Any Aquas with a Cap Venus?

Just curious.

Me.

May i help you?

Anyone with strong capricorn planets knows the meaning of hardship and poverty.

That's why reaching to the top is the greatest desire of a "capricorn" energy. They know what suffering really means (Saturn)

Posted by miha
😄 i'm far from being poor or having a hard life....

as about saturn....he's not a monster...he's just dealing with substance...no crap...and this is what i, a cap venus, don't take in love....crap. you may make a mistake once...it's understandable...but if you make it twice...you're out of my life....i've done that and i know i can do it any time again....

🙂

Here's the question... How long will it take you to tell someone how you feel about them?

Things are going great with the guy I'm dating: aqua sun, cap venus. We've been together for six months. His actions speak. He shows how he feels - spoils me! He just doesn't say much. He has told me his family knows about me and they refer to me as his girlfriend. He talks about future plans. He brings me gifts occasionally. He spends quality time with our sons and me. He has stated he is happy and really enjoys our time together. He has said he missed me when he was working out of town. He has volunteered a lot of personal information I haven't asked for. He is interested in really getting to know my friends, hangs out with them and is even making plans with one couple to invite them to his house to cook out with us. No disappearing acts, but he works out of town a lot (keeps in touch almost daily - which is fine with me).

I'm not pushing for anything or asking questions. I see the way he looks at me. Just curious if he'll ever say anything about how he feels (I know yall can't tell me that - but perhaps any insight into how you guys operate would be helpful). Maybe he just doesn't quite know yet. And I am scared to tell him the extent of how I feel.

Thanks miha, that's reassuring! Anyone else want to add anything?

*bump* I would actually like to hear more responses to this too

I'm Aqua moon with Cap venus. Verbal expression is very difficult for me. My actions will speak louder than words. I will be very attentive of the needs and wants of the other person.

I have this placement. I identify with everything others said. I'm very cautious and picky to an extent of the people I'm in a relationship in. If I'm in a relationship, I have to know it's going to be long term and not some sort of fling. I also do not express love by telling you. I tend to do things for you or buy gifts. Having said that, if someone asks me to tell them I love them more often, I will but it just seems so unnatural. You could try telling him how you feel or you could just accept thats who he is and try to deal with it. It definitely sounds like he really likes you though.

Thanks hizob, that is definitely helpful!

Hello there TrueCap,

I'm an aqua sun/scorp moon/venus cap. Take it from me that the signs does show that he's into you. Although do reciprocate the feelings he shows you. It will surely encourage him to be more free around you.
When I found my girlfriend (Sag Sun/Pieces Moon/Scorp Venus) we were like hanging out together but always lost in a world of our own, even when we were out there with our friends.
It takes a lot for an aqua to come out with the "I Love You" gesture, and with Venus in Capricorn, we are constantly looking for signs that you appreciate what we do.
Its like I'll do something nice for you, help you, and then wait for you to acknowledge it, approve it, feel happy that I made time to help you with your errand and most importantly Don't ever forget that I helped you 😄

If there's even a whiff that you don't like what I did or I feel that you are not appreciating the help, I'll stick around but go into the observing phase yet again, until I come up with another way to help you.

Enjoy it while it lasts but don't play games, we hate it.
If you do enjoy the company of your aqua tell him, Venus in Cap loves to know where he stands at all times, be it friendship or relations.
Do all these things and you will have the "I Love You" gesture in no time.

PS : I came up with my "I Love You" gesture after we hung out for a year. 😄
That's the plus point of hanging in there, we know that you will remain there for us, Hang in tight and you will have the best partner ever.

Thanks yall!! This has been a lot of help!!!

aqua sun aqua venus here not sure if here is hope for me in this department lol

would aqua sun/cap venus, then, usually rather wait for the other person to say it first (regardless of gender)? Or is it preferrable to keep it on their own terms and let them say it when they are ready, no matter how long it may take?

Cancerous - On New Years Eve right after the midnight kiss, I whispered the L-Word in his ear. He didn't say it back (probably thought it was alcohol induced, lol!). But things have gotten a lot more relaxed and I have seen more efforts since then. Most importantly, he didn't run. We had been together about ten months at that time. So, if you say it and don't need him to say it back you'll be okay expressing it, if it's not too soon. If he sticks around, he'll say it in his own time. That's the impression I've gotten anyway.

Somebody please correct me if I'm wrong.

Oh wow, I wonder if perhaps even if they feel it and show it, the reason behind them not saying it means they don't fully know if they do or not? (To the extent of the word, I mean). Or is it just purely the fact that they aren't yet comfortable with the use of that word? I'm the type that won't even go near that word until I know for a fact that I feel that way. And even then, I have a tendency of questioning myself and analyzing my own feelings.

I just realized my question just quite possibly sounded a bit vague, sorry about that haha. I'm not sure how else to say it, but I hope you get what I mean

I think you're right or at least on the right track as far as we know! lol!!!

I'm also one that will not say it until I am absolutely sure I feel it. It's a big risk - will either make a relationship better or break one apart. Have to be willing to accept whatever happens. Personally, at this point, if he ran, I would rather know now than later because I think we've had plenty of time to figure out if we have long term potential or not.

That's very true, I'm definitely hoping that if I open up more of my feelings he'd push away or hold himself back even more, but at least I will know now than later. I think I will perhaps try to hold off and see more signs if I can for another couple months or so and see where things are at! I hate rejections and thinking of the idea of me investing my time and emotions and them going to waste doesn't appeal to me at all, but definitely better to know sooner than later..!

I'm an aqua sun and cap venus (woman). The comments made by the other aqua/caps earlier are so spot on, really interesting to read how alike we all are. I'm new here, so that was on a personal note..

To your questions: I would never stay in a relationship for very long if I wasn't really interested. If you have been together for a while I am pretty certain that your aquas have already dissected you from all possible aspects, and found you to be worthy.

I also find it difficult to express love first, I would rather the other person says it first. Hopefully, in a laid back but very sincere way, if you understand what I mean. I have to know that the other person means it, I have to feel that the other person knows me well enough to have these feelings for me, but try not to put too much passion behind your words or they might feel it is too much to handle. And don't be surprised if they don't say it back immediately. Although I am quite a fast thinker on other occasions, when it comes to feelings I can be very slooow. Judge them based on their actions.

Let me try that again.

Yes, you are all saying similar things. It is very encouraging!

I have a theory: if they don't mind you saying it and they don't get uncomfortable and run, and things seem to be getting better (like they contact you more and seem more relaxed, etc), then they probably feel it too. —

Cancerous - try starting out slowing by saying a little bit at a time to feel it out and get him used to the idea. Like, tell him that twinkle in his eye combined with that mischevious grin just melts you.

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Yep. Your theory sounds right. By his actions he is showing you that he most certainly liked what he heard. Probably felt all warm and fuzzy inside from hearing what you said. But I would think he doesn't quite know how to say it back, so he compensates by doing nice things instead.

Your advice on starting slow with small remarks sounds great. And always with a bit of mischief underneath, that is a good one! I makes it sound less serious, shows a lot of confidence, but the message is still very clear. I melted just reading it : )

Funny, I have a couple of friends that are married. He is an aqua and she is a cap. Best relationship I have seen so far, but of course she got a lot of free training in trying to deal with her aqua friend (me) before she met her husband...

ahh these all make so much more sense now. I think I was also under the impression that women should wait for the men to do it first, and that men should be the first ones to profess their feelings. At least this is what I've been taught growing up in this society. So basically, for this sort of guy, just bring it up little by little and see how he responds?

That seems to be working for me. Cap venous is very cautious and won't proceed until they feel like it will be reciprocated. They fear rejection and need reassurance from what I understand. They are uncomfortable with feelings and are more apt to rely on actions to show how they feel. I'm a cap, so I completely understand that. Makes perfect sense to me.

I think if you feel it out by dropping the hints, it won't overwhelm them. If they aren't responsive (in actions, most likely won't be verbal), then back off with saying things and give it a little more time until the actions show a little more.

I'm nodding here.. big romantic gestures is totally overwhelming, I would definitely go with the small stuff and keep it light.

There sure is the fear of rejection, but I think being uncomfortable with expressing feelings is the key element that makes us behave this way, even when we are in committed relationships. At least for me, it just doesn't come naturally. Come to think of it, the guy that I have loved most so far in my life said the L-word to me a couple of times, but it just hit me now that I never actually said it back to him... (now that just sounds totally bonkers..I will have to do better in the future : ) But when we were together, there was just never a doubt in my mind that he knew how I felt. Maybe that explains our mindset a bit.

hmm that's really interesting, so an aqua w/ cap venus can go through an entire relationship never saying the L-word or saying it more frequently just because the notion is already there or "stated" non-verbally?

Doesn't sound right, right? I think that was going to a bit of extreme, so I'm not saying that it will never happen. This relationship happened when I was younger, today I am more aware of the fact that other people need to hear the good stuff. I'm not sure I am talking for all aqua/caps here, but I think we believe more in actions than words. We read other people instinctively (probably because we are uncomfortable talking about feelings), and I think I have assumed that other people function the same way. I myself do not necessarily need to hear the L-word that much, hence I do not feel the need to say it either.

Although, having said that, hearing small things that show us that you both appreciate us AND that you get us feels really good. And I think that if we like someone, it 'radiates' from us, so you should be able to feel from his actions how he responds. I do think that it might take time before you hear the words. But if he is showing signs that he really likes being around you, isn't that a good place to be in the meantime?

See, that's what I don't get. You guys want to hear reassurance and appreciation, need to hear it actually. But, you've got to realize that your partner needs to hear it too. That is what is so frustrating about being with an aqua/venus cap.

I know you admitted that aqualight, I just wish that sentiment would sink in to the others (like mine! lol). 🙂

I hear ya. Good luck, definitely sounds like you deserve to hear some appreciation : )

@truecap where is his moon?

Virgo. Yep, that contributes to the not wanting to tell how he feels.

Posted by truecap
Virgo. Yep, that contributes to the not wanting to tell how he feels.

Earth moons, you are VERY lucky to have a man with an earth moon. He's dominant earth isn't he? You two should understand eachother's language. 🙂

He is predominant virgo. Yes, we understand each other very well and have a very natural attraction.

Posted by truecap
Virgo. Yep, that contributes to the not wanting to tell how he feels.

I have the same moon! I got this paragraph from a reading on astrology.com and I find it to be very true: (although I'm sure you know all this already)
You are very sensitive, cautious, and shy about showing others your feelings. Though you may love and care for someone a great deal, you rarely express those feelings openly and freely. Very often your love for someone will be expressed by trying to help them, doing something tangible to benefit them, or serving them in some way.

Posted by hizob

Posted by truecap
Virgo. Yep, that contributes to the not wanting to tell how he feels.

I have the same moon! I got this paragraph from a reading on astrology.com and I find it to be very true: (although I'm sure you know all this already)
You are very sensitive, cautious, and shy about showing others your feelings. Though you may love and care for someone a great deal, you rarely express those feelings openly and freely. Very often your love for someone will be expressed by trying to help them, doing something tangible to benefit them, or serving them in some way.

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Yes! He does that. Thanks! It would be nice to get some verbal reassurance, to hear he loves me. lol! I'm lucky I have found astrology, because I understand it and don't take it personally. And he's lucky I'm a cap who appreciates the actions instead of words! 🙂