. I'm easy to be around most days (except the times where I fly off the handle irrationally LOL).