Aqua man needs help pursuing Cancer woman!

japansbestkeptsecret

I ran into this site looking for info to help with pursuing my cancer woman. Some background info. This is so embarrassing and I feel so fuqin emotional but treetrunk it I love her. Basically, she is about 10 years younger than me. We met at this biomedical conference years ago and I knew she was special the minute she started talking about some unconventional scientific ideas. She has the most wicked body (big breast, big ass, thick thighs, beautiful, beautiful face (big bright eyes), a beautiful smile,soft skin, and lots of curves). She also has such a youthful and refreshing personality (that often has me laughing and feeling good, feeling like living). She's also very skilled and talented and it just AMAZES me (she's very artistic, VERY intelligent, a phenomenal writer, full of ideas, and a bunch other awesome stuff)how one person can be that dynamic. Oh and she's 26 with a daughter and takes VERY good care of her (which is commendable because at that age I was so irresponsible). She is very independent with a good paying job, and is just everything I want in a woman (she's stylish, cooks, cleans, does a lot of fun social and recreational things). But! Here's the problem. When I met her, she was still with her daughter's dad and it was really hard to get her to consider me as something more. She had lots of problems with this guy and I basically waited until it fell apart. Once it did, this other guy swoops in from out of nowhere and captures her heart I guess. I found this to be weird because in all of our many conversations, she never mentioned him. And this kind of caused me to not be too trusting of her, I didn't know who else was in the picture that she forgot to mention. She's also very secretive and it's hard to get her to truly open up all of the way with me and this DRIVES ME NUTS. It makes me feel insecure. I see all of the attention she gets from guys and it sickens me. Even her daughter's dad is obsessed (this dude is crazy in love with her and I just want to beat his face in). She always does weird things and I feel like she does it because she feels like she's being stalked (but won't tell me). I know one reason she drives dudes coo coo is because of her sex game. She has MAD sex appeal and she is basically the best I have ever had and probably will ever have (and when we had sex she wasn't quite conscious because she was wasted and she was still amazing). So she ONLY sees me as a friend and since we had sex while

I know one reason she drives dudes coo coo is because of her sex game. She has MAD sex appeal and she is basically the best I have ever had and probably will ever have (and when we had sex she wasn't quite conscious because she was wasted and she was still amazing). So she ONLY sees me as a friend and since we had sex while she was wasted, she thinks I took advantage of her so now I think she reallllly won't ever look at me in a romantic way. But I can't get her out of my head. I tried to forget about her and ended up getting into a relationship with someone else (big mistake). On memorial day weekend we spent some time together and I instantly fell in love with her all over. No other woman has this impact on me and I'm basically wondering what I can do to get her to take me seriously. Also she's not giving me too much information about this, but she's still messing around with the dude that came around after she broke up with her daughter's father (which seems like a fuqin LAME). So help me out, what can I do? How do I get her to finally drop the dude whose in the picture and take me serious?

If she's not into you, she's not into you.


Have you expressed your feelings to her?
Find out what her feelings are and take it from there.

Posted by CluelessCancer

You slept with a woman when she's wasted. You're not a gentelman. All you care is about your feels and what she can do for you, you don't care about her.

i'm shocked she even keeps you around as a friend. you're gross.

Which is why I never get wasted around guys I consider friends.

Well I have told her about my feelings and she just brushes them off like I didn't even mention it. And we stopped talking for a very long time after the incident. You guys aren't helping.

Posted by japansbestkeptsecret
Well I have told her about my feelings and she just brushes them off like I didn't even mention it. And we stopped talking for a very long time after the incident. You guys aren't helping.

Can you blame her? You're not her friend, otherwise you wouldn't have taken advantage of her drunken state. Cancer women like a gentleman, a little chivalry and you failed to pass muster.

Besides, the first thing you said to describe her was about how hot her body was. Just sounds like all you're interested in is sex.

Only thing you can do is prove to her you are a respectable gentleman. That's gonna take time, buddy.

You surely troll.

you guys are some judgmental people. I came for serious help.

Posted by japansbestkeptsecret
you guys are some judgmental people. I came for serious help.

Its just how you have portrayed your situation on this forum.. what do you expect to answer back? how to advise you to score?

Do you care about this girl deeply? Because you've clearly started complimenting how her body looks and how shes got sex appeal. lol

Yes I care about her deeply! If I didn't, I wouldn't be on this forum asking strangers for help. That was part of her as a whole! You guys forgot to mention all of the other parts of what I mentioned too.

Posted by CluelessCancer
She's an idiot too, i ain't going to make her out to be a victim. What a dummy.

lol id have to agree with this too!!

Posted by CluelessCancer
She wasn't quiete conscious. Jesus christ, isn't that rape?

Dude ...you're a creep.

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agree!!

OP, you are those guys on Japanese perverted animes i hear about, where they take advantage of innocent women, or dumb women in this case. You can only pounce on women when they are not fully conscious?? think about that for a minute and check yourself.

This was answered in your duplicate thread in the Cancer board.

I think you should leave the girl alone.
You took advantage of her when she was drunk.

That does not match up with "care deeply".

Posted by japansbestkeptsecret
you guys are some judgmental people. I came for serious help.

I think you came here to figure out how to score with her again.

Posted by CancerOnTheCusp
This was answered in your duplicate thread in the Cancer board.

I think you should leave the girl alone.
You took advantage of her when she was drunk.

That does not match up with "care deeply".

I agree with this. I'm sure you do care deeply but its just not being expressed on this forum right lol..

You said you have mentioned to her that you have expressed how you feel, and she's kinda ignored that.. its because she's finding it uncomfortable. She doesn't want to answer that. You should take that as the hint and leave her alone.

Japansbestkeptsecret, I fear you may have used the term love incorrectly. Obsessed would be much better. In fact obsessed with her body because that's really all you talk about.

This ain't love shitbrick, this is a one way limerance.

So you wooed a married woman, waited in the wings and then took advantage of her when she's "wasted." You're just a number on her speed dial and a creepy loser to boot. I wouldn't give you the time of day. Besides, Cancers & Aquas don't mix. You cats are just too weird for us.

I thought usually us aqua men go away when there too much competition

Posted by Aqualad
I thought usually us aqua men go away when there too much competition

I would go away, it isnt worth getting all worked up over her if shes not getting all worked up over me! Her loss, move on..

With that being said, I have met a couple cancer women within the past couple of months and let me just comment that they were all very attractive with that feminine beauty thats hard to describe but you just want to spend time with them.

Posted by Aqualad
I thought usually us aqua men go away when there too much competition

It's probably the challenge he's drawn too lol

I like a challenge too but yep when there's nothing there, there's nothing there.

Posted by Este8
So you wooed a married woman, waited in the wings and then took advantage of her when she's "wasted." You're just a number on her speed dial and a creepy loser to boot. I wouldn't give you the time of day. Besides, Cancers & Aquas don't mix. You cats are just too weird for us.

excuseeee me?? i find that weird and disgusting as well, and any decent woman wouldn't like being raped. That is rape, while being wasted, whether by drugs, marijuana or drink.

fucking disgusting pervert. Even my male cousins have said that there's alot of PERVERSION in the japanese world via anime and weird crap going on. I wonder if Japan is Aquarius sun with Aquarius venus conjunct Mars. It sure feels like it. Because it's weird and disgusting all around. They have one side all prim and proper and the other side too creepy and strange. they even have creepy old and middle aged business men who fondle and attack young schoolgirls in the bus/subways and the girls don't say anything because they're too afraid.

And i bet there's cancer sun people living there too!! a whole bunch of them, and they are probably part of the anime porn industry so don't go generalizing that the lot of us under this sun likes to be molested. It's a disgusting thing to even suggest and full of hatred SPEW coming from you, Este.

You guys are being really hard on me. Yes I did something that I was not proud of and I've paid for it. She got the cops involved and shut me out for like a year. I made a mistake and now I'm trying to move on from that mistake. With her it's not just about sex. I've never felt happier with her (and that's only on a friend level). All I want to know is what I can do.

And being Japanese has absolutely nothing to do with it, you racists.

Posted by japansbestkeptsecret
You guys are being really hard on me. She got the cops involved and shut me out for like a year. I made a mistake and now I'm trying to move on from that mistake.

This is new.
The cops were brought into things?
Is there a restraining order against you?

Posted by japansbestkeptsecret
You guys are being really hard on me. Yes I did something that I was not proud of and I've paid for it. She got the cops involved and shut me out for like a year. I made a mistake and now I'm trying to move on from that mistake. With her it's not just about sex. I've never felt happier with her (and that's only on a friend level). All I want to know is what I can do.

And being Japanese has absolutely nothing to do with it, you racists.

Here is what you can do: Stay away from her. Can't you see that you are a rapist. She even call the police on you. Seriously Dude, stay away from her.

You gyus arent listening to the big picture details. Thats behind us. I paid my dues.

Posted by japansbestkeptsecret
You gyus arent listening to the big picture details. Thats behind us. I paid my dues.

You are the one who isn't listening.
The big picture that I'm seeing is that there is no "us" as you term it.

You didn't answer why the cops were brought into the picture.
She didn't "have you in the picture" for a year.
And the "time spent together" over Memorial Day -- was it a mere factor of being at the edge of the 100 foot limit per your restraining order, or something else?

You haven't told all the details, but the impression I have is that you are (as another poster said) obsessed. Are you stalking this woman?

Also, your little comment about wanting to punch in the face of a guy she started seeing after she broke up with her daughter's father.

Tie these things together and it makes a picture, and its not pretty.

Well we have a few mutual friends and I saw her at the same cookout/beach party. So I guess I have zero chances?

Fact of the matter is sometimes things happen. We can grow from this.

Posted by japansbestkeptsecret
Well we have a few mutual friends and I saw her at the same cookout/beach party.

That's not "spending time together".

So I guess I have zero chances?

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Probably not. And if you try and force a "chance", the cops might be called back into the picture a second time.

Stay away from her.

Posted by japansbestkeptsecret
Fact of the matter is sometimes things happen. We can grow from this.

Get it through your head: there is no "us" or "we".

I'm taking it at face value that you are genuine, but suspect you're trolling.
Not a really good job of it, if you are.

Posted by lisabethur8
And i bet there's cancer sun people living there too!! a whole bunch of them, and they are probably part of the anime porn industry so don't go generalizing that the lot of us under this sun likes to be molested. It's a disgusting thing to even suggest and full of hatred SPEW coming from you, Este.

I'm sorry for my gross over-generalization based on very limited dealings with Aqua men and a really back stabbing bitch Aqua woman. That was wrong and ignorant and I'm sorry. I'm a red head and sometimes we get carried away.

well i guess its over. I feel really really hurt. Im so fucking pissed at myself.

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Posted by Damnata
You surely troll.

aye..
SNIFF DEM OUT SATANMAD

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yup ^

japansbestkeptsecret,

The more you're explaining the situation with you and this girl, the more its not helping us change our opinion about you. She called the police on you, you say its in the past yet you still expect her to like you and form a relationship? - dudeeeeeeeeeee its not gona happen.. regardless of what star sign she may be.. no woman would go back to that (unless she's REALLY REALLY STUPID).

Posted by japansbestkeptsecret
You gyus arent listening to the big picture details. Thats behind us. I paid my dues.

you paid your dues————
to whom——————————??

leave her alone

Posted by japansbestkeptsecret
Well we have a few mutual friends and I saw her at the same cookout/beach party. So I guess I have zero chances?

Zero. Zilch. Nadda.

You are lusting after her and not in love with her.

If you have a problem what people are saying to you, then I suggest you scroll up and re-read what you wrote. Everything in there screams lust.

Thanks for the input from you all, but I'm going to win her heart. And no I'm not lusting afer her

Posted by japansbestkeptsecret
Thanks for the input from you all, but I'm going to win her heart. And no I'm not lusting afer her

Better wait until your restraining order is lifted.

guess thats some of that cancer humor

Listen, japanbestkepttrollingsecret..

Are you done trolling?

I refuse to believe people like you exist in real life.

what is trolling! I'm tired of you people being so aggressive towards me! I just came here for help.

Posted by japansbestkeptsecret
what is trolling! I'm tired of you people being so aggressive towards me! I just came here for help.

get.help.

Well DDUUUUUUUHHHHHHHHHH Thats why im here. Help me please. Im not a crazy person. I know what obsessed is and I know what love is. Im legitimately in love seeking advice.

huh?

Posted by japansbestkeptsecret
Well we have a few mutual friends and I saw her at the same cookout/beach party. So I guess I have zero chances?

You are correct: you have zero chances. You completely blew it when you raped her. There is no "fixing" that. You might have paid your dues by society's standards but you crossed a personal line with her and there is no taking that back or making it go away. She will never in a million years trust you. She might be civil towards you but there's a reason she isn't telling you jack shit about her life, her boyfriend, etc....SHE. DOESN'T. TRUST. YOU. And you know what? YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO HER PRIVATE INFORMATION AND LIFE.

Posted by japansbestkeptsecret
Thanks for the input from you all, but I'm going to win her heart. And no I'm not lusting afer her

Give us an update after you get out of prison or whatever happens with your next attempts at "winning" her.

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Posted by japansbestkeptsecret
Thanks for the input from you all, but I'm going to win her heart. And no I'm not lusting afer her

Give us an update after you get out of prison or whatever happens with your next attempts at "winning" her.

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this guy is unbelievable. He's got to be a troll.