Any Aquarius females here that can help?

Hey everyone...this is my first post. I'm a Libra guy, as my name suggests 😛 I've been in quite a few relationships before, but none that perplex me as much as the one I'm 'sorta' in with my Aquarius girlfriend. :/.

So maybe a quick history lesson lol. We've been dating since October, and things were usually going absolutely great...she's an awesome girl and I love her like crazy. She also confuses the hell out of me because she leads a really private life; I'm totally not used to that. Never met her family nor does she talk about it, very independent. We have amazing sex (she's never even gone as far with anyone before) and we share all of the same interests. I've always wondered why she chose to be with me in a relationship when she's never been in one before and she says 'I just knew by the way you looked at me when we first went out'...(we met like years ago and had eachother on facebook but never talked but I randomly asked her out on one of her status' lol) She says she's always known what the other guys were after...even after having sex the first time and it being obvious she hadn't done it before (err..messy), she changed the subject when I asked her. It's near impossible to get anything out of this girl, like as in the way she feels, or just random stuff..I think it's something that keeps me extremely interested 😛. We've always texted back and forth all day and such, so we were basically pretty close..

Let's fast forward to the last couple of months.. I screwed up a couple of times, and it eventually led to last weekend.. we were at a club and I was being an ass. Too much to drink...I ended up getting really mad at her and basically walked to my house from the train station leaving her walking behind..idiot move I know this. She ended up flipping on me and leaving in a taxi from my house, and we never talked/texted until Wed at least..that's a first for us, but I thought I'd give her some space. She texted me just asking 'are you ok?', and I said yeah...just mad at myself...anyways, we texted all night and she said she was tired of this and she couldn't do this anymore, let's be friends...etc. We started texting again, just random stuff about our lives until we ended up meeting last night.

So...I pick her up..I've honestly never seen her emotional before; when she has been she would take off to the washroom or something, but she was in my car on the way to my house. We had a fire in the backyard and watched the fireworks

** continued, sorry this is so long 😢 * .. and she was crying and really emotional for the first 20 minutes or so...I've never seen her like this and it bothered me. She kept saying her usual response 'I'll be fine'..well, after me being up-beat and happy for a bit, showing her my garden and such she eventually came to, started being her usual self, happy and we started with our usual banter...but then she started flirting with me..asking me 'mm what do ya wanna do with me', and when I'd sort of lightly flirt back she'd be like 'ohh what kinda friends are we 😉' sort of stuff, even being sexually suggestive inside... anywhoo, we ended up in my room, and I honestly thought she wanted to fool around. When I started to she was like 'What are you doing...?? I was totally confused. That's when I got really emotional myself..she said she was just 'kidding around'. Well we ended up falling asleep, and we were cuddling the whole time; she engaged it...and when we woke up, she started fooling around with me, lightly...but I went to the washroom and that was it.

What is going through this girls head, seriously? I can tell she has feelings for me..and to be honest, she means the world to me and I've treated her like GOLD other than a fuckup here and there. I don't know if I can just be 'friends' with her, because I'm really attracted to her and have these crazy feelings too. The last text she sent she said she was 'still mad at me and maybe shouldn't of come over' .. she seemed upset again when I dropped her off and didn't say much.

I really want to know what to do with this one...I've never been with a girl like this, and I can see this lasting a long time. In my mind it didn't seem like I fucked up enough for her to take off like that. I would love it if someone could sort of explain the very complicated nature of the Aquarius female lol..because for once, I'm stumped.

🙂 :/

Ps, I posted here a while back, but lost my account (forgot who I signed up again lol)

I'm a Aquarius and I'd have to say that I, myself do not give too many people information about me whether I'm close to them or not. I just feel as though "the past is the past" and this is my future so why spill my guts and talk about my past when the future is right in front of me. That's my personal perspective on why I don't give out my history. A lot of my friends hate that about me and have told me that personally but that's just the way I am. The same goes for my emotions. I rarely let people know exactly how I feel. It's just for their and my own protection. I only tell people how I feel when it's necessary. I don't think you should worry about her not spilling emotional baggage or past on you so often.

As for the whole drama after the club thing. I think she's hurt because she trusted you and that's a big thing for an Aqua because I don't trust people often. I only trust a select few people. I think at the night of the club you kind broke that trust. It's obvious to me that she does still feel for you but she obviously doesn't trust you anymore and doesn't want to experience hurt again. Aquas are very emotional people but we just hide it very well.

As for what you should do, I think you should definitely talk to her about the situation. Talk about what happened at the club and what led up to the blow up. Definitely talk about it. Don't bring up getting back together or anything just discuss the situation at the club and hear her side of the story. I'd say start off by apologizing then go into discussion and please do it in person if you can. I hate when people don't apologize when it's obvious they've done something wrong. At this moment she's blaming herself for trusting you and letting the relationship go as far as it had. Apologize and discuss.

Posted by kukupuffs093
I'm a Aquarius and I'd have to say that I, myself do not give too many people information about me whether I'm close to them or not. I just feel as though "the past is the past" and this is my future so why spill my guts and talk about my past when the future is right in front of me. That's my personal perspective on why I don't give out my history. A lot of my friends hate that about me and have told me that personally but that's just the way I am. The same goes for my emotions. I rarely let people know exactly how I feel. It's just for their and my own protection. I only tell people how I feel when it's necessary. I don't think you should worry about her not spilling emotional baggage or past on you so often.

As for the whole drama after the club thing. I think she's hurt because she trusted you and that's a big thing for an Aqua because I don't trust people often. I only trust a select few people. I think at the night of the club you kind broke that trust. It's obvious to me that she does still feel for you but she obviously doesn't trust you anymore and doesn't want to experience hurt again. Aquas are very emotional people but we just hide it very well.

As for what you should do, I think you should definitely talk to her about the situation. Talk about what happened at the club and what led up to the blow up. Definitely talk about it. Don't bring up getting back together or anything just discuss the situation at the club and hear her side of the story. I'd say start off by apologizing then go into discussion and please do it in person if you can. I hate when people don't apologize when it's obvious they've done something wrong. At this moment she's blaming herself for trusting you and letting the relationship go as far as it had. Apologize and discuss.

+1 i totally agree with everything you said. As an aqua apologies are CRUCIAL. i appreciate ppl who take responsibility for their actions and then show, not tell, o
How they intend to treat me going forward. if she feels that you are sincere and can tell you want her back she will eventually give you a green light hint...we can be subtle with those hints though lol

did u apologize & tell her how much u want to be w/ her? if not, u def should. aquarius ppl have a tough exterior wen it comes to emotions so its always surprising for our partners to c us actually break down. she was hurt w/ wut u did, n i dont speak for all aquas, but im the same way once u do me wrong, im done -- unless u convince me otherwise. n maybe she hasnt "came back" b/c u havent fully convinced her. its only a matter of saying the right things, n out of all signs, libras should be the best w/ words! i think u shud just confess ur love to her lol as corny as that sounds. we have hearts too n sometimes testaments like that work.

w/ the whole private life thing, im 100% the same. i not a family-oriented person n dont like ppl to be fully "in" and in the know of wut im doing. she'll love u more if u respect that. n ive yelled "don't touch me!" after love interests try touching me lol, but i personally do it b/c i think it's hilarious even tho they're left totally confused or weirded out. wer weird like that lol. aquas r def complicating & hard to read! but i think wut i just suggested wud b ur best bet. n e way, good luck & hope it works out! =)

Posted by aquarius21
did u apologize & tell her how much u want to be w/ her? if not, u def should. aquarius ppl have a tough exterior wen it comes to emotions so its always surprising for our partners to c us actually break down. she was hurt w/ wut u did, n i dont speak for all aquas, but im the same way once u do me wrong, im done -- unless u convince me otherwise. n maybe she hasnt "came back" b/c u havent fully convinced her. its only a matter of saying the right things, n out of all signs, libras should be the best w/ words! i think u shud just confess ur love to her lol as corny as that sounds. we have hearts too n sometimes testaments like that work.

w/ the whole private life thing, im 100% the same. i not a family-oriented person n dont like ppl to be fully "in" and in the know of wut im doing. she'll love u more if u respect that. n ive yelled "don't touch me!" after love interests try touching me lol, but i personally do it b/c i think it's hilarious even tho they're left totally confused or weirded out. wer weird like that lol. aquas r def complicating & hard to read! but i think wut i just suggested wud b ur best bet. n e way, good luck & hope it works out! =)

+1. Once aqua is done, we are out! We don't look back!

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Posted by aquarius21
did u apologize & tell her how much u want to be w/ her? if not, u def should. aquarius ppl have a tough exterior wen it comes to emotions so its always surprising for our partners to c us actually break down. she was hurt w/ wut u did, n i dont speak for all aquas, but im the same way once u do me wrong, im done -- unless u convince me otherwise. n maybe she hasnt "came back" b/c u havent fully convinced her. its only a matter of saying the right things, n out of all signs, libras should be the best w/ words! i think u shud just confess ur love to her lol as corny as that sounds. we have hearts too n sometimes testaments like that work.

w/ the whole private life thing, im 100% the same. i not a family-oriented person n dont like ppl to be fully "in" and in the know of wut im doing. she'll love u more if u respect that. n ive yelled "don't touch me!" after love interests try touching me lol, but i personally do it b/c i think it's hilarious even tho they're left totally confused or weirded out. wer weird like that lol. aquas r def complicating & hard to read! but i think wut i just suggested wud b ur best bet. n e way, good luck & hope it works out! =)

+1. Once aqua is done, we are out! We don't look back!

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AMEN!!
all that jazz about friends after is bullshit to some of us. Hell, I found out just last week one of my ex's died YEARS ago. My husband was like, "why did you go look him up online?" LMAOOOO and i'm like, "i was so curious what his birthday cause i forgot all about him, seriously. and i'm like, adding (cause i know he'll ask why do you need to look up his bday and name) and i'm like, .....don't be upset sweetie, but it was for astrology" *laughs* cause he shakes his head at the stuff. and astrology to him is like one of my daffy goofy space cadet interests.