Aquarius Woman Cancer Man - What am I missing?

I am an Aquarius woman and I fit the mold well. But I feel like my Cancer man is a little different that what I am reading:

-He is always asking why I want to be romantic?
-He says he hates mushy stuff
-Complains in a passive way that I am not "chasing" him enough
- I compliment him, he never believes it

Now outside of the fact that this guy may just be a bit of a jerk outside of being a Cancer male, any ideas on what I'm doing wrong? When I ask to see him, he is there, If I tell him I have a gift for him, he is so excited like a kid. But he is short on words, does not like to talk much, except for how other women love him sooo much and how crazy they act for him. Women telling him they love him, women following him, and etc.

Then whenever he can find one little thing to insult me about he will take the chance, my car is not clean enough, I'm crazy. I don't get him. I get the feeling he appreciates seeing me mad, but it takes a lot, so I can't really give that to him much.

One compliment he gave me he said his friend said I was cute, he could not even say it was him or say it for himself.

Any advice please tell me what I need to do, is he just not the loving cancer man people rave about or is it me? I'm looking for help not insults. Thanks

I'm obsessed with this man.

ME - Sun Aquarius Moon Leo
Him - Sun Cancer Moon Aquarius

Also one time we spoke he was really upset and told me that he was going to lay low for awhile, he just needed to. So I was pissed! So I left him alone, then he called like two weeks later and I would not respond, then he was pissed I didn't respond but you pretty much just told me you are going to disappear for a while!! Then he did it again, when I called him on it, he acts like I am talking about another person. Is this crazy or what?

He is insecure, no matter how great people tell us we are, if we are internally not loving ourselves, it all falls on def ears.

Ive dated Cancer men and my bro is one, they are jerks.

If a Cancer can go weeks without speaking to you, they are not that into you, Simply put.

He might be going through something. I say leave him be.

Aqua with Cancer oh god get some prozac or pristiq pronto

Posted by tiki33
Aqua with Cancer oh god get some prozac or pristiq pronto

LOL LOL, I know a receipe for destruction. But when we leave each other alone, one of us always ends up coming back. One time I told him that he did not call enough, and I let him be. I get a random text, that says "Im contacting you" 3 minutes later, another text, "I reached out and no reply." I was like is he nuts. He gave me 3 minutes to reply! lol

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Posted by tiki33
Aqua with Cancer oh god get some prozac or pristiq pronto

LOL LOL, I know a receipe for destruction. But when we leave each other alone, one of us always ends up coming back. One time I told him that he did not call enough, and I let him be. I get a random text, that says "Im contacting you" 3 minutes later, another text, "I reached out and no reply." I was like is he nuts. He gave me 3 minutes to reply! lol

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@Piran I totally agree, but there is this thing. I want to like see his soul, everyone usually just opens up to me so quickly, I am amazed at how he holds back. - Yeah I know, nutty.

Posted by caesarkreshen
Yeah, this is what it is...

first of all, internally everyone has insecurities. This is not some secret problem with Cancer.

Secondly, it's all good... for you. It will be hard on him. And he sounds manipulative. And like he's trying to push you away but you're not going (Which is good.)

Just stick with him, like I said, whatever minor passive-aggressive abuse he is giving you... just shrug it off. In the end, if shit goes down he has a lot more to lose than you. lol. Trust me.

And if you ever do break up with him and he gets all ragey, just get him out of your life asap because he will make you pay for it.

@caesarkreshen, What is funny, is that I told him something and he was shocked that I knew. He asked how I knew something, and I told him that I pay attention to what he says. Well since then he has been texting to see how I am, asking me whats going on, checking on me when I did not feel well. I'm like did he get abducted by an ailen??

What is "butter"? or "butter going down"?

Now outside of the fact that this guy may just be a bit of a jerk outside of being a Cancer male, any ideas on what I'm doing wrong?

He sounds narcissistic and that can't be good because basically your no good unless you are going to be a mirror eg an object that listens to him whale on about how "women love him sooo much and how crazy they act for him and give him gifts. This is a take take take me me me situation were you are not seen as valuable unless you are catering and that's too much work IMO, it's frustrating and exhausting as well.

Classic Narcissistic behavior "Then whenever he can find one little thing to insult me about he will take the chance, my car is not clean enough, I'm crazy. I don't get him. I get the feeling he appreciates seeing me mad, but it takes a lot, so I can't really give that to him much.

One compliment he gave me he said his friend said I was cute, he could not even say it was him or say it for himself."

Run Run Run child...run for your life or you really will need prozac

I'm an Aqua too so I know you'll kick this dead horse for awhile until you really pick it apart down to the nitty gritty, realize your obsession is so one sided it virtually means nothing and the investment is not worth it.

Lol! Listen to Tiki she will split a Cancer man's wig to the white meat! Don't waste your time unless you like being in competition with other women. I wouldn't want a man who constantly threw other women in my face. I couldn't allow myself to be obessed with him blowing down my self esteem. I would tell him since she want you, she can have you. I would leave him alone cold (meaning he wouldn't talk to me no more).

Do it to him and I bet these will be his exact words, "If you can't be completely mines I can't deal with it". Off to see the wizard he will be with his famous "disappearing" acts.

What happened to caesarkreshen's post. It gave me hope!!!

Posted by caesarkreshen
Yeah, this is what it is...

first of all, internally everyone has insecurities. This is not some secret problem with Cancer.

Secondly, it's all good... for you. It will be hard on him. And he sounds manipulative. And like he's trying to push you away but you're not going (Which is good.)

Just stick with him, like I said, whatever minor passive-aggressive abuse he is giving you... just shrug it off. In the end, if butter goes down he has a lot more to lose than you. lol. Trust me.

And if you ever do break up with him and he gets all ragey, just get him out of your life asap because he will make you pay for it.