Yeee we made it official I'm happy hehe

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How do you go from the fear of rejection to the fear of codependency? Your brain is jumping a few steps. Have you ever just tried being genuine and not playing games of one sort or the other?

You get over an irrational fear of rejection and develop emotional independence, then you fear losing your hard-earned emotional independence to someone else. That's how.

Have I ever tried just being transparent? No, I'd feel very uncomfortable and out of my element.

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you sound like a virgo
I genuinely believe that for anyone (regardless of gender and regardless of zodiac signs) to have a meaningful, long term relationship or friendship emotional vulnerability and trust are necessary.

Regardless of gender I think your career and personal financial security should be priority before you try to date (of course its diff when you are a kid in college/high school).

Oooofff, yeah no.

the fact that its right in front of you....

Had our 4th date and it went well. He watched twilight with me cuz I wanted to lol, we had great convo, he slept over. Then he had to go the next morning. I texted him but haven't heard from him at all.....sighhhhhh

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I just asked abt Leo sun taurus moon men but why is me being a virgin such a big deal???

Its not a big deal.
But sadly there are men out there that will view you as a challenge because your a virgin. Next time I'd say keep this information to yourself until you know the person better and can adequately judge whether they are a douchebag or not.

I'll keep that in mind. I have zero intention of having sex unless there's mutual emotional investment.

Sadly our patriarchal society has preconditioned this idea of female virginity being precious, and male virginity as a crutch into all of us. It’s neither. It’s a created concept.

And intentions are good and all but when the chemistry is 🔥 you may get carried away and that’s ok too. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself for the first time.

There can be a mutual emotional investment and the sex ends up being meh. Or your incompatible in other ways. Or feelings change. Or a million other reasons why it doesn’t work out. Such is life.

But like 3rd date i know he wanted to but i didn't. Its so early like damn

3rd date seems about right... a few weeks in, pretty typical pace.
Personally I never told my first that 'hey this is my first time'.
Really though its the tampon and toys that got in there first 😉

Whether its your first time or your 100th time, just communicate your comfort level, pace and speed. Most important thing in any physical relationship is trust and communication. You can play without having his dick inside you. Explore each others bodies and see if he is gonna put your pleasure first (he as in anyone your with not this guy necessarily).

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We did play around it was fun. His hands and lips would not leave my body AT ALL. It felt nice.

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I just asked abt Leo sun taurus moon men but why is me being a virgin such a big deal???

Its not a big deal.
But sadly there are men out there that will view you as a challenge because your a virgin. Next time I'd say keep this information to yourself until you know the person better and can adequately judge whether they are a douchebag or not.

I'll keep that in mind. I have zero intention of having sex unless there's mutual emotional investment.

Sadly our patriarchal society has preconditioned this idea of female virginity being precious, and male virginity as a crutch into all of us. It’s neither. It’s a created concept.

And intentions are good and all but when the chemistry is 🔥 you may get carried away and that’s ok too. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself for the first time.

There can be a mutual emotional investment and the sex ends up being meh. Or your incompatible in other ways. Or feelings change. Or a million other reasons why it doesn’t work out. Such is life.

But like 3rd date i know he wanted to but i didn't. Its so early like damn

You've dated a few guys in the recent months right? Does it ever get past 3 or 4 months? Have you had a long relationship yet?

Yeah I have, 1 was a virgo situationship-nightmare that I ended. Second was libra sun dude who ghosted me. Third is this man.

Also today Leo man facetimed me and we talked then he jokingly dropped a comment about seeing my b000bs and I laughed it off and idk im low-key annoyed

It's all about your comfort level. At least he's a fixed sign and will stick with you if he likes you.

I'm a Leo mars and don't like waiting, but will, because Leo mars know that they only need to wait a certain amount of time until we have what we want.

So either way is fine. He will most likely have patience if he likes you. Don't rush things on anyone's account.
I find Leos to be kind of slow in dealing with most sex related things. They talk a good game but hold out on the action part until they know they like you. They remind me of women in this regard So you should do fine.

So his mars and mine are in gemini lmao. But I think his sun in leo, moon in taurus and mercury in leo are all the horny, passionate signs. He wanted to have sex on the third date lol

I'm currently with a Leo Sun/Leo Mercury and Mars in Gemini guy (Scorpio Moon).
I seriously don't find Leo men that sexually motivated, so I think you will be fine. Just see where things go and if he turns out to be a douche, then date someone else.
I mean he's a guy in his late 20's, almost 30, most men like sex unless they are asexual. Most guys this age are naturally horny. You say it's no big deal that you're a virgin, and he's treating you like it's no big deal.
So if things continue to be comfortable for you, it will be figured out.
They seem to like friendships first, so it may work out in your favor.

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Thats a good point....he brought up how he wants kids and I didn't say anything nor make an expressions. But I was like O__o sir it is the SECOND DATE why you bringing up kids?!

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I just asked abt Leo sun taurus moon men but why is me being a virgin such a big deal???

Its not a big deal.
But sadly there are men out there that will view you as a challenge because your a virgin. Next time I'd say keep this information to yourself until you know the person better and can adequately judge whether they are a douchebag or not.

I'll keep that in mind. I have zero intention of having sex unless there's mutual emotional investment.

Sadly our patriarchal society has preconditioned this idea of female virginity being precious, and male virginity as a crutch into all of us. It’s neither. It’s a created concept.

And intentions are good and all but when the chemistry is 🔥 you may get carried away and that’s ok too. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself for the first time.

There can be a mutual emotional investment and the sex ends up being meh. Or your incompatible in other ways. Or feelings change. Or a million other reasons why it doesn’t work out. Such is life.

But like 3rd date i know he wanted to but i didn't. Its so early like damn

You've dated a few guys in the recent months right? Does it ever get past 3 or 4 months? Have you had a long relationship yet?

Yeah I have, 1 was a virgo situationship-nightmare that I ended. Second was libra sun dude who ghosted me. Third is this man.

Also today Leo man facetimed me and we talked then he jokingly dropped a comment about seeing my b000bs and I laughed it off and idk im low-key annoyed

It's all about your comfort level. At least he's a fixed sign and will stick with you if he likes you.

I'm a Leo mars and don't like waiting, but will, because Leo mars know that they only need to wait a certain amount of time until we have what we want.

So either way is fine. He will most likely have patience if he likes you. Don't rush things on anyone's account.
I find Leos to be kind of slow in dealing with most sex related things. They talk a good game but hold out on the action part until they know they like you. They remind me of women in this regard So you should do fine.

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So his mars and mine are in gemini lmao. But I think his sun in leo, moon in taurus and mercury in leo are all the horny, passionate signs. He wanted to have sex on the third date lol

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My friend has those placements but with Leo Mars. I'll say this....he's not a fan of wasting time. One time, someone kept him waiting for 30 minutes, he was not happy.

Leo mars+Leo Sun+Leo mercury? DAMN

Thats good to hear bc I hate wasting time too. I asked him what color nails should i get and he got all excited and told me "oh you better send a pic after". It was cute lol

But also no i have not had a long term relationship

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I just asked abt Leo sun taurus moon men but why is me being a virgin such a big deal???

Its not a big deal.
But sadly there are men out there that will view you as a challenge because your a virgin. Next time I'd say keep this information to yourself until you know the person better and can adequately judge whether they are a douchebag or not.

I'll keep that in mind. I have zero intention of having sex unless there's mutual emotional investment.

Sadly our patriarchal society has preconditioned this idea of female virginity being precious, and male virginity as a crutch into all of us. It’s neither. It’s a created concept.

And intentions are good and all but when the chemistry is 🔥 you may get carried away and that’s ok too. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself for the first time.

There can be a mutual emotional investment and the sex ends up being meh. Or your incompatible in other ways. Or feelings change. Or a million other reasons why it doesn’t work out. Such is life.

But like 3rd date i know he wanted to but i didn't. Its so early like damn

You've dated a few guys in the recent months right? Does it ever get past 3 or 4 months? Have you had a long relationship yet?

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Yeah I have, 1 was a virgo situationship-nightmare that I ended. Second was libra sun dude who ghosted me. Third is this man.

Also today Leo man facetimed me and we talked then he jokingly dropped a comment about seeing my b000bs and I laughed it off and idk im low-key annoyed

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I just asked abt Leo sun taurus moon men but why is me being a virgin such a big deal???

Its not a big deal.
But sadly there are men out there that will view you as a challenge because your a virgin. Next time I'd say keep this information to yourself until you know the person better and can adequately judge whether they are a douchebag or not.

I'll keep that in mind. I have zero intention of having sex unless there's mutual emotional investment.

Sadly our patriarchal society has preconditioned this idea of female virginity being precious, and male virginity as a crutch into all of us. It’s neither. It’s a created concept.

And intentions are good and all but when the chemistry is 🔥 you may get carried away and that’s ok too. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself for the first time.

There can be a mutual emotional investment and the sex ends up being meh. Or your incompatible in other ways. Or feelings change. Or a million other reasons why it doesn’t work out. Such is life.

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But like 3rd date i know he wanted to but i didn't. Its so early like damn

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I just asked abt Leo sun taurus moon men but why is me being a virgin such a big deal???

Its not a big deal.
But sadly there are men out there that will view you as a challenge because your a virgin. Next time I'd say keep this information to yourself until you know the person better and can adequately judge whether they are a douchebag or not.

This ^^^ and the big deal maybe your naivety. That’s not an insult btw, it’s a big world out there.

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Posted by Gem03
I just asked abt Leo sun taurus moon men but why is me being a virgin such a big deal???

Its not a big deal.
But sadly there are men out there that will view you as a challenge because your a virgin. Next time I'd say keep this information to yourself until you know the person better and can adequately judge whether they are a douchebag or not.

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I'll keep that in mind. I have zero intention of having sex unless there's mutual emotional investment.

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I just asked abt Leo sun taurus moon men but why is me being a virgin such a big deal???

It's not really. The casualness of it is what shocked me, which is why I commented on it. Leo guys are sweet, but him letting you know he had a condom available so casually, is what made me comment about your status.

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Thats fair, we had been making out.

I just asked abt Leo sun taurus moon men but why is me being a virgin such a big deal???

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How old are you?

We can do it when you’re comfortable??? Why does he presume you are going to have sex with him?

Be careful love, that to me screams of someone that holds no respect to the fact that you haven’t just jumped in bed with anyone or found the one.

Yes trust yourself and take it slow. You don’t want to be a notch on someone’s belt.

Honestly the casual "it's too early, I'm a virgin" comment was a little weird too 🥴
But I'm not a virgin and have no clue about this type of thing in dating scenarios.

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i mean there's a lot of other details but i doubt yall wanna read a story.

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How old are you?

We can do it when you’re comfortable??? Why does he presume you are going to have sex with him?

Be careful love, that to me screams of someone that holds no respect to the fact that you haven’t just jumped in bed with anyone or found the one.

Yes trust yourself and take it slow. You don’t want to be a notch on someone’s belt.

Im 23 and yeah i take things slowwwwww

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Are you really a virgin?
This can be tough. Being a virgin can be a lot of pressure on guys. Some guys can over think it.
If you don't want to actually wait till marriage, I would think men don't need to hear about it. It makes some guys think they will practically be married to you if they take it.

But congratulations on keeping it. Maybe others who have waited into adulthood can offer some advice. Being a virgin can be a huge game changer in dating, if you are in the U.S., that is.

yes i am, not waiting till marriage either.