Aquapath has flipped...

I've had so much trouble with my ex but this weekend topped it all. 2 months of no contact all was going well. However on Friday he was wAiting in a dark street for me when I was walking home from work. He gave me a letter saying he loved me so much still and I'm wrong about him. He told me he was dead inside and couldn't think of anyone else. I walked away with mixed emotions until yesterday I found out he had been sleeping with another girl just after we split. Why continue the lies?! He can't let me go and seems to want to ruin me.

I shouldn't have but I text him saying I knew about this girl and he should stop writing to me as I know it's all lies. I wanted him to know I knew he was lying as in my mind, the more I call him out, the more he wi back off knowing I know he is lying.

Last night he turned up at my house. I opened the door to him drunk and told him to leave immediately or I would call the police. He forced himself into my house and bruised my hand in the struggle, I was shouting telling him I was calling the police and he ran into my kitchen pulled out a knife and stabbed himself. Not deep enough for hospitalisation but deep enough to bleed. He did it 4 times. I have never seen such a horific ordeal ever I didn't think be was capable.

Today my family have called his parents with threats etc but I am traumatised. He's been telling awful lies about me.

I have tried to not involve the police as he is a cop but where the hell do you go from here. I'm heading towards the nut house myself. If I wZ weak he would have destroyed me before now

And I know I should not have text him and I had ignored him for 2 months. I was outraged that he had come to me weeping that he wanted me, and just me but he was sleeping with another girl. I know you cannot reason with a nut case but I wanted him to know I knew he was lying. If he loses his job he has nothing and I know that's nothing to do with me. But I feel guilty that he thinks I've caused him this heart ache by splitting with him, even though we split because of his actions.

Its heart breaking to see the man you loved hurting himself like that.. He was scary. Ranting and Pacing.

Thank you, he needs mental health help and I was hoping his parents would intervene but they haven't. I'm scared he will hurt himself or me but I can't help feel guilty and sorry for him.

Don't feel guilty...you done the best for yourself. This situation is very sticky, as you know. If you feel that he will hurt himself the best thing for you to do, which you have done, is to inform his loved ones. The ball is in their court on how to proceed. Your not a mental health professional (even if you were, you would have to remove yourself from the situation and not provide him care because of his unhealthy fixation of you) so it's not your job to get him back to a healthy frame of mind, also you don't know how to properly do that. Something must of happened (in his mind) for there to be a 2 month silence then he appears out of no where proclaiming his love for you, while he was sleeping with another girl.

Honestly I would of called him out as well. I would of done the exact same thing. The text of why are you saying you love me so much while your sleeping with someone else, your a liar and leave me alone. Nothing wrong with calling him out on his lie and telling him your done. You were setting your boundaries, which is healthy and was needed for your own sanity. His note obviously stirred up feelings within you because you said you felt mixed emotions, which is normal. You reflected and decided that he was full of shite and for him to leave you alone. I'm giving you a standing ovation because some of people wouldn't of done that. You done what was best for YOU not HIM. Which is so freaking glorious! Realize that and don't feel guilty for that.

Now if you think he's going to hurt you well... a restraining order is needed. I know he's a cop and that may or may not hurt his job, but you need to feel safe and secure.

I wish I could comment more about what to do, but I'm at a loss and I would be full of hogwash. All I can say is take the necessary steps to be safe. My thoughts and heart is with you in this situation.

Thanks t-bird, it's an awful situation to be in. I don't know what prompted him to get in touch but history is he continues until he breaks you down. That image of him with that knife will haunt me forever. I can't understand why he has come back perhaps he was dissapointed with the other girl.

His parents pacify him though. They have seen him hitting himself on the face and did nothing, I think they are scared of him.

I feel bad for my family and friends as they are so worried. I also hate the fact he is telling people lies about me but I'll just suck it up.

I have an appt next week with a solicitor who deals with ladies and abusive ex partners. I wonder what she will suggest

Hi Mememe! First you need to realize that his way of handeling his anger is no way your fault! It seems he has some hidden issues (emotionaly) that HE needs to figure out for himself. Do not worry about ruining his career, it seems he is doing that just fine on his own.
You need to worry about YOU and your SAFETY! So if you need to call the police again, do so. Please do not let him threaten you in anyway. Maybe you have a friend you can stay with for now?
Meeting with a solicitor sounds like a grand idea! She will surely give you options that will not only handle your well being but his.
If you need to talk further you know where to find me! Luv ya!