Men: I want to have sex, be loyal, have fun, invest in each other, cook together, watch movies, cuddle, have sleepovers, but I don't want a relationship

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Posted by Gem03

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Posted by Gem03
Update: Early June, I wrote a mini paragraph saying "When you said yes then 2 days later broke things off? It was painful and I compartmentalized it for awhile but that was treetrunked up. That was the trigger….not me jumping to conclusions. I genuinely hope you never do that to someone again. Goodbye".

He responded "Hurting you was the exact thing I was trying to avoid, my feelings for you have not changed. I’m glad you found someone else to talk to and I hope they are able to accomplish what I was unable to."


I left it at that then yesterday I was like I need answers. We had a day long convo about everything. He said he is cautious and wanted to take things slowwww bc he knows he is worth it. That he's a good catch. I was like how does one drag a talking stage to a YEAR. I called him out for being inconsistent. I can't type everything out lmao.

But I have unblocked him.

I am curious about Virgos and sometimes I lurk this forum, so! I am always surprised how people out of blue decide to pour their heart out in front of someone who gives 0 foxes about it. It is June, summer time & summer vibe, dude must be chilling somewhere with his girlfriends (well, based on the info you posted before) and then Bam! Message (a paragraph) from you talking about things which happened almost in the past life. He also has a nerve to state he is a catch (#rollingeyes emoji). What is your goal in this situation?

He isn't exactly happy im talking to someone else.
I don't have a goal tbh. A lot of what i did was call him out on his bs. He explained his side and whatnot but not much I can do, its his loss.

Did not you call him out already 3 months ago when you decided to "gracefully let go"?
So, you sent him an emotional message how he is unavailable 3 months ago, when blocked him on social media/phone. When you followed up calling him out and unblocked everywhere. Right, I see no goal here. Do you think he cant see it as well?

"He responded "Hurting you was the exact thing I was trying to avoid, my feelings for you have not changed. I’m glad you found someone else to talk to and I hope they are able to accomplish what I was unable to." -> yeah, narcissists can not stand competition that is true. Also "hurting you was the exact thing I was trying to avoid" sounds legit to me! I mean, who would expect you to be hurt after he promised the world and went on vacation with 3 girls stunting on Instagram? People here already told you about all red flags, I am not going to repeat that. It is okay to dive into some emotional turmoil, especially when you are young and have all time in the world.

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No that's completely fair, I think we reached a point where we are like yeah we are not compatible and thats okay. Meh. His pride was definitely hurt bc I was the one who was 1000% down for him but i left. Also he kept saying "im a good catch". I ignored it. But yeah.

He has also said that he is better than other men. I'm like....."boy you tryna convince me or you?"

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Posted by Gem03
Update: Early June, I wrote a mini paragraph saying "When you said yes then 2 days later broke things off? It was painful and I compartmentalized it for awhile but that was treetrunked up. That was the trigger….not me jumping to conclusions. I genuinely hope you never do that to someone again. Goodbye".

He responded "Hurting you was the exact thing I was trying to avoid, my feelings for you have not changed. I’m glad you found someone else to talk to and I hope they are able to accomplish what I was unable to."

I left it at that then yesterday I was like I need answers. We had a day long convo about everything. He said he is cautious and wanted to take things slowwww bc he knows he is worth it. That he's a good catch. I was like how does one drag a talking stage to a YEAR. I called him out for being inconsistent. I can't type everything out lmao.

But I have unblocked him.

I am curious about Virgos and sometimes I lurk this forum, so! I am always surprised how people out of blue decide to pour their heart out in front of someone who gives 0 foxes about it. It is June, summer time & summer vibe, dude must be chilling somewhere with his girlfriends (well, based on the info you posted before) and then Bam! Message (a paragraph) from you talking about things which happened almost in the past life. He also has a nerve to state he is a catch (#rollingeyes emoji). What is your goal in this situation?

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He isn't exactly happy im talking to someone else.
I don't have a goal tbh. A lot of what i did was call him out on his bs. He explained his side and whatnot but not much I can do, its his loss.

Update: Early June, I wrote a mini paragraph saying "When you said yes then 2 days later broke things off? It was painful and I compartmentalized it for awhile but that was treetrunked up. That was the trigger….not me jumping to conclusions. I genuinely hope you never do that to someone again. Goodbye".

He responded "Hurting you was the exact thing I was trying to avoid, my feelings for you have not changed. I’m glad you found someone else to talk to and I hope they are able to accomplish what I was unable to."

I left it at that then yesterday I was like I need answers. We had a day long convo about everything. He said he is cautious and wanted to take things slowwww bc he knows he is worth it. That he's a good catch. I was like how does one drag a talking stage to a YEAR. I called him out for being inconsistent. I can't type everything out lmao.

But I have unblocked him.

It never works out lol. I always get attached and the person stops giving a butter. I hope I never fall in love again

Posted by S2Phoenix

Posted by Gem03
1) He isn't even your boyfriend
2) God forbid his world and life don't revolve around you *rolls eyes*

you overreacted

Don't know where you read that is said he was? or that it needed to. Seems like you're overreacting too *rolls eyes*

🙄🙄

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-____- Thats my point, he ISN'T.
Also even if he was your bf and he wants to do something else and you want to hang (once in blue moon). Thats not the end of the world. Unless you're in high school lol

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Posted by Gem03
1) He isn't even your boyfriend
2) God forbid his world and life don't revolve around you *rolls eyes*

you overreacted

Don't know where you read that is said he was? or that it needed to. Seems like you're overreacting too *rolls eyes*

🙄🙄

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-____- Thats my point, he ISN'T.
Also even if he was your bf and he wants to do something else and you want to hang (once in blue moon). Thats not the end of the world. Unless you're in high school lol

1) He isn't even your boyfriend
2) God forbid his world and life don't revolve around you *rolls eyes*

you overreacted

Posted by saggurl88

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Posted by Gem03
It sucks bc he was super consistent and now he doesn't respond at all....

Ah well shoot. Libra men a bit different I guess from the women. Not sure what’s up with this one. Sorry I couldn’t be of more help...

No worries, so I have decided to reach out tomorrow night asking how he is doing if I still do not get a respond. I will cut my losses lmao

I love this type of energy from Gemini's. You guys communicate so well. Ignoring all the hurdles and doing what you want. The consistency is great. It's great that you are unaffected by his reactions and have actually tried your best to keep in contact.
At least you know you tried your best.

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Awh shucks you're making blush.
I usually hear "treetrunk geminis" Its nice to be appreciated once in a while

Update: I reached out to him this morning and said "haven't heard from you in a while i was wondering how you are doing, also please return my hoodie when you are free and have time" (I lent him mine -an oversized one).

He responded 2 hrs later: "My interview went well, also my bad....I'm gonna be out with my friends on the weekend but are you free next friday?"

I replied and told him im free on sunday night and evenings on the upcoming weekdays.

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Posted by Gem03
It sucks bc he was super consistent and now he doesn't respond at all....

Ah well shoot. Libra men a bit different I guess from the women. Not sure what’s up with this one. Sorry I couldn’t be of more help...

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No worries, so I have decided to reach out tomorrow night asking how he is doing if I still do not get a respond. I will cut my losses lmao

It sucks bc he was super consistent and now he doesn't respond at all....

That ended up the last time I heard from him. The next day i asked how his interview went and I still haven't heard anything from him.

Sighhhhh

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Wellll its been 3 days and no response from him so I guess its over lol

How often do you two talk? Three days in the beginning is a drop in the bucket as far as time goes. Send him a text saying something like, “So you not talking to me anymore?” with a goofy emoji...he’s probably been busy...

Ever since he got my number (when we started talking, so a month). Him and I text every single day at least 2 times. He would always ask me about my day and i would ask him about his, sent him tiktoks. Sometimes it was flirty. Other times about family. I sent a text on Friday night and he has not responded since then.

Ok well hard to know what the problem is then if you two hadn’t argued or anything. If it were me I’d have called after the first day given the communication pattern you guys have created. Why not call him?

I was busy over the weekend and I figured he was too? Didn’t wanna bug him and stuff. I’ll reach out tomorrow if he doesn’t reach out today.

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So I caved in and sent him a light text and asked about his weekend. He responded a couple hrs later. He has an important interview he is studying for then he asked how my weekend was. I was like "oh good luck omg, my weekend was.....take your time, you got this!! lmk how it goes"

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Wellll its been 3 days and no response from him so I guess its over lol

How often do you two talk? Three days in the beginning is a drop in the bucket as far as time goes. Send him a text saying something like, “So you not talking to me anymore?” with a goofy emoji...he’s probably been busy...

Ever since he got my number (when we started talking, so a month). Him and I text every single day at least 2 times. He would always ask me about my day and i would ask him about his, sent him tiktoks. Sometimes it was flirty. Other times about family. I sent a text on Friday night and he has not responded since then.

Ok well hard to know what the problem is then if you two hadn’t argued or anything. If it were me I’d have called after the first day given the communication pattern you guys have created. Why not call him?

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I was busy over the weekend and I figured he was too? Didn’t wanna bug him and stuff. I’ll reach out tomorrow if he doesn’t reach out today.

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Posted by Gem03
Wellll its been 3 days and no response from him so I guess its over lol

How often do you two talk? Three days in the beginning is a drop in the bucket as far as time goes. Send him a text saying something like, “So you not talking to me anymore?” with a goofy emoji...he’s probably been busy...

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Ever since he got my number (when we started talking, so a month). Him and I text every single day at least 2 times. He would always ask me about my day and i would ask him about his, sent him tiktoks. Sometimes it was flirty. Other times about family. I sent a text on Friday night and he has not responded since then.

Wellll its been 3 days and no response from him so I guess its over lol

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Idk which one of yall it was, BUT YEAH
He came back, texted me "Are you okay?". He said he was thinking about me. I talked to him as if i would to a friend. Gave him life updates, he gave me his.

He went onto say that "yeah you were ready and I was warming up. I know women tend to jump to conclusions and I think you did" (He was referring to that photo of him with the girl on his trip to Miami).

I had blocked him on all socials, I deleted his number I genuinely NEVER thought he would reach out. I told him and he said "I know". I then went on to say "Just letting you know I am not ready to unblock you or follow you back". I let him know that I am talking to someone (Leeb man with Cancer Moon) for a while. I may have vented a little bit but I am happy that I won't let him back in. I am emotional and it takes a lot for me to make logical decisions like this. Also, I felt okay, letting go again.

At the end he was like "well, imma leave you to it, you are talking to a new man now, bye".

Why limit yourself to one man when you can date two?

LMFAO
I don't know, I am drained. I feel like if I let him come back again after all the bullbutter he pulled....I'd be erasing my boundaries. This man really told me i was his then 2 days later took it back and flew out with 3 other girls to MIAMI.

I don't want the rollercoaster. I crave stability, affection and loyalty

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LMFAO....I have sworn off of virgo men (Esp virgo moon men)