AndreaLouise
@AndreaLouise
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Aqua Ex/Friend
Was he okay when he told you he didn't want a relationship? If so, he's fine. You should walk away and get over it. Don't accept a friendship when you want a relationship. Just walk away. There are millions of men on this planet. Don't be afraid to let just (1) go. You're keeping yourself jailed by wasting time on someone you can't have. You're blocking the next guy who is trying to get to you. Stop it. What sun sign are you?
3 months. It’s always over in 3 months.
Been there, done that. And yes, leave him alone because you know what’s worse than getting rejected once? Getting rejected twice.
What sun/moon are you?
Been there, done that. And yes, leave him alone because you know what’s worse than getting rejected once? Getting rejected twice.
What sun/moon are you?
Whether he misses you or not is not the issue.
The issue is he doesn’t see a relationship with you.
He’s gonna miss you as a friend. You want him to miss you as a potential gf. That’s the disconnect.
The issue is he doesn’t see a relationship with you.
He’s gonna miss you as a friend. You want him to miss you as a potential gf. That’s the disconnect.
New to this site so don’t know how to answer individual comments. Thanks everyone, I’ll just delete him and move on. In reply to those who asked, I’m Leo/Virgo cusp 23rd august. I lean more towards Leo and have very strong Leo traits.
As for my aqua, he was suffering depression when we met. We had very intimate and intense conversations regarding his childhood which he told me was very private but trusted me to tell him. Sexually we were extremely compatible, him saying I was someone he felt comfortable and safe with, trusted me and was introduced to his family who he keeps very close and guarded.
He’s either an incredible liar and fake or he’s very messed up. Either way, I think your all right, heartbroken as I am, it’s time to move on. Thanks everyone x
As for my aqua, he was suffering depression when we met. We had very intimate and intense conversations regarding his childhood which he told me was very private but trusted me to tell him. Sexually we were extremely compatible, him saying I was someone he felt comfortable and safe with, trusted me and was introduced to his family who he keeps very close and guarded.
He’s either an incredible liar and fake or he’s very messed up. Either way, I think your all right, heartbroken as I am, it’s time to move on. Thanks everyone x
Posted by AndreaLouise
New to this site so don’t know how to answer individual comments. Thanks everyone, I’ll just delete him and move on. In reply to those who asked, I’m Leo/Virgo cusp 23rd august. I lean more towards Leo and have very strong Leo traits.
As for my aqua, he was suffering depression when we met. We had very intimate and intense conversations regarding his childhood which he told me was very private but trusted me to tell him. Sexually we were extremely compatible, him saying I was someone he felt comfortable and safe with, trusted me and was introduced to his family who he keeps very close and guarded.
He’s either an incredible liar and fake or he’s very messed up. Either way, I think your all right, heartbroken as I am, it’s time to move on. Thanks everyone x
No need to call him a liar or fake just because you didn’t get the outcome you wanted.
He doesn’t want a relationship but he values your friendship, both things can be true. He felt safe and comfortable with you, why do you think that was fake?
If he was fake and a liar he would’ve led you on to believe a relationship was possible while knowing he doesn’t see long term potential… so he could keep having sex with you. Instead he respected you enough to give you honesty and be transparent about his intentions.
It’s not what you were hoping for, I get that. It hurts. It’s disappointing. Small ego death.
But he’s not a liar or fake for being true to himself and giving you the respect of being real with you.
Do you actually care about him as a friend and what he is going through? Because that was your original question how to check up on him as a friend.
You said you accepted that he only wanted to be friends but I don't see you acting like one. He communicated to you that he only wanted friendship but now after a few comments here you're ready to toss the friendship away? It's ok if you want more and want to walk away but I think you need to be honest with yourself and what you want from him. From what I can tell he's been honest about how he is feeling. You want more from him than he can give you and that's not his fault.
Either be there for him as a friend if you care about him and accept that's all he can give you or walk away.
You said you accepted that he only wanted to be friends but I don't see you acting like one. He communicated to you that he only wanted friendship but now after a few comments here you're ready to toss the friendship away? It's ok if you want more and want to walk away but I think you need to be honest with yourself and what you want from him. From what I can tell he's been honest about how he is feeling. You want more from him than he can give you and that's not his fault.
Either be there for him as a friend if you care about him and accept that's all he can give you or walk away.
^^^ but this only works if you want to be an actual friend. Which you don't.
Want him back as what exactly?
Someone to keep rejecting you?
Someone to keep rejecting you?
Posted by AndreaLouise
New to this site so don’t know how to answer individual comments. Thanks everyone, I’ll just delete him and move on. In reply to those who asked, I’m Leo/Virgo cusp 23rd august. I lean more towards Leo and have very strong Leo traits.
As for my aqua, he was suffering depression when we met. We had very intimate and intense conversations regarding his childhood which he told me was very private but trusted me to tell him. Sexually we were extremely compatible, him saying I was someone he felt comfortable and safe with, trusted me and was introduced to his family who he keeps very close and guarded.
He’s either an incredible liar and fake or he’s very messed up. Either way, I think your all right, heartbroken as I am, it’s time to move on. Thanks everyone x
What did he exactly lie about?
He was being truthful when he said all those things.
But what did you hear? What did you not hear?
Sounds like he treated you like a close friend who he occasionally had sex with.
I would work on your boundaries with men going forward.
You did the right thing is asking where you stand.
He woulda have dropped down on my list of priorities after the rejection.
For everyone who's saying, well he's just telling the truth, HERE is the part where I would have a problem, too: "So my gorgeous Aqua man who love bombed me for 3 months said he “didn’t want any kind of relationship at the moment” but that we can remain friends as he “thinks the world of me and doesn’t say that lightly”
It's the love bombing that was inappropriate. Don't lead someone into expectations that you can't deliver. I'd be fucking hurt, too.
And OP, nor would I want to remain friends either. Just go your own way and let him figure his own damn self out.
It's the love bombing that was inappropriate. Don't lead someone into expectations that you can't deliver. I'd be fucking hurt, too.
And OP, nor would I want to remain friends either. Just go your own way and let him figure his own damn self out.
Posted by geminiflyby
For everyone who's saying, well he's just telling the truth, HERE is the part where I would have a problem, too: "So my gorgeous Aqua man who love bombed me for 3 months said he “didn’t want any kind of relationship at the moment” but that we can remain friends as he “thinks the world of me and doesn’t say that lightly”
It's the love bombing that was inappropriate. Don't lead someone into expectations that you can't deliver. I'd be fucking hurt, too.
And OP, nor would I want to remain friends either. Just go your own way and let him figure his own damn self out.
True. But she didn't go into depth about how he loved bombed her. All she said is he introduced her to his family, was vulnerable in sharing a lot about himself, and the sexual chemistry was there. I wouldn't necessarily think based on that he was leading her on. And they were only seeing each other 3 months before he shut down the idea of a relationship. Seems pretty organic cause those first few months your trying to get to know the person and open up to them to see if there is long term potential.
There is a big difference in "I am looking for a serious relationship" vs "I want a serious relationship with you". Devil is in the details.
But based on what she shared I wouldn't say he loved bombed her. Op give us more to go off of.
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