Aqua man and Capricorn woman - need an opinion please....

Hello,

I am Cap lady dating an Aquarius guy and I really need an opinion from the side seat please..

We met online and chatted non stop for almost a month, slept together on a 3rd day, not like me at all, but I was so attracted to this guy. When it happened, the next day I thought that's it, but he kept wanting me in his life and things was very good between us. One night he rang me to say that his ex contacted him and asked to see him and get her stuff back etc.. A bit of a back story, he was with her for 3 years, they were engaged and after what she done (don't want to go in too much detail) they broke up.

When we met he was single for 4-5 months already and said to me he is looking for a serious relationship, not had many women in his life and looks at this relationship seriously. I liked that as its very much inline to how I am. But I digress.., so he rang me to say he been to see her and drop those things to her, she was crying wanted to come back with him, but he doesnt want that and he just wanted to talk to me. My jealousy turned itself on and I asked if he really don't want to be with her etc, he dropped the phone on me as I upset him.. Then after few more texts we exchanged that night he got very pissed off with me and gave me a silent treatment for around 4 days, it was killing me as I was so used to talking to him. Then when he finally came around and started talking, he said that seeing his ex reminded him that he doesn't want to be with anyone atm and he just wants to be left alone.. I texted him and said how l felt about him, being a Capricorn is not very easy to express my feelings most of the time, but I did my best. I tried to keep it light, but at the same time I wanted him to realise what kind of person i am and what he would be losing. Anyway, I went to bed that night thinking that's it, he is no done with me..

Around 4am he messaged me saying he come around if I wanted to talk, saying he cant sleep etc.. I said yes, but knew we are not going to be talking.. He did come around, we had most passionate night ever, we slept together and early morning he went to work.. The next day I texted briefly and his reply was I still don't see this working...., I don't know what to do now. Its like hot and cold, push and pull, we have passionate sex and then he says this. Does he just need some time to think or is he really dont like me? I replied saying no pressure, I let him think and reprocess things, I don't want to be clingy as I know Aquarius men don't like that, but its so hard for me. Trying to be strong, but have tears in my eyes everytime I think of him.

Please can I have an opinion from the side what this situation looks like to you and what he want, what should I do? I know it's not sex only as he only been with few women and he is definitely not using me for that.. And he is not back with his ex as he was badly hurt by her, so he must have some fear of commitment or just needs time?

Thank you..

Synopsis: "When we met he [...] said to me he is looking for a serious relationship/he doesn't want to be with anyone atm /Around 4am he messaged me saying he come around...we slept together/his reply was I still don't see this working"

He moved you from a "serious relationship" prospect, to fuck buddy on call. Where are your standards, dreams and expectations gone...? Regain your dignity by refusing to sleep with him and asking him to sort his life out.

Also, please don't accept people coming "to talk to you" at very short notice, or waking you up from your sleep at early hours...unless you know them to be harmless people going through a traumatic event. Don't do "sex on call".

Thank you all and yes I agree how this may sound, but..

I know that he is not that type of a man. When we previously discussed our past relationships he said to me that he only had 6 partners (with me included). And yes, men lie etc, but I am 100 % sure he had no such intentions, I just feel it with my gut if this makes sense.

Always difficult to understand person for they true value, but I am quite good with feeling things and I know that he is not only after sex. It is mind boggling why he came over and what is in his head though, he wants to try again, but can't decide? Trying to work through his emotions about his past and feels strongly about me , but also scared that I may hurt him like she did?

One of his text said - "Dealing with my ex made me realise not to get into anything else, i don't want anything, i dont need anything.."

I think him seeing her maybe brought back some emotions..

But why after saying all this he then comes over and we have best night ever.., I am just confused what I should do next, I don't want to lose him and Id like to fight. I am a Capricorn and we don't give up easily..

Agree with you there and I am not planning on doing this again. I made clear to him that I wait for him to reprocess things and get back to me, he's not said anything, but I am hoping that he is thinking about me..

Don't know, this is hard, I don't to give him pleasure.

Definitely not, but I sometimes think that if its worth a fight I try my best rather than regret and have that question at the back of my mind, what if..

Reading about Aquarius personality it seems that sometimes they try to self-sabotage the relationship if they start to feel something for the person they met, they do a lot of testing and become aloof for no reasons..

I just want to analyze this from all possible perspectives and come with best solution even if its losing him.

Also I like to help him to understand that he can trus me and that I am honest with him, he had someone who cheated on him and he says all women are the same, which is wrong obviously, I would like him to get to know me better.

Okey, but if I am done with someone I don't go to his house in the middle of the night to have sex.. When I am done I am done.

I know him well enough to see that he likes me and he know that I like him too.

Sometimes actions speaks louder then words, so I am trying to understand whats going on. People can be harsh to one another, say mean things, but he hasn't done any of it, he just been quiet for now..

Id love to have some Aquarius male opinion on this if there is any, how does they mind works. Capricorn is very straight forward, we say what we think and what we want, well L do anyway and if I want nothing to do with you I make that clear, I block even, I don't discuss something that's not interest me anymore. But he's been nice with me, that's why I can't really close this door just yet..

Posted by ClassyAquarius

Posted by CuoSara

Definitely not, but I sometimes think that if its worth a fight I try my best rather than regret and have that question at the back of my mind, what if..

Reading about Aquarius personality it seems that sometimes they try to self-sabotage the relationship if they start to feel something for the person they met, they do a lot of testing and become aloof for no reasons..

I just want to analyze this from all possible perspectives and come with best solution even if its losing him.

Also I like to help him to understand that he can trus me and that I am honest with him, he had someone who cheated on him and he says all women are the same, which is wrong obviously, I would like him to get to know me better.

But I don't sense from this guy to be that much into you to sabotage what you have. It's clear that he didn't heal from previous relationship so he doesn't treat you as serious as you treating him.

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Well we only know each other for a month or so, he has quite a busy work schedule with all what's happening around us now, but still manages to see me and talk to me daily. We shared a lot of texts daily, hourly basis, so we were doing okey until his ex showed up.

I know he was hurt after previous relationships, but I didn't realise how row it actually was.. That's not putting me of him though, I still like him loads and now I understand his situation better I know that things need to take slower pace thats all. But firstly I need to know what I should do to get his attention back and his ex out of his mind..

Why are you here? Your coming to this forum asking for advice and your responses indicate that you are not listening to anyone. Do as you please and continue to let him treat you like a doormat and use you for sex. Just know that your in for a very painful and disappointing experience.

Posted by CreativeCap

Why are you here? Your coming to this forum asking for advice and your responses indicate that you are not listening to anyone. Do as you please and continue to let him treat you like a doormat and use you for sex. Just know that your in for a very painful and disappointing experience.

What would you do?

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Posted by ClassyAquarius

Posted by CuoSara

Definitely not, but I sometimes think that if its worth a fight I try my best rather than regret and have that question at the back of my mind, what if..

Reading about Aquarius personality it seems that sometimes they try to self-sabotage the relationship if they start to feel something for the person they met, they do a lot of testing and become aloof for no reasons..

I just want to analyze this from all possible perspectives and come with best solution even if its losing him.

Also I like to help him to understand that he can trus me and that I am honest with him, he had someone who cheated on him and he says all women are the same, which is wrong obviously, I would like him to get to know me better.

But I don't sense from this guy to be that much into you to sabotage what you have. It's clear that he didn't heal from previous relationship so he doesn't treat you as serious as you treating him.

Well we only know each other for a month or so, he has quite a busy work schedule with all what's happening around us now, but still manages to see me and talk to me daily. We shared a lot of texts daily, hourly basis, so we were doing okey until his ex showed up.

I know he was hurt after previous relationships, but I didn't realise how row it actually was.. That's not putting me of him though, I still like him loads and now I understand his situation better I know that things need to take slower pace thats all. But firstly I need to know what I should do to get his attention back and his ex out of his mind..

You’ve only known him for a month. You’re not going to get his attention enough compared to an ex of 3yrs.

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Thank you Wild_Flo,

Yes, but I never hurt him the way she did. In Fact I haven't done anything to hurt him, only been nice to him.., so maybe he will not think badly about me?

The problem with Aquarius is they find it hard to connect with their emotional core, they approach a situation mainly from a logical standpoint. They are also incredibly biased about their own opinion and rarely can empathise with others. You confronting him about his ex would stirred emotions that he didn't want to address, this is why the shields went up. This person never wants to admit they have a deep attachment to anyone. Aquarius are proud they can cut anyone out of their lives when they want.

Now the interesting part was when you poured your heart out to this person. When you ignore your emotions its channeled outwardly as sexual tension. The worst thing you could of done was sleep with him, he got his moment of relief and then was free to brush the emotional turmoil aside as build up energy. If this person does come back you need to remain in control. You did the right thing getting vulnerable, I'd actually recommend to do it again, really force this person to go inward for answers.

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I'd actually recommend to do it again, really force this person to go inward for answers.

problem is, you cant actually force an aqua to do anything. they have to come around to it on their own terms. if the aqua isnt ready, the “force” will make them do the exact opposite.

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They think it's on their own terms 😉

Posted by Thedivineoathkeeper

The problem with Aquarius is they find it hard to connect with their emotional core, they approach a situation mainly from a logical standpoint. They are also incredibly biased about their own opinion and rarely can empathise with others. You confronting him about his ex would stirred emotions that he didn't want to address, this is why the shields went up. This person never wants to admit they have a deep attachment to anyone. Aquarius are proud they can cut anyone out of their lives when they want.

Now the interesting part was when you poured your heart out to this person. When you ignore your emotions its channeled outwardly as sexual tension. The worst thing you could of done was sleep with him, he got his moment of relief and then was free to brush the emotional turmoil aside as build up energy. If this person does come back you need to remain in control. You did the right thing getting vulnerable, I'd actually recommend to do it again, really force this person to go inward for answers.

This answer was the most helpful I think.

I am not a child, I know that I should not slept with him, but what happened happened and I have no regrets as it was bloody goood!

What do you mean by I did the right thing by getting vulnerable and how do I force him to go inward for answers?

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Posted by Thedivineoathkeeper

The problem with Aquarius is they find it hard to connect with their emotional core, they approach a situation mainly from a logical standpoint. They are also incredibly biased about their own opinion and rarely can empathise with others. You confronting him about his ex would stirred emotions that he didn't want to address, this is why the shields went up. This person never wants to admit they have a deep attachment to anyone. Aquarius are proud they can cut anyone out of their lives when they want.

Now the interesting part was when you poured your heart out to this person. When you ignore your emotions its channeled outwardly as sexual tension. The worst thing you could of done was sleep with him, he got his moment of relief and then was free to brush the emotional turmoil aside as build up energy. If this person does come back you need to remain in control. You did the right thing getting vulnerable, I'd actually recommend to do it again, really force this person to go inward for answers.

This answer was the most helpful I think.

I am not a child, I know that I should not slept with him, but what happened happened and I have no regrets as it was bloody goood!

What do you mean by I did the right thing by getting vulnerable and how do I force him to go inward for answers?

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Hehe glad it was worth it, I would of done the same. Certainly don't practice what I preach lol.

I meant it's easy to walk away from someone when you don't think they care, you might not see the results straight away but imagine sowing seeds but they're in someones head. Eventually they will take root and then flower. Even an air sign can only hide from their feelings so long, they just need to be encouraged to come out. Someone has to take the first step, if anything it shows bravery rather than weakness.

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The problem with Aquarius is they find it hard to connect with their emotional core, they approach a situation mainly from a logical standpoint. They are also incredibly biased about their own opinion and rarely can empathise with others. You confronting him about his ex would stirred emotions that he didn't want to address, this is why the shields went up. This person never wants to admit they have a deep attachment to anyone. Aquarius are proud they can cut anyone out of their lives when they want.

Now the interesting part was when you poured your heart out to this person. When you ignore your emotions its channeled outwardly as sexual tension. The worst thing you could of done was sleep with him, he got his moment of relief and then was free to brush the emotional turmoil aside as build up energy. If this person does come back you need to remain in control. You did the right thing getting vulnerable, I'd actually recommend to do it again, really force this person to go inward for answers.

This answer was the most helpful I think.

I am not a child, I know that I should not slept with him, but what happened happened and I have no regrets as it was bloody goood!

What do you mean by I did the right thing by getting vulnerable and how do I force him to go inward for answers?

Hehe glad it was worth it, I would of done the same. Certainly don't practice what I preach lol.

I meant it's easy to walk away from someone when you don't think they care, you might not see the results straight away but imagine sowing seeds but they're in someones head. Eventually they will take root and then flower. Even an air sign can only hide from their feelings so long, they just need to be encouraged to come out. Someone has to take the first step, if anything it shows bravery rather than weakness.

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Very good, totally agree!

I am usually restrained at most things, but when it comes to love.. All I want to do is text him , remind him about me so he dont forget and knows that I care. I know, ridiculous...

I know I need to leave him alone and see if he comes back to me..., so easy to say, but so hard to do:/

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Posted by CuoSara

Posted by CreativeCap

Why are you here? Your coming to this forum asking for advice and your responses indicate that you are not listening to anyone. Do as you please and continue to let him treat you like a doormat and use you for sex. Just know that your in for a very painful and disappointing experience.

What would you do?

Let it go and move on.

A passionate night of sex isn’t considered “the best night ever” 😂

Chasing someone is a waste of time when they’re not chasing you back.

I can’t imagine wanting this guy, trying to chase him, allowing him to come over at 4am, to be at his beck and call... just no 😷 You say actions speak louder than words. He has stopped messaging you. He dropped the call on you in the middle of a conversation. He’s only seen you once since then and uses you for sex and then he disappears....disappears! 👻

This behavior is an indicator of what kind of person he would be in a relationship. Someone that doesn’t listen to you when you want to be heard. Someone that won’t be there for you when you need it. Will disappear when conflict arises. Is that someone you see yourself dating? During the honeymoon period you probably won’t see this or may not happen, but after that period it most likely will or during difficult times. You guys aren’t even starting out on good terms, if this were to become a thing.

I agree with Topaz...”You won’t need to make a thread for advice when an Aqua is interested in you.“

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I hear ya.. and yes all you said is correct, but I want to try and make this work if I can. Had so many bad experiences that I think he may need some help and patience that's all. No relationship is easy and even if it starts well but can end terribleble so I know I am risking, but these days even breathing is risky!

I think I am kind and passionate woman that never gives up when she wants something..Just trying to figure out how to get it atm.

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Posted by CreativeCap

Why are you here? Your coming to this forum asking for advice and your responses indicate that you are not listening to anyone. Do as you please and continue to let him treat you like a doormat and use you for sex. Just know that your in for a very painful and disappointing experience.

What would you do?

Let it go and move on.

A passionate night of sex isn’t considered “the best night ever” 😂

Chasing someone is a waste of time when they’re not chasing you back.

I can’t imagine wanting this guy, trying to chase him, allowing him to come over at 4am, to be at his beck and call... just no 😷 You say actions speak louder than words. He has stopped messaging you. He dropped the call on you in the middle of a conversation. He’s only seen you once since then and uses you for sex and then he disappears....disappears! 👻

This behavior is an indicator of what kind of person he would be in a relationship. Someone that doesn’t listen to you when you want to be heard. Someone that won’t be there for you when you need it. Will disappear when conflict arises. Is that someone you see yourself dating? During the honeymoon period you probably won’t see this or may not happen, but after that period it most likely will or during difficult times. You guys aren’t even starting out on good terms, if this were to become a thing.

I agree with Topaz...”You won’t need to make a thread for advice when an Aqua is interested in you.“

I hear ya.. and yes all you said is correct, but I want to try and make this work if I can. Had so many bad experiences that I think he may need some help and patience that's all. No relationship is easy and even if it starts well but can end terribleble so I know I am risking, but these days even breathing is risky!

I think I am kind and passionate woman that never gives up when she wants something..Just trying to figure out how to get it atm.

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"No relationship is easy?" Some are. Not all relationships are hard.

Compatibility is key.

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Posted by CreativeCap

Why are you here? Your coming to this forum asking for advice and your responses indicate that you are not listening to anyone. Do as you please and continue to let him treat you like a doormat and use you for sex. Just know that your in for a very painful and disappointing experience.

What would you do?

Let it go and move on.

A passionate night of sex isn’t considered “the best night ever” 😂

Chasing someone is a waste of time when they’re not chasing you back.

I can’t imagine wanting this guy, trying to chase him, allowing him to come over at 4am, to be at his beck and call... just no 😷 You say actions speak louder than words. He has stopped messaging you. He dropped the call on you in the middle of a conversation. He’s only seen you once since then and uses you for sex and then he disappears....disappears! 👻

This behavior is an indicator of what kind of person he would be in a relationship. Someone that doesn’t listen to you when you want to be heard. Someone that won’t be there for you when you need it. Will disappear when conflict arises. Is that someone you see yourself dating? During the honeymoon period you probably won’t see this or may not happen, but after that period it most likely will or during difficult times. You guys aren’t even starting out on good terms, if this were to become a thing.

I agree with Topaz...”You won’t need to make a thread for advice when an Aqua is interested in you.“

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Teach!!!!! #thatshowitsdone

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Posted by CuoSara

Definitely not, but I sometimes think that if its worth a fight I try my best rather than regret and have that question at the back of my mind, what if..

Reading about Aquarius personality it seems that sometimes they try to self-sabotage the relationship if they start to feel something for the person they met, they do a lot of testing and become aloof for no reasons..

I just want to analyze this from all possible perspectives and come with best solution even if its losing him.

Also I like to help him to understand that he can trus me and that I am honest with him, he had someone who cheated on him and he says all women are the same, which is wrong obviously, I would like him to get to know me better.

But I don't sense from this guy to be that much into you to sabotage what you have. It's clear that he didn't heal from previous relationship so he doesn't treat you as serious as you treating him.

Well we only know each other for a month or so, he has quite a busy work schedule with all what's happening around us now, but still manages to see me and talk to me daily. We shared a lot of texts daily, hourly basis, so we were doing okey until his ex showed up.

I know he was hurt after previous relationships, but I didn't realise how row it actually was.. That's not putting me of him though, I still like him loads and now I understand his situation better I know that things need to take slower pace thats all. But firstly I need to know what I should do to get his attention back and his ex out of his mind..

You’ve only known him for a month. You’re not going to get his attention enough compared to an ex of 3yrs.

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This ☝️

I also believe that SEEING his ex made him horny. Oh, the memories. Hence his 4am pass through.

Posted by HearttofTopazz

Aqua guys are notorious for getting fucked up and harassing at three and four in the morning. They def get hung up on their ex, and go around finding random people to pass the time with. Till the ex will talk to him again.

I’ve been in the situation where I couldn’t get rid of an Aqua man. This guy would drive by my house and honk even when we hadn’t talked for 3+ months. You won’t need to make a thread for advice when an Aqua is interested in you.

Plz go find someone that doesn’t give you the run around.

Yes! Very accurate for my experience with Aqua men.

I had one I met online and at the beginning we had romantic intentions but when it came time to meet he stood me up!

I was so pissed but he was sooo persistent to keep in contact that I thought it meant something. But we kept arguing about nonsense that finally I was like let's just be friends. And we did become just friends. Talk about each other's relationships etc.

Even after being platonic, we tried meeting up several times and each time he had some dumb last minute excuse not to meet.

Yet once again would be soooo persistent to stay in touch. Lmao. It was rediculous. So yeah it doesn't mean shit unless they're giving you what you want 🤷

So Cap woman... You keep going around in circles with a blind logic based on what you want and how you behave. You're trying to control the situation. It's important to let go and let people figure things out on their own. You're making a lot of assumptions based on someone you only know for a month. I get it...you think highly of yourself as wise and clever.... But sometimes even spouses of 10 years don't know their husband has killing trophies in the attick (true story).

So take it down couple of notches and see things for the surface level information presented to you. Don't go into your own mind and assume all these things about him...about what hurt him, and how what he needs is someone who won't hurt him.

Maybe he likes that shit??!? Maybe he likes being with btiches who mistreat him. You.dont.know.

All you know is that he said he doesn't want a relationship and then had sex with you.and the sex wasnt enough to change his mind. You're in a good position that at least he's not leading you on. Plenty of men will pretend just to keep sleeping with the women.

Move on. Start dating again. If he figures his shit and wants to be with you he knows where to find you.

Thanks all! This form is great, any opinion I take it on board.

Easy to say, move on and start dating, I just can't do that yet, I can't take him out of my head.

Well it is Venus retrograde, perfect time to connect. Might not go the way you want but another opportunity to sow seeds

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Well it is Venus retrograde, perfect time to connect. Might not go the way you want but another opportunity to sow seeds

But how..? I don't know what I should say to him anymore..

are you a therapist, or a hooker?

Okey, my last update is that I texted him quite a lengthy message and said that if he likes to talk I am here for him. Not going to say anything else anymore to this man, it's his decision to take of what he wants in his life. I done my part I think.., hope he comes back, don't know.

Posted by CuoSara

Thank you all and yes I agree how this may sound, but..

I know that he is not that type of a man. When we previously discussed our past relationships he said to me that he only had 6 partners (with me included). And yes, men lie etc, but I am 100 % sure he had no such intentions, I just feel it with my gut if this makes sense.

Always difficult to understand person for they true value, but I am quite good with feeling things and I know that he is not only after sex. It is mind boggling why he came over and what is in his head though, he wants to try again, but can't decide? Trying to work through his emotions about his past and feels strongly about me , but also scared that I may hurt him like she did?

One of his text said - "Dealing with my ex made me realise not to get into anything else, i don't want anything, i dont need anything.."

I think him seeing her maybe brought back some emotions..

But why after saying all this he then comes over and we have best night ever.., I am just confused what I should do next, I don't want to lose him and Id like to fight. I am a Capricorn and we don't give up easily..

You didn’t trust him. That show him a side of you, that he doesn’t like and he started to has doubts on you.

Keep it positive and light every time you talk. Still early days. If you are difficult he will run for good 😅

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Thank you all and yes I agree how this may sound, but..

I know that he is not that type of a man. When we previously discussed our past relationships he said to me that he only had 6 partners (with me included). And yes, men lie etc, but I am 100 % sure he had no such intentions, I just feel it with my gut if this makes sense.

Always difficult to understand person for they true value, but I am quite good with feeling things and I know that he is not only after sex. It is mind boggling why he came over and what is in his head though, he wants to try again, but can't decide? Trying to work through his emotions about his past and feels strongly about me , but also scared that I may hurt him like she did?



One of his text said - "Dealing with my ex made me realise not to get into anything else, i don't want anything, i dont need anything.."

I think him seeing her maybe brought back some emotions..

But why after saying all this he then comes over and we have best night ever.., I am just confused what I should do next, I don't want to lose him and Id like to fight. I am a Capricorn and we don't give up easily..

You didn’t trust him. That show him a side of you, that he doesn’t like and he started to has doubts on you.

Keep it positive and light every time you talk. Still early days. If you are difficult he will run for good 😅

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Thank you!🙂

Aquarius men do not deal with jealous women very well. It is clear and he's made it clear he does not want a relationship with you. Of course he will come around at 4:00am to have sex he's a man! If you want to save your heart let him go. What sun sign is his ex?

Posted by DonnaLibra

Aquarius men do not deal with jealous women very well. It is clear and he's made it clear he does not want a relationship with you. Of course he will come around at 4:00am to have sex he's a man! If you want to save your heart let him go. What sun sign is his ex?

Thanks, I have no idea about his ex, it's not that type of thing I am interested if you know what I mean.

He is born on 20th of January and I am on the 15th, so he has a bit of Capricorn in him.., we both are very stubborn people.

So as I said earlier, I texted him a long text saying that he can talk to me if he wants to blah blah, don't sleep with someone and do a disappearing act and that he needs to leave his past in the past and surprise surprise he replied saying "Ok, I understand"

Now all of those clever ones out here, should I try and get him talking abit more now he finally tested me back or just let him be?

There is a part of me that wants to quiz him on things, another part wants to be sensible.., ohhh what should I do??

Posted by CuoSara

Thank you all and yes I agree how this may sound, but..

I know that he is not that type of a man. When we previously discussed our past relationships he said to me that he only had 6 partners (with me included). And yes, men lie etc, but I am 100 % sure he had no such intentions, I just feel it with my gut if this makes sense.

Always difficult to understand person for they true value, but I am quite good with feeling things and I know that he is not only after sex. It is mind boggling why he came over and what is in his head though, he wants to try again, but can't decide? Trying to work through his emotions about his past and feels strongly about me , but also scared that I may hurt him like she did?

One of his text said - "Dealing with my ex made me realise not to get into anything else, i don't want anything, i dont need anything.."

I think him seeing her maybe brought back some emotions..

But why after saying all this he then comes over and we have best night ever.., I am just confused what I should do next, I don't want to lose him and Id like to fight. I am a Capricorn and we don't give up easily..

oh no, oh hell to the FUCK nawl! Girl leave that clown, trust me I'm a cap too I know that feeling of wanting to stick around. But you got to kill, sneak up on it in the dead of night and DOME that bitch with a shovel!!!!

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Thank you all and yes I agree how this may sound, but..

I know that he is not that type of a man. When we previously discussed our past relationships he said to me that he only had 6 partners (with me included). And yes, men lie etc, but I am 100 % sure he had no such intentions, I just feel it with my gut if this makes sense.

Always difficult to understand person for they true value, but I am quite good with feeling things and I know that he is not only after sex. It is mind boggling why he came over and what is in his head though, he wants to try again, but can't decide? Trying to work through his emotions about his past and feels strongly about me , but also scared that I may hurt him like she did?

One of his text said - "Dealing with my ex made me realise not to get into anything else, i don't want anything, i dont need anything.."

I think him seeing her maybe brought back some emotions..

But why after saying all this he then comes over and we have best night ever.., I am just confused what I should do next, I don't want to lose him and Id like to fight. I am a Capricorn and we don't give up easily..

oh no, oh hell to the FUCK nawl! Girl leave that clown, trust me I'm a cap too I know that feeling of wanting to stick around. But you got to kill, sneak up on it in the dead of night and DOME that bitch with a shovel!!!!

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Haha yeah we are such a stubborn people! Its in my blood...

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Posted by dillpickle

Posted by Thedivineoathkeeper

I'd actually recommend to do it again, really force this person to go inward for answers.

problem is, you cant actually force an aqua to do anything. they have to come around to it on their own terms. if the aqua isnt ready, the “force” will make them do the exact opposite.

They think it's on their own terms 😉

You really can’t make us doing anything that doesn’t interest us.

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Oh yes I am learning to understand it..

But one thing about us Caps we are patient, if we want something we can wait for a long time as long as we have it at he end. I think I be taking this approach for now, not sure how long I last being so collected but I try my best🙂 He must be a bit lost and maybe if I bring him good emotions when he thinks of me, he may want me back. Just my thinking..

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Posted by CuoSara

Posted by Wild_Flo

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Posted by dillpickle

Posted by Thedivineoathkeeper

I'd actually recommend to do it again, really force this person to go inward for answers.

problem is, you cant actually force an aqua to do anything. they have to come around to it on their own terms. if the aqua isnt ready, the “force” will make them do the exact opposite.

They think it's on their own terms 😉

You really can’t make us doing anything that doesn’t interest us.

Oh yes I am learning to understand it..

But one thing about us Caps we are patient, if we want something we can wait for a long time as long as we have it at he end. I think I be taking this approach for now, not sure how long I last being so collected but I try my best🙂 He must be a bit lost and maybe if I bring him good emotions when he thinks of me, he may want me back. Just my thinking..

“maybe if I bring him good emotions when he thinks of me, he may want me back“

He’s going to figure out what you’re doing, and then do the exact opposite.

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So what should I do?

Posted by CuoSara

So as I said earlier, I texted him a long text saying that he can talk to me if he wants to blah blah, don't sleep with someone and do a disappearing act and that he needs to leave his past in the past and surprise surprise he replied saying "Ok, I understand"

Now all of those clever ones out here, should I try and get him talking abit more now he finally tested me back or just let him be?

There is a part of me that wants to quiz him on things, another part wants to be sensible.., ohhh what should I do??

Let him be for now. He needs to think about it.

Don’t push him!!!

Relax a bit 😄

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Posted by CuoSara

So as I said earlier, I texted him a long text saying that he can talk to me if he wants to blah blah, don't sleep with someone and do a disappearing act and that he needs to leave his past in the past and surprise surprise he replied saying "Ok, I understand"

Now all of those clever ones out here, should I try and get him talking abit more now he finally tested me back or just let him be?

There is a part of me that wants to quiz him on things, another part wants to be sensible.., ohhh what should I do??

Let him be for now. He needs to think about it.

Don’t push him!!!

Relax a bit 😄

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Yes I think so too..

What will be will be😢

I can't push him to talk if he doesn't want to, I just want him to think things through and be open about it. Gosh men are so complicated!

Posted by CuoSara

Posted by jezzyboo21

Posted by CuoSara

Thank you all and yes I agree how this may sound, but..

I know that he is not that type of a man. When we previously discussed our past relationships he said to me that he only had 6 partners (with me included). And yes, men lie etc, but I am 100 % sure he had no such intentions, I just feel it with my gut if this makes sense.

Always difficult to understand person for they true value, but I am quite good with feeling things and I know that he is not only after sex. It is mind boggling why he came over and what is in his head though, he wants to try again, but can't decide? Trying to work through his emotions about his past and feels strongly about me , but also scared that I may hurt him like she did?

One of his text said - "Dealing with my ex made me realise not to get into anything else, i don't want anything, i dont need anything.."

I think him seeing her maybe brought back some emotions..

But why after saying all this he then comes over and we have best night ever.., I am just confused what I should do next, I don't want to lose him and Id like to fight. I am a Capricorn and we don't give up easily..

oh no, oh hell to the FUCK nawl! Girl leave that clown, trust me I'm a cap too I know that feeling of wanting to stick around. But you got to kill, sneak up on it in the dead of night and DOME that bitch with a shovel!!!!

Haha yeah we are such a stubborn people! Its in my blood...

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yeah really sucks ass

Posted by CuoSara

Posted by DonnaLibra

Aquarius men do not deal with jealous women very well. It is clear and he's made it clear he does not want a relationship with you. Of course he will come around at 4:00am to have sex he's a man! If you want to save your heart let him go. What sun sign is his ex?

Thanks, I have no idea about his ex, it's not that type of thing I am interested if you know what I mean.

He is born on 20th of January and I am on the 15th, so he has a bit of Capricorn in him.., we both are very stubborn people.

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If astrology isn't your type of thing why are you on this forum? It would help to know his ex's sign so we could give you more insight. However in your situation it is clear that the Aquarius told you the truth that he wants to be alone and that he showed up at 4:30 am to fuck because his ex had him so worked up he had to relieve the pressure. He probably wanted to discuss her with someone but realized that would be too painful for you so he had sex. He still thinks you are a great person he's just not over her. You should cease contact to prevent further pain. Do not try to be his friend and work your way up to girlfriend because you will get hurt.

My Aqua guy texted last night, just about my day etc.. We are back on talking like nothing happened, none of us brought the elephant in the room to light. Should I say something, well ask him if he is now ready for a relationship or should I just wait for him to say something?

These aqua people are so unpredictable I am at a loss..🙂

So its been like a week now and today out of nowhere he said to me that he doesn't trust me.. He says he has a very bad feeling that I am hiding something from him about my past... which is such a crap!

I tried explaining to him and said that he he wants to ask me anything I answer, but he just says he has this felling and thats it thats how he feels..

Appealing to all of those clever Aqua men out here, is there anything I can do to make him trust me?

I think he is modeling our relationship on his past and finds it difficult to trust someone again, but that's a major issue for me..😢

Maybe he is just finding it hard to trust someone again, why are you all so negative on here..?

Posted by F0RTUNA

@VirgoOPPP Epstein and Maxwell 😁

just realized she's a leo moon so makes even more sense he's an aqua

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Posted by F0RTUNA

@VirgoOPPP Epstein and Maxwell 😁

just realized she's a leo moon so makes even more sense he's an aqua

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Not sure I undersatnd?

Posted by CuoSara

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by F0RTUNA

@VirgoOPPP Epstein and Maxwell 😁

just realized she's a leo moon so makes even more sense he's an aqua

Not sure I undersatnd?

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ohh sorry OP it's nothing

best of luck to you

I don't know what's wrong with Aqua men, but they are supper sensitive. Yesterday I offered to do something together and got some kind of vague answer, so I said "if you like me then let's spend time together and if you don't just say so".

He got offended, he said that I am "naggy" and that I put him right off. He is now gone quiet on me again.. ohh what do I do with this??

I didn't meant to say anything wrong and I think he is super sensitive..😢

Posted by thatlibralife

He told you that you’re being a nag and it’s a turn off. Where is he being sensitive? If you want him then study him and acclimate. If you find that hard to do Then this likely won’t work. That’s what I see anyway...

Thank you, its just so hard for me to think that anything I may say could result in another shit storm..

Again, we had another fight.. This seems to be happening quite often now and I just don't know how to handle it anymore. Anything I say to him causes an argument that's always my fault, I am scared to even say what I think now.

Is Capricorn and Aquarius relationship not meant to be, is that what this means?

More time I spend with him, more I am falling in love with him, which scares me so much because I am so scared to let myself be happy, I don't know what the future holds and I really don't know how to handle him..

I really need a word of advice please.. further more to this topic, we moved on from our initial stage into something more serious, l met his parents, his brother, stayed around his house and spend loads of time together.

All was going so great, l fallen for him big time and l know he felt the same way for me.

Few days ago we had some silly arguments, l wanted to be kissed when l met him after work and he said he needs to kiss his dogs first as they were in his life before me lol so this triggered an argument. Then we kind of made up, but because he never said sorry this brought my real Capricorn in me and we had another argument where he ignores me and lm calling and texting, l know not great..

On Monday l went to see him and he collected all my stuff, said it’s over and lm just like his ex, l guess he was very angry at that point. I tried talking calmly, eventually he said he would like to think about all this, an l give him a few months, l said no. Then he asked me for a few days, l agreed.. it’s now been more than a few days, he’s not replying to my texts, not answering my calls.., l am so hurt..

I last texted him saying l won’t puss him and l allow him to think about everything and get back to me, but he’s not even reading my messages anymore. I also said that l need an answer what ever it may be, so if he doesn’t want to be with me he would say so would he..

I don’t know how to approach this situation anymore, l am thinking of giving him some more space until tomorrow and driving up there to wait for him returning from work, but l don’t want him to be even more angry with me if l do that.

Also, should l text his brother maybe and ask him to talk to him, but l don’t want to get his family involved..

I’m fallen for this guy, and l need some kind of reply from him, l need to know if he wants to be with me or not. This silence is killing me. Can l have an outside view on this, what should l do, what is best approach with this so stubborn Aquarius man.. THANK YOU ALL...

And how much time does he need.. how can l in courage even brief conversation.

This is sabotaging our relationship and l want to try to save this, l know he’s missing me, but why is he not talking... aghhh...

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Posted by CuoSara

And how much time does he need.. how can l in courage even brief conversation.

This is sabotaging our relationship and l want to try to save this, l know he’s missing me, but why is he not talking... aghhh...

He’s in his head and needs a break. Trying to talk to him will make it worse. I know it’s hard but the ball is in his court. Try to keep busy doing other things and wait for him to initiate next.

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I know you are right, l just feel that l will lose him if l leave it for too long.. l been going over and over this in my head, l am at the breaking point now..