aqua ex kissed me etc

ok need your advice .... aqua broke up with me march 30.. a week and a half later she kissed me.. last week she sends a text saying thinking of you with our picture. But will ignore me if i ask to hang out etc... and now is in cold mode..

Background- we were up and down.. she told me she was in love with me for two days later to break up.. she said it was bc i told people about us. She is going through a divorce and all. I know bad timing and she doesn't want people to know about us..

I don't want to give up on her .. but i dont' know if she is playing games or what. Why kiss me if you broke up with me? Why send our picture and say thinking of you?
She did ask me to run... then when i couldn't meet her she gave me shit and i tried to talk to her.. She said that has nothing to do with running.. and said she doesn't like when i do this..

I said you can't blame me for trying to figure out what we are... she ignored me for 6 hours and called. I couldn't answer so i called her later and said did you need something? She said just saying hi..
What do you all think? Thanks.

She's giving you the run around to keep you around, from finding someone else. She's experimenting a possible relationship without commitment. If I'm not serious I will avoid all conversation about being exclusive, or if i'm scared you will push me out of my comfort zone and expect a lot. She doesn't want you to be mad or ignore her so she's regurgitating memories to keep you along until she decides what she will do about what you two have or can have together.

Thank you for your honesty.doesnt sound too good

I think she made up here mind.... she is being so cold...

She's done this before and said bc its she hasnt felt this way in a long time

She's hiding something it seems, I understand the not feeling this way in a long time thing but if it's truly an issue with you in means to keep you she would solve the problem or compromise. When someone is being distant they are sheltering their ego, maybe you have a hold on her self esteem and don't know it. She's being selfish and stubborn because she can't have that hold on you like she wants, i'm sure she's afraid to lose you. By all means let her, and watch her come crawling back to you and get comfortable all over again with no set thoughts.

First of all respect to you for being very patient with this situation you??re in. Its very difficult to understand the hot and cold with Aquas. She seems very confused about herself where she stands. You??re only being supportive as much as you can. How long have u been with her/knwn her?

I have been with her since november off and on.. I wrote her a message.. no response. . So I guess im finished

Yeh they can be lazy with responding back. I dont think its finished but its a roller coster ride to be honest. When you back off a little and start doing your own thing, she will come back to you. But the real question is when she returns back will you let her back in?

I really don't think she will return... she's not responding anymore. . End of march she told me to move on.. then came back now cold.. she's so odd. I am hurt.. dont know what to believe now

Trust me.. it can be weeks-months and they dont respond and at random they will message/appear back like normal. It does hurt and I really do understand. You can say it to yourself that I'm going to move on but still you dont fully do.. its weird aspecially when you really like and care for the person.

Its best if you do move forward.. you tried your best to stay in her life and from what you've mentioned here, it does seem like shes bringing you down.

Yes I'm love her like no one else but the confusion and back and forth hurts. I even told her that I would be patient and give her time.. that im willing to let her work through what she needs to. Even said ill be a friend for now.. thats when six hours later I asked u need something. She said no.. then said just saying hi..

emergerd!! O_O this is happening to me, I'm so confused :/

I did try my best.. that I know.. I did love her a lot. She's just not ready. I do believe she loved me.. she never opened up emotionally. . So that was true.. just sucks as soon as she said im in love she took off

Yeh they wont open up emotionally easy.. its like its shut down even on the face (well that's my experience). With Aquas, its all about you being patient if you really care/love them. Its a challenge but that's what its all about right? nothing is easy these days..

She will respect you for giving her that space she wants.

Thanks so much for all your thoughts and advice... I opened up a few days ago. Told her that i would give her space and time that i didn't want to give up on us.. The next day all i got was a smiley face... What's that all about—
Then she opened up about her daughter being bullied..
Now she disappears...

In my heart now, I think i should move on.. If she tries to come back it will be too late. I will always love her and i know she has feelings for me. But its her loss. in the past, She has told me she is scared. I have been more than patient.

I don't think i'll hear from her for awhile. I am not going to contact her any more... maybe one day friends.

She came back around and started being nice. You should come to my daughters play this friday and also take we should go to the zoo.. i saw her this past weekend and she flirted .. Shes like id kiss you but it can be dangerous. i asked why she wouldn't say.. When I drove away shes like bc If i kissed you i wouldn't let you go home..
And we have been flirting..

I think i need to back away until i see something serious from her.. thanks for listening. She is just so confusing

What do you mean by testing the waters?

I saw her this weekend... we kissed passionately.. Again she ignored me the day after... Her daughters play was yesterday. Last weekend shes like you should go with me..
And she didn't invite me...

I don't get her. I am not contacting her .. I will let her come to me.

Also she is mad that i hang out with her high school friends. She is very private.

On May 2nd she said i "don't get" these feelings. be patient.. im not a big communicator of my feelings . never have been. if you think you need to move on like you said i don't blame ya...
She has told me she loves me but seems as if she is trying to push me away at times.. its odd..

I love this woman with all of my heart. Not sure what to do.
Thanks again everyone!

what sign are you?

I am a Leo. July 29. She is Jan 29

She has alot on her mind. She is going through a divorce... that's heavy stuff. She likes having you around but isn't ready for anything more than she is offering. YES, her privacy is KEY, don't mess that up.

GIVE her the time she needs, do not appear needy, do your thing, let her come to you... but don't give in to anything romantic until you sense she's "serious" about YOU.

I wanted to elaborate on the privacy thing. This means ALOT to an aqua. It may seem harmless to you making a comment here and there but if she senses you have somewhat of a big mouth...hmm that's a problem.

WHEN I make a point of saying this is between you and me, I mean that --completely.

I don't think what i did was that bad. She just doesn't want her hs friends to know about us. I don't want to be her lil secret. She will call me but ignore me when i ask to hang out.. I did see her this past weekend. WE got intimate. She said i just don't get these feelings. be patient. if you need to move on i understand.