Aqua Guy... Mixed Signals

So I am friends with an aqua guy that is real cool. We have so many things in common that it seems so weird. We always peeped each other out but never really told each other that we liked each other until 3 months ago. Since 3 months ago, we have been texting and calling each other like 5 or 6 times a day. We both love to talk. We have some real good convos too. He is always telling me about his day and what has happened. He is always telling about the people that he has met including women who are cute to him but I just know that he doesn't have the time to be with them like that. He is always opening up to me about his past. We have had our moments of extremely hot, intense make out sessions. We love kissing each other and the other stuff too 😉.. We have had our differences About very simple things. He does try to play games with me to see what I'm thinking or who I am I guess. So it wasn't until today that I told him that I am starting to think about him more and more and that I really really like him. Now I tell him that I like him every other day at least. And he would tell me that he really likes me back. It wasn't until today that when I told him more that I would like for us to be together that he told me that in so many words it couldn't happen. He told me that he would prefer us to JUST BE FRIENDS. So this convo we had earlier this morning. Then when I asked him was he serious about us just being friends later on in the day he said that he was just playing and said that he really doesn't have an answer for it right now. We were still talking about it and he asked me what do I want? I said I want you. Then he said "you can have anything you want. So how do you want me?" I said in a very sexy voice, " I want you in every way". He commented back, "That's really sexy". Now in Aquarius man terms what does all this mean; fwb maybe?? In the beginning of us talking, he told me that he was afraid of me b/c what if he falls in love with me. He has told me that he really wants to be with me but then a few days later he will say that he can't give me what I want. And the whole time since until today, I have been playing it real cool with him by not talking about how I feel about him and what I really want. It seems like since I told him my feelings, he doesn't want to go there with me. I need YOUR HELP in helping me understand what is he saying in the AQUA man definitions. Is he telling me this b/c he does not want a relationship? He just want to be free? Maybe it's too soon for a relationship for him and he wants to be fwb? Idk. I do know that we talk all the time and we great chemistry when we are together. I also know that he is very careful with the words that he let go out of his mouth. He is 38 and I'm 33. His bday is Feb. 6 and mines is Jan.6. He is always calling or texting me. I do the same to him. Should I just back off and let him be him and play fun games with him?

Aquas can get very very indecisive when it comes down to relationships - we like freedom. Don't take my advice for granted, but you could try asking him for a straightforward answer in a serious manner. That might not work though.

Thank you for your comment @thegreatersearcher

Does anyone else have any insight into the Aquarius male mind?

The connection was not strong enough.

A straightforward confrontation is beneficial for the initiator. The Aquas may have a reaction totally opposite to their feelings. But if you are ready to choose between white and black, be prepared for the black and no shades in between.

Posted by imbatgirl14
Let's be clear here, he's not playing games. He's not stringing you along intentionally, he's just not on the same level you are. Aquarius males are the hardest to pin down, next to Virgo males. Aquarius males have this raja complex syndrome. They think they are 'gods' in a sense due to their advanced intellect and ability to read people. Therefore, they grow bored easily.

I've seen this in many Aqua males. They wish to pursue a relationship with a woman, but hold back because theyre not as emotionally invested as you are. That's not to say you can't pin him down, but it's going to take a long time before you can. Aqua males generally tend to go for the aloof or passionate type of girls. Mostly other Aquas, Gemini, Sagittarius, or Aries women. Ideally, these would be their perfect match, but have fallen for other types of women as well.

Thing with earthy type of women is that they're too stale, stagnant, and practical, in other words boring. Water type of women are intuitive, sensitive, and emotional but to an Aqua male which to them is clingy, needy, and suffocating. So although he might be put off by your behavior, he's also attracted to you but he's not as emotionally/mentally stimulated to want to commit.

Another reason they might take their time is because Aquas are known for their patience. What he told you about being afraid of getting hurt is the truth. In reality, Aquas are extremely sensitive and out of place. Not many people can handle an Aquarius and they know this. They will take their time to study you and observe you, even though deep down they know who you are already. They're giving you an opportunity to prove yourself to them; if they truly can fall in love with you and you'll be sensitive to their hearts. They also don't want a possessive and jealous partner which many Capricorn women are guilty of.

Another probable reason could be that he's just passing the time until he actually finds his rightful mate. Aquarius males have a tendency to date women with no intention of committing due to boredom just being picky.

The best approach is being straightforward. One endearing quality of Aquarius people is that no matter how cold, or blunt, they're honest with you if you ask.

You are pretty amazing in your explanation.. I am a Taurus with tons of aquas and Gemini in my chart, he's an Aqua with tons of Pisces... so this is a very interesting combination ... lol.. I feeling you also explained my Aqua moon pretty well..! About the honesty bit you are so right !! Though it's the honesty they feel in the moment I think, coz aquas r air they have a tendency to have different feelings and thoughts every min of the day lol.. is that true? I'm pretty similar ouch..

Posted by compy
A straightforward confrontation is beneficial for the initiator. The Aquas may have a reaction totally opposite to their feelings. But if you are ready to choose between white and black, be prepared for the black and no shades in between.

I agree mostly their first reaction is. * commitment? * run run run run... even though they may feel something, it's the commitment thing that totally freaks them out

@Op... I have no words for you as I know exactly what is happening with him and you. I am in kind of a similar boat... so many other threads on here are saying the same thing about aquas men... what are his placements and yours?

Placements say nothing. It's pure psychology. I can sense avoidance from a mile's distance. The question is why is that?

Posted by compy
Placements say nothing. It's pure psychology. I can sense avoidance from a mile's distance. The question is why is that?

Avoidance? sorry are you talking to me or the Op?

Hi Sara!

Of course I am not referring to you! Relationships are clearly explained by psychological behaviors that sometimes match astrology. The reasons to behave this way are deeper than placements.